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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Oh that's cool thank you for the resource as much as I hate it is necessary it is good to have a way to check I hope you have a beautiful day too The world is terrible but we keep reminding each other that there's good things in the world too 🫂 🖤🏳️‍⚧️🖤

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Good call. Some people just aren't willing to care

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Tell me where I told you not to vote Oh wait I didn't I called you to stand up for your values and pointed out that no movements in history have gone back for the people they left behind to win You took that to mean you shouldn't vote for Talarico Maybe give that a hard think

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

If someone encouraging you to reflect on your ethics and stand for your values feels like they're telling you not to vote for someone... ... Maybe follow that feeling... explore that space... ya know... consider the all the angles

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

And you wonder why people don't believe you'll fight for trans rights after the election is over

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

You might push for a candidate to defend trans people after they are elected but are you really so naive to believe that the majority will? Are you so unaware of how deeply transphobic our society is? People can't even give up stupid Harry Potter to support trans people

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Hey buddy listen up No political movement in history has ever gone back to defend the people they deemed disposable How long did it take Black women to get the vote after white feminists abandoned them? How many dead trans women are you personally comfortable with dying while they wait?

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Who ya gonna call???? GHOSTBUSTERS!

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

If you're a trans masc/man who identifies as Butch and you're about to get real angry at me Consider that I don't care what you think about how I view my identity Read the room and the moment and learn that you aren't always the birthday boy

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Part of why I get so vocal against calling Butch women masculine is I don't think there's anything unique to manhood that is worth incorporating into my identity And y'all haven't decoupled masculinity from being male Every part of me that y'all label as masculine is just your misogyny

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

This right here is why I enjoy being mutuals Lol Yes Only I think I'd trust Eminem more than this douchecannoe

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

But Kate... The man needs a system A 1-800 number to call A complaint form to fill out A website to file a report Someone else to be responsible His shoulders too weak His mind too scared His heart too cowardly He yearns for his mama to fix it and make it all better

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

And like if you care about being a helper... Then fucking learn how to help Crying and whining bc it might be dangerous is some cowardly bullshit Either you live your ethics or they're just aesthetics

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Just stfu in these conversations if the only thing you have to add is that it's too hard for you we know men like you don't do anything You're just like all the boys who got the frat text and did nothing You're not holding some secret wisdom You're just a scared lil boy who waits for help

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Here's the thing pal You have to DO good To BE good And all you've done is defend your right to do nothing bc it would be too hard and you're too weak and too scared I've been the bystander who intervened It did put me at risk But some things are more important than being perfectly safe

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

I'm sure it will really comfort the victim to know you didn't put yourself at risk It would be a tragedy if you got hurt trying to save someone else bc as we all know you're actually the important one here You suck dude

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Oh are you scared of misandry? Poor BABY women don't like you online? Guess what! they probably don't irl either You suck dude You're weak and shameful in your misogyny

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Sure seems like you are taking this moment to talk about how complicated and hard it is FOR YOU Maybe stop looking for justification for doing less bc you're already not doing enough

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

PS my wife is a trans femme lesbian and I'm a cis butch lesbian So if you think I am some privileged princess who doesn't understand the stakes Guess again

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Y'all VBNMW folks are absolutely terrible negotiators Instantly folding isn't a strategy it's weakness and desperation Politicians are defined by their policies not just their party If their policies are bad then it doesn't matter what color flag their team flies We are the ones who will suffer

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

How we win MATTERS Even the most progressive candidates get defanged look at @mayor.nyc.gov he campaigned on arresting Netanyahu and instead he's just planting symbols and letting protesters get arrested Politicians rarely exceed their campaign promises it's far more likely for them to do less

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

I'm gonna be a little mean here and say that the people who scream loudest vote blue no matter who have nothing but vibe values They want to win They don't care how They don't care who is left behind Bc their morals and principles are nothing but aesthetic ethics They just want to be SEEN as good

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Hey I wanna remind you that I have a front row seat and I think you're doing a remarkable job with all of this Especially making Internet bangers I love you and this is wild and terrifying and we've got each other So alternate between giggles and sobs I'll hold you through it all love ❤️

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Hot take but if spoilers ruin a story then it's not been told well

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Julia Husar @juliahusar.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

aesthetic ethics: "progressive" churches (protestant) that uphold neoliberal values and put on a facade of progressivism, without working towards any sort of actual liberation.

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Ooooh that's a good one. Yesyesyesyes Excellent 👍

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Quote posts are open on this one I'd love to know when you've seen people performing aesthetic ethics and vibe values in your life No pressure or expectations Just an invitation

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

I offer the chat two new terms for these trying times Aesthetic ethics: taking the aesthetics of a movement without any commitment to action Vibe values: having no or a shallow understanding of what your values are while wanting to be seen as perpetually Good and "on the right side"

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Jessica Ellis @baddestmamajama.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

The reward for standing up to your social group is usually isolation and being told you’re a killjoy, I’m sorry to say.

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

If you ever think I'm too mean to transphobes online please know I'm much meaner in person

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Agreed and I think working for the NY Times is probably always a dead give away that someone's beliefs are going to be more conservative than they are willing to admit

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Gee I wonder why I didn't get put on blast... I wonder why I just got blocked Could it be that as a white cis woman I might gain too much sympathy for you to effectively utilize public violence to bully me???? Hmmmm... Guess we'll never know

Screen shot of block by tressie mcmillan cottom

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

PS it's mocroagressive as fuck to purposely misunderstand the slang and point out that you don't have a dick to differentiate yourself from trans women Like you knew that's not what she was saying You understood the slang You chose to lean into transphobia

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Methods matter Position matters Leveraging public transphobia to punish a small trans account is bad Regardless of the reason Regardless of how justified you feel Commit to living your ethics or else they're just an aesthetic

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Question: What is the purpose of putting a small trans account on blast like this? Answer: punishment Many people still believe that respect is treating them as the authority and when they aren't treated as the authority they stop treating others like a person @tressiemcphd.bsky.social

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User tressie mcmillan cotton: I do not have one of those so no.

Quote post from user space captain lispegistus: your problem is that you are a transphobic asshole and you like bullying people weaker than you. Does your dick get hard by going after smaller accounts with bad faith? Turn on your replies you dumb cunt. I fucking hate bullies and you are one. Go eat shit

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

PS those consequences are faced disproportionately by marginalized people Most especially Black women and trans women and disabled women

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

At the end of the day it doesn't matter if they are closeted And our fascination with the potential reasons for why they "went bad" doesn't help us deconstruct their evil or support the people they harm Advocate from love Love marginalized communities Focus your actions on building a better world

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

This idea also supports the notion that evil doers aren't really part of the oppressor classes Which helps clean up the oppressor's image Rather than acknowledging belonging to the oppressor classes is inherently harmful And a few are just more vocal The harm they do is a feature not a bug

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Oppressive systems weaponize our empathy and belief that with education and support people will be good Most of these evil doers have extraordinary privilege They WANT to harm people They CHOOSE evil They understand their choices Accountability has to start from within We can't pre-absolve them

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

No hate to this user This is a common belief and @anactualgorilla.ca is starting to unpack some of this in the comments which is actually hard to do in public But it's important to remember that one of the key core features of oppressive systems is they insulate the privileged from consequences

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I think it's really important to remember that theorizing that evil doers are secretly gay/trans Isn't just homophobia and transphobia Its also how oppression protects the oppressors classes By affirming that evil doers have a secret justification and aren't really part of the oppressor classes

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I dunno y'all but maybe telling people for years now that the correct course of action is to just brush off getting threats of violence as a normal consequence of being in public spaces online has had some repercussions irl

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I'm not gonna offer you some trite positivity BS like "don't worry! it'll get better!" Bc that would be dismissive and cruel You're in pain Its ok to feel it And be angry I can't fix any of this but I can tell you that I see your pain And send you a virtual hug hoping it helps you feel less alone🫂

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Hey not sure what's going on for you and maybe you don't even want any comfort I know how awful it feels to be in a hole and feel like it's pointless to even try bc no one would even be there to care if you succeeded It cuts deep I think a lot of us yearn to feel like we matter That we have worth

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Maybe I am naive and optimistic Or maybe I just think we're all gonna die one day and very few get to pick when or how so maybe focusing on a potential terrible death is pointless navel gazing I'd rather spend my days working for a better world than be super duper prepared for a terrible end

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Honestly the way some Leftists/progressives are leaning into fatalism and doomerism right now really feels like the secular version of the death cult that conservatives peddle Just a reminder oppressive systems adapt and you are not immune to propaganda

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Babs thank you!!!! I got the same nasal dialator you started using and OMG this is a game changer Wore it under my mask today for hours and it was the first time I think I've been able to be active AND breathe through my nose The work you do matters The way you share tools matters Thank you 🖤

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

It wasn't a mistake It was the result of policy and procedure being followed exactly as intended They just didn't care if kids got murdered

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Michael Ann, sociotechnical femme @michaelann.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

IDK y'all, kinda think that as the world descends further and further into authoritarianism, it... might actually be important to signal what your virtues and values are? Like it might be more important than ever to stand by your beliefs and express them?

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Wilde Butch @wildebutch.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Ok BUT HEAR ME OUT... With three starting places there should have been romance options for all in each of the categories of Street Kids, Nomads, and Corpos (+Phantom Liberty) And canonically in the universe of Cyberpunk MOST of the romance options should be bi!! In this essay I will...

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