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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 11/06/2026

Rolled out of bed this morning and gave a webinar to 370+ forensic practitioners from around the world. I had folks from *33* countries on FOUR continents show up to listen to me ramble. 😳

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Pudgy Penguin Holding Earth Globe

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 02/06/2026

Hey! I’m working on background for my next book project. Do you have someone you consider to be a platonic life partner? I want to know more about your relationship and your experiences! Tell me more here: www.surveymonkey.com/r/VT2MJX9

A poster reading "THEY'RE MY RIDE OR DIE"
A survey exploring non-romantic committed relationships. Are you over 18+ and in a committed relationship that doesn't fit society's usual labels?
We want to hear from you!!
Help us shape the future for non-traditional committed partnerships by telling us about you & yours!

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 20/05/2026

This is why @jwgoerlich.bsky.social and I wrote Securing Sexuality: Emerging Issues at the Intersection of Intimacy and Technology: Because our whole intimate-relational landscape is changing and no one knows (yet) how it impacts us or what’s coming next. Fascinating!

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 18/05/2026

My kid (2x transplant recipient) signed up to walk while *IN* the hospital. He said “when I can’t do my cardio, the cardio comes to me.” NKF has played a huge part in his life. I’m proud of him for showing up, just 2 days after being discharged, to give back. www.kidneywalk.org/detroitzoo/R...

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Riordan's Fundraising Page at 2026 Michigan Kidney Walk at the Detroit Zoo

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 09/05/2026

I am moved beyond words to have my work honored by the Society for Sex Therapy and Research’s scientific co-chairs with a specially created Honorable Mention award for Work Addressing Sexuality & Sociopolitical Factors at this weekend’s SSTAR conference. I am thrilled. I am humbled. I am happy.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com · 31/03/2026

I said this in replies elsewhere, but I want to say it loudly here. Anything other than a fullthroated affirmation of birthright citizenship in this country by SCOTUS is an act of treason. It is grounds for immediate impeachment. It is a violation of every oath they have made.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 16/11/2024

I’m making a Sexology Starter Pack for anyone who’s interested in following some of the coolest voices in Sex Therapy & Research. Here’s the link, if you wanna follow. Shoot me a message if you’d like to be added to the list!

QR code linking to the Sexology, Sex Research, & Slay starter pack.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 24/02/2026

Awwwww… it’s so sweet of the spammers to want to wine & dine me before they steal all my data. 🥰🥰🥰

Screen cap of a spam email that reads “starting soon! Candlelight chat” then goes on to say my protection plan is expired.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 05/01/2026

I love it when I find solid cybersecurity advice in the wild.

A comment from FB that says “probably phishing for your email. Don’t DP anything.”

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 15/12/2025

I see you, red triangle posters, “globalize the intifada” sharers. You’re not woke. You’re just complicit.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 14/12/2025

Yesterday, it was suggested that I hide our menorah in a cabinet while our new fridge was delivered. I was told it might not be safe to be visibly Jewish with strangers in the house. I scoffed at the idea, but I put it away until they left. I’m not scoffing anymore. www.npr.org/2025/12/14/g...

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Gunmen kill at least 11 people at a Jewish event at Sydney's Bondi Beach

Hundreds had gathered for an event at Bondi Beach called Chanukah by the Sea, which was celebrating the start of the Hanukkah Jewish festival.

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J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · 10/12/2025

The perfect gift for the therapists in your life just hit the book shelves. This is the book I wrote with @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social, explaining cybersecurity concepts and impacts, directly in the language of clinicians. Use the code 25SMA4 at routledge.com for 20% off.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 04/11/2025

Giving my midterm presentation on the Epistomology of Technology tonight; so of course I’m rocking my QR tank, Clippy earrings and 8bit hourglass hair clip. #weloveatheme

Stefani, wearing the outfit described in the post

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 01/11/2025

The three phases of womanhood: “I’m a mouse, duh.” “I’m the COOL coworker.” “Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”

A picture of the mouse costume from Mean Girls, a pic of a teacher dressed as Ms Frizzle, and a pic of Stefani in a sequined anglerfish costume.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 27/10/2025

Does anyone have a Sora invite code they can send my way? I’m trying to prove a point in one of my PhD classes.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 08/10/2025

Apparently overt xenophobia is dress code compliant at my local Target. The family in line right behind me? Was not English-speaking. 😡 Yes, I said something. Yes, this timeline sucks.

An anonymized photo of a Target cashier wearing a t-shirt that says “speak English” on it.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 27/09/2025

Proving my point: He had a typo in the first draft of this post when he showed it to me. 👩‍🎓

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 23/09/2025

Talking about today’s Rapture news and I find out that @jwgoerlich.bsky.social unironically watched the Left Behind movies in the early aughts w/ *no* religious context at all… and kept waiting for the aliens to arrive & explain where all the people went. My “preacher’s grandkid” mind is reeling.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 22/09/2025

Hey, question: Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 05/09/2025

I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a camera cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 01/08/2025

Looking for an expert in the philosophy of robots to interview for an episode of Securing Sexuality. Is that you? Or someone you know? Reach out! #robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers

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Zendaya, confused @likeadeuce.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

LeGuin wrote about the desire for 'unassailable safety' as one of the deep roots of evil, and I think about that a lot.

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Chris B 🐻🌈 @loottheroom.bsky.social · 24/07/2025

There's a direct line from "no kink at Pride" and "no sex in movies and books unless it Serves The Plot" to payment processors feeling completely empowered to censor art globally

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 18/07/2025

Very niche question: Who in the #infosec community 1) plays #mahjongg and 2) is gonna be at #Blackhat? I’d love to set up some cocktail bar pickup games while we’re in town.

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a group of people are playing a game of mahjong with dice .

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 09/07/2025

Oh it’s happening!! And you can preorder it here: www.routledge.com/Securing-Sex...

Two humanoid androids embrace against a soft background of binary on the cover of a book titled Securing Sexuality: Emerging Issues at the Intersection of Intimacy and Technology.

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J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · 07/07/2025

Securing Sexuality: the book. Tech drives how we meet, date, marry, raise kids. Attacks on it undermines our agency and privacy. This book, written with @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social, helps therapist, coaches, activists think like punk, act like a hacker, and take back control over our private lives.

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J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · 10/05/2025

Stefani Goerlich giving the closing keynote at #BSidesDetroit. “We’re confusing information sharing with intimacy and surveillance with love.”

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 01/03/2025

So incredibly honored and humbled by the kind words about my work. 🩷

Stefani in a pink sweater standing next to a graffitied wall. There is a quote that reads “Goerlich has emerged as an important voice in the field of sex therapy…a guide to help vanilla people and their kinky partners look across the divide with curiosity and empathy, to understand and affirm their own erotic selves, and to create bridges toward a mutually satisfying sex life.” By Caroline Maykut from the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 25/01/2025

Despite what my certificate from today says, I am *not* a cybersecurity expert. So you don’t HAVE to listen to me. But, c’mon guys… please don’t give your biometric data to effing Steak ‘n Shake. 🤦🏻‍♀️

A counter sign at Steak n Shake guiding people through the process of linking their face to their bank account to pay for hamburgers.

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Someone once casually dropped “Abusers groom allies too” into a conversation and my entire worldview shifted in that instant.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 10/01/2025

2 people are in the bedroom. One says “put this in FRONT of the bedroom door, so I remember to take it with me.” Where would you put the thing: A ) Inside the bedroom, where you’d open the door to exit. B ) Outside the bedroom in the hallway, where you’d see it once you’d opened the door to exit.

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Midori @planetmidori.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

Join Midori for an exclusive Patreon dive into controversial A24 film, Babygirl, w/ forensic s*xologist & clinical social worker @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social bit.ly/3BYA7N7

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

In my 1st PhD cognate class (a non-Social Work subject related to my research) & in the profs introduction she tells us that she got her degree in this field & after realizing that she wouldn't succeed in her 1st-choice major: Social Work. ...I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut this term. 🤐

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 28/12/2024

Me: I’m so sad we’re not going back to Israel next month for my birthday. My Israeli friends: SURPRISE! We’re gonna be in Detroit next month, just in time for your birthday! Me: 🥰

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 26/12/2024

Okay, I fulfilled my Jewish mitzvah of Chinese food and a movie for Christmas. Unfortunately, we decided to see Babygirl. Now? I have to do my duty as a Sex Therapist & BDSM/kink author to tell y’all that it’s just SO bad. I hated it. HATED it. Did we learn *nothing* from the 50 Shades fiasco?

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 15/12/2024

Iris Apfel died on March 1st of this year. I messaged my tattoo artist the day her passing was announced. He books 6-9 months out. Yesterday was finally “Iris Day.” I hope we all can live as long, as joyfully, and as authentically. May we all have style. 👑

A watercolor style tattoo of style icon Iris Apfel tattooed on a forearm.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 13/12/2024

Oh hey! Are you stuck on what to get your partner as a holiday gift this year? I’m giving away *five* autographed copies of my book for couples plus a special (for grown-ups only!) toy. Just follow me here, share this post, & comment below for a chance to receive a holiday gift from me! 🎁

An image of Stefani’s book with cookies above it and the caption “Add some Sprinkles to your holiday.”

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Erin Reed @erininthemorning.com · 11/12/2024

Incredible news! Montana’s Supreme Court just affirmed that the state’s gender affirming care ban is likely unconstitutional. This makes the state the first state Supreme Court to rule that trans medical care is protected. This applies REGARDLESS of what the US Supreme Court does.

targets, the District Court reasonably concluded that the balance of the equities tips toward
preliminary relief pending full consideration of the merits. Its analysis of the last two
preliminary injunction factors was not arbitrary or unreasonable. The court did not
manifestly abuse its discretion, and its injunction was not overbroad.
156 Finally, both parties have submitted notices of supplemental authority, citing recent
cases considering challenges to various laws regarding gender-affirming care. Without
exception, the additional authority pertains to claims grounded in the equal protection
clause or otherwise based on alleged unlawful discrimination. Some of the authorities also
reference new developments in research and evidence that was not part of the record
presented to the District Court in the preliminary injunction proceedings. Because, on the
record here, the District Court's conclusions on Montana's express privacy protections are
sufficient to uphold its preliminary injunction, we affirm on that basis. The parties will
have the opportunity during the merits proceeding for full development of the record, where their experts may offer insight on any new research, and for briefing on the current case law relative to their claims.
CONCLUSION
157 The District Court made no error of law and did not manifestly abuse its discretion.
We affirm its grant of a preliminary injunction on the basis of Plaintiffs' right to privacy claim. The case will proceed to trial, at which point the District Court will finally resolve the disputed facts and issue a final determination on the constitutional issues presented.
/S/ BETH BAKER
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We Concur:
/S/ MIKE McGRATH
/S/ LAURIE MCKINNON
/S/ INGRID GUSTAFSON /S/ DIRK M. SANDEFUR
/S/ JAMES JEREMIAH SHEA

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Doug DeJulio @dfjdejulio.bsky.social · 10/12/2024

The ovulation tracking app, "Ovia", now mandates you identify what state you live in. Delete immediately and warn anyone who might need to know.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 10/12/2024

Today I set a clear role-and-responsibility boundary by looking a professional colleague dead in the eye and telling them “This is not my circus. I am but a monkey” like the (definitely grown-up and) consummate professional that I am. 😎

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 05/12/2024

Kink (mental health) providers- quote post w a photo & your fav kinks - Boundary setting - Validating Big Feelings - Cognitive Challenging - Shame Reduction - Normalization - Administering Hard Truths - BDSM psychoeducation - Trauma Care (Am I doing this right?)

Stefani in a pink sweater that says “brilliant”

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 05/12/2024

Working on a paper for my PhD Social Stats class. We get to use our own area of research interest for each assignment; which is how I came to create this lil beauty right here. E.L. James might be a terrible writer; but she spawned a veritable kink science renaissance.

Line graph showing that there was a roughly 300% increase in BDSM/kink research published after the release of the 1st 50 Shades book.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 03/12/2024

Hey Stef, do you cosplay? No… I dress like Persephone pretty much every day, why?

Side by side pics of Stefani wearing two coats: one black patent leather with black faux fun collar & cuffs and one beige trench coat covered in wildflowers

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Hen Mazzig @henmazzig.bsky.social · 01/12/2024

Today, an Israeli Jewish backpacker was beaten in Thailand. Yesterday, a Jewish student was assaulted in a nightclub in Ireland. The day before, Jewish schoolgirls in London were attacked in the streets with glass bottles. When will this end?

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