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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

Realistic trauma recovery is not compatible with "just go along to get along," when "going along" requires us to deny or disown important parts of ourselves or our values & goals. You bet we get "difficult" as we recover-- and it's about goddamn time.

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Hillary Monahan @hillarymonahan.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

The funniest people are always the ones who have the worst back stories. Like HAHA, YEAH, I USED HUMOR TO COPE AFTER I WATCHED MY UNCLE GET HIT BY A TRAIN AND THEN MY BROTHER FED ME A BURGER MADE OF MY OWN DOG. OH AND THEN MY HOUSE BURNED DOWN AND MY TRANSFORMERS MELTED TOGETHER. Brains are WILD.

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George Takei @georgetakei.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

This is what the government did with 120K+ Japanese Americans in 1942. I know. I was there in those camps.

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Hank Green @hankgreen.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

If you wanted to decrease the cost of homes, one thing you wouldn’t do is put a flat tariff on your main source of timber.

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Ben Collins @bencollins.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

There appear to be at least three separately operating heel factions breaking things within the government in wholly different ways right now. There's the Miller-headed immigration one, the DOGE/Elon one, and a Project 2025 OMB one. This dynamic hasn't showed up in mainstream reporting at all.

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Chris Hayes @chrislhayes.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

There’s been a kind of…fashion of late to view anti-Trump libs as lame and cringe and just annoying, aesthetically. I remember this exact same aesthetic judgment in the run-up to the Iraq war. The earnest libs were right then and they’re right now.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

For many trauma survivors, self-invalidation is so ingrained & reflexive we don't even realize it's happening. But when we're telling ourselves, dozens of times a day, that we "shouldn't" feel what we're feeling, it gets increasingly hard to respect & take ourselves seriously.

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Chris Shelton @chrissheltonmsc.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

A cult is a place where people believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong with their beliefs, ideas and actions. Given how inherently fallible and error-prone every single human being actually is, you should immediately see the problem.

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Stephen King @stephenking.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

I had the sweetest dream last night. I was driving on the LIE and there was Donald Trump in a red jumpsuit, picking up trash beside the highway.

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Adam Grant @adamgrant.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

It takes curiosity to learn. It takes courage to unlearn. Learning requires the humility to admit what you don't know today. Unlearning requires the integrity to admit that you were wrong yesterday. Learning is how you evolve. Unlearning is how you keep up as the world evolves.

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Chris Shelton @chrissheltonmsc.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

“When a clown moves into a palace, he doesn’t become a king. The palace becomes a circus.” - Turkish Proverb

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

"Accepting personal responsibility" is not a problem most trauma survivors in recovery have. Usually we've taken on way too much "responsibility" for way too long, & we have unrealistic beliefs about "responsibility" that's truly ours & which we can appropriately take on.

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Ursula K. Le Guin @ursulakleguin.com · 31/01/2025

"The idea is like grass. It craves light, likes crowds, thrives on crossbreeding, grows better for being stepped on." —Ursula K. Le Guin, The Dispossessed, 1974

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

We don't work our trauma recovery to be "normal." It's not "normal" for people to be as clear on their values & goals as survivors in recovery. It's not "normal" for people to develop life skills & tools like survivors working their recovery. "Normal" doesn't support recovery.

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Stan Kelly @kartoonistkelly.bsky.social · 27/11/2024

It's only TUESDAY?? Longest week ever. @theonion.com

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Stan Kelly @kartoonistkelly.bsky.social · 02/12/2024

Oliver Twisted. @theonion.com

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Stan Kelly @kartoonistkelly.bsky.social · 13/01/2025

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sahouraxo @sarahabdallah.bsky.social · 12/01/2025

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Oliver Markus Malloy @malloy.rocks · 13/01/2025

The justice system is now officially a joke.

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Adam Grant @adamgrant.bsky.social · 03/01/2025

One of the clearest signs of learning is rethinking your assumptions and revising your opinions.

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Adam Grant @adamgrant.bsky.social · 05/01/2025

Personality is how you respond on a typical day. Character is how you show up on a hard day. It's easy to demonstrate fairness, integrity, and generosity when things are going well. The real question is whether you stand by those values when the deck is stacked against you.

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Tony Ortega @tonyortega.bsky.social · 05/01/2025

Mike Rinder sent us an email today, to let us know that he had shuffled off this mortal coil. That was so like him, thoughtful to the end. We're just coming to grips with this news. Please join us for some thoughts about this singular man.

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Remembering Mike Rinder, 1955-2025

The first time I met Mike Rinder, I had flown down from New York to interview him for the Village Voice.

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Jon Atack @jonatack.bsky.social · 05/01/2025

#RIP Mike Rinder. April 10, 1955 – January 5, 2025

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 06/01/2025

We're gonna make mistakes & fall into old patterns of believing, thinking, feeling, & behaving. Expect it. Don't overreact to it. Remember: what defines our recovery more than anything else is our willingness to respond to ourselves w/ realistic grace, compassion, & flexibility.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 06/01/2025

When we start letting ourselves cry after years of being shamed & punished for being "oversensitive," it can feel like we'll never stop. Don't worry about that. Yes, it's a lot-- but you won't be in a state of overwhelm forever. We meet it w/ compassion & acceptance. All day.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 06/01/2025

Extending ourselves compassion & patience does not compromise our ability to be "accountable" or "take responsibility." It's actually the opposite. Relating to ourselves w/ harsh judgment or rigid standards doesn't support us in stepping up-- it just shuts us TF down.

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Gil Durán @gilduran.com · 06/01/2025

July 4 marks the birth of the United States as a nation declaring itself free from the tyranny of kings. January 6 marks the day when would-be tyrants tried to destroy our nation in a violent betrayal that shook American democracy to its core. www.theframelab.org/january-6-wh...

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January 6: When democracy triumphed over Trump insurrection

Plus: 10 Ways to Keep Democracy Alive (video version!)

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

We're not gonna hate or shame our way into sustainable trauma recovery-- & that mans confronting, every single day, the programming that has us reflexively trashing & sabotaging ourselves. No off days. Not when it comes to taking our head & heart back from our bullies & abusers.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

It is a trauma recovery skill to accept people exactly as they are-- & to intelligently decide what that means when it comes to the role they're going to play in our head & in our life.

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Tony Ortega @tonyortega.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

Yesterday, we posted tributes from Alex Gibney, Spanky Taylor, Tracey McManus and others, but the messages keep coming with memories of Mike Rinder that we knew you would want to see, from author Lawrence Wright, journalist John Sweeney, Claire Headley, and more.

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The Mike Rinder they knew, from Lawrence Wright, John Sweeney and more

Yesterday, we posted tributes from Alex Gibney, Spanky Taylor, Tracey McManus and others, but the messages keep coming with memories of Mike Rinder that we knew you would want to see…

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Adam Grant @adamgrant.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

Bad bosses keep people stuck in dead-end jobs. Good bosses create opportunities for people to grow and advance. Great bosses encourage people to pursue growth and advancement even if it means leaving for another organization.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

It takes practice to hold back apologizing for things you owe no one any apologies or explanations for. Not apologizing is a skill. You're not gonna be great at it for a long minute-- and that's okay. Work on it. Remind yourself that this, & you, are a work n progress.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

"Choices" we made when we were vulnerable, unsupported, & under-resourced, don't represent who we are. They represent what we understood as our options at the time. Grace over guilt. We did what we could w/ what we had then-- & we can only do what we can w/ what we have, now.

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David Pakman @davidpakman.bsky.social · 04/12/2024

After telling us a million times, if we don't like Elon's Twitter, then leave, we did, and now they're furious, here, and trolling my replies with hateful nonsense

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 26/12/2024

We cannot wait until we "have" time for self-care. We gotta make time. We're not gonna recover from trauma by accident. The world is not gonna just hand us the tools & space to do it. We gotta f*ckin' claim it-- over, & over, & over again, w/ every little micro choice.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 27/12/2024

Toxic self-talk will worm its way into our day in the subtlest of ways. Trauma programming doesn't take a day-- or an hour-- off. Noticing when Trauma Brain is quietly trying to slip a distorted thought or belief into our daily functioning is a non-negotiable recovery skill.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 31/12/2024

Remember: our concrete goals are only useful if they help us feel & function the way we wanna. If we achieve some goal & it doesn't lead us to to the feeling place we had in mind, we gotta be willing to switch it up. Recovery is about quality of life, not a laundry list of goals.

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kantankorus.bsky.social @kantankorus.bsky.social · 28/12/2024

Social media is making America stupid. Jonathon Haidt NYU. “People think TikTok makes them smarter than scientists. Proudly asserting the right to their own opinion, they weigh equally their own ignorant convictions against the expertise of rigorous and learned experts.” Scientist James Kandude.com

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KANDUDEOROPTIMISM IN OUR TIMEBYDIOGENES III. About Kandude: A Candide for the 21st CenturyThis unapologetic roast dispenses scant mercy to charlatans, demagogues, and plutocrats. Kandude challenges th...

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Geekoid @geekoid.bsky.social · 18/11/2024

It factually is not binary. Wether or not one ahs a ding dng isn't the only factor in sex. Neurologists talk about this. You know, actual experts. Dr. Robert Sapolsky has a lot of lectures online. Educate yourself. youtu.be/8QScpDGqwsQ?...

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Neuro-biology of trans-sexuality : Prof. Robert Sapolsky

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Secular Mornings @secularmornings.bsky.social · 03/12/2024

"We are nothing more or less than the cumulative biological and environmental luck, over which we had no control, that has brought us to any moment." - Robert Sapolsky

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Blunt Therapist @blunttherapist.bsky.social · 25/12/2024

Not explicitly psychology books but exploring/explaining aspects of human behavior, very mainstream picks… The Righteous Mind - Jonathan Haidt Behave - Robert Sapolsky Thinking, Fast and Slow - Daniel Kahneman

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Jms Dnns @jmsdnns.bsky.social · 06/12/2024

A reliable way to make people believe in falsehoods is frequent repetition, because familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth. Authoritarian institutions and marketers have always known this fact.

Daniel Kahneman

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Davis Bickford @davis.social · 11/12/2024

Daniel Kahneman wrote about this phenomenon, "narrative fallacies arise inevitably from our continuous attempt to make sense of the world." People tend to rely on narrative coherence over statistical reasoning when making decisions or forming beliefs. 1/2

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Sharon Lurye @sharonlurye.bsky.social · 12/12/2024

"Thinking, Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman has probably influenced my thinking the most of any non-fiction book. Also "The Origins of Totalitarianism" by Hannah Arendt. Foundational fiction: E. L. Konigsburg and more Harry Potter fanfic than could possibly have been healthy for a young girl.

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TJ Terwilliger @tj-terwilliger.bsky.social · 20/12/2024

Daniel Kahneman won a Nobel Prize for proving that you're not as rational as you think. But he found one question that switches on your rational brain: What would I think if this were someone else's decision? It's easier to objective when we're thinking about somoene else.

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Geir @plusonetesting.com · 24/11/2024

“Once our minds are set in a direction, they tend to continue in that direction unless acted upon by some outside force” — Leonard Mlodinow

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