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What else is there, than ostracizing the accused? Organization. The very thing we’re bad at. Proactively protect the members of your community, including the accused. Negotiate apologies, restitution, and boundaries to prevent further abuse. Resolve the issue, and then let it lie. 16/

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Do you know what happens, when a person who’s deeply terrified of being an abuser gets put in a position of power? Often, abuse happens. Not because the person was right about their nature; but because their fear blinds them to their own actions. Every error is a potential ego threat. 11/

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I actually did find myself arguing from the Not All Men side more than once. I was a closeted trans woman at the time, and harbored quite a lot of shame over the impulses of my body, being raised in a patriarchal purity culture. It was deeply important to me to not be seen as an innate abuser. 8/

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I think this is what the most principled of the Not All Men folks think they’re saying: many people still subscribe to the penis = evil model of gender, and that’s harms everyone. We need to make sure we’re modeling the conflict at the material and structural level, not at the ontological level. 6/

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Obviously, the truth is that gender qua gender has nothing to do with it. The modal rapist is a cis man because patriarchy ensures cis men have structural power over everyone else. Cis men are not “naturally” or “biologically” predisposed to rape. Rather, they are inducted into a rape culture. 5/

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Pear Smoothie🍐🥤 @pearsmoothie.bsky.social · 21/02/2026

As far as the queers went, we of course allied on the “not cis men” side, as was right and proper. :3 But because MeToo was predominantly a cis movement, its effects broadly reinforced cisgenderism. If you think gender is immutable, and you think men are rapists, then manhood itself is poisonous.

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So in essence: this argument only works if you are perpetually stuck in a loop where you are pointing out how cishet relationships suck for women but never beyond it. They cannot imagine people outside of their cisheterosexual misery, whether by social conditioning or not, can exist in a viable way.

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Pear Smoothie🍐🥤 @pearsmoothie.bsky.social · 20/06/2026

"I didn't want to transition at first because I was the only short haired tomboy-butch lesbian etc and I wanted to be an example of progressive and powerful women" Too many trans men say this. Cishets are fucking lazy. They are piggybacking off trans people even in their own cishet gender wars.

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Pear Smoothie🍐🥤 @pearsmoothie.bsky.social · 20/06/2026

Challenging the very cishet ASAB standards is a revolutionary act in itself. Trans women who want to pass accidentally having standards that match the society's standards for cis women, and not wanting to be seen with fucking beards is not an attack on GNC ppl. I hope ppl are less daft about this.

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Lisa Diedrich @lisadiedrich.bsky.social · 28/04/2025

Cis-ness as wounded attachment is an incisive take: “In a politics of woundedness, mobilisation against an apparently threatening ‘other’ can seem like justice, even when that ‘other’ is another, perhaps even more, marginalised group.”

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Imagine that this a take that will get you cancelled in many supposedly ' 'queer', 'queer-friendly', 'feminist' & 'progressive' spaces. It really shows how much neoliberal culture destroyed critical thinking skills and obliterated most class consciousness organized around shared material realities.

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

If you aren't aware, Turkey is going through a terrifying authoritarian anti-LGBT crackdown at the hands of Erdogan's ruling party. Turkish trans people have already been seeking asylum elsewhere and need our support ❤️‍🩹

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

We live in a batshit crazy world. And of all the crazy things I can think about right now, tribalism is the one that terrifies the most. Yes, it speaks of my experiences. Yes, it speaks of my biases too. Yes, it’s perhaps not the most dangerous. I am honestly more and more scared by this world. Ugh.

Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

[Survey] Trans(sex) ppl of bluesky who experienced leftist, progressive or 'woke' transphobia: ⒈ How was it transphobic? [ʙᴇʜᴀᴠɪᴏʀ] ⒉ What's distinctive about it? [ᴅᴇꜰɪɴɪᴛɪᴏɴ] ⒊ In which context(s) & with which types of ppl? [ꜱᴏᴄɪᴏʟᴏɢʏ] ⒋ Which arguments or takes was it associated to? [ɪᴅᴇᴏʟᴏɢʏ]

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

To their defense most cis people never interacted with transsex ones. It's thus unsurprising if they identify 'trans' with the non-transitioning cissexed folx. For this group, being trans is mostly a socio-political stance mainly divorced from material reality & analysis. In other words: a costume 😕

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

One of the most striking analytical reframing I recall stumbling upon emphasized that you don’t get to choose *is* and *isn’t* feminism. All are. I‘d add that if we look at ‘feminism‘ as a big incestuous family, a lot of problematic behaviors and harmful dynamics immediately start to make sense.

Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

It’s so exactly that. Entitled pseudo-‘revolutionary’ and pretentiously ‘systemic’ takes, which in fact hide a considerable ignorance of the world and ACTUAL systemic analysis skills (!!!), fueled by the putrid desire for simple one-size-fits-all fixes alongside moral superiority EVERY FUCKING TIME.

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Briar Rolfe: TRANS INSURGENT @briar-rolfe.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

This is why trans solidarity is the most important thing to me. It’s really easy to hate and denounce the gender you were assigned at birth until you see how it liberates someone you love. I love femininity because it is good for the girls I love. I love masculinity because it is good for me!

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Briar Rolfe: TRANS INSURGENT @briar-rolfe.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Maybe we need to have a big sit-down as a community and like, discuss the difference between masculinity and patriarchy and how not every culture performs masculinity the way America does, because like… holy shit

“I've never understood how you can be a feminist and not hate masculinity tbh.
Like even before I Knew I had nothing but disdain for the entire structure of what it means to be 'a man' in our culture, there's no part of it which isn't built on domination, subjugation and hierarchy.”

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Uboa @uboatheflesh.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

George has another banger article about ME. ME/CFS, POTS, MCAS and EDS are all neglected illnesses by our systems. ME can kill. It's like brushing AIDS under the radar. Look after the people with ME in your life. Believe them. Give them mutual aid. Even if they cannot speak, be there for them.

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Abandoned, dismissed and gaslighted: there is no excuse for the way ME sufferers have been betrayed | George Monbiot

Changes in guidance and science seem to have little impact on millions of devastated lives. It’s a social crisis playing out behind closed doors, says Guardian columnist George Monbiot

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

I have been banned form r/AskFeminists Oh gee it was quick. It's quite tantalizing how incredibly fragile cis white American liberal feminists are (the dominant kind on Reddit). It's pathetic. I understand better the cis hate now. It's poisonous, but those cissies are quite responsible though.

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

The harsh reality is that a lot of what we name ‘recovery‘ is in fact a lie wrapped (as almost always) in a fucking individualistic neoliberal lie. I have yet to read an account from someone who ‘recovered’ while being under minority stress, mostly alone, in a situation of economic hardship, etc.

Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

I met a trans woman today who thought I was 26 because of my skin. Guess being a devoted lifelong sun-hater helps a ton, but don’t forget sunscreen (LRP Anthelios I ❤️ you) and retinoids (I recommend the 4th generation ones—i.e. Aklief). But still conpletely dizzy by being perceived SO young 😵‍💫🫥😶‍🌫️

Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Hey bluesky, how old do I look on this no-makeup pic?

A trans woman with long coppery wavy hair, without any makeup, starring at the camera with blue eyes and that's about it.

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Rose Schmits @roseschmits.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

There really is an expectation in cis society that trans people ought to accept second class status. In voting for anti trans “goodies”, in accepting segregation. Always just an outrage at not accepting oppression and our status as lesser

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

This is an incredibly enlightening take, which highlights how for both AFAB parents and cisfeminism to mature, they have to consciously integrate their misandrist shadows. But this first requires acknowledging that misandry *can* be a real systemic force, which the both firmly oppose—of course.

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⧖ big rock big river ⧖ (they/them) @bigrockbigriver.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

Women, if you've experienced this, reach out and I will help you find resources to make sure your son grows up healthy and safe. Everyone, if this happened to you, find a therapist who can work with you on preverbal trauma. Psychoanalysis will likely be a good starting place.

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

It also boils down to *privilege* as a term—which I tend to use when I am furious or want to lash out—but who my other selves profoundly despise. *Being not affected by* would be so much more specific & adequate IMO. Because else we conflate socio-pol analysis with an essentialization of people 🤢 🤯

An important lesson from actual project management is that when you prioritize everything, you really don't prioritize anything. Priorities by essence have to be ranked. Else it's not priorities, but wishful thinking.

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The purpose of a system is what it does. Mainstream academic queer theory is exclusionary, if not outright eliminationist towards transsexual women. Intent and origin of what it was and was supposed to be doesn’t really matter in the face of what it currently is and does.

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Mallory Moore @sexabolition.blog · 18/07/2026

It's so difficult to get cis people to understand the jk Rowling thing isn't that she doesn't like us so you should punish her. It's if you give her franchise any kind of support you are contributing to trans people being excluded from society

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Zoe Parker @itszoeallison.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Guess it’s not just me. I’d say I’m glad, but I’m not. I’m pissed. Pissed that even 13 years after this piece was written nothing has changed. If anything, things have just gotten worse. Trans women are still expected to remain silent about intracommunity abuse lest we be accused of division.

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"Crazy Trans Woman" Syndrome

My doctor, who is a trans woman, and I had a conversation today about the guy who raped me earlier this year. At first she was like “did you charge him?” When I explained that he’s a trans man of...

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AdequateEmily @adequateemily.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Horseshoe theory of social conservatism confirmed once again

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“Trans women talk too much and are too emotional. We should listen to the calmer, more reasonable trans masc community. Trans women just need to stay in their place. I’m a feminist obviously.”

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Something that took me a while to actually comprehend, having only transitioned at 33. I think I still have substantially better understanding of men than all other AFAB gender scholars though

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I honestly disagree but I fucking resonate with the horrible powerlessness, anger and fiery rage I can infer from your take. I know them too well. This shit is unbearable and yet, I think a lot of progressive work actually requires to metabolize shit and make it into fertile compost. But it's hard.

A sad but prevalent phenomenon. I'd just add that it's mostly unconscious, most never fully realize what they are doing. The power of unconscious biases is incredibly powerful, it's because of that that they are so difficult to be detectable by whoever is infected by them 😭

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🫂 "I don’t know how many of them would willingly escape if they could" illustrates so well this harsh & unforgiving paradox that sometimes, the true desire for freedom can only arise when you are oppressed so violently that remaining in the system just isn't an option. I speak here from experience ☠️

Fuck female (and AFAB) purity culture. It produces shit just like that:

Uboa @uboatheflesh.bsky.social · 11/08/2026

One of the reasons I hypothesize why trans mascs / men often struggle to fully embrace their masculine selves is because this in fact amounts to losing status as (potential) victims. It's then unsurprising that they try to emphasize their AFAB status as a way to retain its associated social power.

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I also am struggling with conversations with more-abled people. I hate being asked "how are you". Passively suicidal, sick, having migranes and weird unexplainable symptoms and being on giant waiting lists. I get insanely jealous of people just... living their lives and going to parties.

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Shockratees @thatshockratees.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

It’s always been a central organizing principle of fascism to identify minority groups to belittle, mock, harass, blame, purge, capture and kill (in that order). Only thing that changes is which groups are most convenient.

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

Although rarely recognized as such, this is spot-on in my experience as a transsex woman: Non-transsex-centered queer theory is fundamentally divorced from empirical reality. It amounts in practice to transsex erasure (or compels it), beginning with *a compete epistemicide of our lived realities*.

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Sofie @sofleuri.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

A reminder that anything that is held *opaque, blurry and shifting* is usually so to: • Conceal crucial information for legitimate protection or competitive / predatory ends • Avoid scrutiny & escape accountability • Be weaponized for coercive control, humiliation dynamics or to drive people insane