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Brian G. Murphy

@thisisbgm.bsky.social
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Activist, author, queer theologian, relationship coach 🏳️‍🌈 ✡️ queertheology.com thisisbgm.com 🔵 Connect with your deepest values and live them out 🔵 Build relationships on your own terms 🔵 Sex & queerness are already holy 🔵 Community is key

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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
So happy for you and so excited for everyone who will get to your books!
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Mychel (me-SHELL) Vandover 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍🌈 💛🤍💜🖤 @mychelvandover.bsky.social · 24/09/2026
I cannot overstate how excited I am for "Reading the Bible Through Queer Eyes" by @thisisbgm.bsky.social and Fr. Shay of @queertheology.bsky.social. I've listened to their podcast, used their devotional "Queers The Word", and been a part of Sanctuary Collective for years. They always have great
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Flux Theatre Ensemble @fluxtheatre.bsky.social · 26/05/2026
YAS the interview between Jason & @thisisbgm.bsky.social just dropped! We've been waiting for this one. LISTEN: www.queertheology.com/podcast/644/ LIVING TICKETS: www.fluxtheatre.org/productions/...
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Prophetic Queer Plays with Jason Tseng - Queer Theology
Brian is joined by long-time friend, Jason Tseng (they/them), @queeriously on the pod this week for a joyful and inspiring […]
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/04/2026
The wild thing about kink is some people are like “I like to wear jockstraps” and some people are like “I have some initials branded into my flesh.” A truly wild spectrum!
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Thomas Ha @thomasha.bsky.social · 06/04/2026
"we need kids to get an early start operating machines that are routinely wrong and may try to coax them into suicide and/or psychosis" is a fun education perspective i disagree with actually
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/03/2026
Your pleasure cannot wait. Puritanical culture tells us to button up our sexuality. To not speak of it in polite company. That pleasure is for straight men. No. Come back to your body Say yes to your desire. When you fuel your erotic life, your whole life lights up. We need you to shine bright.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/03/2026
Your pleasure cannot wait. Puritanical culture tells us to button up our sexuality. To not speak of it in polite company. That pleasure is for straight men. No. Come back to your body Say yes to your desire. When you fuel your erotic life, your whole life lights up. We need you to shine bright.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 04/02/2026
You don't need more sex tips, you need to heal the shame that you're still carrying in your body and spirit.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 25/12/2025
It’s called Snap Roulette: you open up Snapchat and your boyfriend picks one snap from your phone to open while sitting in the middle of the living room with family
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 09/10/2025
Someone I’ve known for years inside the Queer Theology community is facing a really tough time. They’re a survivor of domestic abuse, living w complex chronic health conditions, and in the middle of being evicted. Can you join me in kicking in a few points to help: www.gofundme.com/f/continue-t...
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Donate to Support me as I try to overcome obstacles, organized by Esther Hardman
My legal name is Esther and I am a domestic abuse survivor. I left my now ex-… Esther Hardman needs your support for Support me as I try to overcome obstacles
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(The Lesser Known) Luke Wilson @lukeslamdunkwilson.bsky.social · 18/09/2025
You should also check out @thisisbgm.bsky.social’s new book, LOVE BEYOND MONOGAMY—it is FAB! bookshop.org/p/books/love...
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Love Beyond Monogamy: How Polyamory Can Enrich Your Spirituality, Faith, and Relationships
How Polyamory Can Enrich Your Spirituality, Faith, and Relationships
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/09/2025
If polyamorous people can figure out how, where, and with who to spend holidays when having 3 partners, I promise you and your parents and your in-laws can work it out.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 29/08/2025
oh man, and relatedly "is it 'I'm just trying this to please you' or 'I think it would be a good and healthy thing for me to stretch and grow a bit'????"
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 28/08/2025
“Waiting until marriage” Monogamy Chastity cages are all different flavors of power exchange play—just with varying levels of consent and coercion
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 27/08/2025
Sorting out “do I not like this? or am I ashamed to like this?” is such a thorny task sometimes…
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 26/08/2025
Sex and romance are not at odds. Neither are promiscuity and commitment. Nor autonomy and interdependence. You are big enough to hold it all.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 26/08/2025
one of my niche skills is regularly leaving one of the top 2 most liked comments on Instagram reels. the sense of creative accomplishment it gives me!
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Elliot Vos @elliot.thevos.es · 25/08/2025
My friend @thisisbgm.bsky.social wrote a book! I just finished reading an ARC and it’s really good! Check out my review: www.goodreads.com/review/show/... And pre-order it for yourself!
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Elliot Vos's review of Love Beyond Monogamy
5/5: Love Beyond Monogamy was insightful and enjoyable from beginning to end! Each chapter offers fresh wisdom as Brian applies best practices and traditions from both the worlds of polyamory/non-mono...
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 25/08/2025
When listening on AirPods Pro does music sound better with Apple Music vs Spotify? Or am I having auditory hallucinations?
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DreamSinger he/him @dreamsinger.bsky.social · 22/08/2025
It's difficult to estimate just how much pain this man caused, both directly and through others he infected with his hateful perversion of faith and spirituality.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/08/2025
What Law of the universe is it that all the guys on Grindr want to meet IMMEDIATELY after you give up and get off??
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/08/2025
“We outlived James Dobson” is little comfort to me as I have a number of dear friends who didn’t outlive him. He’s not the only reason they’re gone, but he made this world a place where it was that much harder for them to survive. May we see the end of fundamentalism speedily & in our days.
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Jordan Emmons @joremmons.bsky.social · 22/08/2025
This is how you do it. Troll tweeting is cute for a minute. Actual action and protection is better. Thanks, gov ❤️🏳️‍🌈
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/08/2025
There are parents out there really truly trying to do their best, and they turn to people they trust. And those people pass on bigotry where they should pass on love. Bad theology kills.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/08/2025
… And he did. I think him doing that saved our relationship. My heart goes out to all the relationships James Dobson destroyed.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/08/2025
After I came out, there was a period where my dad and I were really struggling to talk about it. A few months in, he told he’d bought a book to try to understand better. I looked and saw it was endorsed by Focus On The Family. I told him it wasn’t to going to be helpful and to throw it away…
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 21/08/2025
There’s a special kind of joy that comes with playing wingman for your husband
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Jonny Rashid @jonnyrashid.bsky.social · 21/08/2025
Live a life where people aren't happy when you die.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 21/08/2025
Two things can be true: - I want to believe no one is irredeemable - James Dobson made the world a worse place and we are better off without him May those of us still here work to undo all the harm he wrought upon us.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 15/08/2025
I would choose to be gay. Over and over and over again.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 14/08/2025
The Confederates never took DC and they’re still made about it. There’s always work to be done to build a more just world, but man oh man is Washington DC precious. My heart with the city whose shadow I grew up in 🫶
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 13/08/2025
Do you love HIM or do you love what he does for you? How he makes you feel? How others perceive you? There’s a big distinction there.
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Dex Anderson @dexanderson.com · 11/08/2025
i live in the burnt out husk of minneapolis and when i had hair, it was blue! I'm tougher than you snowflakes!
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 09/08/2025
what if love is bigger, wider, deeper than we ever imagined? let's find out together.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 08/08/2025
I know Cuomo is trying to rehab his image post-primary defeat but honestly... every time he posts, he says something that makes me like him even less
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/08/2025
THANK YOU SO MUCH CLAIRE! You are such an inspiration!
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/08/2025
What if every person and all types of relationships "counts" and they're all doorways into a deeper appreciation of life, a guide to building a more just world, an invitation to more fulfilling relationship, a release of shame?
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/08/2025
What if all the ways we love—and lay 😉—were special? What if your relationships were expressions of your values? What if you could honor all the people & experiences that shaped you? What if believing in something bigger than yourself mattered? What if friends could be family?
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/08/2025
yesterday was National Underwear Day (I know because we talked about it on the Poly Possibilities call last night 🤪) Since I find out about it until too late, here's a belated undie pic. Happy Day After National Underwear Day
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/08/2025
thank you thank you thank you!
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/08/2025
Just found out that the cover of my book got sent to the printer today! Ahhhh! it's happening!
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 30/07/2025
New video on sexual health when you've got multiple partners! Whether you're open, polyamorous, or simply dating around, this one is for you: youtu.be/kC5Ndq0vrQA?...
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How to have safe sex in an open relationship
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 30/07/2025
New video on sexual health when you've got multiple partners! Whether you're open, polyamorous, or simply dating around, this one is for you: youtu.be/kC5Ndq0vrQA?...
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How to have safe sex in an open relationship
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 30/07/2025
Happy Hump Day to all, and especially to everyone who is both an ethical slut AND a hopeless romantic 💙😈
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 25/07/2025
I saw a TikTok today quoting the Buddha that said, "If you give me a gift and I do not receive, whose is it?" "It's still mine." "The same thing is true with your insults and anger" that's energy right there, folks.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 25/07/2025
you can appreciate science and you can also appreciate awe & wonder. i promise your life will be richer for it.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 24/07/2025
"We should not starve anyone to death" should not be a controversial take.
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