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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 18/03/2026

On Radio 4 this morning - Matthew Syed's Sideways on complicated grief and forgiveness. The Hands of Forgiveness tells the story of a shooting at an Amish school, the response of the Amish community, and their care for the wife & family of the gunman. www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 14/03/2026

Sending love on Mothering Sunday to widows who didn’t get to be mums or who lost a partner who didn’t get to be a mum. Who are being mums, or both mums & dads, alone. Who are dealing with child or parent loss or estrangement as well as losing a partner. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/motheri...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 12/03/2026

I've found that the spoon theory works for grief. Early on in grief I was so tired that my bones hurt, which took away physical spoons. I also had widow brain, which took away mental spoons. And my number of spoons changed from day to day. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/the-spo...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 26/02/2026

For LGBT+ History Month (#LGBTplusHM), Jo Sedley-Burke & I chatted about the 1980s, the HIV/AIDS crisis, grief, queer widowhood & my book Dancing in Heaven, interspersed by the barks of my born-deaf show cocker spaniel. Hope you enjoy it as much as we did. www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9Xz...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 24/02/2026

WAY Widowed and Young is celebrating LGBT+ History Month with a quiz celebrating the journey of the LGBTQIA+ community from the past to present day. It's open to all WAY members and supporters and there's a prize! #LGBTplusHM www.surveymonkey.com/r/S7HRDLM

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 23/02/2026

It’s 8 years tomorrow since Tim's death & the anniversary hits differently each year. Year 1 was raw. Year 4 a friend died & it brought it all back. Year 5, grief was a quiet companion rather than a bleeding wound. This year is unexpectedly hard www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/eight-y...

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Giles Paley-Phillips @eliistender10.bsky.social · 18/02/2026

🙏🏻❤️

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samcannonart @samcannonart.bsky.social · 15/02/2026

New work - not quite finished but soon. With words by Louisa May Alcott. I love greens, purples and whites together. Roll on bluebells, stitchwort and spring.

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 13/02/2026

It's Valentine's day tomorrow & that can be a tough day for a #widow. It can feel like everyone has a significant other when yours has gone. Even for those with a new partner, it can feel conflicting. Take very good care of yourself today and tomorrow. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/valenti...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 12/02/2026

Sleep can be so hard for a #widow - your head is full of #grief, spinning thoughts and tough memories, and you may have nightmares. Here are some things that helped me www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/hints-a...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 11/02/2026

WAY Widowed and Young's LGBTQIA+ Diversity Working Group is busy planning activities for LGBT+ History Month 2025. There's an LGBT+ History Quiz with a prize live now, open to WAY members and non-members. www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/get-support/...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 07/02/2026

Thinking of all of you new widows. The early days are so exhausting. Sleep when you can. Eat what you can, when you can, and drink lots of water. One moment, one breath and one step at a time. #griefthreads

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 04/02/2026

Sending love to all of you who lost partners through cancer, today (and every day) www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/world-c...

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 02/02/2026

From #LGBTHistoryMonth 2025 - stories of queer #widows www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/lgbt-hi... #widow #grief

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Suzanne Elvidge (she/her) @suzannewriter.bsky.social · 30/01/2026

As well as writing fiction I also write about grief at The Widow's Handbook (@widowshandbook.bsky.social) and loved Cariad Lloyd's Griefcast

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 28/01/2026

One of the things I found after Tim died was how friendship groups shift. I’ve newly come across the concept of firefighters and builders. Sometimes these can be the same people, but often they are different. This idea helped me understand. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/firefig... #widow #Grief

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 28/01/2026

The best piece of advice I was given after my husband died suddenly was 'one moment, one breath and one step at a time'. Its still valid nearly 8 years on. #grief

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 31/12/2025

Be gentle with yourself today. Moving into a new year for new widows means moving from 'My partner died this year' to 'My partner died last year'. For those who have been widowed longer, it can feel like their person is moving further into the past. Another unexpected loss. #widow #grief

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Elizabeth Boyle @thecelticist.bsky.social · 22/11/2025

CW: child loss This is horrific but utterly vital investigative journalism. So many layers - the brainwashing power of social media; the transition from feminist to tradwife via flat-earthism; the distrust of life-saving medicine - but at the heart of this is avoidable tragedy & unfathomable grief.

theguardian.com

Influencers made millions pushing ‘wild’ births – now the Free Birth Society is linked to baby deaths around the world

A year-long investigation reveals how mothers lost children after being radicalised by uplifting podcast tales of births without midwives or doctors

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 20/11/2025

I find the darkness of #winter hard to deal with, especially as it's the lead up to #milestones: Tim's birthday, #Christmas, #NewYear and then the anniversary of his death. Here are a few things that I have found helpful: www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/in-t… #grief #widow

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 20/11/2025

This is what I have been working on - Dancing in Heaven - celebrating the strength, #grief, anger, love & loss of the women who were there during the 1980s #HIV/AIDS crisis. See link for launches in London (1 Dec, #WorldAIDSDay) & Scarborough 6 Dec www.thehouseofcorrection.com/dancing-in-h...

Cover of a book called Dancing in Heaven, with an image of a nurse in a mask

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 10/10/2025

I live with depression & have since my teens. It is well-managed, though sometimes it breaks through. Thinking of those who struggle or can't find help. Thank you to the friends, family and professionals who look after us. #WorldMentalHealthDay #WorldMentalHealthDay2025 #1in4

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Tron Bonne @heroicmisadventure.bsky.social · 26/09/2025

“I’d rather try being distracted… Grief is handled differently by everyone.”

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Stephen McCarthy @misterjabsticks.eurosky.social · 18/09/2025

This is good, on grief.

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Dilys Morgan @dilysmorgan.bsky.social · 16/09/2025

"After 3 months, peoples' lives have changed, they've moved on, but your entire world has changed." Dr Bill Webster on #grief #loss #mourning open.spotify.com/episode/66cV...

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Episode 67: Dr Bill Webster

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South West London and St George's Mental Health NHS Trust @swlstg.bsky.social · 12/09/2025

Grief and loss affects us all differently and you might experience many different emotions, like shock, tiredness, or guilt. There is no right or wrong way to feel - we all react in our own way. If you're struggling after a bereavement, find trusted advice and support: swlstg.nhs.uk/bereavement

Grief is a natural reaction to loss.
There is no right or wrong way to feel.
Find support following a bereavement at www.swlstg.nhs.uk/bereavement

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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 09/09/2025

Loss changes everything… It cuts deep - but when we find the strength to guide the pen and control the flow, love and hope can carve deeper still. Redefine your story 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #Grief #Bereavement #SuicideAwareness #Hope 🐦‍⬛

Two birds sit on a bench. The background is sky blue and there is sun and clouds in the sky. The accompanying text reads: Grief rewrites your story… but you still hold the pen

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 09/09/2025

My therapist said something similar to me. Julian's death created a detour toward my life's destination - a happy and fulfilling life. But, it hasn't ended the journey. I'm just now on it alone and will have to take a new route. #grief #bereft #widowhood #rerouted #lifejourney

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 09/09/2025

I have found that #grief really isn't linear - it's more like a pinball machine www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/models-... #widow

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 05/09/2025

Last weekend I was part of Felix Rackow's Virgin Radio Pride documentary Grief in the Shadows - here's the catch up link shows.acast.com/virgin-radio...

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Grief in the Shadows | Virgin Radio Pridecast

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 30/08/2025

WAY Widowed and Young Chair Jo Sedley-Burke and Andrew and I, both Way members, have been interviewed for VirginRadioUK Pride for Grief in the Shadows, exploring how being LGBTQIA+ can complicate the process of grief and bereavement. 7-8pm Sun 31 August virginradio.co.uk/play/virginr...

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Without Fear | End-of-Life Doula @withoutfeardoula.bsky.social · 07/08/2025

Healing doesn’t happen just by moving forward. It happens when you stop long enough to feel. Don’t skip that step. #Healing #GriefWork #MentalHealth #LifeCoach

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Oseäna 🤍🧿🍰 @handle.invalid · 07/08/2025

Reminder that grief does not have a designated time frame. Insensitive weirdos.

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@mikeythedeathdoula @mikeythedeathdoula.bsky.social · 01/08/2025

When grief feels overwhelming, come back to your senses. Try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method: 5 things you see 4 things you can touch 3 things you hear 2 things you smell 1 thing you taste Breathe. You’re still here. You’re safe.#GriefSupport #GroundingTools

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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 22/07/2025

A common theme in our Grief Circles is "I thought I was doing better." You were. Yesterday. But today the reality hit you in the face anew. It's ok. You'll never be "over it" but you will find new ways to co-exist with your pain. There's no timeline for healing. #GriefJourney #ODAAT

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Ekimellnea @ekimellnea.bsky.social · 22/07/2025

Every photo, every letter, every joke becomes more precious. Grief teaches us to hold tighter to those tiny things. #GriefAndHealing #SentimentalQuotes quotes.thisgrandpablogs.com/memory-becom...

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Memory Becomes a Treasure: Finding Comfort After Loss

When someone you love is gone, their memory becomes a treasure—a lasting source of comfort, love, and healing through grief.

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MAiDHouse Canada @maidhouse.ca · 20/07/2025

At @dyingwithdignity.ca 's blog, a new feature spotlights BIPOC Death and Grief Talk, a collective care group located in Tkaronto that supports racialized and Indigenous folks through #grief and loss. Learn more at DWDC's website: www.dyingwithdignity.ca/blog/bipoc-d...

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BIPOC death and grief talk | Dying With Dignity Canada

Kaylce Carter (they/them) and Carmen Galvan (she/her) are the co-founders of BIPOC Death and Grief Talk, a collective care group…

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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 05/07/2025

Here’s to the semicolons. To the pauses that hold us. To the strangers who show up with kindness. And to the ongoing sentences - messy, painful, hopeful - that we’re still here to write 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #Grief #Loss #Semicolon #Hope

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Hope in small symbols

Daddy Blackbird #12

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Hannah Crazyhawk @hannahcrazyhawk.bsky.social · 03/07/2025

“Even if you know what’s coming, you’re never prepared for how it feels.” — Natalie Standiford #Quote #Grief

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Lin Hart @poetry-with-hart.bsky.social · 30/06/2025

Grief is a windowless room doors of opportunity to see them again all shut, for which no God(s) can open. #vssdaily #grief #poem #poetry #micropoem #micropoetry

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Quiet Connection Podcast @quietconnectionpod.bsky.social · 22/06/2025

Missing your past self doesn’t mean you love your child any less. That ache? It’s part of change. #GriefInMotherhood #SelfLoveStillMatters #PostpartumGrowth #QuietConnection #MomsEvolveToo

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Heather Honold @heatherhonold.bsky.social · 22/06/2025

The moment you start laughing again after a loss feels like betrayal. But it’s not. It’s your soul catching its breath. It’s the part of you that survived saying, “I’m still here.” #grief #healing

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