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And if you say you'll do X but then do not schedule it, you need to look at why you're not following through and admit it is at best misleading behavior. It's not okay to continually offload the emotional responsibility of remembering onto the other person and expect them to find that acceptable.

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If you care about someone, you own the burden of showing them you care. It should not be on them to remind you to demonstrate it. If you require reminders to demonstrate care, or to do what you said you would do, it's on you to set them. Calendar alerts are easy and take 2 seconds to set up.

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Ad hominem attacks generated by an angry thesaurus do not a compelling counterargument make. You're welcome to your opinion, of course, but one of us is acting significantly more petulant here, and it isn't me.

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General reminder that if you attempt to celebrate Oktoberfest after tomorrow, you are out of season and deserve to be mocked. The bulk of Oktoberfest is in September. 🍻

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Random unpredictable donations do not have the same stabilizing effect as an ongoing institution that provides reliable, predictable resources does. If anything, putting us poors on a variable reward schedule (random donations) trains us to suck up to billionaires in hope we'll happen to get lucky.

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I mean... That's nice and all, but occasionally deigning to improve the lives of hand-selected unlucky folks is not the same thing as establishing an ongoing college scholarship fund and a massive free-books-for-kids program. Individual donations are pocket change if you have access to billions.

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Your preferences and opinions are not universal. Acting like they are makes it look like you have an insufficiently developed theory of mind. And you don't need to think cab companies are heroes to see the value in a unionized workplace, human interactions, and still being able to pay with cash.

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Vinegrr @vinegrr.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

That was the very first word I saw today. And yet...

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Huh. Most of the dancing swords I've met are balanced in such a way that holding them in the places they'd be dangerous if they were sharp makes no physical sense, so I'm kinda surprised this even needs to be said.

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Vinegrr @vinegrr.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Vibe coding breaking things in ways the remaining human staff can't fix quickly seems far more likely.

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Micro SF/F by O. Westin @microsff.com · 30/09/2026

The princess took an earring off and held it out. The raven looked at it. "Whatever for?" "You are wise and clever. Many princesses have dragons, but none has a raven friend." The raven picked up the earring. "Say no more." "Friends?" she asked when it returned the next day. "Forevermore."

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@rejectednytwords.bsky.social Knapped. Has nobody at the NYT ever read about making weapons out of stone and/or obsidian?

A NYT Spelling Bee screenshot. The center letter is P, and the outer letters are K A C E D N. The player has tried to enter the word "knapped," which is the past tense of "knap." Knap and knapped are both real words, but the NYT screenshot shows that Spelling Bee thinks it is not a word.

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Replying twice (& being a dick both times) is a funny way of not engaging, and hypocrisy is a bigger red flag to me. I don't give a rat's furry ass how many followers I have. Quality > quantity, for one. For two, I have zero aspirations to be an influencer. My account is for shouting into the void.

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Get fucked. If men won't listen to social pressure from other men, whose opinions actually matter to them, why on earth would you expect them to listen to women they want to assault, even if they are threatened with cutlery?

This is basically the sexual assault equivalent of the children having lemonade stands to pay for their parents cancer treatment. If you think those stories are appalling instead of inspirational, you should find this one the same way.

We don't need more women heroes like that French lady. We need fewer men who grow up to be shits, and more men who tell them to stop being shitty when it happens anyway.

I'm so fucking ashamed of all the women applauding this clueless dude for sharing this story. It's not women's job to make men stop being shitty. Men need to grow up not feeling entitled to shitty behavior in the first place.

🖕🖕🖕 It's not women's job to make men stop being shitty. Men need to grow up not feeling entitled to shitty behavior in the first place. How about instead of sharing a story telling women they need to threaten to stab men who grope them, you tell men to stop fucking groping their co-workers.

The Mask of the Red Jeph @ass.golf · 29/09/2026

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the last thing u see before u die (if u r a dog treat)

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Dream bigger. Swifties should pressure Tay-tay to use her massive piles of money the way Dolly did. I suspect she'd throw a fit and expose herself as the selfish white girl the rest of us already know she is. (But also, yeah, therapy might help her need less validation, and therefore less money.)

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They've gotten stuff wrong before, in spite of all the research elves. Original source or as close to as possible would be a much more reliable citation than a pop trivia comedy show.

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"Girlyopteryx" is sooo much less annoying and infantilizing than "girlypop" (🤢). I'd be pretty darn chuffed if it caught on.

Katie Martin @katie0martin.ft.com · 25/09/2026

Sounds like the kind of story that gets passed around regardless of veracity just because it sounds good, so I'd need a citation before giving that tale much credence. However, I don't care all that much, so no need to trouble yourself unless you're personally curious about it.

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I have blamed The agents That hacked Your website And which You probably Reasonably thought I controlled Forgive me I am rich And unaccustomed To taking responsibility

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Also, they probably see a lot more car crashes than skydiving accidents in their line of work. Should they also know better than to be anywhere near a moving car?

Dude, you've gotta purge that kind of work stress from your body somehow.

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Kelly @broadwaybabyto.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Why is anyone putting these in drawers, though? They belong stuck in a jar on the counter with all the other utensils you use semiregularly for cooking. Your choice of decorative or pickle jar. If you have extra, they go in the BIG drawer/box of extra cooking stuff, where they can't cause trouble.

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As the midterms approach, I want to remind folks that pandemics have historically given rise to fascism The fear associated with death and disability on a massive scale makes it easier for authoritarians to seize power Vote accordingly Protect disabled & marginalized people. Get them to the polls

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Fed study ties 1918 flu pandemic to Nazi Party gains

The paper examined municipal spending levels and voter extremism in Germany from the time of the initial influenza outbreak until 1933.

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Vinegrr @vinegrr.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Cannon enthusiast, are we?

Oregon Plates @plat.es · 28/09/2026

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The Custom Oregon Plate ERROR was previously assigned, but is now available for reservation. dmv2u.oregon.gov/eServices/?link=cu… #Oregon #LicensePlate #VanityPlate #OregonPlates #CustomPlate #ERROR

Oregon Standard Tree license plate displaying the text "ERROR".

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Vinegrr @vinegrr.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

Grew up near a restaurant, maybe?

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Jorts (and Jean) @jortsthecat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

If you adopted a feral cat to the inside and he keeps meowing maybe he just really wants to smoke real cigarettes. You don’t know what he was up to before

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Sorry if this sounds grim or insensitive. It's just a hell of a time to be struggling, and to be tired of struggling.

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It is nice to be able to say I've walked from Canada to Mexico, though.

Ooof, yep. I walked ~4426km last year. Unfortunately, that was only possible because I saved & quit my job to do so, and I've been fairly out of money since last November 😕 Tried getting a job this year that requires walking 8-16km/day, but for some reason all it's done is cause me to crash hard.

People who think leaving the planet at a moment of your choosing is selfish: How can you claim with a clear heart that opting out of this painful nonsense is any more selfish than expecting someone to tolerate a miserable-and-not-improving existence just so you won't have to miss them?

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