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Broken Rites

@brokenrites.bsky.social
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Divorced/separated ex spouses/partners of clergy, supporting each other & calling for better support of ministers' families, before, during & after breakdown. UK based, international & interdenominational. Est. 1983 brokenrites.org

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Jill Segger @quakerpen.bsky.social · 17/08/2026
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Stop the NHS mental health cuts!
I just signed the campaign calling to stop NHS mental health cuts
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 02/08/2026
Jane is one of our heroes. 'When you come to the church, having been hurt by the church, you should be believed & met with compassion...' Too often we've been treated as a threat, & the ranks close against us. Times are changing withhttps://www.instagram.com/reel/DbNQWyCxlSA/?igsh=Y20wdXdlNWtycnA4
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bbcwomanshour on Instagram: "‘I shouldn’t have to feel ashamed of what happened to me’In an exclusive interview on Woman’s Hour, Jane Chevous shared her experie…"
‘I shouldn’t have to feel ashamed of what happened to me’In an exclusive interview on Woman’s Hour, Jane Chevous shared her experience of reporting alleged abuse within the Church of England, and the impact she says it’s had on her life.In 2023, the Church of England appointed an Interim Commissioner for Independent Reviews to investigate cases of historic sexual abuse. The Commissioner’s first report has been published, focusing on Jane’s case and how her allegations were handled by the Church.Jane alleges that she experienced rape, as well as spiritual and psychological abuse, by two clergymen. She waived her right to anonymity to speak to us.Jane joined @itsanitarani alongside the BBC’s Religion Editor, Aleem Maqbool, to share her experience and what she thinks needs to change to better support survivors.A spokesperson from the Church of England said: “We would like to pay tribute to Jane for the courage, determination and perseverance she has shown in engaging with this review. We are deeply sorry for the abuse she reported, and for the profound impact it has had on her life. We are also sorry that her experience of Church safeguarding left her feeling unsupported and further traumatised.“The National Safeguarding Team has undergone significant transformation in recent years and is now a professional national function, focused on improving safeguarding practice across the Church of England. We are aware that our approach now is different to when the NST started, but we are committed to learning from this review.”You can listen to the full interview on @bbcsounds - it’s the Woman’s Hour episode from 24 July 📻 If you’ve been affected by any of the topics discussed in this post, you can find more information and support on the BBC Action Line website....#bbcwomanshour #abuse #womenView all comments
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Terre-Strial @terre-strial.bsky.social · 19/07/2026
Such a magnificent and magical world… 🦋✨🫶 www.sunnyskyz.com/blog/4101/Ch...
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Surviving Economic Abuse (SEA) @seacharity.bsky.social · 10/07/2026
What would you do if your daughter’s partner was pressuring her to hand over money? By recognising economic abuse, we can stop abusers in their tracks. Take our Spotting the Signs Challenge today: survivingeconomicabuse.org/spotting… #EconomicAbuse
Text: It only takes a few minutes to learn the signs of economic abuse, but it could save a future. Take the challenge.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 03/07/2026
Are support services for vulnerable people becoming more dehumanised?
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Lindsay @revteapot.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
What fresh hell is this: www.reuters.com/world/uk/uk-... Tbf it's on a par with asking people who've overturned their conviction to pay for their accommodation in prison, but that really doesn't make it ok. Does the government not understand what tax is for??
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UK asylum seekers face £10,000 charge before they can apply to settle
Asylum seekers in Britain could have to repay the state around £10,000 ($13,222) for accommodation and basic living support before becoming eligible ​to apply for settlement, the government said on Mo...
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Diane Langberg, PhD @dianelangberg.bsky.social · 18/06/2026
In great systemic failure, many Christian systems have not only covered up for abusers, leaving many free to continue to abuse, but also we have presented them as good, even godly, and kept them in high places.
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Darren Mark Skilton @darrenmarkskilton.bsky.social · 17/06/2026
In England, a study from the National Centre for Domestic Abuse has shown that domestic abuse incidents rise by around 11% following national team matches - and when England lose a match, they rise by 38%. [CRIMESTOPPERS]. For info with support: crimestoppers-uk.org/news-media/n...
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A Rachel for all seasons (she/her) @nerak3l.eurosky.social · 13/05/2026
Reading this and finding it very relatable and revealing. If you too were one of the History Maker generation she describes and want your teenage self personally attacked by Lucy Sixsmith in the best, gentlest and most healthy way, I’d recommend.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 11/05/2026
Delighted to see @andrewgraystone.bsky.social 's work recognised with a well-deserved #bafta 🙌🙌🙌 Should be compulsory viewing for anyone working in church leadership #CofE ✝️ See No Evil - Series 1: Episode 1 | Channel 4 share.google/fwpHtivO854m...
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See No Evil - Episode 1
It's the 1980s. In Winchester, Smyth launches his covert and brutal regime of abuse.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 09/05/2026
Our 43rd Annual General Meeting today. Best speakers ever (no offence to previous, but they were all Broken Rites members & all thoroughly inspiring on the subject "This is me, now!") We are growing in numbers 🤔 but also in confidence. Who do you need to tell about us?
A green houseplant in a large dining hall full of people eating lunch and chatting
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 09/05/2026
Innovative Tech Solutions #453 Broke the phone holder, so today's Broken Rites AGM will be depending on that great invention The Rubber Band
Top of tripod with rubber band around it, sticking out of blue rucksack
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 05/05/2026
Rates of #DomesticAbuse in church are similar to those in the general population. Ditto #clergy marriage breakdown
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 29/04/2026
Why are we shocked to learn of James Orr's HTB connections? Miserable
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 03/03/2026
Appalling. Our hearts go out to those affected. When we had to leave our family homes, many of us were expected to be grateful for 6 months here & 6 months there in empty #Vicarages. Temporary housing is so stressful, esp for young traumatised families. Temporary status all the more so. Dreadful.
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Peter Stefanovic @peterstefanovic.bsky.social · 13/02/2026
This is shocking. Cost of living crisis laid bare as almost half of Britons ‘have under £25 left at end of week’ Majority of UK adults forced to make difficult choices, with almost two-thirds found to be cutting back on essentials like food and heating www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home...
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Cost of living crisis laid bare as almost half of Britons ‘have £25 at end of week’
Exclusive: Majority of UK adults forced to make difficult choices, with almost two-thirds found to be cutting back on essentials like food and heating
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 11/02/2026
This is the biggest issue for those of us whose family homes were #TiedAccommodation. If you're not the office-holder, you have zero rights. You might think a moral duty would be recognised in the case of a #Vicarage or #Manse.. Sadly not
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Folk on Foot @folkonfoot.com · 04/02/2026
Up 16 places in this month’s Official Folk Albums Chart is the album “Troubled Horses” from @martynjosephwales.bsky.social. It features heartfelt and moving songs like this. ▶️ Watch the full Chart Show here: youtu.be/UxtdKN4OOxk
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Neil Selwyn @neilselwyn.bsky.social · 01/02/2026
This tragic incident highlights the completely exploitative underpinnings of our dependency on digital devices, and the limits of any talk in the global north of 'digital ethics', 'tech ethics' etc. www.theguardian.com/world/2026/j...
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More than 200 killed in coltan mine collapse in eastern DRC, officials say
Rubaya mine produces about 15% of the world’s coltan, which is processed into tantalum, used in mobile phones
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 29/01/2026
Maybe there is a way to hide the fact that you're desperately looking for work as an old woman, who in other times & places would be retired, & who's far too scary for a 20-something boss to appoint? #jobseekers #AI #WhatsThePoint?
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churchtimes.bsky.social @churchtimes.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
Working-class candidates continue to experience a “cultural loss” of identity when exploring a vocation to the priesthood, as well as both academic and financial barriers to training, a paper due to be debated by the #GeneralSynod next month says #class
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Report outlines barriers to training for working-class ordinands ahead of Synod debate
Perception remains that all clergy are middle class
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Gretchen Baskerville-The Life-Saving Divorce @lifesavingdivorce.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
Churches say divorce is about “falling out of love.” Data says otherwise. Infidelity is one of the top reasons people divorce. Women file more often due to: immaturity, porn use, physical/emotional abuse, emotional neglect, and substance abuse. (2014 Relationships in America Survey)
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Joseph Rowntree Foundation @jrf-uk.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
🚨 Last chance to register! Tomorrow, we'll be hosting a webinar to mark the launch of our UK Poverty 2026 report. A panel of frontline practitioners and our analysts will discuss the findings and opportunities for action. Not to be missed! Sign up now: bit.ly/459R16V
Promotional graphic for a webinar titled "UK Poverty 2026" by JRF, featuring an adult pushing a stroller with a child walking alongside, with a red brick house in the background. Event takes place at 10:30am to midday on Thursday 29th January.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 25/01/2026
Sometimes they have their uses 😉💪🙌
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LorennaCleary.bsky.social @lorennacleary.bsky.social · 24/01/2026
Survival skills in times of fascism from a therapist /
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Family Law News @familylaw.bsky.social · 22/01/2026
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Children not always recognised as domestic abuse victims in their own right, inspectorates warn
Children who are affected by domestic abuse are not being consistently recognised as victims despite this being set out in law, according to a new joint report by Ofsted, the CQC, HMICFRS, and HMIP.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 18/01/2026
A painful read. In contrast, "spiritual leaders" tell us "children are very resilient", when they tell us to vacate the family home following the breaking of vows by our spouses. And we are supposed to pretend not to be alienated?
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I was warned my children would be ripped in half when we divorced. But I had no idea just how brutal custody cases can be
My experience of court was eye-opening. And when I sat in on other cases, I realised how often mothers are vilified
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 17/01/2026
"....the need for particular care and attention by trustees & charity leaders in handling allegations related to individuals in positions of power or influence, including spiritual influence. Trustees should be aware of the risks of individuals abusing positions of trust" www.gov.uk/government/n...
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Regulator issues Official Warnings to two Church of England Dioceses
The Charity Commission has taken regulatory action against The Liverpool Diocesan Board of Finance and The Chelmsford Diocesan Board of Finance.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 09/01/2026
Familiar story
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 25/12/2025
Christmas peace to you all, especially those of you doing your best to rise to the challenge of enjoying your own company this year. May you find joy in unexpected places! "Rest beside the weary road and hear the angels sing"🕯️
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 11/12/2025
Cheers to @andrewgraystone.bsky.social @cathynewman.bsky.social & all involved in @channel4tv.bsky.social's #SeeNoEvil, especially victims & survivors. So good to see the abuser's family given airtime, & using it so well. Grateful that such complex predicaments are seen & known. We salute you all 🫡
Anne Smyth on tv with caption "But I think that most of us feel that you were Dad's first victim"
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 26/11/2025
It's a sobering thought, to think of increasing numbers of children and young people being brought up in institutions, instead of with someone who loves them ☹️
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Surviving Economic Abuse (SEA) @seacharity.bsky.social · 26/11/2025
This Economic Abuse Awareness Day, we’re asking you to take our Spotting the Signs Challenge. Because too often it’s not just an argument. It’s a red flag. And, once you know the signs of economic abuse, they can be easy to spot. Learn more: ow.ly/ZhYQ50Xy5H5
The following quote is overlaid on a dark purple background: “I mentioned it to friends but they just brushed it off as arguments.”
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 17/11/2025
What a brilliant initiative. We are so aware of the devastating impact on children of housing insecurity. 🙌
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Dreadnought Holiday @dreadships.bsky.social · 15/11/2025
Bit of good news...
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Rail worker who saved passengers from stabbings leaves hospital
Samir Zitouni's family say they are
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 15/11/2025
✝️⚓#CofEpeeps @ctbi.bsky.social
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 15/11/2025
"...the church does not treat allegations of abuse from an adult not assessed to be "vulnerable" as a safeguarding allegation..." 🙌🙌🙌 The Charity Commission's observations about the #CofE will apply to other #church denominations too
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Church of England charity must rapidly accelerate safeguarding reforms
The Archbishops’ Council of the Church of England must rapidly accelerate the delivery of safeguarding improvements and close gaps in its approach to handling complaints, the charity regulator has war...
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 12/11/2025
#VicarageToo
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 04/11/2025
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Prem Sikka @premnsikka.bsky.social · 31/10/2025
Almost 100% of children in 73 neighbourhoods in England are living in income-deprived families. Govts push real wage/benefit cuts, two-child benefit cap; oppose universal basic income; don't curb profiteering. No govt targets to cut poverty. 1% has more wealth than 70% of the population combined.
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Almost all children in 73 areas of England live in low-income households
New official measures show levelling up attempts have failed to shift high levels of deprivation
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 30/10/2025
Massive thanks to @clergysupport.bsky.social, who help many of us to stay half-sane after we & our children are evicted from the Vicarage. Spare a thought for our non #CofE members.
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Donald Macaskill @drdmacaskill.bsky.social · 28/10/2025
I light this week’s #candleforcare on the eve of the UN #InternationalDayofCare and Support to highlight the tens of thousands who care for and support others across the world, both paid professionals and unpaid individuals. #careaboutcare.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 10/10/2025
With thanks to our members who contributed to this and worked hard on it, and to @churchtimes.bsky.social for this report. We, and our children, wait to see who takes notice of it..!
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 25/09/2025
Out of interest (self-interest): Anyone looking specifically into the outworkings of a culture that heavily emphasised/s self-denial & sacrifice in the lives of women of a certain age?
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The Conversation UK @uk.theconversation.com · 24/09/2025
Can musical training rewire the brain to resist pain?
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Neuroscience finds musicians feel pain differently from the rest of us
Can musical training rewire the brain to resist pain?
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Liverpool Domestic Abuse Service @ldaservice.bsky.social · 17/09/2025
We believe you. Speaking up after experiencing #DomesticAbuse can be extremely difficult, but we’re always here to listen. There is no shame in needing help. For more information contact us on: ☎️ 0151 263 7474 ☎️ 0800 084 2744 🌐 LiverpoolDomesticAbuseService.org.uk
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Rick B @rickburgess.bsky.social · 16/09/2025
FYI Universal Credit for a single person is £4,801.68 per annum for which you will be harassed, coerced and threatened constantly via your own mobile phone by the DWP, while in media you will be called scrounging workshy scum by the LABOUR party.
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Hannah Rich @hannahmerich.bsky.social · 30/08/2025
'[We need] not only generalisations about the benefits of diversity or whatever, but a story about the kind of vulnerabilities that people in the streets in the UK can identify with' - this is excellent from Rowan Williams. Compassionate and nuanced.
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 25/08/2025
Our annual opportunity for some of us to meet up with old friends & new members. It was a festival with all the feelings, as ever. The challenge now is to grow hope in some very difficult situations #HopeIsAVerb #GB25 #greenbelt
A pop-up banner "What happens when my marriage to a church leader is in trouble?" in a field of tents
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Broken Rites @brokenrites.bsky.social · 24/08/2025
Question: #Greenbelt #GB25 people, what's the best way to communicate with spouses and partners of #clergy who may be struggling in unhappy marriages, to let them know they are not alone? And to offer the opportunity of meeting, to those who may need to be incognito?
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