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All of this. I also want to add that, in my research, I found that a lot of “inconsistencies” in a victim’s story actually came from gender bias affecting investigators’ record keeping and interview methods.

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Jessica Luther @jessicawluther.com · 8h

We live in a society that punishes people who are assaulted. We question them, we shame them, we disbelieve them. Many survivors instinctively do that societal work for us. Survivors question themselves, they shame themselves, they don't believe their own version of events. We've trained them!

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 10h

Just a reminder that people don’t always realize they were raped in the immediate aftermath. It can take hours, days, months, and even years to realize you were raped, and it doesn’t make it any less true. There are many kinds of responses, including fawning and trying to appease your rapist

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 10h

So many of the same “intellectuals” who are obsessed with undermining the existence of trans people are also obsessed with undermining the Cornell rape victim’s testimony. It’s almost like they don’t believe people have a right to bodily autonomy

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Prisonculture @prisonculture.bsky.social · 11h

Christa Pike was tortured yesterday by the state of TN in every single USians name and the fact is that this is a country that is mostly OK with this. This says everything about all of us. We are all implicated in this barbaric practice. It's sickening.

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Stellbound: Stellraiser II @antlervel.vet · 30/09/2026

Here’s the bigger ask I mentioned: I owe $6k in back rent. I’ve been selling my limited belongings to reduce the number but it is slow going and I can’t hope to cover it all, especially not in the short time I have. I have enough to cover October rent and little more. More details below.

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Wagatwe Wanjuki @wagatwe.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

the sad part is that survivors fought like hell to even get expulsion for rapists on the table. when I was an activist > 10 years ago, administrators were *shocked* that we wanted expulsion as a disciplinary option.

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jj skolnik @supremenothing.myatproto.social · 30/09/2026

like i say every time this comes up, the term for what awaits survivors who go through the official system (cops, rape kit at the hospital, the hell of a trial where you as the victim get to be cross examined by yr rapist’s defense) is called “the second rape”

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

A truly heinous man has doxxed the Cornell victim on X and the comments are predictably vile. Based on countless interviews I’ve done with survivors, the trauma they are subjected to for coming forward is oftentimes even worse than the initial trauma they experienced. There is no real justice system

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Another thing about fraternities is that the hazing rituals where slightly older young men would physically, mentally emotionally and sometimes even sexually abuse slightly younger young men have always disturbed and upset me greatly. And it’s really telling that I’ve seen men defend those too

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ali alkhatib @ali-alkhatib.com · 30/09/2026

shutting down frat houses won't end rape culture, but it will disorganize a lot of rapists, and i think that's probably worth doing if only to destabilize what is apparently an ecology of organizations that functionally exist to rape women per the whole "purpose of a system is what it does" insight.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

For me, the hardest thing about stories like the Cornell gang rape case isn’t reading the initial details—although that is hard. What’s even harder is when men online, especially the journalists and pundits, start trying to combat the feminist outrage by purposefully seeding doubt and victim-blaming

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Lindsey Boylan @lindseyboylan.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

This man is a monster. He seeks out women survivors because he hates them. And he hates them because he hates himself. He has harassed me and other women survivors many times over the years. It must end. He should never have a job anywhere.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

I’m genuinely worried that he weakened her civil case with this statement out of petty fury that he’s rightfully getting heat for not pressing charges against rapists. He clearly isn’t interested in seeing her succeed and he basically called her a liar—a huge gift to the civil defense

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Jessica Valenti @jessicavalenti.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

This is why more women don't come forward, and why more rapists aren't jailed. Because mostly-male cops and prosecutors find it more believable that a 20-yr-old would want to have sex with a room full of fraternity brothers than accept she was raped. What ever happened to common fucking sense?

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Carrying That Weight—Again

I can’t stop thinking about the Cornell rape case

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Jessica Valenti @jessicavalenti.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Please don't give the DA reopening the Cornell case any cookies. District Attorney Matthew Van Houten all but called Jane Doe a liar today. He said that in Doe's initial statement, she described "her participation in drug use and sexual conduct as voluntary, conscious, and consensual.” CONSENSUAL

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

One of the main reasons that the student loan crisis disproportionately affects women is because victims who can’t complete their educations still have the debt from it—even if they never get the degrees that unlock careers that can pay that debt back.

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Nearly 40% of survivors who report to their schools are pushed out in one way or another—usually, at the urging of school staff who want them to leave. (In comparison, less than 1% of perpetrators are suspended or expelled.)

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Kat is right about all of this. One of the reasons that college sexual violence is uniquely devastating is because it changes the victim’s entire future.

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hoots @hoots.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Trickledown Depp-onomics

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Harlot🔞 @harlotprincess.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

the cycle is already starting. they're gonna claim it never happened, they're gonna claim she asked for it, they're gonna claim drug use is consent, they're gonna say she's not a perfect victim and so no victim at all, but we know what happened because it keeps happening.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

One of the Cornell students accused of gang rape, Scott Kretzschmar, denies it and says through his attorney that they are going to “confront” the survivor through the court system. I can already tell you that means victim-blaming, DARVO, and smears. She is going to need a lot more of our support.

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Olivia Messer @oliviamesser.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

These systematic failures aren’t specific to Cornell. In dealing with American University’s response to the allegations against W***** L*****, we learned a lot about how Title IX fails women @nbedera.bsky.social’s book came at an important time for me www.ucpress.edu/books/on-the...

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On the Wrong Side by Nicole Bedera - Hardcover

Scholarship is a powerful tool for changing how people think, plan, and govern. By giving voice to bright minds and bold ideas, we seek to foster understanding and drive progressive change.

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Urvi @theurv.com · 28/09/2026

There were more men in a single documented gang rape at one school than the number of competitive trans athletes nationally. But I’ve heard a lot more politicians being asked about protecting girls from one of these scenarios and not another… I’ll let you guess which is which.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

There’s something to be said for how most of the political spectrum can unite around hounding some lesbians over niche drama in their spaces but huge segments of society are silent about pervasive campus rape impacting a huge population of primarily youngwomen

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Kylie Cheung @kylietcheung.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I think its important to understand the campus sexual assault crisis is way worse than you think. universities suspend just 1/12,400 students each year for sexual misconduct & expel 1/22,900. once you read title ix administrators in their own words, you get a sense why that is:

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Not Only Do Campus Sexual Assailants Go Unpunished, They Often Get Special Treatment

Since 2007, Jezebel has been the Internet's most treasured source for everything celebrities, sex, and politics...with teeth.

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Faine Greenwood @faineg.com · 27/09/2026

Women trying to succeed in Silicon Valley AI and effective altruist spaces are reporting feeling serious social pressure to attend sex parties - where people have reported being sexually assaulted, like below. Events like Aella’s “Slutcon,” which is happening again this weekend.

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I am disheartened by this as well. I already lost a bunch of followers for agreeing with @tautologer, but it's saddening to see local nerdy women being caricatured as Karen-like outsiders and getting pushed out of the scene. This is exactly why you hear so few concrete, names-attached stories of sexual harrassment and assault. I'm told there is a history of discrediting these because the "slut normalization" thing is top priority and these stories get inconveniently in the way of spreading this ideology.
I got roped into attending last year's Saturday Slutcon party because so many local and out-of-town friends were there (to echo sentiments @tautologer expressed about "slut events becoming central to the larger scenes). Mostly I hung out with people I knew and that was great. But in the course of my 3-ish hours there, there were 2 times my "no" was not accepted by a man I didn't know, and I was physically pushing a huge guy off of me who was rubbing his penis on me, who continued to do it despite my physical force against him, and after I finally wriggled away from him, told him I wanted to dance alone etc., he came back and did it again.
This was scary and bad, but it didn't even cross my mind to report this because one of the other people who didn't accept my "no" earlier in the night was the bartender (an officially sanctioned authority at the event), and I knew the event was organized exclusively by women into CNC (who are vocal about how rapey behavior turns them on), so I figured this sort of thing would just get me laughed at. And anyway, I heard there were a lot of other incidents like it. Later though, someone encouraged me to report this story to the organizers, and despite my embarrassment I did, so *they know* that this and other incidents happened. This is why they cut the Saturday night party this year and created a larger training program for the flirt girls - *because* of things like this last year. Yet the narrative bein…

People who haven't been to Slutcon are saying "it's just group therapy," "it's just innocent flirting." But the environment is much like a sex party in that many people are nude, there is making out and sex acts happening out in the open. I think it's pretty unreasonable to expect that every nerdy girl who likes rationalist bloggers or is into EA/AI safety should automatically be comfortable with this! That if she's not, there's something wrong with her, we don't want her in our scenes, etc.
Not to mention, it's explictly an event *for men*, where men are the clients and the "flirt girls" are the product. Last year I overheard an exchange where a man felt "led on" by a flirt girl and was trying to get her punished/kicked out. (A dynamic that seems inevitable in this context!)
Anyway- it does sound like they've upped their consent education a lot this year, are more organized, and that's good! As I've told my friends who are attending: I hope they have fun!
I heard several accounts last year of women who had no problems and really enjoyed the event. That's great!
Just... can we live in reality about this? There are real reasons why male-female sexual dynamics are tricky.
Encouraging autistic men who can't yet read body language to go around asking to see womens' boobs is maybe a bit ill-advised. Maybe not everyone should be/identify as a slut; maybe it's not for everyone.
And yeah, filtering the Bay Area Al safety scene down to only women who are super comfy with this eliminates *most* women - including many of the really smart, nerdy, weird women who've been in the larger scenes for years. What a loss for humanity.
I absolutely understand why people with a minority sexuality would want to create belonging, would want to create spaces for people like themselves. But why do it like this/at this cost?

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Rebecca Solnit @rebeccasolnit.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Campus rape is really widespread; statistics suggest a significant percent of women who go to college will be raped there; feminism opened up a good conversation about it around 2012-13; it's weird when people treated Cornell like an isolated rather than dramatic example of a pervasive problem.

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Kendra "Gloom is My Beat" Pierre-Louis @kendrawrites.com · 28/09/2026

The data also strongly suggests that campus rape is perpetrated by a small number of actors. Put differently, most men on campus don't rape, but the ones who do rape a lot of women. Getting rid of those guys would make campus way safer . psycnet.apa.org/record/2020-...

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

PRIMETIME, which portrays Chris Hansen as a twisted egomaniac, is really good. It’s also the tip of the iceberg when it comes to Hansen, who has long turned child sexual abuse into a spectacle centering himself—at the expense of actual victims. spitfirenews.com/p/chris-hans...

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Chris Hansen was never the hero

On 'Primetime' and the real child abuse investigations that Hansen led astray.

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Tressie McMillan Cottom @tressiemcphd.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I don’t know anything about the lesbian bar you’ve all been picking on but I do know the stats on lesbian bars are depressing and that seems more important. www.smithsonianmag.com/travel/rise-...

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The Rise and Fall of America's Lesbian Bars

Only 15 nightlife spaces dedicated to queer and gay women remain in the United States

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David_j_roth @davidjroth.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

It's too depressing and obnoxious to write about, but virtually all of the doomy/horny AI hyperventilating is transparently displaced anxiety about our fucked climate and political situation. Even rich idiots know it's bad and being permitted to get worse. They're trying to write their own ending.

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leon @leyawn.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

new idea "one email a day" you should only be able to send or read one email a day

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David Forbes @davidforbes.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Dems replaced action on trans rights with hollow statements, then dropped those statements, then embraced anti-trans rhetoric. Now supporting anti-trans laws and blocking pro-trans ones. At every step the "they're betraying us" radicals were correct and "be patient" liberals were completely wrong.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

Technology never has been and never will be apolitical. The conveniences (for some) that modern tech has created are not without consequences. And a lot of people distrust Big Tech because they are living through those consequences. It's good for people to recognize all of these things

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Julia Carrie Wong @joolia.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

r/crafts has banned all Harry Potter-related crafts due to JK Rowling’s anti-trans bigotry, after a 53-41 vote

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Ben Collins @bencollins.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

Just gonna light this bag of dogshit on fire and walk away from the doorstep, but the people in media I hear saying AI has made them "more productive" appear to be producing less than ever, and worse things than ever. I wonder if they can even tell.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

I’ll never forget that Logan Paul got tested for brain damage in 2019 and discovered that as a result of childhood head trauma he has a reduced capacity for empathy or learning from mistakes. And then he got into boxing and talked about getting a lot more brain damage in the following years

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Maria Bustillos @mariabustillos.com · 18/09/2026

Another must-read from @ftrain.com, a profoundly informed (and undeceived) writer on all things A.I. (n.b. Paul is an Ellie award-winning writer, an entrepreneur and businessman, an insightful theorist of the internet of the olden time, etc. etc.) www.nytimes.com/2026/09/12/o...

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Opinion | A.I. Slopware Is Everywhere Now. Nobody Is Using It. (Gift Article)

Just because A.I. is revolutionizing coding, doesn’t mean it will automatically revolutionize our apps.

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Steven Asarch @asarch.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I finally finished reading MrBeast's book and felt an unholy urge to review it. I dont think i was prepared for how bad it was going to be youtu.be/FbshW3-O8UI?...

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I dug into the controversy around celebrities and surrogacy this week for @spitfirenews.com, with the latest high-profile target being Lady Gaga—a woman who, mind you, has not confirmed or even indicated she used a surrogate to have her first baby spitfirenews.com/p/lady-gaga-...

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Attacking Lady Gaga for having a baby is not feminism

The anti-surrogacy discourse has reached its deranged peak.

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

For years they've been saying you can't just ignore how AI is going to change all of our work habits and lifestyles but I have kind of just ignored it and it hasn't changed them lol

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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Ed Sheeran taking the truly unique “I respect Macklemore as an artist, but not as a person” stance

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Sam Cole @samleecole.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

"wow, everyone knew this already" is such a cynical, annoying and unfortunately extremely common response to tech news. assuming your privacy is being violated and proving that it is are two very different things, and the latter is the result of hard work and rigorous reporting

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Don Moynihan @donmoyn.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

Yikes, if this is accurate, its basically the owner class using their power to shut down dissent. The Patriots Robert Kraft told Sheerhan his concert would be cancelled if Mackelmore stayed on the your, and that other stadium owners would follow suit.

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