iiinova — where your digital self keeps evolving

i don't want to optimize everything in my life; i want to minimize the parts of my life that require optimization. personally, i'd rather we humanize the systems instead of forcing humans to adapt to the systems but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 21h

i have family drama going on and after work i have to deal with said family drama in person and i just keep letting out these deep sighs like a put-upon victorian lady of high birth

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I’m seeing a lot of posts about talking to your sons in light of the Cornell article. And yes. Talk to your sons. Here are some things you should say, based on anti-violence research about what they need to hear:

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Jodi Pickens 🏳️‍🌈🖖✨ @jodipickens.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

A surprisingly powerful sentence is "Take your time." To the cashier. The new employee. The person searching for the right words. The friend telling a difficult story. Not rushing someone is a form of kindness we don't talk about enough. 🧡

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 22h

my work has finally gotten to the point i can no longer install programs on my own computer. i needed to reinstall notepad++: NOPE. i need audacity for the audio project: NOPE. so basically they force everyone to use their own laptops just to make life easier. AND use our phones for authentication.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 23h

oh no i have gotten myself involved in another audio archiving project that part of my career will never be over, apparently

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 26/09/2026

Organizational psychologists, knowing what they know about the human brain and the dopaminergic system in particular, and what they know about working conditions inside the kinds of industries capitalism creates, should all be clinically insane. 🤔Is this what Severence was trying to tell me?!

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 25/09/2026

Every time I hear how GLP-1 meds work, I get serious concerns about anhedonia as a potential side effect.

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Josephine beckbook.com Riesman @josie.zone · 25/09/2026

IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD TO PREORDER @beckbook.com -- ***THAT IS FINE*** IF YOU REQUEST IT AT YOUR LOCAL LIBRARY, THEY WILL BUY A COPY, WHICH IS A FORCE MULTIPLIER FOR MY READERSHIP THEN YOU CAN READ IT FOR FREE, AND EVERYBODY WINS JUST REQUEST "ISBN 9781668043547" OR ASK BY NAME THAT IS ALL

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 25/09/2026

You guys I’m going to Cape May this weekend. And we are supposed to get *A NOR’EASTER*. Hopefully I’m not about to LARP some Widow’s Bay.

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Widows Bay Widows Bay Show

Alt: Widows Bay: Loftis holding a game called Teeth, which is just a box with pliers in it

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 24/09/2026

Oh shit cuny yearly online compliance training just dropped I know how I’m spending the rest of the day

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dr. rich traditions, JD @helldude.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

we have control mechanisms for this. it's called The Law. these guys should be held personally liable for these harms. the suicides, the thefts, the intrusions into computer systems. they should be sued and prosecuted as appropriate. problem immediately solved

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 24/09/2026

thank you for this helpful summary of a paper i would like to read

screenshot of article titled: Challenging Behaviors in Children with Comorbid Autism Spectrum Disorder and Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, by Katherine Macmillan, published in 2014. The TLDR, which is an automatically-generated summary, reads: This document summarizes current capabilities, research and operational priorities, and plans for further studies that were established at the 2015 USGS workshop on quantitative hazard assessments of earthquake-triggered landsliding and liquefaction.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 24/09/2026

Rewatching Widow’s Bay and yes the actors are indeed very good at actoring.! Just noticing a lot of the more subtle stuff the second time around.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 22/09/2026

This is just to say i have broken the website i was trying to fix and which you were probably using for research forgive me 'twas bootstrap templates: so custom and so toast

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 22/09/2026

we need to fix the world so AuDHD girlies can smoke pot at work when they need to do major code edits on the site i'm just advocating for a friend

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Northsky Social Cooperative @transrights.northsky.social · 21/09/2026

⚠️Heads-up! We will perform updates and maintenance on our PDS and related services tomorrow 9/22 from 7am to 8am (Pacific time)⚠️ Users may experience brief downtime periods during this window. We'll be back up and running as soon as possible! Updates will be posted here. Link for status:

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 21/09/2026

fuck musk and altman for introducing genAI into a world that clearly could not handle genAI. that tech was already out there doing what it needed to do in various fields. we didn't need it out here in the wild, mucking up reality even further.

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Ian Coldwater 🧊🚫 @lookitup.baby · 02/06/2026

Someone actually did a study a while back that showed the most effective way to get women out of TERF groups wasn’t people trying to change their minds, it was them getting literally any benign hobby, like learning other languages or taking up needlework

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 21/09/2026

i have a theory that aspergers is just one way that AuDHD presents itself in men and boys. we needed to get rid of that term anyway.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 20/09/2026

I missed this news but yes this one was on EVERYONE’S bingo card. There’s just a type.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 20/09/2026

NJ does not feel like a safe space for my particular mix of female + neurodivergent + mentally ill but I’m years away from being able to do anything about it and it makes me feel so squirmy

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Emily Blunt Reacts: 'I HATE IT'

Alt: Emily Blunt Reacts: 'I HATE IT'

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Tressie McMillan Cottom @tressiemcphd.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

Anyway, panic is a psy-op. Stay furious. Stay serious. Organize.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 20/09/2026

Brb gonna write the autoethnography about how AuDHD people like me broke America because Americans love to project and we mirrored everything back into infinite recursion.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 20/09/2026

Should I watch The Americans?🤨

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 20/09/2026

Why am I poking hornets’ nests tonight what toxic combination of hormones and neurotransmitters is this???

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 19/09/2026

We always knew Pinker would go full Peterson at some point, no? Straight white men desperate for attention really, REALLY fucked up psychology as an academic discipline.

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Jess Nevins @jessnevins.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

*rings the bell* FAT BEAR WEEK FAT BEAR WEEK FAT BEAR WEEK

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 18/09/2026

TIL Duncan Sheik is from Glen Ridge

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 18/09/2026

If you met a recently-landed alien, what tv show or movies would you show them to teach them how humans work? Asking as an autistic person.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 18/09/2026

Cheers to everyone who thinks they can maybe somehow get enough therapy to fix their entire family because none of them will ever go to therapy ever

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 17/09/2026

I wish I had the balls to bring a coloring book to faculty senate

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 17/09/2026

When they say we’re preparing students for the AI technology they will absolutely face in their jobs, what exactly do we mean?

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 25/02/2025

THE NEWS JUST KEEPS HAPPENING AND I AM TIRED

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Mekka Okereke @mekka.mekka-tech.com · 05/07/2026

Again, any time someone says, "An AI detector thinks I write like AI!" It means that the person writes more like AI *source training material* than like a lazy American college student trying to cheat their way through a college paper. I play a game called "Writer, Professor, or Anti-colonial.🇳🇬🇮🇳🇰🇪"

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 17/09/2026

i am not prepared for the first faculty senate of the year. not that i actually have to do anything for it anymore besides show up. but i'm not, like, *spiritually* prepared.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 17/09/2026

Trying My Brilliant Career on Netflix I’m sad it’s 2026 and we still don’t want to let women be real actual people

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 16/09/2026

It seems like it shouldn’t be that hard, as a politician, to assemble a small team of smart people as your advisors and give them a directive among the lines of: help me make the decision that kills the least amount of people

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 16/09/2026

lol start post in psychology, sandwich in some educational neuroscience, end it in LIS/LAM. I need to get out of academia has broken my brain

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 16/09/2026

The podcast said, “but maybe these doom-saying tech execs have ulterior motives,” and I shouted “DUHHHH” so loud the cat woke up with an alarmed “meow!”

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