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Lev Mirov @thelionmachine.bsky.social · 2h

The great news is that when I finish typing up the actual document that goes in my academic record with minimal changes, I am good to go. This is the outcome I hoped for and expected. Y'all are so nice to me. 😭😭😭

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Imani Gandy @angryblacklady.blacksky.app · 2h

I literally said to Portia this morning, there's gonna be a shield law lawsuit soon. I didn't think it would be TODAY. Louisiana, Arkansas, and Alabama have filed a bill of complaint with the U.S. Supreme Court against New York, Massachusetts, and California. Hold on to your butts.

ag.state.la.us

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Bree (half of Kit Rocha) @mostlybree.kitrocha.com · 2h

I consider it my duty to remind everyone that JCO is a broken clock if a broken clock had a gun and shot the right person twice a day and the wrong people all the other times

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Erin Biba @erinbiba.bsky.social · 3h

Everyone’s gonna memory hole this like they do her racism and antisemitism but this is your regular reminder that Joyce Carol Oates fucking sucks and just because she sometimes makes a funny tweet doesn’t erase how much she fucking sucks.

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Spider. @vaspider.gay · 2h

The reason there have been no bird pics lately, btw, is bc the sukkah is right by the feeder, so the birds are like "fuck that"

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Oregon 🕎🎲 @oregonthedm.bsky.social · 5h

okay I'm sorry to literally beg for this, I've done part time jobs and you all have been amazing sponsoring for me doing work around the community But I go 1400 a month rent is due at the end of the month and I'm freaking out, they can delay it until the 8th but I think I honestly can't pay it

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Spider. @vaspider.gay · 26/09/2026

I have updated the goal on this after talking to the vet, who feels pretty confident that we're going to have to remove at least one of Cap's teeth, so the low-end estimate won't hold. Thank you for your help so far, & please enjoy 3-month-old Cap having a nice dream.

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Evan Urquhart @evanurquhart.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Definitely click through on this story for the quotes from the Third Way spokesperson, who AGREED Democratic candidates should NOT adopt Republican language on trans issues. I was floored - even tried to get Billie to put it in the headline. This is not just analysis, these quotes are news.

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Katelyn Burns @katelynburns.com · 29/09/2026

We should elect more people who know things and fewer people who don't know things.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

What about her future? What about how hard she worked to be there? What is to become of her life now? What process of justice could possibly right these wrongs? And how much more will she lose in the process of trying to get it? How much more of this are we all supposed to tolerate?

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

One of the Cornell students accused of gang rape, Scott Kretzschmar, denies it and says through his attorney that they are going to “confront” the survivor through the court system. I can already tell you that means victim-blaming, DARVO, and smears. She is going to need a lot more of our support.

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Virginia S. Ontario Possum @virginiaopossum.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

To quote @vaspider.gay: Tikkun olam, motherfuckers!

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Spider. @vaspider.gay · 28/09/2026

Even this much feels like a huge fucking victory right now.

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dataphract 🇵🇸 @whyareyoubuyingclothesatthesoup.store · 28/09/2026

the applicable term here is "homosocial", indicating a preference for socialization with one's own sex, not "homosexual"

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Charlie Jane "Lessons in Magic and Disaster" Anders 🏳️‍⚧ @charliejane.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

The "social contagion" thing drives me screaming angry. When I was young I had no clue trans ppl existed. I'd never met anyone trans. I saw cruel caricatures in pop culture occasionally. When I realized trans was a thing someone could be, it hit like a lightning bolt. My life felt newly possible.

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FieldExplores (Gator Days) @fieldexplores.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Secret Ingredient - Gator Days

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ashley fairbanks @ziibiing.com · 28/09/2026

i’m bored in the hospital, don’t mess with me. i’ll send you back a document with all reasonable moving expenses with quotes from multiple companies. and quote the applicable statutes at you. and cite the codes being violated.

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ashley fairbanks @ziibiing.com · 28/09/2026

our landlord offered us a mutual termination of our lease today so they could make all of the repairs and they offered: to give us our security deposit back. that’s it. looney tunes if they think we are falling for that. moving costs in this situation is like the one right renters have in Texas.

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Saeed Jones @theferocity.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

There remains an active campaign to reply-harass Black people off this platform and it is not on us to solve this problem. It’s on y’all.

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Better Things Are Possible @internethippo.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Going to work now feels like doing homework after the teacher quit and told the class that education is fake. Everyone just coasting on inertia and hoping there's still a point to all this

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Jacob T. Levy @jacobtlevy.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

There's no real point in arguing with his mouth noises, particularly not when preaching to the Bluesky choir, but this is *noteworthy* nonsense. If the revenue were real (it's not), then it would be revenue *of the United States government,* equally available to a Democratic Congress to spend.

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Vivian Moira Valentine @itsviviactually.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

As annoying as it's going to be, I hope in ten years' time we have a robust enough social safety net to catch even the former tradwives whose husbands left them for 18 year olds

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Chanda Prescod-Weinstein 🌌 @chanda.blacksky.app · 28/09/2026

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Faine Greenwood @faineg.com · 27/09/2026

taco belle here is doing a good job of laying out the pretty obvious problems with weaving group sex parties, sometimes involving consensual non-consent, into AI industry culture:

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@ animalologist
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Replying to @wenza @Aella_Girl @Actualwebutante Hey, this isn't the crux of my point at all. I'm not doing respectability politics about this (though I do think the "optics" convo is an important one, and I don't agree that espousing norms that the median person finds alien is a nothingburger; I know plenty of people who've bounced off rationalism bc of these bad vibes, and yeah that's a great filtering mechanism for finding Only true believers, but you need a fundamentally different strategy to connect with and persuade the broader public that your stance on a highly technical, insanely important issue is the Correct one. Most people are not high-decouplers!
These norms have downstream effects on who can participate in your milieu. Ones that are perhaps positive for many men, and negative for most women. Tech is still a boys' club, and women still have to contend with that - young Zoomer dudes are more openly misogynistic now than millennial men were at their age, and plenty of them call women sluts and claim girls ONLY ever get hired on the basis of their fuckability already. So a lot of young women are sensitive as fuck to that perception, and already struggle to walk the blurred lines between social & professional connections, and that was true WITHOUT an extremely pro-slut-event normalizing sexual forwardness, CNC, and the objectification of women. I HOPE there's not much overlap between those misogynistic men & attendees of this event, but there's definitely plenty of each in the same SF tech scene. Plenty of women are acquainted with both types of guy, and have to figure out how to navigate among them. It's pretty damned-if-you-do, damned if you don't. That's not an unfamiliar position to be in, and not everyone wants to resolve it by committing hella hard to the slut side!
Again, this doesn't mean the event shouldn't be allowed. The more gracefully that careful criticisms are taken into consideration, the more likely that the…

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Faine Greenwood @faineg.com · 27/09/2026

Yes, Slutcon is real. And while there’s nothing wrong with this kind of event in perfect isolation, in the context of “women in Silicon Valley tech are reporting feeling serious social pressure to attend,” it becomes very gross. (BTW, Gretta is Eliezer Yudkowsky’s partner). slutcon.com

SLUTCON
Three Session Tracks
Sessions are designed for three experience levels.
Wherever you are, there is a track for you.
Starting Out
No idea what's going on? Bad with ladies?
Want basic practice? This track assumes nothing.
• Flirting fundamentals
• Low-stakes practice rounds
• Approaching without panicking
• Zero assumed experience
Leveling Up
You know your way around and you've got some experience - now you want to get a lot better.
Sharpening conversation and escalation
Practice with real-time feedback
Calibration and timing
• Fixing your sticking points
Gain Mastery
You're sexually fluent but looking for the finishing touch. Get the niche knowledge and rare feedback required for true expertise.
Rapid-iteration practice reps
Detailed feedback from flirt partners
Advanced reads and edge cases
Live analysis of what you're doing

SLUTCON
• Everyone
Ace & up
Flirt Girl
Friday Sep 25
Dance Hell +
• Aella 60 min
Hair Braiding + 90 min
Intro to Spanking and Impact Play +
ACE & UP
90 min
Lead Like a Lover: Move with Confidence, Attract with Ease +
ACE & UP
90 min
Massage
ACE & UP
90 min
Relateful Activities
ACE & UP
90 min
Saturday Sep 26
9AM
BREAKFAST 60 min
10AM
All the Way On: Full vulvar & uterine arousal + 45 min
Ethics of D/s + 45 min
Get Sexier: What men like and how to become it 45 min
Men's Circle +
ACE & UP
MEN ONLY
45 min
Switching: The Ultimate Solution for Anxiety + 45 min
Under Pressure + • Nicholas 45 min
Vaginal Gymnastics +
FLIRT GIRL
45 min
FLIRT GIRL
11AM
How to Pick Up Girls, Literally +

ЗРМ
Now You've Got Her-Here's How to Keep Her (& Not Bore Her) +
45 min
Small Group Physical Escalation - Nicholas
ACE & UP
45 min
A small-group session with a 1:1 gender ratio. Men practice physical escalation step by step - from eye contact, to extending a hand, to whatever their partner is comfortable with and responsive to. Sexual activity and kissing are prohibited; dance, massage, and embrace are allowed if the partner is comfortable with them.
So You've Been Called a Creep - Gretta 45 min
Someone has called you creepy. Maybe more than one person. How can you make sense of that? We don't have all the answers, but we've thought some about it and we want to figure it out together. This will be a workshop / friendly discussion.

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Faine Greenwood @faineg.com · 27/09/2026

Women trying to succeed in Silicon Valley AI and effective altruist spaces are reporting feeling serious social pressure to attend sex parties - where people have reported being sexually assaulted, like below. Events like Aella’s “Slutcon,” which is happening again this weekend.

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@itsannpierce
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I am disheartened by this as well. I already lost a bunch of followers for agreeing with @tautologer, but it's saddening to see local nerdy women being caricatured as Karen-like outsiders and getting pushed out of the scene. This is exactly why you hear so few concrete, names-attached stories of sexual harrassment and assault. I'm told there is a history of discrediting these because the "slut normalization" thing is top priority and these stories get inconveniently in the way of spreading this ideology.
I got roped into attending last year's Saturday Slutcon party because so many local and out-of-town friends were there (to echo sentiments @tautologer expressed about "slut events becoming central to the larger scenes). Mostly I hung out with people I knew and that was great. But in the course of my 3-ish hours there, there were 2 times my "no" was not accepted by a man I didn't know, and I was physically pushing a huge guy off of me who was rubbing his penis on me, who continued to do it despite my physical force against him, and after I finally wriggled away from him, told him I wanted to dance alone etc., he came back and did it again.
This was scary and bad, but it didn't even cross my mind to report this because one of the other people who didn't accept my "no" earlier in the night was the bartender (an officially sanctioned authority at the event), and I knew the event was organized exclusively by women into CNC (who are vocal about how rapey behavior turns them on), so I figured this sort of thing would just get me laughed at. And anyway, I heard there were a lot of other incidents like it. Later though, someone encouraged me to report this story to the organizers, and despite my embarrassment I did, so *they know* that this and other incidents happened. This is why they cut the Saturday night party this year and created a larger training program for the flirt girls - *because* of things like this last year. Yet the narrative bein…

People who haven't been to Slutcon are saying "it's just group therapy," "it's just innocent flirting." But the environment is much like a sex party in that many people are nude, there is making out and sex acts happening out in the open. I think it's pretty unreasonable to expect that every nerdy girl who likes rationalist bloggers or is into EA/AI safety should automatically be comfortable with this! That if she's not, there's something wrong with her, we don't want her in our scenes, etc.
Not to mention, it's explictly an event *for men*, where men are the clients and the "flirt girls" are the product. Last year I overheard an exchange where a man felt "led on" by a flirt girl and was trying to get her punished/kicked out. (A dynamic that seems inevitable in this context!)
Anyway- it does sound like they've upped their consent education a lot this year, are more organized, and that's good! As I've told my friends who are attending: I hope they have fun!
I heard several accounts last year of women who had no problems and really enjoyed the event. That's great!
Just... can we live in reality about this? There are real reasons why male-female sexual dynamics are tricky.
Encouraging autistic men who can't yet read body language to go around asking to see womens' boobs is maybe a bit ill-advised. Maybe not everyone should be/identify as a slut; maybe it's not for everyone.
And yeah, filtering the Bay Area Al safety scene down to only women who are super comfy with this eliminates *most* women - including many of the really smart, nerdy, weird women who've been in the larger scenes for years. What a loss for humanity.
I absolutely understand why people with a minority sexuality would want to create belonging, would want to create spaces for people like themselves. But why do it like this/at this cost?

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eva (^_^)/ @eva.computer · 27/09/2026

anyways red/yellow/green is worse than useless when red gets you fired or blacklisted

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eva (^_^)/ @eva.computer · 27/09/2026

really hope that the message people take away from all the EA sex parties stuff is "don't import inherently coercive real life employer/employee or mentor/mentee dynamics into your edgeplay kink spaces" and not "THEY DO THE IMMORAL KIND OF SEX DISGUSTING"

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Abi Stevens - comms open @abistevensart.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

My Dungeon Denizens pre-order shop is now open and includes these 1.5" Dungeon Crawler Carl pins! 😁🥳 dungeon-denizens-13258.backerkit.com/hosted_preor... #artShop #fanArt

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Keep building. @ivdar.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

It's finally here and it's so good. Everything I loved about the first one, but there's even more of it and it's even better! Thanks to @kendrawcandraw.bsky.social and I'm hoping I get to read even more of these one day.

The graphic novel Real Hero Shit 2: Harder Than I Looks by Kendra Wells

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Weird Alex @jackalpants.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

What is affirmative therapy? If a client says "I think I might be gay" or "I think I might be trans," the therapist still asks "why do you think that?" but first, they AFFIRM that it is okay to be gay or trans, creating a more honest space. "It's okay if you are. What makes you think you are?"

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Spider. @vaspider.gay · 28/09/2026

I hate the nights where I'm laying there looking at that last Super Painkiller from my last surgery And I'm not gonna But I could, if I needed to, my doc & I have talked about it, and I'm looking at it real hard (A lot of the time, just knowing it's there is enough. Sometimes, though... )

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Bree (half of Kit Rocha) @mostlybree.kitrocha.com · 27/09/2026

for fucking REAL. the depth of trauma for those undiagnosed with ADHD is real. not just the way we feel like we're constantly failing (because everyone is telling us we are) but not understanding WHY because we have no context to understand other people aren't struggling with the things we are.

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Sophia_Nyx 🐰 @sophianyx.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

the discourse (TM) tends to be two sides being so utterly simplistic that neither is right. "i eat food nonstop. otherwise i'll starve." "i never eat food. if you do, you explode."

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Nicole Field 🧛‍♀️🏺🏳️‍🌈 @faerywhimsy.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

“It’s not a big moment, or at least, it doesn’t seem like one within the context of a rom-com […] That, in some ways, makes it even better. Olive doesn’t get a big identity crisis; she just has a conversation with her roommate.”

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Bill Grueskin @bgrueskin.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I wonder what it would be like to write the same column, over and over again, endlessly. Seems like it’d be boring. But maybe it brings one comfort, like having your parents read you the same story every night before you go to bed.

Opinion
Opinion by Megan McArdle
The Great Awokening is over.
This lesbian bar shows why.
A meltdown over masking shows where cancel culture is now.
Today at 07:00 ET

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Dr Jan Eldridge @astro-jje.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Very proud of the amazing Dr @ordinarystarman.com who has now graduated and can get "Dr" on all her bank cards. Also not everyday you hear someone you work with on the radio because they're the first Samoan PhD in astrophysics from UoA: www.rnz.co.nz/news/pacific...

rnz.co.nz

First Samoan astrophysicist encourages Pasifika students to reach for the stars

The first Samoan person to graduate with a PhD in physics at the University of Auckland has encouraged Pasifika students to remember that they belong and can succeed in academia.

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Chris Limb @catmachine.com · 28/09/2026

People REALLY don’t like being told they’re wrong. What the far right have done is weaponise this and tell people that the feelings of bigotry that they’re secretly ashamed of are actually good. And if deployed cunningly this works on far more people than you'd think, which is exhausting.

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Luke Ontario @coolhand.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Thank you that’s all the time we have for questions again we will update you as more information becomes available > stands up on spider legs > scuttles away

A spokesperson in the UK surrounds by microphones that look like spider legs

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Kink Between The Lines @kbtl.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Are you hot for teacher? (Look TBH you don't have to be.. 🤣 ). Does kink education thrill you? Our Teacher's Pet raffle prize basket gets you 3 educational blockbusters: D/s Playground from @sugarbutch.net , a @karada-house.de voucher, and a Bootblacking 101 class from Pandastory. Attend KBtL & win!

Teacher's Pet Basket listing prizes: admission to a D/s Playground virtual course, a 5-hour Bootblacking 101 class with "panda," and a voucher for a 2.5-hour Karada House virtual class, shown with school props (apple, pencil) and images of rope and shoe-care items.

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Spider. @vaspider.gay · 28/09/2026

A friend sent me the original of this and Blonde Wife said, "this should have Davos in it" so I made it happen.

A bin of "Butch's Best" potatoes with Ser Davos Seawoof photoshopped into it.

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Micah @rincewind.run · 27/09/2026

his list of crimes is so extensive and terrible that this is fairly low down on it but it is obscene that this man has built a massive campaign war chest and is so determined to steal it for himself that he’s using taxpayer money on these self-soothing ads

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Al Kennedy @alkennedy.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

Dreamed Guy Pearce had been starring in a popular TV detective show where his TV Detective Quirk was that he was invisible (it was all very tragic), and the show was called "Apparently". Just want to take a minute to shout out my subconscious brain for coming up with that

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Dr Rebecca Wragg Sykes @lemoustier.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

The problem isn't rogue #AI models, it's *negligent companies*. If a biomedical firm put their product in public water supply because they wanted to test it 'in the real world', they'd be treated as criminal at corporate & individual level. www.theguardian.com/technology/2...

theguardian.com

OpenAI halts training of latest models as reports mount of AI agents going rogue

Decision follows disclosures that OpenAI agents searching government websites had acted in unexpected ways

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