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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

But this is also the dynamic of how a lot of trans guys get trapped in abusive situations where they are socially controlled and isolated from community so that they are dependent on someone else for their safety (feeling very shameful and unmanly)

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

These sorts of guys don't generally have such reservations about throwing emasculation at other transmascs though.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

But I also get how desperate they are for any small drop acknowledgement, no matter how poison pilled, and I can't bring myself to infantilize them as they have been all their life.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

I don't ever actually say this to anyone directly, even though they are throwing us all under the bus and I am enraged about how their self absorption derails our rights.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

If they actually saw you as a cis guy, they wouldn't make you sing and dance about your "privilege" for inclusion. (The hint here, is that privilege is given --despite-- not performing)

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

There is no retrospective respect for being their attack dog and getting destroyed in the process. And they'll make sure you know that when you are no longer of use to them, that they never really saw you as a guy.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

These are the guys that throw everyone else under the bus for that little bit of a euphoria petting. Never forget that this is not respect like a cis man might get.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 12h

Every time some trans guy starts to pass and goes, "I now have to make sure girls aren't scared of me".....I want to say, "oh who's the big scary man, who's such a big boy".

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

I know what I lost by transitioning and I have to exist in a world full of people who desire to force unacknowledgment.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

I don't believe in the death penalty generally, but I am not moved to sympathy by Christa Pike's situation, this is exactly the sort of situation I fear the most. I see how others care more about her than the trans guy who was just gunned down.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Watching how people talk about Christa Pike, seeing how white womanhood casts innocence over a person, when INNOCENT Black men are executed, and no one connects these things.

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Jamie Smart @jamiesmart.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Can’t eat a sandwich until you subscribe to sandwiches. Can’t eat today’s sandwich until it has applied daily sandwich updates. Sandwich now has adverts even though you paid for ad-free sandwich. Can pay again to have less sandwich adverts. Now you can eat the sandwich, but it’s smaller.

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Chaucer Doth Tweet @levostregc.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Bene Gesserit: "Put your righte hande yn the box" Me [figuringe out wher to put my iced coffee]

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Tom Scocca @tomscocca.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Do not carry a cold beverage in their presence. Politely decline any drinks or sweetmeats they may offer. Keep a plain iron nail in your left trouser pocket and a sachet or paper twist of coarse salt in your right shoe. Enter and leave your chair moving clockwise. Follow up with a thank-you note.

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Rafe Meager (they/them) @economeager.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

tech ceos are openly salivating about the idea of kids losing basic literacy and numeracy. this tells you pretty much all you need to know

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

This is so feared that it is made to not exist and so we get transmasculine erasure. Because nothing exposes the patriarchy more than the truth that manhood is vulnerability, and that the patriarchy is the abuser.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

There is nothing the patriarchy fears more than power that is manhood, not being under its control, that a "woman" could have the "power" of being man.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Another truth: that women have power. The patriarchy fears a powerful womanhood, because it cannot understand power as anything other than oppositional and limited, it must therefore be taking away power from men.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

If we understood men as being vulnerable to the patriarchy, then they might turn against the patriarchy itself instead of the people who have no power.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

This system hides two truths: that men are vulnerable (even white cis men) to the patriarchy that uses and abuses them. All your knee jerk reactions about transmasculinity is learned behavior to protect systems of power.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

The gaslighting that transmasculine people are put through is designed to uphold systems of patriarchal power where manhood must equal power and womanhood must equal vulnerability.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

If a transmasc is weak (ie, experiences oppression), they must be a woman. If they are a man or masculine, then they cannot experience oppression, because power is what the patriarchy defines as what manhood is.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

If trans women are oppressed, then trans men must be the oppressors. This is patriarchal logic that is based on cisness, that transness is an aberration of the natural and pure.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

This is because this is what patriarchal binaryism does, is that it holds two genders in opposite oppositional positioning to each other. If manhood is strength then womanhood is weakness.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

If your goal is solely the protection of trans women, not including other trans people, then you can just talk about the issues that trans women face. But what you find instead is a knee jerk reaction to minimize the oppression of transmasculinity.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

"Why is this person doing this it doesn't make sense!" Makes sense if you accept that they are actually acting on their beliefs. Twisting yourself into knots is about not wanting to believe what they are telling you directly is true.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

Sometimes a politician just has terrible and/or inconsistent beliefs. The question you should be asking yourself is why you have to come up with complicated and bizarre plots of conspiracy without the politician showing any indication of any of it.

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Xero now with 100% more 🎃 @artificer-ind.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

Still patiently waiting to be "left behind" by AI rather than it chasing me across every damn space like a slasher in a low budget flick.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I didn't realize how expensive food had gotten in the US until I went to Europe and kept getting shocked about the prices being lower. Which yes, I know it varies by country.

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shaunt @shaunvids.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

the only threats "AI" poses to society are when people put it in charge of things that require thought, or crash the economy over it, or destroy the environment to power it. but it's people doing all of those things. AI poses zero threat by itself as it cannot do anything due to not existing

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

"When Democrats today triangulate on transgender rights, they are offering us a slower pace of decline. And they are doing so in the face of a conservative movement that has no interest in compromise of any sort."

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

It is a distraction because transphobia is the default, anything else requires work. No one is immune from participating in transphobia.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Arguing about whether so and so is transphobic or not means that their behavior becomes untouchable, which is why this is a well used tactic.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

It is a distraction because we live in a transphobic society, it is all around us and trans people are not immune and most intra trans community flighting is based on transphobia as well.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

People will argue with you about whether an individual or an organization is transphobic or not and that is a distracting tactic. It is besides the point because you can be both, and allyship does not excuse transphobia.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Notice that I am highlighting transphobic vs allyship BEHAVIORS. Because individual people and individual organizations can be one, the other, or both.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

For example: Talking to Democratic candidates about the importance of including trans people in our community and holding that as a core principle. That is being an ally.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

For example: it is trans people's fault that Democrats lose because they are too online is transphobic because it blames trans people for their own oppression, being pushed out of community.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

This is how you can tell the transphobic take on "too online" from the supportive one. Simply put, is it only to place blame on a marginalized person, or to engage with power to make their lives better?

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Trans people being "too online" is a large driver of the panic about phones in schools and children on the internet.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Are trans people "too online" because they are pushed out of their own families and communities? Yes probably. But note how the reaction here is blame and not sympathy.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Someone who is themselves too online, who manipulates intra communal discord like it's his only job, is not the person to listen to about trans people being too online.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

I generally try to tell people the reality of leaving, but it's really complicated.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

Absolutely there is an issue with people thinking that leaving is easy or simple. I know a lot of people in the US that have a lot of misconceptions about asylum. The situation in Europe is not good and getting worse and it's changed right under our feet as we were making plans.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

What enrages me are people who have not had to go through the nightmare I have had, portraying me as the privileged one. The very same people who like to promote the lie of transmasculine privilege.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

Leaving for me cannot be summed up as because of privilege, because I'd I had been as privileged as they assume, staying would have been more of a possibility. Although it does require a certain convergence of events that is not common.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

In other words, people will say, you should have stayed, even though my staying actually is the worse situation overall for everyone.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

This was a cost I would have had to carry regardless, but I know that this cost people believe I deserve to bear, and I don't deserve happiness and that any happiness I have is because I derelict my duty to suffering.

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River doesn't know what to say @riverraven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

But even still, before you get too envious, the cost for me has been tremendous and is something I still carry, as does my family.

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