iiinova — where your digital self keeps evolving

The TMS place also does Spravato but they told me outright that they tried to work with my insurance in the past and they’re so bad they refuse to even try to get them to cover ketamine anymore.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 1h

My insurance paid for TMS but I pay out of pocket for ketamine with BetterU. For the TMS I just had to show I was working with a psych PA and had been on 2 or more antidepressants in the past year.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 1h

I’ve done both ketamine therapy and TMS (transcranial magnetic stimulation) and the ketamine helps with the depression but the TMS was the only thing that put a dent in the anhedonia that was partially caused by prolonged benzo use, so you might want to consider TMS.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

i've used this one in the past, and i like it, but i'm looking for something more like a cream. i thought this one spread really evenly, but was less on the moisturizing side.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

i really need a t-shirt that says I AM NOT YOUR TECH SUPPORT because the learned helplessness is out of control and i am in perimenopause and cannot handle being annoyed

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

ugh i am YET AGAIN back in the market for a good tinted moisturizer with spf and i will YET AGAIN try a bunch of shitty ones and be annoyed that they either don't blend well or are not actually moisturizing

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

well, AI is making product review sections completely useless. they prioritize their AI summary and encourage you to use their random-ass AI-generated categories to sort and filter. trying to sort by recency on amazon is a real challenge. guessing many of the reviews will be AI at some point as well

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

ok we'll keep you after the revolution

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

i wish more straight men wore dresses straight men are the boringest dressers up your game, losers

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

oh you guys are talking about the ACTUAL plague. like the famous one. i honestly was just assuming everyone was preparing for a really bad covid season, but yeah, ok. This checks out.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

what color pill is this i would like to take it

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

Oh no it’s Monday the week is happening again

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

My generation was also subjected to Operation and Perfection we’re all on klonopin now

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

Oh god the anxiety this clip induces in me

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

Every single time I open Apple TV and that Matthew McConaughey/Woody Harrelson show pops on my screen all huge I involuntarily shout “I WOULD RATHER DIE!” Every SINGLE time. Like a prayer for protection or a powerful warding spell.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

Oh no now we really have to write the book! The ideas are too good!

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

I am however being cockblocked by the ice HOW DARE

A hand holding a glass of white wine with ice floating at the top and green grapes sitting at the bottom

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 05/10/2026

I put some cotton candy grapes in my Chardonnay which my fictional book of drink recipes would call white woman sangria

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 04/10/2026

A lot of people have genuinely forgotten the real reality they were supposed to be holding in their heads while they pretended to believe the things they said out loud

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 04/10/2026

I bet no one fucked with her in prison

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 04/10/2026

And some part of me does feel bad for the men and boys who really were just acting in accordance with society’s true feelings, which is that some human bodies are to be valued (straight white men) and some bodies are meant for service to the “important” people.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 04/10/2026

We’re steeped in a culture that treats violence towards women as un-serious on every level, then when our sons internalize this and act in accordance, we weep and wail like we don’t understand how we got here.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 04/10/2026

This is what we do as a society. We set up systems that inevitably result in harm by the way they’re designed, and then we blame individuals for the harm, throwing them under the bus so we don’t have to reckon with fixing the systems.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 04/10/2026

Men don’t face consequences for harming women, so why would anything change? It’s so fucking simple. We show what we care about as a society by what we punish and what we reward. We make our priorities so clear that even children understand it, and then we pretend to be confused.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 04/10/2026

I saw a Forensic Files once in which a woman who was being assaulted gouged the perpetrator’s eyes out and shoved them down his throat and while I do not generally advocate violence I think a few guys choking to death on their own eyeballs might really crystallize men’s ability to understand consent

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 01/10/2026

told everyone in the department meeting that no i would not use genAI to update the site code, i will do it like my foremothers did, by finding someone with the same problem on stack overflow and stealing the solution code, tyvm.

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maura quint @mauraquint.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Yes every woman has been harassed, many assaulted. But every woman has also experienced invisible loss from moments she avoided harassment. She felt a space becoming unsafe, so she left, while men stayed on. And in leaving, she lost: opportunities, experiences, learning, promotions, even simply fun.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 01/10/2026

My life’s mission is to get as into cutesy office supplies and stationary as I was picking out back to school supplies in the 2nd grade. It was the highlight of my year and a great notepad/pouch/pencil/eraser combo could bring me enough joy to carry me through the year.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 30/09/2026

My dad is allergic to everything, including poison ivy, to the point of getting weeping sores, and though I used to be pretty tolerant, as I get older, all my allergies have gotten progressively worse. I missed graduation this year due to a really bad poison ivy rash. It sucks.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

i don't want to optimize everything in my life; i want to minimize the parts of my life that require optimization. personally, i'd rather we humanize the systems instead of forcing humans to adapt to the systems but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

i have family drama going on and after work i have to deal with said family drama in person and i just keep letting out these deep sighs like a put-upon victorian lady of high birth

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

it's so depressing how hard it is to get anything done. and i'm very lucky in that i have a dean who gives me as much autonomy as she can. but between IT and purchasing every department is forced to lock everything down and it makes doing ANYTHING next to impossible. i need a nap.

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I’m seeing a lot of posts about talking to your sons in light of the Cornell article. And yes. Talk to your sons. Here are some things you should say, based on anti-violence research about what they need to hear:

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Jodi Pickens 🏳️‍🌈🖖✨ @jodipickens.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

A surprisingly powerful sentence is "Take your time." To the cashier. The new employee. The person searching for the right words. The friend telling a difficult story. Not rushing someone is a form of kindness we don't talk about enough. 🧡

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

every time i try to care about a work thing, the systems i'm supposed to somehow navigate successfully to make even the tiniest progress on that thing just sap all my energy and spirit and i just go back to learning about how brains work.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

it's quite funny that i can't install notepad++ but administrators who don't understand how computers work are building AI agents and giving them access to all their systems.

static.klipy.com

Pedro Pascal Laughing & Crying

ALT: Pedro Pascal Laughing & Crying

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

my work has finally gotten to the point i can no longer install programs on my own computer. i needed to reinstall notepad++: NOPE. i need audacity for the audio project: NOPE. so basically they force everyone to use their own laptops just to make life easier. AND use our phones for authentication.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

i avoid these projects because no one will listen to me and it will end up being a student worker digitizing directly to mp3 with a $12 usb peripheral device

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 29/09/2026

oh no i have gotten myself involved in another audio archiving project that part of my career will never be over, apparently

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 26/09/2026

Organizational psychologists, knowing what they know about the human brain and the dopaminergic system in particular, and what they know about working conditions inside the kinds of industries capitalism creates, should all be clinically insane. 🤔Is this what Severence was trying to tell me?!

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 26/09/2026

I understand GLP-1s don’t affect dopamine release, just like the memory of it or whatever. But when I say you need to be careful with your dopaminergic system because it basically runs your productive life, I cannot stress it enough. And every lever you pull in your brain has rippling consequences.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 25/09/2026

But I don’t know enough about the science behind GLP-1s to know if anhedonia is a risk or not. It just worries me from what I know about how the brain’s reward systems work.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 25/09/2026

As a person who fucked up their reward system and spent years fixing it, let me tell you it’s pretty important for motivation/basic functioning.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 25/09/2026

Every time I hear how GLP-1 meds work, I get serious concerns about anhedonia as a potential side effect.

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valerie @vfo.northsky.social · 25/09/2026

This looks interesting and the audiobook is available on Libby!

HOW WE DISAPPEAR: A Personal History of Information, by Thomas S. Mullaney
READ BY JAMES D. SASSER

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Josephine beckbook.com Riesman @josie.zone · 25/09/2026

IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD TO PREORDER @beckbook.com -- ***THAT IS FINE*** IF YOU REQUEST IT AT YOUR LOCAL LIBRARY, THEY WILL BUY A COPY, WHICH IS A FORCE MULTIPLIER FOR MY READERSHIP THEN YOU CAN READ IT FOR FREE, AND EVERYBODY WINS JUST REQUEST "ISBN 9781668043547" OR ASK BY NAME THAT IS ALL

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