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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶

@pattiev123.bsky.social
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Grief Coach, work with folks impacted by loss due to substance use. Author: Secrets, Scars and Heart Shaped Jars. Unapologetically blue. Mom, Nonnie, Advocate, Human, Old Hippie. I’m snarky and dark-funny. 😈 I don’t want to be a Sunshine Patriot.

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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 04/10/2026
Quite the honor to be featured in Wellness Voice. wellnessvoice.com/the-grief... #GriefJourney #FamilySupport
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The Grief That Begins Before Goodbye: How Pattie Vargas Is Supporting Families Through Loss and Addiction - Wellness Voice
For families affected by substance use or serious mental health challenges, grief does not necessarily begin with death. It can begin much earlier, as
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
"Maybe I'm tired of turning everything into something. Everything becomes material. A hard day becomes a blog post. A loss becomes wisdom. A painful realization becomes a lesson. A difficult experience becomes something I can offer someone else." theresilientjourney.net/blo...
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The Writer Who Doesn't Write
I am a writer who doesn't write.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
I can’t get this out of my mind … and I’m glad. At the Ohana Fest Eddie was talking about the @Ohana community and doing the ASL Sign for "Mix / Blend / Together" - a diverse group of people blending together in acceptance (and rock and roll!) I couldn’t love @pearljam more. ✌🏼 #PeaceLoveAndRockNRoll
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
"Maybe I'm tired of turning everything into something. Everything becomes material. A hard day becomes a blog post. A loss becomes wisdom. A painful realization becomes a lesson. A difficult experience becomes something I can offer someone else." theresilientjourney.net/blo...
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The Writer Who Doesn't Write
I am a writer who doesn't write.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
I asked America.gov a series of questions to which I got no meaningful replies … among them I asked “Why doesn’t Trump have any pets?” I was hoping for an answer that had something about psychopaths and animals not being a good combination …
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Find answers from official government sources and clear next steps for the services you need with America.gov.
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#TuckFrump @realtuckfrumper.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Veterans Group Gives Donald Trump’s Taxpayer-Funded Ad A Brutal Makeover #HuffingtonPost
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Veterans Group Gives Trump’s Taxpayer-Funded Ad A Brutal Makeover
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Our first #OhanaFest after many failed attempts. Especially now, needed the community and love that @pearljam.com brings together. We’ve always loved a PJ concert for that reason and now adding the festival to the must go list. I just wanna scream hello … but now here you are, and here I am.
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Pearl Jam @pearljam.com · 29/09/2026
A picture perfect close to an incredible Ohana Fest weekend. 📸: Geoff Whitman
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Jacob Redman @jacob-redman.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
In September 2023, President Joe Biden became the first sitting president to walk a strike picket line, joining United Auto Workers (UAW) members at a General Motors facility in Belleville, Michigan. Subscribe to receive history like this to your inbox: everythingbriefing.substack.com/subscribe
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The Tennessee Holler @thetnholler.bsky.social · 25/09/2026
CARTOON OF THE DAY…
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Dr. Mar @boldnewme.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
Putting your principles first.
In September 1964, the Beatles refused to play the Gator Bowl in Jacksonville, Florida, when they learned the crowd would be segregated.
The city backed down.
The show went ahead - integrated.
Bringing that up this week for no reason in particular...
Music has always
been bigger than just music.
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Allison Gill @muellershewrote.com · 16/09/2026
The man who won't let you have paid sick leave or health care returns to Congress after getting free health care and 90 days paid sick leave
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 13/09/2026
Read their privacy disclosure if you’re into being horrified.
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Jacob Redman @jacob-redman.bsky.social · 12/09/2026
During their time in office, the Obamas would commemorate the anniversary of the terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001, by leading the White House staff in a moment of silence on the South Lawn for those who died.
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The Tennessee Holler @thetnholler.bsky.social · 13/09/2026
“Guys, they want us to go home.” 🔥 🇫🇷 French short film about what would happen to society if all the immigrants listened to angry old racist white men and left (aka the Republican agenda)
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 13/09/2026
Thanks for your post today, @joycewhitevance.bsky.social. Encouraging. I so hope you are right. joycevance.substack.com/p/on-being-a...
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On Being an American
I am not ashamed to be an American.
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Allison Gill @muellershewrote.com · 09/09/2026
The only way to neutralize Fetterman is by flipping five senate seats instead of four in the midterms. He can’t be impeached or recalled, and there aren’t enough republican votes to expel him. He’s there until 2028 unless he resigns.
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Allison Gill @muellershewrote.com · 08/09/2026
Just gonna share this again.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 04/09/2026
As suggested by @ezralevin.bsky.social @leahgreenberg.bsky.social on the #Indivisible call, I’m asking all my reps about SCOTUS reform. @mikethompson.house.gov dodged the question on his recent Town Hall. Can’t get too radical. Need to be cautious. 🤔I think that’s how we got here. #SCOTUSreform
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Brian Tyler Cohen @briantylercohen.bsky.social · 04/09/2026
Breaking: Someone appears to have hacked the Republican National Convention website and it now redirects to the Epstein Files website.
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Christopher Webb @cwebbonline.com · 04/09/2026
Between Trump’s Iran war and his war on farmers, Republicans are f*cked for midterms. PS — how long do you think it will be before these poor farmers figure out that JD Vance is going to make a fortune off of their farms when they go bankrupt?
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 01/09/2026
Targeted postcard outreach to voters who have historically skipped the midterms. Let’s get this done!!! www.signsofjustice.com/products/vot... #Vote
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
Joel was so much more than his disease. After he died a friend sent me this song - recorded in his car during one of Joel's post-incarceration rehab stints. The positivity and hope is bittersweet. I hope you enjoy it ... Sunbathing by Point Blank. www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/5gyt... #OAD
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
For International Overdose Awareness Day, A New PATH will partner with CCAPP & NBHAP to hold a webinar to remember and honor lives lost and promote positive solutions to the Overdose Crisis. Monday, 8/31, 2pm PST. Registration: us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 30/08/2026
Read the whole thread. Hopefully someone in Congress has thought of this and has the moral tenacity to follow it through.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 30/08/2026
Another OAD Maybe ...to truly honor them: Register to vote. Sign a petition, carry a sign. Fight back against stigma and misinformation. And if, for your own heart, you need something gentler: Sit quietly in the garden. Write a poem. Whisper their name into the breeze. theresilientjourney.net/blo...
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So Much More
Here comes another Overdose Awareness Day … August 31st.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 28/08/2026
What profound words. How do we continue in the face of enormous injustice and grief? "We are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are we free to abandon it." Think on that. #DoJustice
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George Conway ⚖️🇺🇸 @gtconway.bsky.social · 28/08/2026
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 27/08/2026
Major Jason Watson: honoring the oath he took to the constitution, not to a man. Isn’t this what @captmarkkelly.bsky.social @slotkin.senate.gov and the others asked of him? Will they stand behind him now?
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 27/08/2026
Grateful to have been able to share with Jude DiMeglio Trang about the family experience with addiction - a well curated discussion about so much more than just loss. Also about restoration and the need for systemic change. I'd love your feedback. www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8y...
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
I skipped an OAD webinar this morning - just didn't have it in me today. Instead, I watered my garden, checked on a friend recovering from surgery, read some inspirational words, and listened to one of Joel's songs on my playlist. #SoMuchMore #SelfCare
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
Definitely some tears. Big fan of harmonies and hope.
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The Tennessee Holler @thetnholler.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
ICYMI - NYC lit up the Empire State building for Dolly ♥️
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
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Christopher Webb @cwebbonline.com · 26/08/2026
The Empire State Building went pink at exactly 9:25pm for Dolly Parton. Because of course they made it 9 to 5. That’s how you honor an icon. 🩷
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Christopher Webb @cwebbonline.com · 24/08/2026
History is complicated. Identity is complicated. America is complicated. This is a powerful example of all three.
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Allison Gill @muellershewrote.com · 23/08/2026
NEW: Hakeem Jeffries met with Kushner recently to discuss how democrats could work with the administration when we take the house back. We shouldn’t work with fascists, and I’d appreciate a leader who felt the same. www.nytimes.com/2026/08/23/u...
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Jeffries and Kushner Meet Privately as Midterm Attacks Fly
President Trump’s son-in-law and the man in line to be speaker of a Democratic-led House discussed how Democrats and the administration could work together.
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The Editorial Board @editorialboard.bsky.social · 23/08/2026
1. There is no common ground. 2. Kushner is not a government official. 3. This has the stink of appeasement. 4. Why bargain before putting up a fight? 5. This drains the base of hope and morale. 6. Is he thinking about harm reduction? 7. Weakness welcomes contempt. www.nytimes.com/2026/08/23/u...
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Jeffries and Kushner Meet Privately as Midterm Attacks Fly
President Trump’s son-in-law and the man in line to be speaker of a Democratic-led House discussed how Democrats and the administration could work together.
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Mrs. Betty Bowers @mrsbettybowers.bsky.social · 23/08/2026
You don’t play nice with fascists. You ruthlessly undermine them before they do that to you.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 23/08/2026
This. 👇 I’m so over Jeffries. We need a serious change in House leadership otherwise we will waste our majority and the limited time we’ll have to turn things around. #ReplaceJeffries
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 21/08/2026
This is bullshit. Anyone who's been around the addiction and mental health crisis knows that without stability, recovery is hampered. More uninformed, biased, stigmatized policy making by the most unqualified administration ever. drugfree.org/drug-and-alc...
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New federal toolkit prioritizes “treatment first” approach - Partnership News Service from Partnership to End Addiction
ONDCP, HHS, and HUD released a toolkit outlining strategies to address homelessness and addiction through a "treatment first" approach that rejects the research-supported "housing first" approach.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 20/08/2026
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 20/08/2026
Waiting with gratitude for the launch of Board 11, with Joel and Matthew's names on them. What an amazing, heartfelt project. Enjoy this video with their origin story, made even better with the music from Pearl Jam. youtu.be/XB3Rk0gSNhU?...
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One Last Wave - SC Feature Film
YouTube video by One Last Wave Project
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
So beautifully said. Well done, Hunter. hunterbiden.substack.com/p/what-forgi...
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What Forgiveness Is Not
Forgiveness is not forgetting, nor is it letting anyone off the hook.
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
"The trauma continues after a loved one dies. Families struggle to find grief support that acknowledges the decades of fear & instability that came before the loss. Traditional spaces may not recognize the unique pain of losing someone to substance use." huffmag.com/shame-and-stigm...
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Shame and Stigma: The Only Continuum in the Addiction Life Cycle - Huffmag Latest & Trending News From USA
In many families, addiction does not arrive as a headline event. It seeps in quietly, wrapping itself around daily life until shame and stigma become the only constants. From the first whispered suspicion to the final unbearable loss, those two force
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
"I read Secrets, Scars and Heart Shaped Jars when it was first published in 2022 and it was a revelation. Here was someone like me, who lost a child to OUD, revealing her innermost thoughts, not caring about the stigma that goes along with this disease." Harris Insler www.goodreads.com/book/show...
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Secrets, Scars and Heart Shaped Jars
Life interruptions come in many forms; illness, divorce…
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Joyce White Vance @joycewhitevance.bsky.social · 16/08/2026
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 15/08/2026
Getting ready for #Ohana! #ImStillAlive
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 14/08/2026
"We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented... There may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest." - Elie Wiesel #TakeSides #DoJustice #Resist
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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🐶 @pattiev123.bsky.social · 13/08/2026
"Calling 988 can help ensure that someone receives proper support through specialists who are trained in managing and de-escalating behavioral health crises. Law enforcement is often not trained to address these issues and can make things worse for someone in a crisis." drugfree.org/article/988-...
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988 vs 911: When to Call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Instead of Emergency Services
Learn the difference between calling 988 and 911. Find out when to use the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline instead of emergency services.
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