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The phenomenon of people pushing you into getting drunk and doing more drugs after you tried again and again to politely make it clear that you are not interested in something so that they can try to pressure you into acquiescing is not just a thing cis straight dudes do.

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jj skolnik @supremenothing.myatproto.social · 15/09/2026

trans people are by and large the working class. we get paid less than cis people overall (trans men make less than cis women, and trans women make less than everyone). we face housing and job discrimination. when will the conmentariat get this into their goddamned heads

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

not even a month post-op so still lots of swelling but I look so much better than I ever imagined—after subpar results from round one eight years ago I pretty much fully resigned myself to the overwhelming psychic distress of mirrors and photos never fading but now it's completely evaporated. magic!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

won’t be posting pictures of myself for a long time (if ever because the internet is evil now) but have to say that my face, at least at this point in healing, is kind of giving whimsical puppetry inspired elven Ocarina of Time remake

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 01/09/2026

last couple years I was getting a lil more androgynous with it to cope with my remaining dysphoria but honestly after I'm fully healed from this I suspect I'll be returning to my femme era in a big way

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

not gonna do the face healing progress pic thing but just got my wraps off after the first week and jfc it’s insane how totally transformed I am, infinitely more than my first round eight years ago. tons of swelling still has to go down to fully see but I am ecstatic

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Timmy Jackpots, The $13,250 Diamond Dazzler @tbone.malware-virus.biz · 26/08/2026

my wife has a friend who sent Dolly Parton a painting she made & a letter explaining how much Dolly's music meant to her while she was transitioning. Dolly responded to it personally & paid for her top surgery. Sounds like an urban legend but it's real. I think we're going to more stories like this.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 25/08/2026

Even more depressing than when porn was usurped as the majority of the early internet because of the rise and growing ubiquity of Facebook

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

If you are skipping parts of books because you don’t sufficiently “relate” to something (whether it be a plot line or a character), you are doing yourself and the book a huge disservice—such a gross consumerist way of understanding / engaging with novels (or any storytelling)

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

basically, universal goods that build solidarity and deliver rights? good. appealing to a conditional liberal tolerance in the hope that it will help us instead of inevitably be wielded against us? bad!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

8 yrs later ffs revisions less than a week out 😈

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

I think it’s easier/more stable to gain marginalized rights through universal goods (see Cuba’s Family Code) instead of particular demands that can be scapegoated into culture wars, but I also think the idea that “liberal tolerance” means people fighting for our rights is naive.

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isaac 🫃🏻 @androgynyfiend.bsky.social · 22/07/2026

siobhan risks losing her job and insurance as she pursues this legal battle further. she is also about to move to protect her roommates from a potential doxxing situation as she's being harassed by l*bs of t*kt*k. if you want to help out at all, here's her GFM gofund.me/6adb9ca6f

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 22/07/2026

I mean as always I wish all trans women somehow still in the military a very quit the military now instead of continuing to be complicit as a cog in the imperialist murder machine or I don’t have much sympathy for you!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 22/07/2026

Lots of the tension between “passing” and “non-passing” trans women seems to come from just those of us who started transitioning years and years ago vs. those of us who are fairly new to it—they’re often the same people at vastly different points in time.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 15/07/2026

Some people are calling this gender affirming care as a haha gotcha but this is actually directly in line with a radically anti-transsexual politics because it’s its mirror opposite—propping up the cissexual gender binary through medical intervention.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 15/07/2026

I did a large amount of psychedelics yesterday for my birthday (guided by my two partners) and when I took a bath it was the first time I felt completely happy and at peace with my body in all its imperfection for the first time in my life—pretty incredible thing

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 10/07/2026

Babe I don’t care what Christians think—I think the way I do because I’m a materialist who primarily cares about how people actually show up and live in the world and I don’t care much about a theoretical inner self that may or may not exist, a self which is funny enough a pretty Christian idea!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 09/07/2026

I am always adrift on both sides of lesbian/bisexual discourse beacause I think that all that matters is what you do and not what you “are”, so sex or a relationship between two women is lesbian and sex or relationship between a man and a woman is straight regardless of identities.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 05/07/2026

Changing your sex in one way or another has and will always be more subversive than any gender presentation by itself could ever be.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 04/07/2026

I know plenty of trans people irl who aren’t men or women and don’t transition medically who are genuinely so cool, but the way non-medically transitioning queerness-as-fandom enbies are consistently the most noxiously transmisogynistic queers online it’s easy to forget

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 02/07/2026

Looking at Pinterest to find reference photos for my partner’s project and it’s 99% AI slop. The internet used to be the place for everything and now it’s a hall of mirrors—time to get a book at the library by real interior designers instead of these soulless amalgamations.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 30/06/2026

Scrotum without testicles—the only flag I stand for 🫡

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 27/06/2026

In any reasonable society the DSA would be center left, with the Democrat establishment being center right and the Republicans off the map. While my personal politics are to the left of the DSA, I’m thrilled to vote for them and will never entertain voting to their right again!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 24/06/2026

Your response to “trans surgeries are not accessible for everyone” should be “we must center material demands for them to be accessible for everyone”. If your response instead is “not transitioning is actually sooooo valid and btw surgeries are dangerous and bad” you are the enemy!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 21/06/2026

Making complicated art about deeply flawed trans people is good, but the kind of people who take art as necessarily holding moral lessons either condemn it for existing or accept it by treating transition as some sort of confessional booth where all your past sins are forgiven.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

The idea that the way to be a good Marxist is to throw away your class privilege and go do hard labor is part of why there are so many trust fund kids larping as poor. Real ones use their privilege to aid class struggle rather than doing this weird Christian guilt shit

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 13/06/2026

I think certain trans lesbians and certain straight trans women are far crueler to one another than is reasonably called for

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 06/06/2026

Some of you happily licking up obviously AI produced theory slop from people who are known to use AI and still stay in denial—sad!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

A hard truth is that making declarative statements about vast parts of culture because they make you feel insecure make you look like just as much of an ass as the people doing the conflating—another way is possible

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

Early transition is hard and I understand why insecurities arise—lots of people are ignorant and your selfhood being conflated with a performance sucks! But there are tons of trans people exploring and celebrating selfhood through drag, and I recommend you check them out!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

Drag isn't my thing and now that I'm most of a decade into transition I don't have insecurities about it, but I get the impulse! But drag culture is the child of ball culture, which was created and dominated by trans women of color. Like it or not, drag culture *is* trans culture

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

Yes, RuPaul as a person is a transphobic piece of shit and mainstream drag culture can be very transmisogynistic! But there's a reason the dolls have come to dominate it as they've eroded his anti-trans rules (and before dolls were allowed we appeared anyway and "came out" after)

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

To be kind, when I transitioned I too had conflicted feelings—my first Pride after coming out I had people mistake me for a drag queen, I've obvi had the experience of cïs women randomly telling me "omg I LOVE RuPaul"—it hurt! But seeing my first all trans drag show fixed me

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 03/06/2026

An AI slop thinkpiece doesn't need to be good, it just need to churn up enough controversy that everyone talks about it until the next one drops. Precise thinking and prose isn't valued, so as long as vibes match some will eat it up. The only thing to do is to refuse to play.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 02/06/2026

Transmedicalism still means “gatekeeping people from trans healthcare if they don’t conform to hyper specific gender norms/jump through hoops” but now it’s mostly used to refer to “trans person talking about how you should try HRT” or “trans woman talking about transmisogyny”

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 02/06/2026

Looks like she blocked me but pretending to be the victim after coming onto my post to call me a cis bootlicker or whatever because I had the audacity to respond back as a “big account” is very funny stuff

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 01/06/2026

Check your reading comprehension babe, I never said anything about trans women having male privilege! Also this is a gross way to talk to another woman for saying “there is large overlap in trans and cis woman experiences and potential for solidarity” lol

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 01/06/2026

Wanting to not get bottom surgery is fine, but I feel like the rise in stuff suggesting “trans women = girl with a penis” coming from trans people instead of cis people is a product of obsession with validity politics (and in some cases cope) at the cost of material demands.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 30/05/2026

Some trans social media figures are only able to get followers through churning up fake controversy so they stay on your lips—being the center of internet discourse once and a while is one thing, but if one name is coming up constantly it’s bc the drama is what they’re offering.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 29/05/2026

The Baron in the Trees is my namesake btw!! Could not be more excited

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 29/05/2026

As unhappy as I was for dysphoria reasons, I'm glad that I had a period in my late teens / early twenties where I got to really party hard. Very sad seeing the generations who really never got that because of the constant fear of social media surveillance and/or the pandemic!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 28/05/2026

Talked to a friend about how BDS observant groceries have a hard time getting things in like Matzah for Passover because the vast majority is produced in Israel and there's like one alternative in Poland that's booked out bc of the demand—huge opportunity for anti-Zionist bakers!

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 28/05/2026

Many people on the ostensible "left" are so easily taken in by reactionary talking points around transness because very few of them have taken the time to actually deconstruct cisheteronormative dogma and so their pro-trans beliefs are just slogans.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 28/05/2026

That failure for society to sort me correctly was not experienced as a privilege but as a structural violence—I internalized that misogyny in how I thought about myself because I never really thought of myself as a boy (+ was told constantly I was a girl), just like any cis girl.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

Every cis woman has at least some internalized misogyny developed throughout her childhood from living in a deeply patriarchal society—a large part of coming into feminism is working through that! Yet the same grace is not offered to trans women who suffered through the same thing.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 21/05/2026

taking a break from here and Twitter because they are bad for me! find me on Instagram or if you know me and have my email or number you can always do that ✨

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 21/05/2026

Womanhood (esp of the white cis variety) holds a lot of power, and a certain kind of TME (transmisogyny exempt) trans person (both nonbinary + trans men) feels like they are losing access to that in transition and so constantly invoke their proximity to it while throwing trans women under the bus.

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cozy @bimbotheory.bsky.social · 21/05/2026

I have quite a few individual men in my life that I like quite a lot (both cis and trans), but despite my best efforts I am back to disliking men as a category by default until they prove otherwise because I am real tired of their shit

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