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rax ‘levon honkers’ king @raxkingisdead.bsky.social · 06/10/2026
a little louder for the cheap seats in the back
One of the biggest myths is that men rape by mistake. Like, "Oh, they need consent training." But research is very clear: Sexual violence is not a mistake. It is an intentionally made decision by people who know they don't have consent. They just don't prioritize consent over things like status, power, domination, and sexual gratification.
For my research, I got a certificate of confidentiality from the National Institutes of Health, so my notes couldn't be subpoenaed. One of the reasons I call them perpetrators in my work is because every single person I interviewed confessed in that context. The first question I would ask them was, "When you received that email from Title IX that you were under investigation, did you know what it was about?" Every perpetrator I interviewed said "yes." If sexual assault were a miscommunication, you would be wondering, What have I possibly done wrong? That is not the way that any of them reacted because they knew.
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Anthony L. Fisher @anthonylfisher.bsky.social · 05/10/2026
Found the perfect screengrab to use the next time someone tries to tell me I’m missing out on important discourse by not using Elon Musk’s mircoblog site
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God @thegodshow.com · 05/10/2026
Dennis Hastert died. Who's that? He was the longest serving Republican Speaker in history, a registered sex offender and a serial child molester. But somehow most Americans don't know about him. Anyway, he's in hell now.
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Ben Collins @bencollins.bsky.social · 04/10/2026
Part of why I don't like the AI-or-bust economy is the constant flopsweat of people on the news who say this HAS to work. Quit making everyone so anxious. Goddamn. If this is the next Google then why are you acting like this? I don't remember being told to buy an iPhone at gunpoint.
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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
I’ve gotten a lot of questions from journalists like, “If my son were in that group chat, I’d want him to say something. How can I teach him to speak up?” The question should be: “How do I raise a son who would never rush a fraternity?”
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Professa Murray @kalimurray.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
Again: for Black Women, in particular, the ability to chose, a time and place to reproduce is a function of liberty. The most fundamental fact of enslavement was the Black Women had no control over their reproduction; in fact, their ability to reproduce was a key source of other’s wealth.
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Gianmarco Soresi @gianmarcosoresi.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
Mf gonna turn me catholic
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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
All of this. I also want to add that, in my research, I found that a lot of “inconsistencies” in a victim’s story actually came from gender bias affecting investigators’ record keeping and interview methods.
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K.C. Clyburn, Author @kccomplainsalot.blacksky.app · 01/10/2026
the second the epstein files did not reveal an evil cabal of democrats and trans people sex trafficking minors, the male dominated press and male politicians dropped it. the victims are still being harassed and doxxed and how many men are still demanding their release.
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K.C. Clyburn, Author @kccomplainsalot.blacksky.app · 01/10/2026
a key reason why rape culture persists is because men do not fear reprisals from *other men*. they do not expect other men to care if they raped someone. they do not expect other men to treat them poorly. they believe that most men will doubt a victim's story and demand evidence.
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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Socially and in the legal system, our understanding of responses to sexual violence is purposefully uninformed and therefore limited to only “perfect” victims (who don’t really exist), so that we don’t have to actually combat sexual violence or believe victims or hold perpetrators accountable.
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maura quint @mauraquint.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Yes every woman has been harassed, many assaulted. But every woman has also experienced invisible loss from moments she avoided harassment. She felt a space becoming unsafe, so she left, while men stayed on. And in leaving, she lost: opportunities, experiences, learning, promotions, even simply fun.
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Rebecca Solnit @rebeccasolnit.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Maybe time for those who don't experience this directly to return to this thread (which I posted when PTSD was being weaponized to relieve Graham Platner of responsibility for his actions).
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Wagatwe Wanjuki @wagatwe.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
the sad part is that survivors fought like hell to even get expulsion for rapists on the table. when I was an activist > 10 years ago, administrators were *shocked* that we wanted expulsion as a disciplinary option.
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Brandy Schillace @bschillace.brandyschillace.com · 30/09/2026
A friend of mine was raped by football players at one of our college’s frat house in 1998. She went through the internal system, which exonerated the men and accused and blamed her. We wanted her to bring charges and a court case… but she was so broken by then. She dropped out. Burn it all down.
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Dom Ervolina @dominicervolina.com · 30/09/2026
No bear has ever doxxed a rape victim
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McSweeney's @mcsweeneys.net · 29/09/2026
"Can a rapist’s prose elicit remorse for sexual assault? What word count best equates to appropriate jail time? In this class, we will dissect what empathy and accountability might look like so undergrads may successfully mimic them on paper in pursuit of avoiding just punishment." buff.ly/5na4oMY
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Announcing Cornell University’s Newest Writing Course: Rape Essays 101
“Can a rapist’s prose effectively elicit remorse for sexual assault? What word count best equates to appropriate jail time? In this class, we will dissect wh...
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Jessica Valenti @jessicavalenti.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
This is why more women don't come forward, and why more rapists aren't jailed. Because mostly-male cops and prosecutors find it more believable that a 20-yr-old would want to have sex with a room full of fraternity brothers than accept she was raped. What ever happened to common fucking sense?
jessica.substack.com
Carrying That Weight—Again
I can’t stop thinking about the Cornell rape case
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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 28/09/2026
This young woman dropped out of college after being raped by multiple men for hours until she passed out. She alleges they forced her to snort drugs off their genitalia during the act. But they’re bright young upstanding fraternity men with promising futures, right?
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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 28/09/2026
There’s something to be said for how most of the political spectrum can unite around hounding some lesbians over niche drama in their spaces but huge segments of society are silent about pervasive campus rape impacting a huge population of primarily youngwomen
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Faine Greenwood @faineg.com · 27/09/2026
Women trying to succeed in Silicon Valley AI and effective altruist spaces are reporting feeling serious social pressure to attend sex parties - where people have reported being sexually assaulted, like below. Events like Aella’s “Slutcon,” which is happening again this weekend.
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I am disheartened by this as well. I already lost a bunch of followers for agreeing with @tautologer, but it's saddening to see local nerdy women being caricatured as Karen-like outsiders and getting pushed out of the scene. This is exactly why you hear so few concrete, names-attached stories of sexual harrassment and assault. I'm told there is a history of discrediting these because the "slut normalization" thing is top priority and these stories get inconveniently in the way of spreading this ideology.
I got roped into attending last year's Saturday Slutcon party because so many local and out-of-town friends were there (to echo sentiments @tautologer expressed about "slut events becoming central to the larger scenes). Mostly I hung out with people I knew and that was great. But in the course of my 3-ish hours there, there were 2 times my "no" was not accepted by a man I didn't know, and I was physically pushing a huge guy off of me who was rubbing his penis on me, who continued to do it despite my physical force against him, and after I finally wriggled away from him, told him I wanted to dance alone etc., he came back and did it again.
This was scary and bad, but it didn't even cross my mind to report this because one of the other people who didn't accept my "no" earlier in the night was the bartender (an officially sanctioned authority at the event), and I knew the event was organized exclusively by women into CNC (who are vocal about how rapey behavior turns them on), so I figured this sort of thing would just get me laughed at. And anyway, I heard there were a lot of other incidents like it. Later though, someone encouraged me to report this story to the organizers, and despite my embarrassment I did, so *they know* that this and other incidents happened. This is why they cut the Saturday night party this year and created a larger training program for the flirt girls - *because* of things like this last year. Yet the narrative bein…People who haven't been to Slutcon are saying "it's just group therapy," "it's just innocent flirting." But the environment is much like a sex party in that many people are nude, there is making out and sex acts happening out in the open. I think it's pretty unreasonable to expect that every nerdy girl who likes rationalist bloggers or is into EA/AI safety should automatically be comfortable with this! That if she's not, there's something wrong with her, we don't want her in our scenes, etc.
Not to mention, it's explictly an event *for men*, where men are the clients and the "flirt girls" are the product. Last year I overheard an exchange where a man felt "led on" by a flirt girl and was trying to get her punished/kicked out. (A dynamic that seems inevitable in this context!)
Anyway- it does sound like they've upped their consent education a lot this year, are more organized, and that's good! As I've told my friends who are attending: I hope they have fun!
I heard several accounts last year of women who had no problems and really enjoyed the event. That's great!
Just... can we live in reality about this? There are real reasons why male-female sexual dynamics are tricky.
Encouraging autistic men who can't yet read body language to go around asking to see womens' boobs is maybe a bit ill-advised. Maybe not everyone should be/identify as a slut; maybe it's not for everyone.
And yeah, filtering the Bay Area Al safety scene down to only women who are super comfy with this eliminates *most* women - including many of the really smart, nerdy, weird women who've been in the larger scenes for years. What a loss for humanity.
I absolutely understand why people with a minority sexuality would want to create belonging, would want to create spaces for people like themselves. But why do it like this/at this cost?
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ℝ𝕖𝕓𝕖𝕝𝕓𝕝𝕦𝕖 @rebelb1ue.bsky.social · 26/09/2026
You know what’s more dangerous than a trans athlete? 7 Frat boys at Cornell University.
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Andi Zeisler @andizeisler.bsky.social · 25/09/2026
A woman was drugged, raped, and sexually trafficked to members of a fraternity. Two of the men involved were expelled. Five were given the opportunity to mitigate suspension by *writing an essay.* The dozens of other men who knew this was happening and said nothing? You already know the answer.
cornellsun.com
EDITORIAL | Cornell Won’t, We Will
The Editorial Board demands that Cornell stops protecting the alleged Chi Phi rapists through the University's opaque sexual assault policies.
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Adam Rogers @jetjocko.bsky.social · 23/09/2026
A lot of things make me feel kind of dumb, including how to take at face value the logic of “we are a multibillion dollar transnational industry building a vengeful elder god, and we definitely won’t stop unless you regulate us the way we want, which is a secret.”
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Alt US Wallet Inspector Service @venraspinoza.bsky.social · 23/09/2026
Marginalized people deserve their pound of flesh from the motherfuckers who preached "slow incremental progress" while things got rapidly fucking worse. We're going to suffer while those liberal shitstains get waved through the checkpoints.
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Faine Greenwood @faineg.com · 22/09/2026
"OpenAI co-founder and president Greg Brockman gave Trump's super PAC a whopping $25 million" is one of those things that could really stand to be pointed out more:
finance.yahoo.com
OpenAI exec becomes top Trump donor with $25 million gift
The super PAC will help fund Republicans' midterm election battle.
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Rob Delaney @robdelaney.bsky.social · 21/09/2026
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Puff the Magic Hater @mskellymhayes.bsky.social · 19/09/2026
When you hear a fantastical story about AI, you should ask yourself, "How does this serve the political project of AI?" Because, as others have pointed out, that's what AI really amounts to: a political project.
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Xero now with 100% more 🎃 @artificer-ind.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
Still patiently waiting to be "left behind" by AI rather than it chasing me across every damn space like a slasher in a low budget flick.
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Elizabeth Spiers @espiers.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
WHAT IS A WOMAN? Here's an answer for Democrats who should know better and keep taking the fuckin bait re: trans women in sports: espiers.medium.com/the-correct-...
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The Correct Answer to “What Is A Woman?”
There’s a real answer, but it’s not a good faith question.
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assbutt @nasboat.org · 17/09/2026
I am so goddamn tired of this shit. support transgender people or fuck off forever
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Ned Raggett @nedraggett.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
Okay so @defector.com has had an odd glitch since the site redesign a couple of weeks back where the wrong photo and headline are often put together on the main page and I was going to ask them about fixing it but this just happened and as far as I'm concerned they have to leave it as is.
Screenshot for a Defector podcast episode with the headline "Consider the Emotional Lives of Scallops" only the accompanying photo is a white gormless stubbled red-headed UK singer of recent notoriety giving a flat smile to the camera while wearing a washed out peach top as beige as he is against a flat background. So, actually, probably a scallop anyway.
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Nicholas Grossman @nicholasgrossman.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
“AI will kill us all” is how the tech industry, especially rich people in it, avoid talking about real world problems—ones they’re causing, exacerbating, or neglecting—while still thinking themselves good. “I’m better than all that,” they say. “I got high with my friends and BSed about the future.”
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Kat Tenbarge @kattenbarge.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
For years they've been saying you can't just ignore how AI is going to change all of our work habits and lifestyles but I have kind of just ignored it and it hasn't changed them lol
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David Farrier @davidfarrier.com · 15/09/2026
ed sheeran has shared the most pathetic, cowardly, privileged statement i could imagine given the situation. if a wizard suddenly removed all of ed's bones from his body & he melted into a puddle of organs, skin & goo, this is what it would it would have gargled at you: www.webworm.co/edsheeran/
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Is Ed Sheeran Finished?
David Farrier's Webworm: Is Ed Sheeran finished? Kicking Macklemore off the tour shows us exactly where Ed stands.
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Ed Zitron @edzitron.com · 14/09/2026
Free newsletter: The idea that we're nearing the creation of AI systems that we can't control and that pose an existential threat to humanity is a lie and a distraction from the tangible harms and problems caused by LLMs and AI labs' near-unlimited resources. www.wheresyoured.at/ai-is-alread...
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https://www.wheresyoured.at/ai-is-already-in-dangerous-hands/
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worm @rfksbrainworm.bsky.social · 14/09/2026
Honduran white bats
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Ben Collins @bencollins.bsky.social · 14/09/2026
That said, Occam's Razor drives me back to the likely truth: They are out of money and everyone is falling for it. I need details on how this is going to kill everyone. If you're doing an elaborate bit to alarm people about Anduril, I'ma need you to tell Wired or 404, or I will keep laughing at you.
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Matthew Cortland (they) @matthewcort.land · 14/09/2026
If folks on here want to pretend that the only thing Talarico said was about sports, that's fine—it's also not true. He would ban gender affirming care for 17 year olds. And I'm sure many of you haven't tried to figure out how to keep a trans kid from killing themselves, so you don't get it
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Scott Wha Hae 🏳️‍🌈 @scottland.one · 12/09/2026
This headline from 30 years ago made me laugh so hard I saved it. 😁👍
Photo of a newspaper article headlined "Bishop, Gay Priest Butt Heads."
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Laura Bassett @lebassett.bsky.social · 12/09/2026
This was always the end game— to ban trans people from public life.
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Katelyn Burns @katelynburns.com · 11/09/2026
This is... to me... a denial that trans people exist. The reference to genetic anomalies is common anti-trans language referring to intersex people.
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Ben Collins @bencollins.bsky.social · 11/09/2026
25 years later and The Onion’s ParentCorner 9/11 explainer from immediately after the attack is a better understanding of the threat environment than the one produced by the U.S. government.
An Onion article titled “Talking to your child about the WTC attack,” which is filled with real good info.
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Mike Drucker @mikedrucker.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
You’ve gotta use AI because it’s the future. But also it’ll take your job. But also it’ll create a paradise on earth and solve most of our problems. But also it’ll end humanity soon. But also you’ll get left behind if you don’t use it right now.
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Ben Collins @bencollins.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
Protect trans kids.
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Rotcoddam @rotcoddam.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
Maybe Ai can tell us when the Ai crash will happen.
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Zack Beauchamp @zackbeauchamp.bsky.social · 08/09/2026
It turns out that Netanyahu was warned, in shockingly specific terms, about October 7 — and not only chose to do nothing, but hid the warning from the people who could have stopped it www.haaretz.com/israel-news/...
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Netanyahu got an explicit warning before Oct. 7. He didn't brief security chiefs
In September '23, UAE President bin Zayed called Netanyahu to deliver a harsh warning. Netanyahu did nothing. An extensive investigation, conducted for a new book, reveals the PM's failures surroundin...
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