Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/03/2026Your pleasure cannot wait. Puritanical culture tells us to button up our sexuality. To not speak of it in polite company. That pleasure is for straight men. No. Come back to your body Say yes to your desire. When you fuel your erotic life, your whole life lights up. We need you to shine bright. 031 3
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 09/08/2025what if love is bigger, wider, deeper than we ever imagined? let's find out together. 050 5
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/08/2025What if all the ways we love—and lay 😉—were special? What if your relationships were expressions of your values? What if you could honor all the people & experiences that shaped you? What if believing in something bigger than yourself mattered? What if friends could be family? 141 4
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/08/2025yesterday was National Underwear Day (I know because we talked about it on the Poly Possibilities call last night 🤪) Since I find out about it until too late, here's a belated undie pic. Happy Day After National Underwear Day 170 7
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/08/2025Just found out that the cover of my book got sent to the printer today! Ahhhh! it's happening! 250 5
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 30/07/2025Happy Hump Day to all, and especially to everyone who is both an ethical slut AND a hopeless romantic 💙😈 081 8
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/07/2025If the citizens of Sodom had acted more like LGBTQ & polyam people, the city might have been spared. The sin of Sodom is explicitly named as neglect of the poor and inhospitality to the stranger. LGBTQ ppl fund each others transitions and some of us regularly welcome strangers into our homes 😉😈 110 1
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 15/07/2025Through their work, Andrea helped me see the world with new eyes. Though they never knew me, they inspired me to pay attention to the small details of the people I cherish, to find beauty even in the hard times, and to make meaning with my words. May we all know loves like Andrea knew. 010 1
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/06/2025My publisher, JKP, sent me a copy of @readyforpolyamory.bsky.social’s book “Monogamy? In this economy?” as part of their #ReadingIsResistance campaign and I’m SO EXCITED to read it. Grab a copy here: us.jkp.com/products/mon... Learn about the campaign here: us.jkp.com/pages/readin... 041 4
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 02/06/2025I’m right there with you! From Love Beyond Monogamy 👇 111 1
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/05/2025New profile pic just dropped! My first-ever professional photoshoot to get a photo for the book 😮 Feeling more and more real every day! 150 5
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 13/05/2025OMG OMG OMG my book has a cover! and a release date! and is available for pre-order! 4 more months until it comes out but this is a huge milestone! 💙 Pre-orders help new author A LOT. You can get it anywhere, here are links if that's helpful: briangerald.com/book/ 2133 13
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 21/04/2025Last week I had to carry a refrigerator up 3 flights of stairs with just one other person and it was... easy... 😮 I thought to myself "Hell yeah, this is deadlifting in real life!" 030 3
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 21/04/2025"But that’s all bad first dates are: short stories. Good first dates are more than short stories. They are first chapters." - David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing 020 2
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 18/04/2025Feeling your oats with your friends can be fun! Make sure you do so respectfully and consensually. 140 4
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/04/2025Shannon's book was on the shelf! @thepursuinglife.bsky.social got the only copy but they said they're going to restock so it should be back on the shelves soon. If you live in/near Astoria, go grab it! 021 2
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 28/03/2025Book 2 is due in 3 days so I spent the morning filling in a few missing pieces. Off to a lunch break, then on to another round of revisions. 290 9
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 18/02/2025i thought i was done with shame. but after leading our first sex+spirituality cohort at QueerTheology.com—and going through the exercises myself—I uncovered a bit more. There's a type of underwear I've thought, since I was a teenager, was so sexy. But I could never bring myself to get a pair [1/6] 160 6
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 12/02/2025If you can establish limits with your Dom, you should be able to establish limits with God, too. If your submission in kink is freely given and revokable with a safe word if it gets to be too much, surely God would even more understanding? 281 8
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 10/02/2025POV: I'm trying to entice you out of bed with a silly little good morning dance ☀️ 260 6
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/02/2025I just feel like if I get shown more compassion from the guy who ties me up and spanks me then I get from your version of God… … that’s a problem with your version of God. 070 7
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 27/01/2025When I’m having a bad mental health day like today, I try to get myself outside at least once, to look around, and to remember how absolutely incredible it is that any of us are here on this pale blue dot, a speck of rock hurling through space. How lucky am I to be alive? 160 6
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/01/2025re: my nerdiness: I jumped on the smart lighting train like 10 years ago and I’m absolutely geeking out setting everything back up in our new place. Here’s a peak at the corner of the living room my desk is in 040 4
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 26/12/2024Happy night one of Chanukah! 🕎 Eat something fried and delicious. And also remember that you are more resilient than you realize. A little light goes a long way 1281 28
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/12/2024A (usually headless) photo of two white women and one white man is the "White Jesus painting" of polyamory. They're both everywhere. They're both wildly unrepresentative. 011 1
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/12/2024No matter your gender, it will help you to appreciate your body more and see the struggles we all face in a new, empowering light. amzn.to/4gCWgiv 010 1
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/12/2024If you're looking for books to give as holiday gifts (or to read yourself) I HIGHLY recommend "In The Margins" by @shannontlkearns — it's by a transgender author and explores the unique (and much needed) insights trans people have to faith, spirituality, and meaning-making. amzn.to/4gCWgiv 131 3
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 12/12/2024Grief is weird. It never quite goes away. It lingers and every now and then pops back out. It's sad when it reappears, but also kinda happy. A bit of that person popping back up. Anyway, Snapchat showed me a memory from 6 years ago that I haven't seen since. I'll miss Josh for the rest of my life. 130 3
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 29/11/2024Thanksgiving leading into erev Shabbat is a great combo. More bread!! Challah making in progress! 3170 17
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 28/11/2024Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. 194 9
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 27/11/2024Truly incredible the wonders caffeine + lifting weights is doing for my mental health. Annoyingly effective. Though, I may need to figure out a different approach because IDK my budget can afford my Celsius addiction #mentalhealth 050 5
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/11/2024I’ve been really stressed the past few weeks as a bunch of life & work stuff has all been adding up (working multiple jobs and them all having intense demands at the same time is NOT FUN) and idk what happened but my body said “you will rest!” and just fully bottomed out overnight 🤒 So I’m resting 380 8
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 20/11/2024UPDATE I somehow got on a YoungLife email list and they just sent me an email! 100 1
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 20/11/20248 months since our wedding but 16 years since we met. I really love this guy 🥰 080 8
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 20/11/2024Post a pic of you from a different era. (Same shirt, 9 months apart. Right as I was coming out but working at a YoungLife camp while closeted; the other at a gay club in 2004/05 with my supportive straight roommate) 272 7
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/11/2024Quote this with a mirror pic (discovered almost all my mirror pics started as thirsty snaps to friends. This is the safest-for-work one) 2130 13
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/11/2024Not my kinky, gay self thinking this was a different MAL 🤣🤣🤣 010 1
Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/11/2024Luke has just “blessed/happy are the poor” not “poor in spirit”… … And then goes on to lay out his vision for inverting the oppressive status quo. It’s very clearly a critique of injustice, not an endorsement of it (I know you know this) 010 1