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Brian G. Murphy

@thisisbgm.bsky.social
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Activist, author, queer theologian, relationship coach 🏳️‍🌈 ✡️ queertheology.com thisisbgm.com 🔵 Connect with your deepest values and live them out 🔵 Build relationships on your own terms 🔵 Sex & queerness are already holy 🔵 Community is key

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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/03/2026
Your pleasure cannot wait. Puritanical culture tells us to button up our sexuality. To not speak of it in polite company. That pleasure is for straight men. No. Come back to your body Say yes to your desire. When you fuel your erotic life, your whole life lights up. We need you to shine bright.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 09/08/2025
what if love is bigger, wider, deeper than we ever imagined? let's find out together.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/08/2025
What if all the ways we love—and lay 😉—were special? What if your relationships were expressions of your values? What if you could honor all the people & experiences that shaped you? What if believing in something bigger than yourself mattered? What if friends could be family?
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/08/2025
yesterday was National Underwear Day (I know because we talked about it on the Poly Possibilities call last night 🤪) Since I find out about it until too late, here's a belated undie pic. Happy Day After National Underwear Day
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/08/2025
Just found out that the cover of my book got sent to the printer today! Ahhhh! it's happening!
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 30/07/2025
Happy Hump Day to all, and especially to everyone who is both an ethical slut AND a hopeless romantic 💙😈
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/07/2025
If the citizens of Sodom had acted more like LGBTQ & polyam people, the city might have been spared. The sin of Sodom is explicitly named as neglect of the poor and inhospitality to the stranger. LGBTQ ppl fund each others transitions and some of us regularly welcome strangers into our homes 😉😈
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 15/07/2025
Through their work, Andrea helped me see the world with new eyes. Though they never knew me, they inspired me to pay attention to the small details of the people I cherish, to find beauty even in the hard times, and to make meaning with my words. May we all know loves like Andrea knew.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 13/06/2025
smiles by day smoulders by night
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 06/06/2025
My publisher, JKP, sent me a copy of @readyforpolyamory.bsky.social’s book “Monogamy? In this economy?” as part of their #ReadingIsResistance campaign and I’m SO EXCITED to read it. Grab a copy here: us.jkp.com/products/mon... Learn about the campaign here: us.jkp.com/pages/readin...
Brian is wearing a backwards black hat and holding a copy of the book “Monogamy? In this economy?”A collection of books and pins are propped up against a cardboard box that they were mailed in. A black t-shirt with “reading is resistance” and an illustration of a fist in white, “LGBTQIA+ Pride Sticker book”, the book “Monogamy? In this economy?”, a card that says “Porn is not sex ed” and a partially obscured cover of another book
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 02/06/2025
I’m right there with you! From Love Beyond Monogamy 👇
Screenshot of a passage from a digital book. Which says: In progressive circles, faith and religion often have a bad reputation. Faith gets cast as silly superstition and religion as a controlling self-preserving institution. In my work as a spiritual practices coach at QueerTheology.com, I offer a reframe of both. Faith, religion, and spirituality are expressions and reminders of our deepest values. They are at times the embodied manifestations of what we believe and how we orient our lives, and at other times they are the inspiration we need to change our behavior to bring our actions in line with our values. Page 83
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/05/2025
New profile pic just dropped! My first-ever professional photoshoot to get a photo for the book 😮 Feeling more and more real every day!
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 13/05/2025
OMG OMG OMG my book has a cover! and a release date! and is available for pre-order! 4 more months until it comes out but this is a huge milestone! 💙 Pre-orders help new author A LOT. You can get it anywhere, here are links if that's helpful: briangerald.com/book/
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 21/04/2025
Last week I had to carry a refrigerator up 3 flights of stairs with just one other person and it was... easy... 😮 I thought to myself "Hell yeah, this is deadlifting in real life!"
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 21/04/2025
"But that’s all bad first dates are: short stories. Good first dates are more than short stories. They are first chapters." - David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 18/04/2025
Feeling your oats with your friends can be fun! Make sure you do so respectfully and consensually.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/04/2025
Reskeet the spectacles, nerds.
photo of brian wearing a pink Nike hoodie and wire-framed glasses
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/04/2025
Shannon's book was on the shelf! @thepursuinglife.bsky.social got the only copy but they said they're going to restock so it should be back on the shelves soon. If you live in/near Astoria, go grab it!
photograph of the LGBTQ / sexuality section of an independent bookstore. A number of colorful books are shelves, the bottom three shelves are stocked spine out, the top two shelves cover out. "No One Taught Me How To Be A Man" by Shannon TL Kearns is cover out on the 2nd shelf.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 11/04/2025
I am, apparently, this type of bisexual
meme is a bisexual flag with black text above which says "Bi and I've died my hair blue" the image credit is "@notdefining"Brian, white male, with hair died gradients of blue, silver, and purple
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 28/03/2025
Book 2 is due in 3 days so I spent the morning filling in a few missing pieces. Off to a lunch break, then on to another round of revisions.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 18/02/2025
i thought i was done with shame. but after leading our first sex+spirituality cohort at QueerTheology.com—and going through the exercises myself—I uncovered a bit more. There's a type of underwear I've thought, since I was a teenager, was so sexy. But I could never bring myself to get a pair [1/6]
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 12/02/2025
If you can establish limits with your Dom, you should be able to establish limits with God, too. If your submission in kink is freely given and revokable with a safe word if it gets to be too much, surely God would even more understanding?
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 10/02/2025
POV: I'm trying to entice you out of bed with a silly little good morning dance ☀️
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/02/2025
I just feel like if I get shown more compassion from the guy who ties me up and spanks me then I get from your version of God… … that’s a problem with your version of God.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 27/01/2025
When I’m having a bad mental health day like today, I try to get myself outside at least once, to look around, and to remember how absolutely incredible it is that any of us are here on this pale blue dot, a speck of rock hurling through space. How lucky am I to be alive?
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 07/01/2025
re: my nerdiness: I jumped on the smart lighting train like 10 years ago and I’m absolutely geeking out setting everything back up in our new place. Here’s a peak at the corner of the living room my desk is in
Medium shot of Brian smiling at camera with a blurry background. He’s wearing a maroon t shirt and has short blonde hair parted to one side.

In the blurred hangouts is a bookshelf with a warm white light on it and a tall skinny blue floor lamp emitting a soft teal light.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 26/12/2024
Happy night one of Chanukah! 🕎 Eat something fried and delicious. And also remember that you are more resilient than you realize. A little light goes a long way
Brian is wearing a black sweatshirt and blue jeans standing in front of a menorah. The sweatshirt has “Very good.” written on it in bold letters. “Very” is a rainbow gradient and “good.” is white. He is holding the lit shamash candle and mid-speech. One unlit candle is in the menorah
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
Blue sky, open road
Photo of Brian in a car. The bright blue sky is visible through a snow dusted snow roof
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/12/2024
A (usually headless) photo of two white women and one white man is the "White Jesus painting" of polyamory. They're both everywhere. They're both wildly unrepresentative.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 18/12/2024
What made me gay? The Disney Channel.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/12/2024
No matter your gender, it will help you to appreciate your body more and see the struggles we all face in a new, empowering light. amzn.to/4gCWgiv
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 16/12/2024
If you're looking for books to give as holiday gifts (or to read yourself) I HIGHLY recommend "In The Margins" by @shannontlkearns — it's by a transgender author and explores the unique (and much needed) insights trans people have to faith, spirituality, and meaning-making. amzn.to/4gCWgiv
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 12/12/2024
Grief is weird. It never quite goes away. It lingers and every now and then pops back out. It's sad when it reappears, but also kinda happy. A bit of that person popping back up. Anyway, Snapchat showed me a memory from 6 years ago that I haven't seen since. I'll miss Josh for the rest of my life.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 10/12/2024
#MonochromaticMonday
black and white photograph of Brian and his husband, shot from a low angle. brian is holding a disco ball in one hand, his husband is wrapped in a feather boablack and white wedding photograph of two white men in suits posing. one is standing behind the other with his arm wrapped around the other's waistblack and white wedding photograph of two white men. they each have an arm around the other. one is facing away from the camera whispering into the other's ear. the one facing forward is laughingtwo white men in wedding suits looking sideways. one is sitting on a low couch, the other is standing and his hand resting on the other's back
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 04/12/2024
Reskeet with you in water
A white man with short, wet, blonde hair is wearing a blue ocean-inspired patterned brief-cut swimming suit and black sunglasses is in the ocean at mid-thigh depth. A small wave breaks in the foreground.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 03/12/2024
I am a tasty fruit! 🍎🍑🍆
Photo of Brian wearing a tshirt that says “good fruit” in all caps block lettering. On the shirt are also 3 emojis: peach, apple, eggplantPhoto of Brian wearing a tshirt that says “good fruit” in all caps block lettering. On the shirt are also 3 emojis: peach, apple, eggplant
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 03/12/2024
lololol HONORED
Photo of Brian wearing a tshirt that says “good fruit” in all caps block lettering. On the shirt are also 3 emojis: peach, apple, eggplantPhoto of Brian wearing a tshirt that says “good fruit” in all caps block lettering. On the shirt are also 3 emojis: peach, apple, eggplant. He is pointing at the text with one hand
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 29/11/2024
quote sleet with a mirror selfie
Two men pose for a mirror selfie in front of a blue, red, and behind shower curtain. One is sitting. The other is holding hair scissors and a comb.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 29/11/2024
Thanksgiving leading into erev Shabbat is a great combo. More bread!! Challah making in progress!
Two white men, one wearing an orange shirt one wearing a brown shirt stand in front of a bright red stand mixer
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family. Chosen family is real family.
bubble font in the shape of a heart reads "Chosen family is real family"
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 27/11/2024
Truly incredible the wonders caffeine + lifting weights is doing for my mental health. Annoyingly effective. Though, I may need to figure out a different approach because IDK my budget can afford my Celsius addiction #mentalhealth
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/11/2024
It is now I guess!
White man with blond hair wearing a multi-colored patterned Speedo-cut bathing suit. He is wearing reflexive sunglasses, laying on a green and white striped towel, and reading the book “Opening Up”
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 22/11/2024
I’ve been really stressed the past few weeks as a bunch of life & work stuff has all been adding up (working multiple jobs and them all having intense demands at the same time is NOT FUN) and idk what happened but my body said “you will rest!” and just fully bottomed out overnight 🤒 So I’m resting
Brian laying in bed sick, with a sleep eye mask pushed up into his hair
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 21/11/2024
Reskeet the spectacles, nerds 🤓
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 20/11/2024
UPDATE I somehow got on a YoungLife email list and they just sent me an email!
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 20/11/2024
8 months since our wedding but 16 years since we met. I really love this guy 🥰
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 20/11/2024
Post a pic of you from a different era. (Same shirt, 9 months apart. Right as I was coming out but working at a YoungLife camp while closeted; the other at a gay club in 2004/05 with my supportive straight roommate)
Two 20-something-year-olds, a white man with short dirty blonde hair and a white woman with shoulder length dirty blonde hair, in matching blue t-shirts that say “Lake Champion ‘04 Young Life Summer Staff ‘Workin Wonders’”Two young white men pose for a picture in a club with a dark background.
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/11/2024
Quote this with a mirror pic (discovered almost all my mirror pics started as thirsty snaps to friends. This is the safest-for-work one)
Shirtless white male with blonde hair takes a mirror selfie
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/11/2024
Not my kinky, gay self thinking this was a different MAL 🤣🤣🤣
Screenshot of a post from Threads by ronaldfilipkowski which reads:

"Joe Scarborough dismissed critics of his trip to MAL, saying they are disconnected from “the real world.” Dear Morning Joe, we are part of the Real World, and elitist condescension only makes this worse. Story."
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Brian G. Murphy @thisisbgm.bsky.social · 19/11/2024
Luke has just “blessed/happy are the poor” not “poor in spirit”… … And then goes on to lay out his vision for inverting the oppressive status quo. It’s very clearly a critique of injustice, not an endorsement of it (I know you know this)
Screenshot of a Bible website 

Luke 6:20-26
Common English Bible
Happy people and doomed people

20 Jesus raised his eyes to his disciples and said:

“Happy are you who are poor,
    because God’s kingdom is yours.
21 Happy are you who hunger now,
    because you will be satisfied.
Happy are you who weep now,
    because you will laugh.
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