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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 1h

I grew up being told that Bruce Forsyth was a BAD PERSON. When I asked my Mum about it as an adult, I expected something very Yewtree, but it turns out he was just really rude to her at work in the '70s.

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chiller @chiller.eurosky.social · 4h

They are just the best copilots for getting through life. 💕 Lovely pic.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 4h

Mother and daughter. I love waking up to find her asleep in my bed like a human, head on the other pillow, fast asleep, mirroring whatever position I've been sleeping in. Definite cryptid.

Selfie. Me on the left with dark eyes, black framed specs and a teal fringe, and my little tuxedo cat on the right with a pink nose and dayglo eyes in the light of the camera. Our faces are touching.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...I think this might be a common thing among humans that isn't talked about enough. The only time I've ever heard it cited is 20 years ago by Kunt and the Gang, in the lyric "when I'm having it off and think of my old dad- FUCKSTICKS!" Profound.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...I can't not get intrusive thoughts of sad things, like drowning children in news stories, and people who react with laugh emojis, and it kills it for me, and I'm the opposite of horny...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...It's one thing being distracted as a neurowonk person, but being perpetually cock/clitblocked by your own brain, even with yourself, is another...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

Re: a previous post, who else here has intrusive thoughts? I wrote an entire tragicomedy song earlier, in my head, which rhymed, about having mood-killing intrusive thoughts during intimate moments...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

P.s. if you're a person with a penis reading this and thinking that's a factor, the shape or size or existence of that is not a thing when it comes to good sex.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

Does anyone else have disappointing sex dreams? The dream person is very attractive, and very enthusiastic, but logistically inept?

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

P.s. I only learned about Makaton sign language a few weeks ago (though the Andrew Kotting film at the Electric Palace, and his daughter Eden who communicates that way)...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...and it's not because the person is deaf - a common misconception - but it's for when there's a reason they can't talk so easily through mouth sounds.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

P.s. I only learned about Makaton sign language a few weeks ago (though the Andrew Kotting film at the Electric Palace, and his daughter Eden who communicates that way)...

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r #FreeŁink @rifka.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

No it’s definitely bangs as in multiple hairs in a row

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The Merciless Peppers of Quetzlzacatejimbo @redjolt.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

The temptation is to say “it looks banging” but that’s too easy frankly so I’ll instead say it just looks really good.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...Whatever the situation, I feel so awful for him, his carers and his family. Also the tiger, but he's fine.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...Some people don't have the voice that stops the impulse, and if that were the situation with the man and the tiger, I feel so awful for him, his carers, and his family...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...It's like people with a new baby who have the impulse to throw them out of a window, or off a balcony. The knowing not to do that is healthy, but the urge is the other voice. Most of us have the other voice...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...Except that would be the worst thing, so the impulse dares me. I don't want to risk it. My internal barristers are a big part of why I still have body parts...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...I do not want my hand chopped off...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...I can't live in a building with a lift that has a trellis door and no safety protocols, because my front-impulse wants to stick my hand straight in that, because it'll be chopped off...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...Not literal voices, but this might be the case for some. We have neurological backup. My brain is full of internal barristers...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...This turned into a conversation tonight about our own intrusive thoughts and impulses, and how lucky we are that we (me) have another internal voice that immediately stops us doing The Impulsive Mad Thing...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...We know little about the man, but apparently (unconfirmed) he was communicating in Makaton, which indicates the neurological difficulties he had...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...The tiger is fine, and the tiger will be fine. The park confirmed that the protocol doesn't work like it does with domestic dogs. The tiger will live...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...I also saw unfortunate jokes and gotchas on here, and a clusterbomb of blame, which were all insensitive in context...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

During the night yesterday, I read posts by people who work in zoos and wildlife parks, and people who work with people with complicated neurological situations...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...It was inspired by the probably-fictional, good-hair girlfriend of Lizzy Borden on Netflix. When I let it fringe/bang and mentioned this in the pub, it sparked a gender war conversation around me about female murderers Vs male ones. The fringe became moot...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

...I cut it a while ago, but have been sweeping it back, combining it with the rest of that chaotic situation, so nobody knew. I've been fringing (or banging) in private to see if I like it...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

Tldr, pic at end of thread. I've been soft-launching a fringe lately (or "bangs" if you're American, though there is only one of it, so it is a singular "bang")...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

They may not have screamed in your face, but it's likely they've screamed in someone else's face, usually that of a partner.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

You should tell them. You know them. If you meet men, in any context, you know them. Tell them.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

You should tell them. You know them. If you meet men, in any context, you know them. Tell them.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

...These men are hoping, on some level, that the one blonde woman in the pub that night - or some other imagined woman in their head - will call them a hero. Maybe give them a lollipop and pat their head for their service. It really isn't for women and girls at all. It's entirely for them.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

-they go out, chests high, PROTECTING WOMEN from some imagined *other*...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

...Instead of doing something that might help women and girls in a practical sense, like talking to other cis, straight men about violence, or therapy, or regulating emotions, maybe forming a support group with no reward other than progress-

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

...Hearing recently vocal transphobes, The Proclaimers, on an advert just now, made me think of the psychology of male transphobes. There are so very many more of them than female transphobes...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

...A lot of those men (I think one in five- might look for exact statistics when it's not the middle of the night) have convictions for it...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

...There are men who march against refugees, en masse, saying it's to defend women and children from a threat they think is coming. Many women have since come forward to say that the men marching are domestic abusers...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

...In those men's minds, they were heroes. They were PROTECTING WOMEN from whatever imagined *other* we were. They were brave knights. She might reward them for their bravery...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

...Some men we'd never met beat us up, because one blonde woman they'd been sitting with had told them that the sight of us kissing on the distant dancefloor made her feel unsafe. About eight of them, in their twenties, full of hormones, set upon us. I was thrown down a (small) flight of stairs...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

Thirty years ago, I was queerbashed in a bar for snogging my friend...

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GHOULrandTheftArtaud @itskristenpaul.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

Just imagining Ringo Starr doing the commentary of my death...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

...I want you to think about the power dynamics involved, and how the other person reacted. I want you to think about how you'd do it differently. I want you to think.

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

...I just want you to think back on times you've shut down a situation by shouting and getting in someone's face, especially a woman or child, and what caused you to do that...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

...Sometimes we wake up with a panic attack, reliving it, still surviving. Men reading this, I don't want a confessional in my DMs, or a reassurance that you're not like that. That's not my job...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

...We all have our de-escalation strategies. In our heads, we fight like a Power Ranger, or say something clever and cutting, or do anything else a woman in a film written by a man would do, but we'd be dead by now if we did that, so we do the opposite, and survive...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

...Most of us, especially those born with vag as factory settings, have been in this situation hundreds, possibly thousands of times...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

...The shouting means we should not talk, because it is making him uncomfortable. If we do, there will be potential consequences, because he is big and loud...

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Juliet Brando @sliderulesyou.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

...The loudness and proximity is an implied threat of violence. We've all felt it, from partners, and fathers, and former friends, or partners of friends...

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