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Victoria Smith

@glosswitch.bsky.social
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Feminist. Author of Hags: The Demonisation of Middle-aged Women and Unkind: How 'Be Kind' Entrenched Sexism. Totally cheery apart from all that.

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Medusa Rising | World Building Women @medusarisingorg.bsky.social · 05/06/2025
𝗨𝗻𝗞𝗶𝗻𝗱, by the glorious Victoria Smith, reviewed by Therese Doherty @offeringsfromthewellspring Rule one of self-esteem: become what you are proud of and others will esteem you. #bookreview #feminist #emotionallabor #mentalload #UnKind www.medusarising.org/p/1af16609-4...
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The Newest, Shiniest Kindness: A Review of (Un)kind | by Therese Doherty
The core of the issue is "that women cannot be defined in terms of their own interests, only those of others."
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 17/04/2025
Good to be reminded why I wrote Hags. Older women already shoulder a disproportionate burden of work (paid and unpaid). "Nothing better to do" means, I guess, "shouldn't be doing politics, and certainly shouldn't be celebrating any political gains"
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Conway Hall @conwayhall.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
📢 Our Summer season is live, running April to July, with talks on how kindness is used to control women @glosswitch.bsky.social, rising inequality, an inspiring vision for the future @robintransition.bsky.social, true crime obsession and so much more! 🎟️ Book now: www.conwayhall.org.uk/whats-on/
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Stephanie Cole @stephiec.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
If we really want to help boys & men be happier, … we could forge a different & more +ve outlook on masculinity … focus less on how men are purportedly hard done by & emasculated …, & more on genuinely fulfilling opportunities open to them in this brave new world. substack.com/home/post/p-...
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Telling boys and men that they're disadvantaged only hinders them further - and, anyway, it's not true
There are a set of beliefs about gender that are almost ubiquitous across the political spectrum, from left to right, from feminists to men’s rights activists.
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Sarah Dempster @dempster2000.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
This feels like a trap.
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manwhohasitall @manwhohasitall.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
Thank you total legend @glosswitch.bsky.social for endorsing Flipping Patriarchy. "I loved this book! Funny & insightful, but also fiercely radical, highlighting all the subtle & not-so-subtle ways in which 'empowerment' and 'be kind' narratives justify women's exploitation & damage our self-esteem"
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
Really looking forward to this Saturday's event! (Worry a bit about 'in conversation' sounding self-important. But obviously not enough to shut up) www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/in-convers...
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In Conversation with Victoria Smith
Eventbrite - Rochester LitFest presents In Conversation with Victoria Smith - Saturday, March 15, 2025 at The Salvation Army, Rochester, England. Find event and ticket information.
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Rachel Hewitt @rachelhewitt.bsky.social · 11/03/2025
We’re constantly being told that our present moment is one of crisis: a ‘silent epidemic’ of male unhappiness. This myth has numerous threads. Chief among them is that boys are underperforming in a schooling system that’s biased towards girls’ aptitudes. There are further claims:
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 03/03/2025
I'm at Conway Hall on 10th April, discussing the pitfalls of #justbekind. Join me! www.conwayhall.org.uk/whats-on/eve...
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(Un)Kind: How 'Be Kind' Entrenches Sexism - Conway Hall
Using the #JustBeKind trend of the 2020s as a starting point, Victoria Smith, author of the bestseller Hags, explores how traditional beliefs about women's 'kind' nature have been repackaged for an ag...
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 03/03/2025
Less than two weeks to go! www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/in-convers...
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In Conversation with Victoria Smith
The author of 'Hags: The demonization of middle-aged women', and new book, (Un)Kind, Victoria explores the many issues women deal with.
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 19/02/2025
I wrote about the persistence of cruel attitudes and treatments for anorexia sufferers, at a time when we are meant to be 'more enlightened' about eating disorders thecritic.co.uk/why-are-anor...
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Why are anorexia sufferers still treated so badly? | Victoria Smith | The Critic Magazine
In her 1986 book Hunger Strike, the feminist psychotherapist Susie Orbach highlighted the problem of hostile, abusive and above all ineffective treatments for anorexia sufferers. Such treatments…
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 10/02/2025
Really enjoyed taking part in this, on Wages for Housework, men's attitudes to feminism and Unkind! (After spending weeks panicking about it...) www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m...
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BBC Radio 4 - Start the Week, Wages for Housework – then and now
Shahidha Bari with Emily Callaci, Rosie Campbell and Victoria Smith
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 06/02/2025
It's publication day for Unkind, on why women and girls shouldn't have to make up for the world by "just" being kinder (but men and boys possibly could...)! geni.us/Unkind
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(Un)kind: How 'Be Kind' Entrenches Sexism
Pre-order now
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 11/01/2025
First copy of my new book! (Out 6th Feb - pre-order here! geni.us/Unkind)
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Kate Bevan @katebevan.com · 09/01/2025
Pretty sure it's not up to women to "think carefully" about taking a higher-paid job than their partner. It's up to their partner to get the fuck over himself and be pleased for her.
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Sisters Salon Brighton #CreatingWomensSpaces @sisterssalon.bsky.social · 29/12/2024
70,000 men. One group chat. How many raped women is that? **we need radical culture change that dehumanises & de-pornifies & de-commodifies women & girls** #MakeTheShameSwitchSides
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 29/12/2024
So delighted to see (Un)kind in here! (Published Feb and available for pre-order now!) www.theguardian.com/culture/2024...
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Nonfiction to look out for in 2025
From a river voyage with Robert Macfarlane to Helen Garner’s candid tale of a broken marriage, via Ian Leslie’s analysis of Lennon and McCartney’s complicated kinship, here are the titles you can’t af...
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manwhohasitall @manwhohasitall.bsky.social · 13/12/2024
"I appreciate it when an older woman holds open a door for me and guides me through it by touching my back. I wouldn't know how to get through otherwise." Mark, 36.
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 11/12/2024
I wrote about the bids for sympathy of the accused in the Pelicot trial thecritic.co.uk/should-we-fe...
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Should we feel pity for the Pelicot accused? | Victoria Smith | The Critic Magazine
In a 1983 speech to a pro-feminist men’s group, Andrea Dworkin noted that men’s experience of trauma did not justify their abuse of women and children. On the contrary, she argued…
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 09/12/2024
Would obvs prefer ETA Hoffmann (with wine glass and little Tomcat Murr figure), but very much want this
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Caroline Criado Perez @ccriadoperez.bsky.social · 09/12/2024
Women are considered “old” much younger than their male counterparts: women are old at 30, whereas men don’t drop into the dreaded “old” category until they’re in their 50s. In this week's newsletter I've written about "women of a certain age"... newsletter.carolinecriadoperez.com/p/middle-cla...
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Middle-class women of a certain age
it is not done well; but you are surprised to find it done at all.
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Marina @marstrina.bsky.social · 08/12/2024
I listen to a lot of golden age detective fiction audiobooks¹, & one thing that never fails to startle me is the unbelievable level of antisemitism in some of them. At the moment I'm listening to² 'Portrait of a Murderer' by Anne Metedith, & not only is the crooked financier in it 》
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Alex Massie @alexmassie.bsky.social · 06/12/2024
Gisele Pelicot would be my nominee for "Person of the Year". Harrowing, but characteristically excellent, dispatch from @victoriapeckham.bsky.social here. www.thetimes.com/world/europe...
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I sat in court at the Gisèle Pelicot rape trial. This is what I saw
Gisèle Pelicot became a symbol of courage when she waived her anonymity to attend the trial of her husband and 50 other men accused of raping her — and ignited fierce debate about the law surrounding ...
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Rachel Hewitt @rachelhewitt.bsky.social · 04/12/2024
"men don’t do a fair share because they don’t like domestic labour, they consider it demeaning, disgusting & boring, they’d rather be doing things which give them greater social status, & they don’t care about relieving the burden on their partners’ shoulders" Me on the mental load - link in bio
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 05/12/2024
I wrote about the trend for insisting that the argument for abortion is "the same as" the argument for assisted suicide, gender-affirming care, surrogacy, porn etc. thecritic.co.uk/only-abortio...
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Only abortion is like abortion | Victoria Smith | The Critic Magazine
Last week saw the Supreme Court considering the question “what is a woman?”. If you’re thinking “but everyone knows the answer to that”, I totally agree. The fact is, it’s just a shorthand.
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womensartbluesky.bsky.social @womensartbluesky.bsky.social · 05/12/2024
US artist Sue Beatrice who creates steampunk sculptures and jewellery out of old watch parts
Photo of a gold coloured watch on a chain with an image inside the glass of a winged figure, upper half facing right, created with tiny metal cogs, nuts and coils, above a white fingertip props up the watch on a cream surface
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 03/12/2024
Recording the audio book of (Un)kind!
Small recording studio desk, with iPad, headphones and microphone
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Geoff Norcott @geoffnorcott.bsky.social · 02/12/2024
Massive away win for the little fella.
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
From Hags. I'm glad more people are seeing it (even if some of them called me a Karen for writing it two years ago, and probably will again tomorrow) geni.us/HagsPB
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Just been speaking on Times Radio about Gregg Wallace. I find it quite heartening that so many people are joining the dots re men who dismiss the complaints of older women who *can* speak out (and use it to suggest all other women don't mind and that these women are spoilt / prudish anyways)
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
From Hags, on the privileged middle-aged woman who's meant to shut up but, unbelievably, doesn't
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Angela Barnes @angelabarnes.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Maybe because middle class women of a certain age are in a position to call out this shit without fear of losing a salary they need. And can do it on behalf of young women starting out in their careers who are just as sick of this shit but can’t say anything because they need to earn a living.
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HappyToast @happytoast.co.uk · 01/12/2024
Greggs Wallace ponders if he is out of touch, but decides it's middle class women if a certain age who are wrong
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James Ball @jamesrball.com · 01/12/2024
The first time I heard someone disgusted by Gregg Wallace’s behaviour was in *2008* and from a woman under 25. I don’t think I ever heard a good word about him in the intervening time. The idiotic entitlement on display with this ‘defence’ speaks volumes.
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
"I can see the complaints coming from a handful of middle-class women of a certain age" Just say Karens, Gregg, it's quicker news.sky.com/story/gregg-...
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Gregg Wallace: Allegations against me come from 'middle-class women of certain age'
The presenter has yet to address specific claims which are now being investigated by a law firm appointed by Banijay UK, the company which makes MasterChef.
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Officially December, so taking the boys to see Elf tonight! youtu.be/EkwdYSn3Uws?...
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Elf recut as a Thriller - Trailer Mix
YouTube video by CineFix - IGN Movies and TV
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 30/11/2024
Just been writing something about men who use the fact that women are losing their reproductive rights to tell women to shut up about other things and how this indicates these men don't actually care that much about reproductive rights. It's like I'm psychic.
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Sonia Sodha @sonia-sodha.bsky.social · 30/11/2024
What I think this argument misunderstands is that religion is not the only form of societal doctrine and that faith itself is often not doctrinal (people of faith come down on both sides of the assisted dying debate). As an atheist, I find it troubling. t.co/7GCD0L8AM6
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https://inews.co.uk/opinion/mps-dishonest-oppose-assisted-dying-3405508
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
I'm not saying the crucifixion was a cancellation as such, but this does seem a weird example for "couldn't get away with that now"
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Jason Sinclair @jsinclair.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
Rod Stewart going for the single "g" Greg is the icing on the buttery biscuit cake. Best thing he's done since In A Broken Dream.
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Hugo Rifkind @hugorifkind.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
Today’s column was about how my mother’s long illness shaped my view on assisted dying, but perhaps not in the direction you’d assume. www.thetimes.com/article/5050...
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
9yo has got a house point after getting an answer right in class. "It wasn't for my answer, though. It was for not gloating." Which does make me worry about previous 'getting the right answer' behaviour.
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Victoria Smith @glosswitch.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
So grateful to Woman's Place for all the amazing work they've done in the face of such hostility and misrepresentation
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kareningalasmith.bsky.social @kareningalasmith.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
It has been a pleasure and a privilege - as well as a huge source of support - to be part of Woman's Place UK. I valued immensely working with this group of principled women to safeguard women's sex-based rights and protections within a left context which took account of inequalities between women.
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Katie Martin @katie0martin.ft.com · 28/11/2024
I feel like it's time for the annual appreciation of this, the greatest ever twitter reply
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Rachel Hewitt @rachelhewitt.bsky.social · 26/11/2024
OK, I have a question for you. I'm grappling with putting it into words, so please bear with me. I'm thinking about the idea of a 'felt sense' of feminism, which is different from (but can coexist with) believing that feminism is right because of rational arguments about equal rights.
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