Sign in

Heather Havrilesky

@heatherhav.bsky.social
3.9K followers 321 following 153 posts

Author of Ask Polly + Ask Molly on Substack + four books, most recently Foreverland.

PostsRepliesMedia
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Philip Bump @pbump.com · 03/10/2026
The cars from Cars have tinted windows because otherwise you’d see their bowels.
391476132
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 12/08/2026
mitsloan.mit.edu/ideas-made-t...
mitsloan.mit.edu
These are the most urgent AI risks, according to 272 experts | MIT Sloan
Which AI risks could cause the most harm in the next five years? New MIT research shows that businesses should be aware of threats like competitive pressure and dangerous AI capabilities.
010
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Horatio Pornviewer @stuntbirdarmy.bsky.social · 04/07/2026
Smoking on that shit that makes you Gary for the rest of your life
894839913
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Robert Komaniecki @komaniecki.bsky.social · 13/07/2026
Completely losing it at this picture of Haaland arriving back in Oslo with his souvenir from Dallas
Haaland deboarding a plane holding a taxedermied raccoon with its paws on a liquor bottle
962989390
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 12/07/2026
Quick, picture this:
Erling header for goal
050
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Sandra Newman @sannewman.bsky.social · 02/07/2026
Describe the economy in a single sentence
Notice on a vending machine saying: "FYI (OUT OF ORDER) (DOES NOT GIVE YOU ICE CREM BUT IT TAKES MONEY"
3767391452
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
WeRateDogs @weratedogs.com · 02/07/2026
This is Harley. She's never rolled down a hill before, but she's super proud of her first attempt. 13/10 nailed it (TT: jesskoselke)
425220623082
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 10/06/2026
Canes forever
030
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 27/05/2026
I have a new playlist that’s designed to shove me forcibly into a very good mood. Please suggest songs. Aggressive cheesy dance / pop hype welcome.
1751
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
The Onion @theonion.com · 27/05/2026
OpenAI Announces Construction Of New Data Center On Top Of Sick Child
273733904
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Trish Greenhalgh @trishgreenhalgh.bsky.social · 23/05/2026
Every summer I repost this article on how to spot drowning. Please read it and pass on. In the last few years I’ve had SIX messages from people who saved a kid’s life after clicking on the link from my feed. slate.com/technology/2...
slate.com
Drowning Doesn’t Look Like Drowning
Drowning is not the violent, splashing call for help that most people expect.
253133959735
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 08/05/2026
A good post for Mother’s Day. open.substack.com/pub/askmolly...
open.substack.com
Proud
Mother Mary comes to me.
010
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 05/05/2026
Israel’s Gaza Model is expensive. It’s an exhaustive five-step exfoliation system that rids the landscape of empire-clogging impurities like schools, old people, gardens, gas stations, tea kettles, pets, cookbooks, bridges, bakeries, and jewelry boxes. askmolly.substack.com/p/model
askmolly.substack.com
Model
Exfoliation, extraction, hydration, depuffing.
020
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 25/03/2026
It's friction, not rewards and dopamine hits and indulgences, that will save you. www.ask-polly.com/p/nyc-is-a-c...
ask-polly.com
'NYC Is a Capitalist Nightmare and I'm Miserable Here!'
No one is ever happy, no matter where they live or how rich or successful they are, until they can trade in the shiny fiction of their fantasies for the mundane but exquisite frictions of reality.
0100
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 15/02/2026
Remember , your best work was never that effortful. It wasn’t a puzzle and it wasn’t a journal entry, either. It was traveling blind. open.substack.com/pub/askmolly...
open.substack.com
Slushy
You can hear the boats go by.
051
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Luke O'Neil @lukeoneil47.bsky.social · 11/02/2026
Hm no they're not.
1129212
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
Emotional abuse is very hard to recognize when you’re in it. From the outside, it’s so obvious. This is why you have to talk to your friends and not keep the darkness in your relationship a secret. www.ask-polly.com/p/my-open-ma...
ask-polly.com
'My Open Marriage Is Killing Me!'
Two words: Get out.
0110
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Nathan Kalman-Lamb @nkalamb.bsky.social · 25/01/2026
Let us all have the courage displayed by the residents of Minneapolis.
Woman on the right was using her walker to advance into the tear gas
3047811069
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 25/01/2026
Abolish ICE. Impeach Trump.
Famous photo of man defying a line of tanks near Tianamen Square in 1989
2161
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Daniel Bond @dwbond.bsky.social · 25/01/2026
if I were a Democratic strategist, columnist, or politician, I would simply not be outflanked by Bill Kristol and this guy
151385285
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Asha Rangappa @asharangappa.bsky.social · 24/01/2026
How many January 6 insurrectionists were armed? Is the position now that Capitol police could have shot them all? Just trying to keep up
12345241074
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Michael Hobbes @michaelhobbes.bsky.social · 20/01/2026
10 years of this shit
16781531113
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Aaron Rupar @atrupar.com · 08/01/2026
I’ve heard from multiple friends today about daycares being raided and parents being ripped out of cars (in one case with a child left behind in the backseat). Grim times here.
20153192143
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 21/12/2025
There are too many overpaid undertaxed motherfucking snakes on this motherfucking plane!
15911
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Spencer Hayes @spnkr.bsky.social · 21/12/2025
Around half of San Francisco is without power right now and something like 1/3rd of intersections I drove through had waymos stopped in the middle of them making a dangerous situation even worse. Do not let Waymo into your city.
241165333
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 28/11/2025
How can you be loved enough by beasts who, when you aren’t performing innocence or emptiness, see you as a pest? askmolly.substack.com/p/oaks
askmolly.substack.com
Oaks
No one can love you enough.
051
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 30/10/2025
Stand up for your huge, romantic heart at all costs, even when it causes you pain, because becoming numb is so much worse. www.ask-polly.com/p/am-i-too-r...
ask-polly.com
‘Am I Too Romantic About True Love?’
Don't change your entire belief system just because you're afraid of seeming naïve.
091
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 03/10/2025
If you're a daydreamer or an escapist, this column is for you. www.ask-polly.com/p/this-malad...
ask-polly.com
‘This Maladaptive Daydreamer Is Ready to Wake Up!’
Escapist fantasies hurt you by inadvertently perpetuating the myth that reality is darker and more terrifying than it actually is.
040
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 18/09/2025
Jimmy Kimmel once called me to thank me after I wrote a good review of his show. It was unnerving and maybe savvy but mostly just came off as friendly and kind. I think he’s fucking great and I’m boycotting ABC, Disney, and all of their ugly children and cousins. Grow a spine, motherfuckers.
0240
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Rachel Abbey McCafferty @ramccafferty.bsky.social · 09/09/2025
Sharing for anyone who needs this reminder to embrace your passions. “Joy is believing that it all adds up, that it all matters, that your dumb, small, deluded thing is the reason you’re alive.” — @heatherhav.bsky.social
open.substack.com
'I'm Trying So Hard But Everything's Still Going Wrong!'
Keep following your passion wherever it leads.
041
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 25/08/2025
No, self-help will not make you a jerk. Observe the jerks. If they were happy, would they insist that people who aren’t like them be more like them? If they had firm boundaries, would they call people who need help and support weak and pathetic? www.ask-polly.com/p/no-self-he...
ask-polly.com
No, Self-Help Won't Make You a Jerk!
Never listen to anyone who thinks that self-improvement is inherently selfish. Cultivating firm boundaries and celebrating your desires will make you more loving and generous, not less.
150
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Holly Brockwell @hollyqueenofspayeds.com · 18/08/2025
I've heard about the same few male surrealist painters 10,000 times. But until @heatherhav.bsky.social's Substack today, I'd never seen a painting by Jane Graverol, and now I am OBSESSED www.artnet.com/artists/jane...
Screenshot of a profile of surrealist artist Jane Graverol, who easily had the talent of her male peers but used female forms in her work
2315
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 12/08/2025
Regular features: Don't Shape Your Art Into a Parody of Your Most Popular Work Fuck Perfection Lower The Bar Raise The Bar Again Say Anything Art Can Be Fun Again Experiment Collaborate, You Rigid Fucks Shame Is The Enemy of Art Exercise More, Think Less
0111
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 12/08/2025
I also love the Bowerbirds' little-known 2021 album. One perfect catchy lovely divine melody after another with the faintest whiff of Grateful Dead vibes, which normally I would not love but here it's magic. open.spotify.com/album/6FF5NS...
open.spotify.com
becalmyounglovers
Bowerbirds · Album · 2021 · 12 songs
050
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 12/08/2025
I might start a newsletter that's just for artists I personally want to produce more work. Would just be coaching them (and me) to get off our fucking asses. Isaac Wood and Harriet Wheeler are honorary members of this club, sorry sorry not sorry.
020
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 12/08/2025
Love the Bowerbirds so much and love Phil Moore's solo album from 2016. It's such a coherent work, perfect for a long run or long drive. open.spotify.com/artist/3bf8M...
open.spotify.com
Tuskha
Artist · 100 monthly listeners.
130
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Kerri Arsenault @kerriarsenault.bsky.social · 23/07/2025
There is no further comment I can make to emphasise the monstrosities happening here
063
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 21/07/2025
The more curious you become about other people's emotional experiences, the more love enters your life. www.ask-polly.com/p/retire-you...
ask-polly.com
Retire Your Inner Lawyer
Relationships don't thrive in a courtroom.
0171
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Tara Ariano @taraariano.com · 11/07/2025
Buy @maris.bsky.social’s book at your local indie store to be as cool as meeeeeee
I Want To Burn This Place Down by Maris Kreizman on a car dashboard
1395
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 03/07/2025
When you refuse to set boundaries, you teach your kid to be a whiny, badgering asshole. Then you blame him for the fact that he’s an asshole, and you suffer, and you mope about what an asshole he is www.ask-polly.com/p/my-teenage...
ask-polly.com
'My Teenage Son Is a Drunk!'
Babies do whatever it takes to get your attention.
190
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 03/07/2025
"There were more people wearing vests than one typically sees upon venturing out." Love this post about dancing by Sarah Miller, which includes a plea to help her friend Mohammed and his family. therealsarahmiller.substack.com/p/youre-ever...
therealsarahmiller.substack.com
You're Everything I Know That Makes Me Believe I'm Not Alone
A trip to Ecstatic Dance (but first a bit about Mohammed and his family)
000
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 02/07/2025
The hustle invades every corner of a life, every inch of the body’s virgin land. askmolly.substack.com/p/hustle-479
askmolly.substack.com
Hustle
Keep them chasing until you're lost.
010
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
News Eye @newseye.bsky.social · 14/06/2025
Holy shit, New York! Here’s the full view. #NoKings #50501Movement
821375938414
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Charles Johnson @charles.littlegreenfootballs.com · 15/06/2025
Everything was peaceful in downtown LA until the cops attacked, with horses, flash bang grenades, rubber bullets, and tear gas, But it won’t be reported like that.
331737434
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 15/06/2025
Durham, NC - huge crowd
Big group of protesters with signs in downtown Durham, NC.
1190
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Jordan Uhl @jordanuhl.com · 15/06/2025
Remarkable. MSNC: "I want to reiterate this has been 100% peaceful." Seconds later, LA County sheriffs start firing on the crowd. Yet again, "law enforcement" deliberately escalated.
10304386815970
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 13/06/2025
Your dreams are alive inside your body, whether you pretend they don't exist or not. www.ask-polly.com/p/i-killed-a...
ask-polly.com
'I Killed All of My Dreams And I Have Nothing Left!'
Your dreams can't be murdered. You can pretend they don't exist, but they're still here, waiting to for your sunshine, your water, your love.
081
Heather Havrilesky @heatherhav.bsky.social · 13/06/2025
Good work here to clarify LA’s history and current reality, which has nothing to do with Trump’s fear-mongering propaganda. www.nytimes.com/video/world/...
nytimes.com
Video: What We Know About the L.A. Protests So Far
The Trump administration is facing legal challenges to its deployment of Marines and National Guard troops to Los Angeles. Shawn Hubler, the Los Angeles bureau chief for The New York Times, talks with...
010
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Lorna MacGillivray @elemjay.bsky.social · 13/06/2025
296141521415
Reposted by Heather Havrilesky
Phil Lewis @phillewis.bsky.social · 10/06/2025
“Trump is using military forces to stop a protest — I want y'all to consider what kind of government it appears to be when every time we exercise our democratic right to protest, the military is deployed against us.” Doechii at the #BETAwards
195224407216