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thewidowshandbook.com - a guide to being widowed from someone who's been there This is not the life I planned but it's the one I have and I'm living it the best I can Helen Bailey blog award winner 2022 #widow #youngwidow #grief #support #LGBTQ

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 30/05/2026
Same here!
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 18/03/2026
On Radio 4 this morning - Matthew Syed's Sideways on complicated grief and forgiveness. The Hands of Forgiveness tells the story of a shooting at an Amish school, the response of the Amish community, and their care for the wife & family of the gunman. www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 14/03/2026
Sending love on Mothering Sunday to widows who didn’t get to be mums or who lost a partner who didn’t get to be a mum. Who are being mums, or both mums & dads, alone. Who are dealing with child or parent loss or estrangement as well as losing a partner. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/motheri...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
I've found that the spoon theory works for grief. Early on in grief I was so tired that my bones hurt, which took away physical spoons. I also had widow brain, which took away mental spoons. And my number of spoons changed from day to day. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/the-spo...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 06/03/2026
I think i saw them at Brixton Academy in 1988, supporting Life Dependent Organs
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 26/02/2026
For LGBT+ History Month (#LGBTplusHM), Jo Sedley-Burke & I chatted about the 1980s, the HIV/AIDS crisis, grief, queer widowhood & my book Dancing in Heaven, interspersed by the barks of my born-deaf show cocker spaniel. Hope you enjoy it as much as we did. www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9Xz...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 24/02/2026
WAY Widowed and Young is celebrating LGBT+ History Month with a quiz celebrating the journey of the LGBTQIA+ community from the past to present day. It's open to all WAY members and supporters and there's a prize! #LGBTplusHM www.surveymonkey.com/r/S7HRDLM
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
Thank you xx
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
Thank you xxx
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
​It’s 8 years tomorrow since Tim's death & the anniversary hits differently each year. Year 1 was raw. Year 4 a friend died & it brought it all back. Year 5, grief was a quiet companion rather than a bleeding wound. This year is unexpectedly hard www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/eight-y...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 21/02/2026
Proud of you xx
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Giles Paley-Phillips @eliistender10.bsky.social · 18/02/2026
🙏🏻❤️
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 15/02/2026
Yes!
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samcannonart @samcannonart.bsky.social · 15/02/2026
New work - not quite finished but soon. With words by Louisa May Alcott. I love greens, purples and whites together. Roll on bluebells, stitchwort and spring.
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 13/02/2026
It's Valentine's day tomorrow & that can be a tough day for a #widow. It can feel like everyone has a significant other when yours has gone. Even for those with a new partner, it can feel conflicting. Take very good care of yourself today and tomorrow. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/valenti...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 13/02/2026
It's Valentine's day tomorrow & that can be a tough day for a #widow. It can feel like everyone has a significant other when yours has gone. Even for those with a new partner, it can feel conflicting. Take very good care of yourself today and tomorrow. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/valenti...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 12/02/2026
Sleep can be so hard for a #widow - your head is full of #grief, spinning thoughts and tough memories, and you may have nightmares. ​​Here are some things that helped me www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/hints-a...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 11/02/2026
WAY Widowed and Young's LGBTQIA+ Diversity Working Group is busy planning activities for LGBT+ History Month 2025. There's an LGBT+ History Quiz with a prize live now, open to WAY members and non-members. www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/get-support/...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 07/02/2026
Love to you. Got my 8th anniversary coming up. These milestones are tough xxx
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 07/02/2026
Thinking of all of you new widows. The early days are so exhausting. Sleep when you can. Eat what you can, when you can, and drink lots of water. One moment, one breath and one step at a time. #griefthreads
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 04/02/2026
Sending love to all of you who lost partners through cancer, today (and every day) www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/world-c...
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 02/02/2026
From #LGBTHistoryMonth 2025 - stories of queer #widows www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/lgbt-hi... #widow #grief
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Suzanne Elvidge (she/her) @suzannewriter.bsky.social · 30/01/2026
As well as writing fiction I also write about grief at The Widow's Handbook (@widowshandbook.bsky.social) and loved Cariad Lloyd's Griefcast
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
One of the things I found after Tim died was how friendship groups shift. I’ve newly come across the concept of firefighters and builders. Sometimes these can be the same people, but often they are different. This idea helped me understand. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/firefig... #widow #Grief
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
The best piece of advice I was given after my husband died suddenly was 'one moment, one breath and one step at a time'. Its still valid nearly 8 years on. #grief
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 05/01/2026
My beloved late husband was 5'3" - his height (four inches shorter than me) made no difference to me
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 31/12/2025
Be gentle with yourself today. Moving into a new year for new widows means moving from 'My partner died this year' to 'My partner died last year'. For those who have been widowed longer, it can feel like their person is moving further into the past. Another unexpected loss. #widow #grief
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 26/12/2025
Big hug. She sounds amazing x
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 26/12/2025
I was widowed when my husband died in 2018 and now I'm married to a woman. Does he think I haven't opened a jar in seven years?
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 28/11/2025
I think the people I spoke to when I wrote this book might disagree... www.thehouseofcorrection.com/dancing-in-h...
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Dancing in Heaven
Dancing in Heaven is a collection of women's voices from the HIV/AIDS crisis in the 1980s and early 1990s
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Elizabeth Boyle @thecelticist.bsky.social · 22/11/2025
CW: child loss This is horrific but utterly vital investigative journalism. So many layers - the brainwashing power of social media; the transition from feminist to tradwife via flat-earthism; the distrust of life-saving medicine - but at the heart of this is avoidable tragedy & unfathomable grief.
theguardian.com
Influencers made millions pushing ‘wild’ births – now the Free Birth Society is linked to baby deaths around the world
A year-long investigation reveals how mothers lost children after being radicalised by uplifting podcast tales of births without midwives or doctors
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 22/11/2025
Preorders are now live reconnectingrainbows.co.uk/book/dih/
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Dancing in Heaven – Reconnecting Rainbows Press
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 22/11/2025
A heartbreaking read
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 22/11/2025
Grief dreams are tough. Be gentle with yourself x
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 20/11/2025
I find the darkness of #winter hard to deal with, especially as it's the lead up to #milestones: Tim's birthday, #Christmas, #NewYear and then the anniversary of his death. Here are a few things that I have found helpful: www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/in-t… #grief #widow
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 20/11/2025
This is what I have been working on - Dancing in Heaven - celebrating the strength, #grief, anger, love & loss of the women who were there during the 1980s #HIV/AIDS crisis. See link for launches in London (1 Dec, #WorldAIDSDay) & Scarborough 6 Dec www.thehouseofcorrection.com/dancing-in-h...
Cover of a book called Dancing in Heaven, with an image of a nurse in a mask
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 10/10/2025
I live with depression & have since my teens. It is well-managed, though sometimes it breaks through. Thinking of those who struggle or can't find help. Thank you to the friends, family and professionals who look after us. #WorldMentalHealthDay #WorldMentalHealthDay2025 #1in4
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Tron Bonne @heroicmisadventure.bsky.social · 26/09/2025
“I’d rather try being distracted… Grief is handled differently by everyone.”
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Stephen McCarthy @misterjabsticks.eurosky.social · 18/09/2025
This is good, on grief.
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 17/09/2025
Clearing out after someone dies is hard #widow #grief From The Guardian - Sort as you go and don’t rush: six steps to clearing out a loved one’s home when they die www.theguardian.com/money/2025/s...
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Sort as you go and don’t rush: six steps to clearing out a loved one’s home when they die
From telling the insurers to accepting you may need to get the experts in, tips on dealing with the deceased’s property
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Dilys Morgan @dilysmorgan.bsky.social · 16/09/2025
"After 3 months, peoples' lives have changed, they've moved on, but your entire world has changed." Dr Bill Webster on #grief #loss #mourning open.spotify.com/episode/66cV...
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Episode 67: Dr Bill Webster
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 16/09/2025
It does xx
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 16/09/2025
Writing got me through #grief. While it isn't specifically about #writing for #grief, if you are in North Yorkshire in early November come along to my #monologue workshop and see if writing works for you. #WhitbyLitFest #widow whitbylitfest.org.uk/event/suzann...
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Suzanne Elvidge – Writing workshop: Writing Monologues That Speak to an Audience - Whitby Lit Fest
Suzanne will guide you through creating a monologue – a story with a single voice – from the idea to the final draft. Whether you are a beginner or an […]
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South West London and St George's Mental Health NHS Trust @swlstg.bsky.social · 12/09/2025
Grief and loss affects us all differently and you might experience many different emotions, like shock, tiredness, or guilt. There is no right or wrong way to feel - we all react in our own way. If you're struggling after a bereavement, find trusted advice and support: swlstg.nhs.uk/bereavement
Grief is a natural reaction to loss. 
There is no right or wrong way to feel. 
Find support following a bereavement at www.swlstg.nhs.uk/bereavement
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 12/09/2025
I've had a birthday this week. My birthday has long been a bittersweet day. www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/bitters...
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The Widow's Almanac: Bittersweet birthdays
I've had a birthday this week. My birthday has long been a bittersweet day. My first husband's mother died suddenly and unexpectedly on my 24th birthday, nine months before we got married. He rang...
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 09/09/2025
Loss changes everything… It cuts deep - but when we find the strength to guide the pen and control the flow, love and hope can carve deeper still. Redefine your story 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #Grief #Bereavement #SuicideAwareness #Hope 🐦‍⬛
Two birds sit on a bench. The background is sky blue and there is sun and clouds in the sky. The accompanying text reads: Grief rewrites your story… but you still hold the pen
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 09/09/2025
I have found that #grief really isn't linear - it's more like a pinball machine www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/models-... #widow
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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 05/09/2025
Last weekend I was part of Felix Rackow's Virgin Radio Pride documentary Grief in the Shadows - here's the catch up link shows.acast.com/virgin-radio...
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Grief in the Shadows | Virgin Radio Pridecast
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