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chelsea g. summers @chelseagsummers.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

I think that there have been some genuinely heartening shifts in some aspects of non-institutional culture even since I was in school, but the basic systems of power that are built to invisibilize sexual violence seem to have changed extremely little!!

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Your mom and I are the same age. It's truly fucking depressing how little has changed in terms of the prevalence of sexual violence, the treatment of survivors, the deflection of causation, or how easily privileged guys just skate away to fail upwards.

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Okay did the math wrong and my mom was actually born in ‘62 so it’s closer to “my mom’s generation born from the 50s-70s”

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As for me, I was in high school and college in the late aughts and early teens and I promise you that the culture of shaming and silence was even worse then! The fact sexual violence is still so virulent today is a condemnation of so many aspects of society, but it is not new.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Extremely dispiriting to see so much rhetoric acting like internet porn created sexual violence when you can talk to any woman in my mom’s generation born in the 60s and 70s and confirm that endemic sexual abuse was significantly more rampant and simply not talked about.

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Which is just to say that the whole Cornell College case is pretty fucking triggering lol

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

The phenomenon of people pushing you into getting drunk and doing more drugs after you tried again and again to politely make it clear that you are not interested in something so that they can try to pressure you into acquiescing is not just a thing cis straight dudes do.

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jj skolnik @supremenothing.myatproto.social · 15/09/2026

trans people are by and large the working class. we get paid less than cis people overall (trans men make less than cis women, and trans women make less than everyone). we face housing and job discrimination. when will the conmentariat get this into their goddamned heads

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

not even a month post-op so still lots of swelling but I look so much better than I ever imagined—after subpar results from round one eight years ago I pretty much fully resigned myself to the overwhelming psychic distress of mirrors and photos never fading but now it's completely evaporated. magic!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

when I was still deciding on direction I was going back in forth on fat transfusion to my cheeks and my bff said “well is it more important for you to give cunty model or to give woman” and the choice was obvious

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

went as far away from the popular buccal fat removal trend that is making all the cis women celebrities clockier and instead went as far into cute full cheek round face aesthetic as I could get my surgeon to go (replete with a lil upturned nose), and I am not regretting it!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

won’t be posting pictures of myself for a long time (if ever because the internet is evil now) but have to say that my face, at least at this point in healing, is kind of giving whimsical puppetry inspired elven Ocarina of Time remake

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 01/09/2026

last couple years I was getting a lil more androgynous with it to cope with my remaining dysphoria but honestly after I'm fully healed from this I suspect I'll be returning to my femme era in a big way

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

this is a reminder to the girls that you should be incredibly specific and thorough about what you want (and shoot for the moon), and that if you are early enough in transition to either not know / are too timid to be direct about what you want then it may be worth it to wait.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

not gonna do the face healing progress pic thing but just got my wraps off after the first week and jfc it’s insane how totally transformed I am, infinitely more than my first round eight years ago. tons of swelling still has to go down to fully see but I am ecstatic

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Kill Tim Faust 💀 @tbone.malware-virus.biz · 26/08/2026

my wife has a friend who sent Dolly Parton a painting she made & a letter explaining how much Dolly's music meant to her while she was transitioning. Dolly responded to it personally & paid for her top surgery. Sounds like an urban legend but it's real. I think we're going to more stories like this.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 25/08/2026

Even more depressing than when porn was usurped as the majority of the early internet because of the rise and growing ubiquity of Facebook

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

Like no one is going to stop you obviously but it was genuinely disturbing to learn that this is a common thing people talk about doing now. The greatest thing a novel can do is give you a true window into the Other, not an endless myopic masturbation of the Self!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

If you are skipping parts of books because you don’t sufficiently “relate” to something (whether it be a plot line or a character), you are doing yourself and the book a huge disservice—such a gross consumerist way of understanding / engaging with novels (or any storytelling)

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

basically, universal goods that build solidarity and deliver rights? good. appealing to a conditional liberal tolerance in the hope that it will help us instead of inevitably be wielded against us? bad!

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seriously medical trauma fucked me up, wild it took me until the beginning of this year to get back to the 🔪

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8 yrs later ffs revisions less than a week out 😈

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I do think rooting access to bathrooms, medicine, etc. in more universal arguments isn’t inherently bad, but that’s not relying on the good faith of people who, and this is proven by history and the present moment, will truly not go out of their way for us when it matters.

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The “you can change your sex” argument is convincing because it’s rooted in materiality—in contradiction to the very unconvincing liberal tolerance core “you transition gender not sex” mode of the so-called “Transgender Tipping Point” which most liberals still think is the line.

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If we accept advocating purely for liberal tolerance and only care about what transitioning sex does ourselves, as we have seen in the UK and beyond this will just be further leveraged to deny us rights and the liberals who are supposedly on our side will barely lift a finger.

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The trappings of so-called liberal tolerance are all over the transphobic movements stripping trans rights outside of the US, and increasingly here too as outward transphobia becomes more acceptable. As we can all see, Overton windows are extremely shiftable!

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Danielle Froom 🏳️‍🌈 @danifroom.bsky.social · 23/07/2026

I think it’s easier/more stable to gain marginalized rights through universal goods (see Cuba’s Family Code) instead of particular demands that can be scapegoated into culture wars, but I also think the idea that “liberal tolerance” means people fighting for our rights is naive.

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🎉And then House Democrats voted to ban healthcare for trans servicemembers AND ban trans kids in military families from playing sports🎉

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isaac 🫃🏻 @androgynyfiend.bsky.social · 22/07/2026

siobhan risks losing her job and insurance as she pursues this legal battle further. she is also about to move to protect her roommates from a potential doxxing situation as she's being harassed by l*bs of t*kt*k. if you want to help out at all, here's her GFM gofund.me/6adb9ca6f

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I mean as always I wish all trans women somehow still in the military a very quit the military now instead of continuing to be complicit as a cog in the imperialist murder machine or I don’t have much sympathy for you!

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Tbf it auto added it because that was the music I chose for the post, because it was funny

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This is why it sucks when babytrans villainize “passing” trans women who have just been doing this so much longer than them—for the most part they’re villainizing a future version of themself who’s been through what they’re going through and frankly knows much more than them!

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Luck and privilege has something to do with it—some girls speedrun surgeries, transition earlier—but lots of the time the difference between them is someone who started a handful of years ago vs. someone who’s really let HRT do its work and saved up for / got insurance to pay for surgeries.

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