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Jules

@quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy

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autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23). agender (and white). writes (textbooks and book reviews). teaches math (to engineering students) […] 🌉 bridged from ⁂ rheinhessen.social/@quidcumque, follow @ap.brid.gy to interact

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 14h

I read Greg Egan's "Distress" a decade before I identified as nonbinary, but I identified so much with the nonbinary characters, and enjoyed the society that just accepts and recognizes all these different genders so much. The "ve/ver" pronouns immediately felt like they could be applied to me […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 21/10/2026

I feel like I sort of am in this picture. It was the 90's for me, and I didn't cling to the archetype, not really, but it gave me a model: this is how I am allowed to be. (People had decided I was a girl, but I fit the stereotype so perfectly that everyone mostly seemed to forget this.)

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 21/10/2026

K3: let's play dentist Me: *thinks* okay, role-play, that's a new one with my kids Me: okay K3: good! First, we need to build the chair Me: *thinks* ah, the kind of role-play that's just a pretext for building stuff, now I know THAT from the others

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 21/10/2026

Running past the chapel in the forest, slipping in. I've prayed here, many times. For my baby, and the one of a friend, born prematurely, with complications, in 2018. For people I've never met, and their losses and grief, in 2023 and later. Today, I don't really pray, just think a good […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 19/10/2026

I like helping people, and I take it as a compliment that people with communication difficulties ask me for help on the train or at the station, but... well... ... I am really tired after a long workday with lots of social interaction! I love to help, but it's exhausting! #ActuallyAutistic

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 18/10/2026

Five-year-old K2 had bad luck playing Uno. It was clear they had no frustration tolerance left: they rage-quit and yelled, then grumpily sorted through the cards. Then they played a game called "Bruno" with partner: like Uno but K2 had all the special cards. With every card they played their […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 18/10/2026

So, I already played autumn almost through this weekend, can I have more light now please? ✓ rainy run ✓ pumpkin soup ✓ cinnamon rolls ✓ chestnut collection ✓ cemetery visit ✓ campfire and songs

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Ada Palmer @adapalmer.wandering.shop.ap.brid.gy · 17/10/2026

“When I see something great, a great piece of art or a great book, I think: human brings made these, and I’m also a human being!” - Jo Walton

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Quixoticgeek @quixoticgeek.v.st.ap.brid.gy · 16/10/2026

One of the podcasts in my feed has a new episode out titled "is fusion really 30 years away?" And my first thought is "no, it's 1au away, and the price of the collectors has come down dramatically in price"

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 16/10/2026

The sky in this one reminds me so much of Poincaré maps of chaotic systems. I'd love to make one with the standard map (showing islands of stability) in the sky. Now that would be lovely Mathart ☺️

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 15/10/2026

The almost-eight-year-old drew their uncle a picture of him at work in the pharmacy. So they don't draw humans with five fingers yet, but they do render the shelves of medicine packages in the background faithfully. Red and orange packaging here, brightly colored cough drops there, mostly white […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 14/10/2026

Acquaintance on playground: oh, you have three kids, do you have any advice? My eight-month-old doesn't want to eat any food Two other parents with babies: oh, I am interested too Me: sorry to disappoint, but kids are different. Yours isn't going to starve, so just keep offering a variety and […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 13/10/2026

A random thought: I work for others every day: I do care work, and I work with students, and I try to be kind and helpful. The reverse, someone doing something for me, is pretty rare. And I think that's mostly because not even I know for sure what kindnesses I'd appreciate and accept. Maybe […]

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Ada Palmer @adapalmer.bsky.social · 13/10/2026

Was watching Buffy’s Anya backstory episode. Friend asked why I sighed. “She’s not of a sufficiently high social class to have domesticated rabbits that far north in Europe in that century, but the writers couldn’t know, the paper was only presented at a conference yesterday.” Accuracy is fleeting.

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 12/10/2026

Completely unable to see messes you yourself made, but noticing every little untidiness someone else left behind - is that an ADHD thing? (Genuine question - I want to understand this phenomenon)

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Sophie Labelle @assignedmale.bsky.social · 12/10/2026

Freedom of choice

4 frame comic. an off frame street journalist asks a bearded man wearing a green cap and khaki clothes:

sir! do you think people
who don't have the guts to
watch a public execution
should do something else
instead of complaining, while
real men enjoy the show?

the man replies:
I don't know. do
you think people who don't
want to watch drag storytime
should just do something else
instead of demonstrating?
do you think people who
don't want to transition
should get a hobby instead
of restricting trans care
for people who need it?
how come you people
only care about freedom of
choice when it's about
being cruel to people?

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LenaOetzel @lenaoetzel.zirk.us.ap.brid.gy · 10/10/2026

'Geometrische Formen' #FotoVorschlag

Blick eine Wendeltreppe hoch, die sich wie eine Schnecke kringelt.

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 10/10/2026

I wish I knew why this kid has daily meltdowns these last weeks. Co-regulation is exhausting.

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Kit Bashir @unixbigot.aus.social.ap.brid.gy · 09/10/2026

Another successful week, by at least one measure.

Workplace sign “this is a velociraptor-free workplace, it has proudly been [2.59x10¹⁰] days since the last velociraptor incident”

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 09/10/2026

Okaaaay. One guy threatening to beat another guy up after class isn't something that has happened to me before while teaching at the university level. What the actual fuck?! But I have three kids! So de-escalation was relatively easy: they didn't even yell the whole time. #AmTeaching

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Tim J @timtfj.mastodon.social.ap.brid.gy · 09/10/2026

Bring back þe letter þ. How can you þrow out þe only rune in your alphabet? Also bring back ð. But ðis time, except in very common words like þe which look nice þe oðer way round, don't treat ðem as interchangeable. Use ð for þe voiced one and þ for þe unvoiced one, like ðey do in Icelandic […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 08/10/2026

Happy Lesbian Day to all who celebrate! (Past me celebrates, a little - I identified as a lesbian for quite a while, until I learned that I'm neither a woman nor only into women, and the label didn't feel comfortable anymore.) (Which was to bad, because I LIKED that label! Lesbians are […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 08/10/2026

K3's birthday: is on Tuesday Partner and me, three weeks ago: okay, let's do K3's birthday party on Thursday, because partner has to work on Tuesday and K2 has football practice on Wednesday K2's football practice: is cancelled Partner: has to go to a medical appointment with his mother on […]

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Dr. Victoria Grinberg @vicgrinberg.mastodon.social.ap.brid.gy · 08/10/2026

There is something to the bird's eye view. A city - Paris. Lines of wind turbines along the outer crests of Pyrenees. Deep shadows of morning light behind the hills.Fog collecting in the deep valley of a river. A village clustered on top of a hill. Solar panel fields. Perspective. A reminder […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 07/10/2026

[Religion, Christianity mention] Me: what do you want to do today? Where do you want to go? K3: to church! Me: uh... I was thinking like a playground Partner: *checks parish website* you can pray the Rosary today with a bunch of old ladies Me: certainly the thing to do with three wild kids […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 06/10/2026

About today: K3: vibrating with excitement* K2: offended because THEIR birthday is the LAST ONE** K1: overwhelmed because everything is different*** Me: tired *and sugar, maybe **it is after K3's and K1's. FOUR FULL DAYS after K1's ***school break

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 06/10/2026

My lovely K3, my little wild heart, you've been here for three years and no one can imagine our family without you. Without your constant talking and singing, without your love for slides and scooters and music. You're smart and daring, and you take care of everyone and gently stroke them when […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 05/10/2026

K3's retelling of "Little Red Riding Hood": "Little Red Riding Hood met the wolf in the forest. Then they hit it! The wolf ran to the gas station and got in a car. Then it went to grandma and ate her. Then it was very full and heavy and fell over."

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 05/10/2026

That's a neat list of things to stop doing after realizing you're autistic. Unless you're a caregiver, or poor, or otherwise marginalized. Because then, you really may DO have to do some of these things. Not everyone is free to leave a bad workplace. Not everyone is free to skip their kids' […]

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abadidea @0xabad1dea.infosec.exchange.ap.brid.gy · 04/10/2026

to give Plato credit where it's due, I find it very interesting that there are modern scholars and philosophers who insist that the nigh-universal motif of warrior women and huntresses in ancient mythology is purely an artistic conceit with no basis in reality, because they assume that ancient […]

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Henrik Schönemann @lavaeolus.fedihum.org.ap.brid.gy · 30/09/2026

Frage eines Frisch-Hergezogenen an die #Mainz-Bubble : Wo kann sich eins denn schnell und unkompliziert gegen Grippe (und Covid-19) impfen lassen? #CovidIsNotOver

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 03/10/2026

This is what I felt like, playing with my kid in the hospital waiting for results that could mean very bad news. (Thankfully, they didn't.) tech.lgbt/@Natasha_Jay/114225822673…

Nαtαshα :mastodon: (@Natasha_Jay@tech.lgbt)

Attached: 1 image A piece I just saw and happened to love by illustrator 🎨 Davide Bonazzi

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 02/10/2026

RE: lsbt.me/@MinaS/117367581229935054 Oh. Das habe ich gar nicht auf dem Schirm gehabt! 💛🤍💜🖤, mein wunderbares Kind, das "meistens ein Junge und manchmal ein Mädchen" ist, und mein wunderbares Kind, das "kein Junge und kein Mädchen, sondern was anderes" ist. Ich wünsche euch, dass ihr […]

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Clifton Royston @cliftonr.wandering.shop.ap.brid.gy · 02/10/2026

@quidcumque Among the famously restrictive American puritans, the Plymouth Brethren, I have read that scrutinizing their records showed that on average a couple's first child was born within 7 months of the marriage. This from a group who fled Holland because the Dutch wouldn't allow them to […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 02/10/2026

I always want to type the title of the book I'm reading ("Archangel Protocol") as ArchAngelProtocol 😅 Well, angels ARE messengers, right? So they need some sort of transmission protocol! (Not enough of a layer 4 nerd to make a proper joke out of this, unfortunately!)

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 01/10/2026

Day 1: "Perimeter of an Ellipse" One thing I love about math? Sometimes there are straightforward generalizations, and sometimes... REALLY not. Area of a circle? π × radius squared Area of an ellipse? π × short half-axis × long half-axis Perimeter of a circle? 2π × radius Perimeter of an […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 01/10/2026

I keep a bored and annoyed kid in pain company in the hospital I am friendly with kid's roommate and their parent I frequently translate for roomie's parent I am friendly to the nurses and ask for stuff I am nice to the doctors but press them for answers in a diplomatic way I am worried […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 30/09/2026

Okay, looks like anaesthesia 1: K2 0 😂 (K2 told me before that they won't sleep, so I told the nurse it's a competition: K2 will try as hard as they can to keep awake, and they have to try as hard as they can to put them under. Modern medicine FTW!) (K2 will totally get a prize for losing 💙)

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Ergative Absolutive @ergative.wandering.shop.ap.brid.gy · 30/09/2026

Overheard on campus today: 'You can survive any type of fall; it's just a matter of how well you convert your vertical to horizontal momentum at the bottom.' File under: 'Why teenagers think they're immortal', volume XIXX.

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 28/09/2026

Reading a book with a turtle who grants wishes. K2: I would wish not to be sick, and that I always can play in our football games 💔

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 26/09/2026

I don't know what to say. If anyone has good thoughts or prayers for K2, they're very much appreciated. They're in the hospital - strong headache, sudden onset, weak with pain. Almost everything non-nasty is already ruled out. Partner is with them, I'm at home with the other kids. Words fail me.

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 25/09/2026

I spend far too much time fighting with LaTeX today - but it looks like I did win. Yay!

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 24/09/2026

[Religion, bible quote] While I quite strongly disagree with "there is nothing new under the sun", this part "All streams flow into the sea, yet the sea is never full. To the place the streams come from, there they return again." from today's Ecclesiastes* reading feels comforting. Whatever […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 23/09/2026

K3 opens the kitchen door and walks through. Me: oh, K3, you have grown and can now reach the door handle! K3: FINALLY 🤩

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Jürgen Hubert @juergen-hubert.mementomori.social.ap.brid.gy · 23/09/2026

I find it _interesting_ that most modern portrayals of fairy tales involve kings, knights, princesses and so forth - the privileged aristocratic classes on top of the social pyramid. Even if the protagonist of such a tale is poor, they are still secretly from privileged parents, and their story […]

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Henrik Schönemann @lavaeolus.fedihum.org.ap.brid.gy · 22/09/2026

Wand decoration above my workstation ✅ #GuerrillaOpenAccess #AaronSwartz #RIP ✊🖤

The wall above my monitor in my new apartment; I put up an artwork that shows the following quote in beautiful calligraphy inside floral frame:

"Those with access - you have been given a privilege. You get to feed at this banquet of knowledge while the rest of the world is locked out. You have a duty to share it with the world."
Aaron Swartz, 2008: Guerilla Open Access Manifesto

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 22/09/2026

RE: urbanists.social/@markstos/11730906… "Right to roam for children"? It's "SPACE to roam". I guess all those highways weren't there in 1919, or at least didn't have today's traffic! (Also interesting that they don't list the distances from home the (great)grandMOTHERs were […]

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Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 21/09/2026

K3: the little siblings can't go to the kindergarten when their older sibling isn't there Kindergarten teacher (confused): but you're here today, and your older sibling isn't?! K3: yeah but I'm not LITTLE!

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 21/09/2026

Had to sit through four presentations with AI generated slides today and wow, that training data must have sucked. Tiny fonts, complete, long sentences, no overlays at all. Again, I am wondering why I should use my time to hear something no one put any effort in.

Jules @quidcumque.rheinhessen.social.ap.brid.gy · 21/09/2026

New book: Lydia Morehouse, "Archangel Protocol". Near-future cyberpunk with humans having implants that claim to do God's will. Recommended by someone (@irina?) here who found it too dystopian but thought I'd maybe like it. The premise certainly does sound like my thing! #ArchangelProtocol […]

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