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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

I'm the only masc-presenting person in my coaching/counselling training. I'm gonna have to unpack that later.

Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

This is in no way fully cooked and yet I'm already feeling myself like never before. Top surgery was a 15/10 decision. Feels weird not to have to spoiler this anymore when it's the same nips on the same chest, so btw fuck the patriarchy.

White trans man with fresh double incision top surgery scars and nipples. Everything is still a bit swollen but he's beaming as he just sits and looks at the camera. In the background is a progress pride flat hanging on the wall.

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Benjamin Bedbreaker @defn28.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

Yikes 🤢

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

LF someone who speaks Portuguese; ideally even someone not totally uninformed about chest surgeries. I spotted this in my post-op report and every app seems to translate it to "nipple-sparing". Now, I did not get nipple-sparing afaik. Is this just the Portuguese way to say ”free nipple grafts"?

Screenshot from Google Translate which translates "mastectomia total poupadora de mamilo" from Portuguese to English as "nipple-sparing total mastectomy"

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

"Hard times produce wounded people. And some have the capacity to move through hard times with their wounds in a lot of strength and grace, revealing the injuries they hold to very few. Their reward for that strength and grace is to be tasked with more than their fair share." C4 E35 Oof.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

After about a week of not being allowed near me, I removed the pillow barrier in the morning and finally allowed some careful cuddles. The barrier is going up again overnight because Nomi is a bed hogger but I feel like everyone might be a little calmer now. Also, please look at that flat chest! 😊

1 white transmasc person and two dogs cuddling in bed.the human is propped up against a pillow. One dog is lying by his side, the other is sitting between his legs. Both dogs are getting scritches.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

Lower body shower: Achieved! Tomorrow? World domination! Wednesday? Actual real shower!

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

Big ups to Julian, the empathetic and efficient customer service agent at the German distributor for Marena post-surgical vests because we were on the phone at 3:45 and he managed to get my order out the door with UPS at 4. If he hadn’t, it wouldn’t have been sent until Monday.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

Any other trans folk get ticked off when people call you "brave" and "courageous" for "following your path"? It almost rings of inspiration porn to me. And also we wouldn't fucking have to be "brave" if society wasn't making life harder for trans people.

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👻madeline bOoOoOoOodent👻 @oldenoughtosay.com · 14/09/2026

Yeah so lemme tell y’all about epidurals + EDS

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I understand now why I felt so great the first week after top surgery: the pain meds were suppressing all my chronic pain! It's back now. Which is how I figured it out.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Look, I'm not saying I'm doing super duper great but I have been allowed to take the compression velcro wrap off a day early. Now I'm down to the compression vest and feeling loads better. Eating. Relaxing. Even napping. Tomorrow we get to see how my nipples have fared through all this. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

White transmasc sitting outside wearing a blue button-down shirt and black glasses. He's smirking a bit and looking almost relieved. There's a bit of wound dressing poking out of his open collar.

Table with two big tumbler travel mugs on it, one in seafoam, one in baby blue, an empty plate, and a small blue tote. Between the mugs we see a blue merle dog dissecting a toy in the grass a bit away. And to the right of the right-most mug there's a black dog barely visible between the lattices of a chair, also dissecting a toy.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Finally had a bit of a nap. Not much of it and drifting in an out but definitely was able to sleep. Just not properly because it's too warm. Woke up to more painful incisions but that's to be expected without the additional compression. Ribs are still raw af but perhaps now they can heal.

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DAVIEWoOOoO 👻 🎃🕸️ @daviemoo.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

This is the sort of hyperbole that makes me sick of dealing with the right. "we're being replaced!" "why" "the greens who I'd never vote for made a video aimed at people who arent me" "they also did one in English" "Didn't watch it". Right. Well then.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

My surgeon called and told me I can take the velcro band off. I feel a million times better even though my skin is still raw under the binder. Just breathing alone is amazing.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

I'm just about ready to rip this fucking velcro band off 😩 I'm so mad at my surgeon for ignoring my hEDS. I don't think the idea is to get your ribs bruised, right? I'm low-key scared I'll lose my nipples because he made the compression too tight. Is that a thing?

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Fuck, I just jerked awake, loudly gasping for air. Why the fuck are you not doing your job, cpap? First of all I usually don't have any issues but it's been a little rougher since surgery. And second of all, that hurt my incisions far more than any sneeze or cough over the last 5 days has.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

In case you're wondering what kind of things people say about and to trans people in the comments of trans people's and their ally's posts on Facebook. And no, I'm not anonymising haters anymore. You say this with your whole chest, then I'm showing your name, Jan.

Jeff Mathieson:

@Kai Katschthaler that has to be the worst lie you're telling yourself. It's inflicting your delusion on people who love you.

Kai Katschthaler:

@Jeff Mathieson if they believe trans people aren't real then they don't love me. Pretty easy logic.

Jan Morris:

@Kai Katschthaler Honestly, the child you had Is dead, not sure I wouldn't prefer that option.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

I had top surgery on Wednesday. Yesterday, I emailed my therapist that I'm good to go for our session on Monday. And just today I realised I missed a huge opportunity in not just sending, "I aten't dead".

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Timnit Gebru @timnitgebru.blacksky.app · 13/09/2026

I'm going to sleep now & someone wake me up when LessWrong isn't being cited in the mainstream. Wake me up when the eugenicist doomsday cult led by a self described "genius" writing fan fiction about having sex with girls to increase population "intelligence," isn't setting the "AI" narrative.

Nate Silver
@NateSilver538
The AI risk people actually do show their work! There are hundreds of working papers, thousands of LessWrong posts, literally entire best-selling books about this.
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a frustrating thing about all the "TK percent chance we die" headlines is that researchers can say any number and non-technical people will just be like "damn well that guy's in tech, im worried"

show your work! is this about scaling laws or some arxiv file ive yet to read?

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Random late night worrying whether nipple grafts can get too much pressure from compression. I know they need to absolutely not move for the first four days but how much is too much? So if anyone wants to reassure me, please do. 😩

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

People who aren't transphobic, don't have a hard time when loved ones transition. I said what I said.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

Y’all, the hospital just called and I’m going in an hour earlier 😱 7am roll call. 8:30 surgery (instead of 10:30). It’s gonna be rough on all of us but I guess at least it’s over faster? ngl at first I panicked about the call because I thought they were cancelling it.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

Hey fellow EU folks! I assume you don’t like Chat Control either, right? I just signed the “Stop Killing The Internet: No Digital ID & No Age Verification” initiative, and probably so should you if you have had enough of this crap. citizens-initiative.europa.eu/initiatives/...

citizens-initiative.europa.eu

Initiative detail | European Citizens' Initiative

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Dropped Mike @rebrafsim.bsky.social · 11/03/2026

tech ceo: making computers smarter than people is hard geoff: what if we just make people dumber than computers tech ceo: I love you geoff have three super yachts

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

If any dudes, cis or trans, want to show me their chest, I‘d be grateful in an entirely un-lewd way. Help me figure out what the fuck to tell my surgeon re nipple wishes next week, please!

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

don’t mind me, I’m just going through the lewd feed — looking for male nipples so I can make an informed decision 😆

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Headquarters @headquartersnews.bsky.social · 02/09/2026

Mayor Mamdani: AI is present in nearly every aspect of our lives. I am proud to announce New York City's first ever AI policy for our public schools. Children need teachers and human connection to learn and grow. This school year, we will implement a 1 year moratorium on AI from 2k through 8th grade

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Chirs but sexier @chrisnsfw.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

sex sells! until the storefront bans you and the subscription sites ban you and the payment processors ban you and the social media sites ban you and your webhost bans you and your bank bans you and your state legislature bans you and the supreme court bans you and all you were trying to do was draw

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

had a bit of a freakout about the likelihood of losing nipple sensation after top surgery and have decided that if it does happen, people with functional nipples will just have to ease my suffering by letting me play with theirs

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 02/09/2026

I'm really tired of pointing out the many missing stairs and people just hopping over them and telling me they don't exist. The whole damn staircase will be gone soon.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 01/09/2026

I accidentally upgraded to Tahoe after avoiding it for fucking ages AND NOW EVERYTHING LOOKS LIKE I NEED A NEW PRESCRIPTION! What the fuck, Apple? Why would you make an OS blurry by default? I’m gonna flip some fucking tables.

static.klipy.com

Captain Picard: Why The Fuck...!

Alt: Captain Jean-Luc Picard on the bridge of the Enterprise gesticulation in a “why the fuck?” kind of way.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 01/09/2026

you could say there have been some more changes since 🤭

Pale transmasc person taking a selfie from above, looking confidently up through purple aviator sunglasses. They’re wearing jeans shorts and are topless, just wearing chest tape. His belly is hairy, the beard scruffy but well-kept. A smirk is on his lips.

Pale transmasc bearded person wearing purple aviator sunglasses, blue earbuds, and a faded black shirt. They’re smiling into the camera.

A pale transmasc person with black glasses and a short beard is leaning forward on their arm and gazing intently into the camera. He’s wearing a sleeveless black shirt and his arms shows the definition of some muscles. His other shoulder and the edge of his face is out of the frame.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

Has anyone managed to train/trick themselves out of panic attacks? I’m not allowed to tape these 2 weeks before surgery so I’m using a binder. As always, wearing a binder keeps me at the edge of a panic attack and I’m beginning to worry about how I’ll handle post-op compression for 6 weeks. 😭 #plsRT

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

I‘ve had one dream this week where I was in post-surgery recovery but other than that I have no imagination for it. It’s like I have aphantasia but just for my chest? I just can’t picture it!

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

It’s wild for me to think that 2 weeks from now I will be titless 🤯

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 21/08/2026

Someone just liked this. Thanks for the reminder that Rosie O'Donnell is hot af

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 21/08/2026

19 days to go! There's a distinct chance that I'll be too hot after top surgery. I already am feeling myself quite a bit lately, and idk how powerful it'll make me but chances are I'll be wielding way more confidence than the world is ready for.

White transmasc person in sunnies sitting topless on the beach after a swim. You can see the tape on their chest.

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the Mountain Goats @themountaingoats.bsky.social · 21/08/2026

hey people sorry if some of you breeze past this part but it’s Friday. We do AI discourse on Wednesday and Thursday. Friday is for stuff that rocks and is actually fun. It’s in the TOS & the packet you got at orientation. get it together please

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 21/08/2026

Just learned that our nurse, who we were both so very sure is gay, is not in fact gay. My gaydar is taking some personal time to deal with this earthshattering news. Please respect its request for privacy in these delicate times.

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 20/08/2026

I’ve always come out of sedation weird. Cursing, babbling. I’ve thought about it recently with all the knowledge I now have and I think it’s that I chew through sedation faster because I’m a redhead. So I come out faster than I should but still am disoriented. Has anyone else experienced that?

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

TIL: maybe don't work out within 24 hours of a phlebotomy/blood donation 🥴

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

Maybe ADHD is just having a personal corps of fairies who misplace things for you.

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Sophie Molly @sophiemolly.co.uk · 13/08/2026

How to respond to a transphobic councilor. With cold hard facts!

Dear Sophie
Thank vou for taking the time to write to me regarding this matter.
As vou will know there is a substantial difference between support for a policy or provision and a requirement for elected members to obev the law of the land. I will be interested to follow anv future decisions of Edinburgh City Council on this topic
Best wishes Alex

Dear Alex,
It's guidance, not law. It is not even an act of parliament. It is not a crime for myself or any other trans + person to use a bathroom that matches their gender.
Aberdeen City Council will be in direct breach of Section 6 of the Human Rights Act 1998 requires loca government to comply with the European Convention of Human Rights.
This is a fact!
https://www.legislation.gov. uk/ukpga/1998/42/section/6
Judging by your expedient reply, it is clear you did not make any attempt to read the literature I sent vou in good faith. It is clear your response is ill informed (not based on facts or knowledge) and ideologicaly motivated to silence a woman like me.
Nould love to stay and chat more but i'm off to use the ladies.
Sophie Molly She/Her A Woman

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Kai (he/they) had top surgery 🏳️‍⚧️ @thegrumpyenby.bsky.social · 08/08/2026

Cishet men work out for other men. I work out so queer femmes in sundresses will compliment my strength and 5'6 dad bod l, and lightly touch my arm when I make them laugh. We are not the same.

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