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Caroline Roodhouse

@daddyblackbird.bsky.social
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Suicide Widow | Amazon Best-Selling Author | A Story of Horror to Hope | Communicator | Mentor | Mum | Mental Health | UK Read: daddyblackbird.com/book 💛

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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
Grief is exhausting. After Steve’s suicide, a therapist told me to picture my energy like a bank account. Debits drain me. Credits restore me. It doesn’t balance every day, but focusing on credits helps me survive. 
#DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #GriefSupport #SelfCare
Grief drains us. Small joys restore us.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
After trauma, we have to allow life to reshape before hope emerges. My shape of hope is a triangle and the three corners represent: me, my family and the community that reminds me I belong. What shape is hope for you? #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Hope 🐦‍⬛
The shape of hope
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 18/06/2026
Suicide grief can be very different because it often involves intense feelings of guilt, shame, and unanswered questions. It can also carry stigma, making it difficult to find the right support. Survivors must learn to live in this harsh landscape. #DaddyBlackbird #Grief #ComplexGrief
A blackbird hovers above a sandy desert beside a patch of cactuses. The accompanying text reads: we don’t recover from complex grief. We learn to live beside it.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 18/06/2026
While suicide is relatively rare, exposure to suicide is much more common than most people realise: ➡️ One in five adults have thought of taking their own life ➡️ One in 15 have made a suicide attempt ➡️ For every death by suicide, at least 135 people are potentially impacted #DaddyBlackbird
Behind every suicide statistic lies hundreds of hearts trying to make sense of the loss.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 17/06/2026
After losing my husband to suicide I needed to relearn how to see the beauty in things. Slowly, gradually, I noticed the flowers begin to bloom again 💛🪻 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #Grief #Loss #Hope 🐦‍⬛
A blackbird sits on a rock against a blue sky. Some bluebell flowers are growing between the rocks. The text reads: there are so many beautiful things in this world, don’t ever let the difficult moments make you forget that.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 17/06/2026
I've stopped waiting for life to feel stable before I feel hopeful. Hope isn't the reward at the end of the journey. It's one of the tools that helps us keep walking along the path. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Hope 🐦‍⬛
You don’t have to feel certain to feel hope
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 17/06/2026
I used to think grief had a timeline. My workplace definitely did. But it doesn’t work like that. It shifts, softens, spikes, surprises, years later. Not because we’re failing to ‘move on’, but because love keeps living alongside us. Missing someone does too 💔 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss
Grief doesn’t expire
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 16/06/2026
Just because someone carries it well doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy 💔 Be gentle. People are holding more than they show 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #Hope
Even quiet strength gets tired
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 16/06/2026
Whoever you come across today, give them a reason to smile. They might need it more than you could ever know 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #SuicideLoss #Kindness #Compassion #Hope
Two birds sit on a park bench beside a cluster of butterflies. The accompanying text reads: if this world were a little kinder… we might all want to stay in it a little longer.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 15/06/2026
❌MYTH: It only happens to certain people. ✔️FACT: #Suicide doesn’t belong to one gender, culture, age, or group. Although we know it’s more common among men, it can affect anyone. We all have a role to play in noticing, listening, and supporting 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss
Suicide doesn’t discriminate.
Compassion shouldn’t either.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 15/06/2026
Suicide affects family, friends, colleagues, and communities. Pain doesn't get reserved for the people closest. Anyone touched can seek help. Anyone impacted deserves support 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #SuicideLoss #Help #Hope
You don’t have to be ‘close’ to someone to be affected
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 14/06/2026
Some days, progress looks like climbing mountains. Other days, it looks like getting out of bed, answering one message or making a coffee. Small steps still count. Wobbly progress is still progress. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Hope 🐦‍⬛
Small steps still count
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 14/06/2026
Suicide prevention isn’t just for clinicians or policymakers. For me, it’s lived experience. Sharing the raw grief of losing Steve helps break silence and stigma. Every story matters. Every connection can save a life 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicidePrevention #ChangingTheNarrative
Every story matters. Every connection can save a life.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 14/06/2026
Sometimes the hardest conversations are the ones we avoid. Speaking gently, listening fully, can save more lives than silence ever will 💛🐦‍⬛ #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #Compassion #Kindness
Compassion starts with a conversation.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
❌ MYTH: You should be ‘over it’ by now. ✔️ FACT: There’s no deadline for grief. We don’t move on, we move forward, carrying what we lost. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Grief
You don’t get over it, you grow around it.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
Small talk can save lives. 
A comment about the weather. A gentle check-in. A "How have you really been?" 
It might feel like nothing to you, but to someone struggling, it could be a light in the darkness. 
#DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #SmallTalkSavesLives #ConnectionMatters
Small talk creates connection. Connection creates hope.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
The people who changed my life weren't the ones with ‘perfect words’. They were the ones who stayed, listened and showed up. Presence beats perfection every time. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Hope 🐦‍⬛
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
“Hope. It’s like a drop of honey, a field of tulips blooming in the springtime. It’s a fresh rain, a whispered promise, a cloudless sky, the perfect punctuation mark at the end of a sentence. And it’s the only thing in the world keeping me afloat.” | Tahereh Mafi #DaddyBlackbird #BookSky #Hope 💛
A photograph showing a hand holding three copies of the book Daddy Blackbird against a field of grass and daffodils
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
❌ MYTH: It's obvious when someone is thinking about suicide. ✔️FACT: Some people show many signs. Some show very few. Everyone behaves differently. If you're worried, the best thing you can do is ask directly. It could save a life. 💙 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #MentalHealthMatters
Sometimes the loudest cries for help are silent
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
❌ MYTH: “They’re just attention-seeking.” ✔️ FACT: Suicide behaviours are often ways to cope with unbearable pain or to ask for help when words fail. Dismissing this as attention-seeking adds shame. The response matters. It can shape whether someone seeks help or not 💛 #DaddyBlackbird
Asking for help isn’t attention-seeking. It’s a sign of someone fighting to stay.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 16/04/2026
Today is World Semicolon Day. A semicolon is used when a sentence could have ended… but didn’t. So if you’re still here, still breathing, still fighting - your story isn’t over. Pause. Continue. Keep going. #WorldSemicolonDay #SuicideAwareness #DaddyBlackbird #Hope 💛🐦‍⬛
Your story isn’t over
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 15/03/2026
One suicide impacts far more than one life. Research suggests at least 135 people are affected. Change starts with conversation. Let’s challenge stigma, prioritise mental health, and remember that suicide prevention is everybody’s business. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness
One life lost. 135 hearts shattered.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 15/03/2026
In conversations about mental health suicide or distress, our instinct is often to help by offering solutions. But real connection starts when we PAUSE - when we make space to listen, not fix 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #SuicideAwareness #Listening #Empathy #Compassion #Kindness
PAUSE

P – Pay full attention
A – Acknowledge without fixing
U – Use questions and silence wisely
S – Show understanding
E – Empathise, not analyse
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 15/03/2026
❌ We don’t say “committed suicide.” We choose gentler alternatives, like “died by suicide.” Because no one commits cancer. Or heartbreak. It’s not political correctness. It’s kindness. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Grief #Hope
Better words exist. Let’s use them.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 14/03/2026
My daughter was 2 when her dad died by #suicide. Kids don’t always talk about #grief but it’s always there 💔 Years later, a comment, a #dream, a quiet moment shows it. Watching her has taught me how we quietly carry #loss. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Hope 💛🐦‍⬛
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Ada: the quiet ways children carry grief after loss by suicide
Daddy Blackbird #46
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 07/03/2026
Nobody can save you but yourself, and you’re worth saving. It’s a war not easily won, but if anything is worth winning then this is it.” | Charles Bukowski 💛💛💛 #DaddyBlackbird #Selfcare #Compassion #Kindness
Choosing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s survival.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 06/03/2026
Small talk can save lives. 
A comment about the weather. A gentle check-in. A "How have you really been?" 
It might feel like nothing to you, but to someone struggling, it could be a light in the darkness. 
#DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #SmallTalkSavesLives #ConnectionMatters
Small talk creates connection. Connection creates hope.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 05/03/2026
❌MYTH: It only happens to certain people. ✔️FACT: #Suicide doesn’t belong to one gender, culture, age, or group. Although we know it’s more common among men, it can affect anyone. We all have a role to play in noticing, listening, and supporting 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #hope 🐦‍⬛
Suicide doesn’t discriminate.
Compassion shouldn’t either.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 05/03/2026
If you’re not feeling as sprightly as usual, give this a try: Think of your energy level and imagine it’s a bank statement. Try applying an imaginary value to each of the debits and credits. Keep your balance topped up by banking those credits whenever you can. #DaddyBlackbird #Hope 💛
The image shows a blue background with white puffy clouds. In the bottom right corner is the text www.daddyblackbird.com and above it sits a small illustrated blackbird. In the bottom right corner is an illustration of a weight scale. The title at the top reads Debits and Credits and below this is a table with two columns. 

The right hand column reads:
 A pointless meeting
Unexpected bills
Grumpy children
Stressful project  
Feeling poorly
Cancelled plans

The left columns reads:
A long walk
Cooking a Sunday roast 
A trip to the cinema
A wild swim
A day volunteering
An hour with a good book
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 03/03/2026
One suicide impacts far more than one life. Research suggests at least 135 people are affected. Change starts with conversation. Let’s challenge stigma, prioritise mental health, and remember that suicide prevention is everybody’s business. #DaddyBlackbird #ChangingTheNarrative #WSPD2025
One life lost. 135 hearts shattered.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 03/03/2026
Sometimes the hardest conversations are the ones we avoid. Speaking gently, listening fully, can save more lives than silence ever will 💛🐦‍⬛ #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #Compassion #Kindness
Compassion starts with a conversation.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 02/03/2026
❌ MYTH: You should be ‘over it’ by now. ✔️ FACT: There’s no deadline for grief. We don’t move on, we move forward, carrying what we lost. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Grief
You don’t get over it, you grow around it.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 02/03/2026
Everyone grieves in their own way and time. There is no “normal” timeline, path or flow after suicide loss. The pain will twist and turn, come and go. Be patient, with yourself and with each other 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #SuicideLoss #Kindness #Hope 🐦‍⬛🪁
Grief after suicide is unique. There’s no rush to ‘move on.’
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 02/03/2026
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” | Dalai Lama 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #SuicidePrevention #Kindness #Compassion #Hope
A group of birds sit on the branch of a tree. Above the branch a blackbird is hovering. The accompanying text reads: We may not be able to take away each others’ pain but we can sit with each other on it
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 01/03/2026
In the weeks after Steve’s suicide, family gathered. Then, slowly disappeared. Most never returned. The world became smaller. But what remained - my girls, my mum - became everything. Learning to fiercely love those who stay is one way I survived. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Hope 💛🐦‍⬛
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The disappearance of the crowd after loss by suicide
Daddy Blackbird #44
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 24/02/2026
People grieving after loss by suicide can look like they’re coping. They show up. They laugh. They keep going. But that doesn’t mean they’re okay. Sometimes, the bravest face hides the deepest ache. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Grief #Hope
Survival can look like strength. Or denial. Or both.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 24/02/2026
Suicide grief can be very different because it often involves intense feelings of guilt, shame, and unanswered questions. It can also carry stigma, making it difficult to find the right support. Survivors must learn to live in this harsh landscape. #DaddyBlackbird #Grief #ComplexGrief
We don’t recover from complex grief, we learn to live beside it.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
It’s ok if today didn’t go quite the way you planned it 💛 The sun rises and we try again ☀️ #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #BookSky #MedSky #PositivePsychology #Kindness #SelfCare #Hope
The sun rises and we try again
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
Be generous Be curious Be honest Be real Be proactive Be specific Be patient Be thoughtful Be human Be kind Be compassionate Be helpful Be there Be prepared to get it wrong at times. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #SuicidePostvention #MentalHealth #Hope
How can we support those who are grieving?
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
We don’t talk enough about what it takes to hold space for someone struggling. It’s not just listening. It’s absorbing. It’s carrying stories home. If you’ve ever been that person - the listener, the one people turn to - I see you. You deserve space too 💛 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness
Even the best listeners need someone to listen to them
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
❌ MYTH: Only close friends and family are affected by a suicide. ✔️ FACT: One single suicide touches on average 135 people - from friends to colleagues to strangers who saw themselves in the story. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #SuicideAwareness #Postvention #GriefHasNoRules
"You didn’t have to be close to be changed."
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 22/02/2026
“Hope. It’s like a drop of honey, a field of tulips blooming in the springtime. It’s a fresh rain, a whispered promise, a cloudless sky, the perfect punctuation mark at the end of a sentence. And it’s the only thing in the world keeping me afloat.” | Tahereh Mafi #DaddyBlackbird #BookSky #Hope 💛
A photograph showing a hand holding three copies of the book Daddy Blackbird against a field of grass and daffodils
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 22/02/2026
💛💛💛 #DaddyBlackbird #MentalHealth #Wellness #Healing #Hope 🐦‍⬛
It isn’t weak to ask for help. 
It’s like using a lamp when you are lost in the dark.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 22/02/2026
2017: passed the basic qualification with a plan💡 2024: 5 years later than planned, after losing my husband to suicide and raising two young children, I completed my diploma in internal comms with an excellent pass. I’ve written about rebuilding a career and a life after loss 💛 #DaddyBlackbird
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Developing myself professionally after loss by suicide
Daddy Blackbird #43
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 22/02/2026
Put the heavy load down for a moment 💛🙏 #DaddyBlackbird #Wellbeing #MentalHealth #Hope 🐦‍⬛
All the things we worried about that actually turned out fine…
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 22/02/2026
One thing I wasn’t prepared for after Steve’s suicide was how messy the “systems” were. Police, coroners, schools, services… everyone trying, but none of it joined up. You’re navigating the gaps no one warns you about. And it’s in those gaps that real compassion is needed most. #DaddyBlackbird
Real care begins in the spaces others miss
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 21/02/2026
I used to think grief had a timeline. My workplace definitely did. But it doesn’t work like that. It shifts, softens, spikes, surprises, years later. Not because we’re failing to ‘move on’, but because love keeps living alongside us. Missing someone does too 💔 #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss
Grief doesn’t expire
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 21/02/2026
❌ We don’t say “committed suicide.” We choose gentler alternatives, like “died by suicide.” Because no one commits cancer. Or heartbreak. It’s not political correctness. It’s kindness. #DaddyBlackbird #SuicideLoss #Grief #Hope
Better words exist. Let’s use them.
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 21/02/2026
2017: passed the basic qualification with a plan💡 2024: 5 years later than planned, after losing my husband to suicide and raising two young children, I completed my diploma in internal comms with an excellent pass. I’ve written about rebuilding a career and a life after loss 💛 #DaddyBlackbird
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Developing myself professionally after loss by suicide
Daddy Blackbird #43
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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · 14/02/2026
Valentine’s Day SUCKS when you’re a suicide widow. But stuff like this from Campaign Against Living Miserably warms my broken heart ❤️😍💕 3 in 5 men in the UK have never told their mates they love them. Together with @beavertown.bsky.social , CALM are reclaiming Valentine’s Day for the mates 💛🐦‍⬛
Several photos of men hugging and kissing
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