Watching this old (1986) Frontline episode about divorce and my opinion, originally formed in, funnily enough, roughly 1986, has not changed: these supposedly grown people made all their own dang problems their own danged selves and were *absolutely* determined to punish everyone else for it.
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Divorce Wars
Shows how new approaches to handling divorce cases are being taken in Delaware. Examines divorce and its impact on the family.