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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Crazy to me that "cope" or "coping" have become insults online. God forbid a person is able to cope. Some of you should learn how to cope tbh.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Maybe a genuinely unpopular opinion, but "love bombing" has gone the way of "gaslighting."

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JP @jpbrammer.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

it's important to arrive at sturdy ethical principles that you can't be annoyed out of. people are annoying as shit

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Peter @notalawyer.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

a lot of people act like there's a trade being offered where we give up trans athletes in sports and in exchange fascism is defeated forever

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

I once saw a post, I wish I had screenshot it, that said that 20 years ago women would say "I'm not a feminist, but" and then say straightforwardly feminist things, whereas now women will say "of course I'm a feminist, but" and say straightforwardly antifeminist things. This is not an improvement.

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s. e. smith @sesmith.lol · 16/09/2026

At this point Scarleteen is intergenerational. We have parents who grew up at Scarleteen sending their kids to Scarleteen! Help us serve the next generation, and stay a safe, supportive landing place for people who are often isolated and scared.

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s. e. smith @sesmith.lol · 16/09/2026

Supporting Scarleteen is a vote for learner-led sex ed from people who don’t treat young people like objects to be lectured at. It’s for a queer- and trans-led, majority-disabled team doing immediate direct services all day every day. I know many of you have benefited from Scarleteen!

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s. e. smith @sesmith.lol · 16/09/2026

Scarleteen’s moderated direct services are there for people experiencing sexual violence, being kicked out of their homes, struggling to access gender-affirming care, navigating toxic family relationships, and more. The site also has a HUGE resource library including some articles from yours truly!

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s. e. smith @sesmith.lol · 16/09/2026

Young people are having an extremely hard time right now and they come to Scarleteen with AI misinformation, pregnancy scares, and terror as the state closes in around them. Sex ed is about caring for the whole person and that’s what Scarleteen excels at. pro.gofundme.com/fundraiser/7...

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s. e. smith @sesmith.lol · 16/09/2026

As long as everyone’s talking about sex stuff, a reminder that I’m fundraising for @scarleteen.com (link in the next post). Scarleteen has been at it with high quality, free, inclusive, joyful sex ed for almost 30 years. They’re one of the few online resources left standing.

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Scott Horton @robertscotthorton.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Note that in two articles today, WaPo describes a "sale" of bombs to Israel. This is extremely misleading. The reported $2.bn package is 100% funded by US taxpayers via the Foreign Military Financing grants for Israel to buy US weapons.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

I promise you do not need to qualify your statement of solidarity with Macklemore by loudly proclaiming that you don’t like his music. If he can be brave and lose touring opportunities for saying Free Palestine, you can be brave and risk people thinking you might have enjoyed Thrift Shop.

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cait (and adonis) @cait.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

she deleted this once she realized that based on the time difference she was implying that schoolchildren in Scotland knew about 9/11 before it happened

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Imani Gandy @angryblacklady.blacksky.app · 12/09/2026

The international chess Federation banned trans women from playing women's chess. CHESS. It's not about fairness. The fairness argument is intended to radicalize people into more violent forms of transphobia.

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Kylie Eleison @gonebabygone.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

9/11 jokes are like Charlie Kirk jokes in the sense that they probably never would have taken off like they did if the seriousness of the subject hadn't been wielded as a cudgel to demand obedience to the state, which is of course the stuff oppositional defiant disorders are made of

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Ian Boudreau @ianboudreau.com · 12/09/2026

Is it fair that the school on a shoestring budget has to play the one in the affluent suburb that has a budget for brand new equipment and groundskeeping for a shot at state finals? Fuck off lol

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Aaron Reichlin-Melnick @reichlinmelnick.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

“The Miami Herald will no longer have a Miami beat” is the state of local journalism in a nutshell. Really, really bad.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

The hill I will die on forever is that I am an absolute radfem tinfoil hat freak about diet culture and the systematic underfeeding of women.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 31/08/2026

I would not say that I am afraid of dogs, I like dogs just fine, but I would describe myself as quite cautious around dogs I don't know. That is to say, if you have your dog off-leash on a busy urban street I WILL cross the street to avoid your dog and I hope you see me do it.

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Olúfẹ́mi O. Táíwò @olufemiotaiwo.bsky.social · 16/08/2026

Philosophers often bring up the "principle of charity": a willingness to assume good faith in an interlocutor and treat them accordingly. It's good to do in many circumstances. But it is worth formulating a principle of not being a fucking mark. If not during the rise of fascism, then when? 12/

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 16/08/2026

You want to talk about pictures that have rewired my brain? After working on my novella at my laptop all week and not moving my body very much, I finally stretched my back and shoulders and when I experienced how tight they were I thought to myself "oh no, I've been a bad little shrimp this week."

A photo of a shrimp sitting in a computer chair, hunched dramatically over a laptop. Above him is the Google searchbar in which you can see he has typed "why does my back hurt?"

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cait (and adonis) @cait.bsky.social · 03/08/2026

here's a fun lil exercise for cis people: how many articles would a publication have to print calling for your extermination before you would expect people who care about you to stop giving them money? and how would you feel if their excuse for still supporting them is some fuckass crossword puzzle?

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Oni Blackstock, MD MHS @oniblackstock.bsky.social · 04/08/2026

The NIH has quietly dropped its loan repayment program for researchers doing health disparities research and for researchers from disadvantaged backgrounds. As an LRP awardee who had six figures in medical schools loans, I know how transformative this funding can be. Losing this funding will…

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NIH Extramural Loan Repayment Programs: Simplified Structure, Continued Commitment | Grants & Funding

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Greg van Eekhout @gregvaneekhout.bsky.social · 04/08/2026

Wikipedia remains one of the most useful things online. No subscription fees, no ads, no stupid pursuit of AI, all curated by relentless nerds. Maybe remember to throw them a few bucks every now and again.

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rahaeli @rahaeli.bsky.social · 14/07/2026

Because I am in the United States, and the SPEECH Act specifically precludes me from being sued by a bigoted transphobic miserable fascist for calling her a bigoted transphobic miserable fascist. So I can show you this report JKR doesn't want you to be able to read. www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/mafq8...

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rahaeli @rahaeli.bsky.social · 14/07/2026

So I'm gonna just keep linking to this report, which JKR has threatened to bankrupt the foremost human rights organization in the world over because it accurately called her and her buddies a bunch of bigots working to strip human rights from people. www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/mafq8...

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Marisa Kabas @marisakabas.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

i wanna know which extremely online lawyer made sure to require the post be pinned. genius.

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Maladroithe @maladroithe.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

If my boss tried to eat lunch with me as an “equal” I would poison him

reading a historical romance novel and reflecting on the way these stories often present woke nobility for the contemporary reader. a big thing is servants. you can't not have servants in those times but many modern readers think "but I would never have servants. it would be so weird to have servants" and in order to make the protagonists of the story more relatable they are actually friends with the servants. but flip your perspective and think of it from the side of the servants. wouldn't it be so awful if your boss was always trying to be friends with you. a really common thing you'll see is the woke baronet having tea in the kitchen with the servants bc he's not like other baronets. but what if your boss wanted to hang out and talk during your lunch break every day. not so charming when you think about it that way
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one of my favorite parts of anna karenina addressed this. as i remember it, a landowner (levin?) basically had a midlife crisis and started working the fields. the farmhands were pretty confused and annoyed at this relatively weak, ineffective guy playacting as a farmhand. he was in the way, had no idea what he was doing, didn't understand their micro culture (esp. things like what they liked to talk about and what they found funny) and most of all, he was...THEIR BOSS.
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this is why I get annoyed by people being like "why is the noble heroine in this 19th-century novel lonely? why does she say she's all alone? her maid is there! ugh! so dehumanizing!!!"
she is the maid's BOSS
they are not FRIENDS
the maid probably does not DESIRE her friendship
the servants are not your confidants in this scenario. IRL, the notion of the Loyal Family Retainer was most common in sentimental literature for the employing class (which btw was like upper-working-class on up, although the lower you go, the more work the family would be doing alongside them) and sometimes weaponized by them to try and get extra emotional or physical labor out…

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

Let me avoid the risks of commenting on specific people's bodies and just say that there are no words to describe my rage that we have cycled back to "open and unapologetic pro-anorexia at the highest levels of culture" in fucking 20 years.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 01/08/2026

More excellent social skills advice from Tumblr

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objet petit ott @isheoughtto.bsky.social · 26/07/2026

it is still sufficiently not in the public awareness as to permit all sorts of sexual/gender anxiety to be displaced onto various Strangers, for which the only remedy suggested across the political spectrum is "give children less direct access to society, and give more control to their parents"

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 27/07/2026

Two adult men have told me that Obsession was the scariest movie they've ever seen, while two teenage girls have told me it wasn't that scary. This is obviously too small of a sample size to draw sweeping conclusions from, but it's so tempting.

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Kivan @kivanbay.bsky.social · 22/07/2026

"Working class is when Truck, elites is when Public Transit" is one of those car-brained ideas that actually makes zero sense the second you interrogate it

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 18/07/2026

If you read any sociological studies of marriage and families at all, a lot of culture war arguments start to feel less relevant. Like, men who want trad wives are a loud minority, but statistically your odds of marriage increase with how many degrees you have regardless of gender.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 18/07/2026

In other news, my mid week cyclospora crash out was vindicated as the bagged salads I tossed out of an abundance of caution were in fact Taylor Farms.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 18/07/2026

The prevailing narrative of dating nowadays is that the illusion of limitless choice has made people far too selective, but on the ground as a therapist and general observer I still tend to see people erring on the side of not being selective enough.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 15/07/2026

Just came up with the concept of "stabbing up," where you believe that what you're doing is "punching up" but either you've hugely overinflated the power differential in your head or the behavior in question is so harmful that no one is really immune from it.

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Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg @theradr.bsky.social · 09/07/2026

hi just a reminder that there are words for nonconsensual sexual acts in fact there's a simple four letter word and saying things like "nonconsenual [describe the specific act]" you perhaps deliberately minimize that impact check in about why

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Prisonculture @prisonculture.bsky.social · 07/07/2026

Folks, no one has a RIGHT to higher office. OK? You aren't "canceling" anyone when you decide NOT TO SUPPORT THEIR QUEST FOR MORE POWER. Please let's be SERIOUS. This is not what is meant by "no one is disposable." I'm begging people to focus and use your brains. That man can still make a LIVING.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 09/07/2026

Visited my friend in Oakland, met her new housemate, mentioned offhand that I was born and raised in suburban Pennsylvania and he told me SO kindly, "I couldn't tell at all." Honestly one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me, going to hold onto that forever.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 27/06/2026

One of the reasons I think the Your Mom Is A Narcissist Industrial Complex took off is because gray rocking actually slaps. It is a VERY effective way of dealing with ANY difficult person who wants to drag you into some drama, regardless of whether they have a personality disorder or not.

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Ms. Respex, LCSW @respexy.bsky.social · 12/05/2026

As a cat owner with a lot of hands-on childcare experience, I feel like I can settle most "pet mom" vs. actual mom discourse pretty easily. If you object to me lightheartedly calling my cat my daughter, you're the asshole. If I expect you to wish me a Happy Mother's Day, I'm the asshole.

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Andi Zeisler @andizeisler.bsky.social · 08/05/2026

sweet vaping Jesus, what the hell did I just read

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Michael Meir Saltzman @saltzman.bsky.social · 03/05/2026

Ok sure losing your shit is awful but tell me where in this article any of this is listed: - how much was he making - how much is he losing - how much did he get in subsidies + what does he think about other ppl getting gov asst - how much does he stand to make from the auction / total valuation

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Maladroithe @maladroithe.bsky.social · 03/05/2026

Everybody wants “ultra processed” to mean “anything unhealthy” but any consistent definition involving, ya know, PROCESSING INGREDIENTS would put Sour Patch Kids and oat milk in the same category so like. It’s not particularly helpful.

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my good bitch 💎 @clozilla.cryptoanarchy.network · 02/05/2026

I want to reassure everyone that abortion providers have been ready to switch to misoprostol-only abortion for a long time now, and clinics can still provide mifepristone in person. You can still access abortion and there are people who will help.

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Dr. Damien P. Williams, dread portent down from a mountain cave @wolven.blacksky.app · 02/05/2026

This is one of the most quietly revolutionary things any city can do to improve kids' lives & outcomes. If you genuinely care about kids having access to education or safe after school spaces & activities, then fund your libraries, staff your libraries, & make every public school ID a library card.

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