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Bo Thompson @gaudipern.bsky.social · 15h

De-policing your thoughts includes recognizing when you're policing the potential guilt and suitable punishment of people with whom you have no relationship. Society has enabled us to judge people who share no community or communion with us. We are still unpacking how unhealthy it is for us all.

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Kate Schapira: "Well Put & Generalizable" @kateschapira.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

& more, yes, certainly, if you want it! This is an exercise @annekosseffjones.bsky.social & I made for when there's fresh horrors--basically, it's to decide if you want to switch the part of the horror you're responding to, or continue the effort you're making. docs.google.com/document/d/1...

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Procedure for Having to Behold

PROCEDURE FOR HAVING TO BEHOLD By: Kate Schapira and Anne Kosseff-Jones This is a procedure to try when you witness fresh evidence of an atrocity or injustice—not a call to action, but a piece of inf...

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Highly recommend a walk along Geary, and the Lebanese restaurant Beirut Bodega.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

If you want people to click through to read *more* of it, you might want to make it clear that you are advising conservatives to be more open to listening. Otherwise it sounds like…what everyone on this thread is hearing.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

All I can think is that you have never been molested by an upstanding citizen, never had a devoted partner “pull rank” on you, never been erased by a charitable organization…how simple your life must have been?

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

Oh goodness, and here it is! “I had - somewhat naively - never taken their views seriously enough. My friends who worked in government were good people, I reasoned, and surely that's true more broadly.” Once you’re designating someone good or bad, you have abdicated reasoning.

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berserk @worstplace.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

I will engage with what you wrote. While I appreciate that you're speaking as an economist to other economists, it's this exact lens that has blinkered you far more than any ideological commitments.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

For me, this falls apart with “someone…who is a good person.” This adds an unnecessary level of complication. Someone who loves their children and is kind to us…who is also bigoted? Some things are real, some things are not real.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

Whenever you drive past a hayfield, point and yell “hay!” never gets old

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

It was helpful to understand that my life was real to them the way that the life of a factory farmed chicken is real to me. I’ll try to avoid supporting that, but if someone’s serving wings I’ll probably have a few.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

One good thing about the Me Too moment was witnessing real men around me acknowledging that they DID remember things they did, they hadn’t thought of them as *right* at the time, but they had a category like “morally wrong theoretically, but I understood it as practically inconsequential to me.”

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

That was my experience in 2017. Men who trusted me as a friend were saying, “what about x thing I did years ago? Would that be seen as bad now? Does that mean it was bad then? I mean, I guess I knew it was bad, but it was normal then.” And sometimes, “Could I be in trouble now, for then?”

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

This is so good, and the “pretending not to know any of the others” is the best, please everyone commit to this one last bit.

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State of St. Louis @stateofstlouis.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

The St. Louis Arch never looked better. Context in ALT text.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

If it needs regular scrutiny to make sure it’s not becoming inundated with spam or somehow monetized against me, or if it needs me to predict when it’s going to morph into some other business model, I can’t have it.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

The platform, “Mint“ allowed me to stay on top of my accounting and expenses. it took a long time for me to set it up to be exactly right. Then after a decade, Mint shut down, and that created an avalanche of chaos in my life. Same with my email platform becoming unusable. /

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

I now say: thank you but I’m not going to borrow that from you, because I’m likely to forget to return it and I might misplace it. I used to either say, “sure!” or make up a lie. So I can see why it looks as if dx makes adhd worse.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

I’m going to read this article, and before I do, I’m going to predict that the elements of work overlooked correspond to what could be called, “women’s work”.

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WIRED @wired.com · 25/09/2026

A quarter-century ago, Borsook published a wildly prophetic, penetrating book about Silicon Valley called Cyberselfish. Then she disappeared. www.wired.com/story/paulin...

wired.com

Who Killed Paulina Borsook’s Career?

A quarter-century ago, Borsook published a wildly prophetic, penetrating book about Silicon Valley called Cyberselfish. Then she disappeared.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

100%. And the Globe is gloating that it broke records for them, which means they will be writing more of them, also about real people doing hard work in difficult environments. No thanks in advance, people who thought it was hilarious.

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Meg Pillow @megpillow.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

Just read that Boston Globe piece about the lesbian bar dropping its masking requirements and I need us to sit with this. This kind of spotlight on this issue when disabled ppl have been driven out of public life, mocked for protecting themselves, and are losing Medicaid benefits. SIT WITH THAT.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

In the last line it appears to have slipped, “people” in there, referring to bots.

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Jack Grimes @jackapedia.design · 24/09/2026

I'm joining the war on slop with cheap, fast flyer commissions. If you know someone who is asking the computer for event posters, tell them to ask me instead. Get the guarantee!

A poster mocked up as if it was offset printed in black and red roughly 60 years ago. The header reads "AVAILABLE NOW! FLYERS DESIGNED BY A HUMAN BEING!" and the subsequent text is pitching $50 flyer designs with a "SLOP-FREE GUARANTEE," incorporating some vintage Henry Volk clipart of people looking at a poster and saying how well it reflects on the event organizer.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

Remember that lady who sued McDonald’s because her coffee was too hot? And the news stories made her sound ridiculous and laughable? And it turns out that was terrible? en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liebeck...

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Liebeck v. McDonald's Restaurants - Wikipedia

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

Yes. The person in the story who snarked, “every bar in this town is a lesbian bar” yeah no they are not. And this place was ambitious, not just lesbian but open to people with no money and no home.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

Even with the Clickbait and rage bait tone of the article, I’m full of admiration for this person who is 26, and started a bar for people who feel rejected most places they go. One to watch.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I was all cocky that I’ve blocked so many people that it wouldn’t look too bad, but my god. How can they not see that 1. they’re being played and 2. they’re taking delight in the misfortunes of some very vulnerable people?

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

If you add to your sauce ingredients, cook the pasta in it for the remaining four minutes of pasta-cooking time, And then scoop the pasta out and reduce the sauce, you get heavily flavoured pasta, sauce that sticks to the pasta, and is nice and thick. But you don’t have to do that!

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Wow, I did this to an inexperienced cognitive behavioural therapist once, not on purpose, just being honest. In my defence, I didn’t feel good after either.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

I wish I could have back all the time & effort I’ve put into behaviour modifications to seem less of a target. What you’ve said is validating, thank you.

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Steve Gale @stevewg.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

Colley Hill, Surrey: coffee break from birding the steep scrub. Love the plaque on the bench I’m sitting on

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Jacob Geller @jacobgeller.com · 17/09/2026

Mel Blanc screams are like Greek fire, we lost the technology to make sounds like this

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

“ When I trust someone and I know they care about me, I take in everything they say” One thing that’s helped me is to understand that “to trust them” is incomplete without “what you trust them to do”. Trust is specific. You can trust someone to love you without trusting their judgement in an area.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

I read this article. The writer makes the jump to “it served no purpose, it was just marketing”, without evidence. Roth writes that a brown m&m would trigger an immediate line check. The band being notoriously demanding was *also* good marketing and discouraged sketchy venues.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Good luck meatball, and thoughts and prayers for that farm not being overrun without its MVP.

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JP @jpbrammer.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

I wrote about AI, our relationship to pain and to comfort, and about why writing should hurt johnpaulbrammer.substack.com/p/writing-sh...

johnpaulbrammer.substack.com

Writing Should Hurt

On our relationship to pain and creativity

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

Someone cared for you as a child, and for your friends, and for all the people who make it possible for you have a good life. If you want to pretend that’s optional work for our species, pull the ladder up and say, “no more after me”, that’s fine. I just think you should have to say it out loud.

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Nick Tsergas @nicktsergas.ca · 08/09/2026

Find a datacentre before it finds you. stopthedatacentre.ca/map

stopthedatacentre.ca

Canada-wide Datacentre Map

Find a datacentre before it finds you.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

If you truly wish for *no* people, if that’s your position, then I concede that you are consistent in wanting none of your earnings to help children, except: you do benefit from the existence of present-day adults who read, work, etc. If you don’t want to be a freeloader, you need to resolve that.

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

I see you’re American. Are you one of those who also objects to your tax dollars going to roads on which you don’t drive?

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

Yes, I was raised that way also. I hear you say you would like *fewer* people, but not *no* people. (I’m trying to understand your position, here.) You would like them raised by someone, and you would like that to be entirely handled by the people who chose to have them, that right?

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

So you are fine with people caring for children either by doing the work themselves, or by paying for it, you just don’t see that you benefit from it, so you don’t want your tax dollars spent on it. Do I have that right?

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notappearinginthisfi @notappearingint.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

To save time: do you reject the benefits you get from living in a world full of adults who have been raised by someone? And do you think that the world would be better without more people? If that’s you, while I might not agree, I will concede you have a consistent moral position.

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