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Melissa Febos

@melissafebos.bsky.social
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Author of five books—next up The Dry Season 6/3/25 Thoughts my own and not representing any institution. linktr.ee/melissafebos melissafebos.com www.prairielights.com/pre-order-dry…

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The Rumpus @therumpus.net · 19/06/2026
"My body could wither in an instant, extinguished, a streak of smoke in the air." From "Bye, Baby," a Pride 30 highlight by @melissafebos.bsky.social. 🌈 buff.ly/Wei7elu
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 25/02/2026
21st annual Valentine’s Day mix, much belated (and yes, I’m leaving Spotify): open.spotify.com/playlist/19I...
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Valentine 2026: This Is the Day
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Brad Listi @bradlisti.bsky.social · 23/12/2025
Today on the program, Part 1 of my annual round-up of the 10 most-listened-to episodes of the year. Big thanks to everyone who guested and everyone who listens. 🎄Part 2 - Christmas Day. 🎧 Available wherever you get your podcasts. ✌🏼Stay tuned....
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Margo Steines @margosteines.bsky.social · 28/11/2025
Happening now! For today only - you can get my WYS course at a steep discount! No code needed - just add the course to your cart on my website and hit purchase <3 www.margosteines.com/write-your-s...
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creative writing course — MARGO STEINES CREATIVE
self paced creative writing class
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Prairie Lights Books @prairielights.com · 05/11/2025
Join us tonight at 7 pm for a double feature reading by @melissafebos.bsky.social and @donikakelly.bsky.social!
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GW @gwoltjer.bsky.social · 16/10/2025
@melissafebos.bsky.social comes out swinging in her essay “Nothing is Gayer than My Love for Women’s Basketball.” I wasn’t fully prepared to have the collection begin with such storytelling awesomeness.
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Brad Listi @bradlisti.bsky.social · 05/10/2025
Today on the program, my guest is @melissafebos.bsky.social, author of THE DRY SEASON: A MEMOIR OF PLEASURE IN A YEAR WITHOUT SEX. @aaknopf.bsky.social 🎧 Available wherever you get your podcasts.
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 04/10/2025
Ah, I’m so glad!
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CrimeWatch @crimewatch.bsky.social · 28/09/2025
Fuck Freud. @melissafebos.bsky.social
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 03/09/2025
Honored to be in this year’s anthology!
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Ann Tashi Slater @anntashislater.bsky.social · 18/08/2025
Melissa Febos is one of the fiercest, most brilliant writers I know, with a gift for seeing straight to the heart of things. I'm grateful for her generous words about TRAVELING IN BARDO. @melissafebos.bsky.social Out 9/9 from Balance/Hachette! Pre-order: www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/ann-t...
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Jenny Yacovissi @jbywrites.bsky.social · 21/07/2025
Why did I love this? "Maybe it’s the juxtaposition of memoir as academic dissertation with memoir as blunt 'can we talk?' observations...Perhaps it’s just that she really knows how to frame and tell a story." My review of @melissafebos.bsky.social THE DRY SEASON in @wirobooks.bsky.social.
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 15/07/2025
Personally would love to hang w @halaayala.bsky.social in the sun
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Lawrence Schimel @lawrenceschimel.bsky.social · 30/06/2025
Also, I can't help recommending yet again @melissafebos.bsky.social 's brilliant essay, "Do You Want to Be Known For Your Writing, or For Your Swift Email Responses?": magazine.catapult.co/how-to/stori... #amwriting #amtranslating #freelancelifestyle #writingcomminity
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Do You Want to Be Known For Your Writing, or For Your Swift Email Responses?
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Cat Fitzpatrick @catfitzpatrick.net · 26/06/2025
Seems like a good time to reshare @dalepeck.bsky.social on Andrew Sullivan
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Bad Faith | Dale Peck
Andrew Sullivan first showed up on my radar in 1991, an innocuous blip that gave no indication of the full-frontal assault about to be launched on the American left. I was working for OutWeek at the…
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The Common @commonmag.bsky.social · 23/06/2025
"Writing is a form of alchemy that gives very bad decisions value in hindsight” In a new interview, Melissa Febos (@melissafebos.bsky.social‬) speaks to Mauricio Ruiz about her year of celibacy, which is the subject of her new book, "The Dry Season." Check it out below!
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Celebrating Intimacy of Self: Mauricio Ruiz interviews Melissa Febos
MELISSA FEBOS <br> At the end of that year, I felt whole. I was ready for the kinds of growing that I could only do in conjunction with another person
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Jana M. Perkins, PhD @janajm.com · 24/06/2025
Calling it now: @melissafebos.bsky.social’s THE DRY SEASON is the book of the summer
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 “The manner in which I had loved people was a symptom of how I moved through the world and understood my place in it. I had understood one of my life's tasks to be the management of others' perceptions of me. It was my job to attract them and then meet or placate their desires. I had performed this unconscious labor in every realm of social life. I had earned my living that way, my self-esteem, and my physical safety. It defined the silent economy of all my romantic relationships, which insisted that the rest of my life's passions must fit into the space cleared by a lover's satisfaction. My freedom was earned by their contentment. No one in possession of that ruthless part, whose first love was art, could sustain such a dynamic. Eventually, it exhausted me, the relationship collapsed, and I was on to the next. I had not invented it, but I could choose to set it down.”A screenshot of text that reads: “This all sounds very rational, and the factor that most drove my endeavor was not rational. I felt it in my body like physical hunger, tugging on every cell. It felt biological. A pressure like that of sickness or fatigue. It was a desire that had finally grown stronger than its opposite, but was yet unknown. What did I want when I wanted the absence of something? It wasn't really time or a hob-by. I had no reference for the object of my hunger, and that was a strange condition.

In my quietest moments, on the drive home from work, my body humming as I belted out a song about love, and just before I fell asleep or after I woke, I was just an animal with a past. I sensed how much I didn't know yet. I understood that an animal could be very hungry and not know for what, only in what direction it lay.”
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Quincy Scott Jones @quincyscottjones.bsky.social · 18/06/2025
"It seems so much easier and sexier to have a big revelation but a big revelation contains no instructions for actual change." @melissafebos.bsky.social on her new #book THE DRY SEASON interviewed by @ninasharmawriter.bsky.social via @electricliterature.com electricliterature.com/melissa-febo...
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Melissa Febos on Stepping Outside the Sexual Economy - Electric Literature
“The Dry Season” reframes celibacy as an opportunity to explore pleasure and joy
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Brendan O'Meara @brendanomeara.bsky.social · 16/06/2025
Great to chat with @melissafebos.bsky.social on the podcast. Enjoy a coffee-stained quote card, a CNF Pod original!
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The Common @commonmag.bsky.social · 16/06/2025
"I felt so whole and complete, and I do think that that’s part of what qualified me for a different kind of relationship" Mauricio Ruiz interviewed Melissa Febos (@melissafebos.bsky.social‬) about her new book, "The Dry Season," and her year of celibacy. Check it out below! buff.ly/kFU0Yjv
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Celebrating Intimacy of Self: Mauricio Ruiz interviews Melissa Febos
MELISSA FEBOS <br> At the end of that year, I felt whole. I was ready for the kinds of growing that I could only do in conjunction with another person
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Alexander Chee @alexanderchee.bsky.social · 10/06/2025
I’m in conversation with my beloved friend Melissa Febos at Harvard Book Store this Wednesday, 7m, to talk about her stunning new book, The Dry Season: A Memoir of Pleasure in a Year Without Sex. Please join us if you can.
Harvard Book Store presents a discussion featuring Melissa Febos, with Alexander Chee, The Dry Season, a Memoir of Pleasure in a Year Without Sex. Melissa Febos author of National Bestselling Memoir Girlhood. Wednesday June 11, 7pm
Harvard Bookstore Cambridge MA Harvard.com
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Kimberly Burns @kimberlyburns.bsky.social · 11/06/2025
Cambridge TONIGHT @melissafebos.bsky.social + @alexanderchee.bsky.social
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The Internet's Hazlitt Magazine @hazlitt.bsky.social · 11/06/2025
We have an excerpt from The Dry Season by @melissafebos.bsky.social up on the site today: hazlitt.net/feature/freq...
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Frequency Illusion | Hazlitt
Love was not a drink, and my pursuit of it did not fit perfectly into the rubric of addiction, but it had taken me.
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Kimberly Burns @kimberlyburns.bsky.social · 10/06/2025
@melissafebos.bsky.social + Leslie Jamison last night at Books are Magic / Public Records was the best kind of literary pandemonium! NYC: Don’t miss Melissa TONIGHT @strandbookstore.bsky.social with Stephanie Danler! (Even though it says sold out, go…they’ll make room for you!)
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Beacon Press @beaconpress.bsky.social · 10/06/2025
Happy #PubDay, @sgriest.bsky.social‬! 🖌️ ART ABOVE EVERYTHING, her global exploration of queer, BIPOC, and women artists who discuss the gifts, costs, and redemptive power of pursuing a creative life, is “a deep, moving, radical book.” — @melissafebos.bsky.social‬ buff.ly/y1mJfCw
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Frankie Huang 黄碧赤 @ourobororoboruo.bsky.social · 07/06/2025
Folks in LA please be careful and refer to this guide for protest gear from Hong Kong’s 2018 anti-extradition protest, in case you need some helpful, well-tested gear suggestions against heavily armed police that are liberal with tear gas.
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Sari Botton @saribotton.bsky.social · 06/06/2025
At @memoirland.bsky.social I spoke with the one and only @melissafebos.bsky.social AND she took The Memoir Land Author Questionnaire. memoirland.substack.com/p/the-memoir...
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Brendan O'Meara @brendanomeara.bsky.social · 06/06/2025
Got to chat with @melissafebos.bsky.social and we had a pretty sweet jam sesh, not gonna lie, friend. Listen wherever you get your pods, and be sure to check out the beefy shownotes. brendanomeara.com/episode-472-...
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Kimberly Burns @kimberlyburns.bsky.social · 05/06/2025
🎉 @melissafebos.bsky.social bringing inspiration and joy (remember those things?!) to @morningjoe-msnbc.bsky.social #THEDRYSEASON
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'The best year of my life': How 12 months of celibacy changed the course of writer's life
Author Melissa Febos joins Morning Joe to discuss her new book 'The Dry Season: A Memoir of Pleasure in a Year Without Sex'.
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Electric Literature @electricliterature.com · 05/06/2025
In this excerpt from Melissa Febos’s (@melissafebos.bsky.social‬) memoir “The Dry Season,” Febos explores her relationship with pleasure and convinces us of the ecstasy of abstinence. buff.ly/n43eYXt
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My First Lover Was the Bathtub Faucet - Electric Literature
An excerpt from “The Dry Season” by Melissa Febos
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Canongate @canongate.co.uk · 05/06/2025
Happy hardback publication day to these wonders! LIFE CYCLE OF A MOTH – Rowe Irvin THE DRY SEASON – @melissafebos.bsky.social THE SEXUAL EVOLUTION – @nathanlents.bsky.social THE ACID QUEEN – Susannah Cahalan THE DEATH OF SHAME – @ambroseparry.bsky.social buythebook.online/out-today
Pub day hardback photos 5 June 2025
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@dreid63 @dreid63.bsky.social · 05/06/2025
A terrific interview @melissafebos.bsky.social. I’m looking forward to reading the book.
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Episode 56: Abstinence & Horny Nuns with Melissa Febos
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Tara McMullin @taramcmullin.com · 04/06/2025
Listen to @melissafebos.bsky.social on The Feminist Present with @adriandaub.bsky.social and Laura Goode this morning and PHWOOF (in the best way). Brilliant conversation, recommended it immediately to my husband, AND it unlocked part of an essay I was in the middle of! episodes.fm/1517251918/e...
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Listen to from The Feminist Present wherever you get your podcasts!
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Sarah Viren @sarahviren.bsky.social · 04/06/2025
Loved talking with @melissafebos.bsky.social about her sexy thoughtful celibacy book for @literaryhub.bsky.social lithub.com/melissa-febo...
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Melissa Febos on the Unexpected Joys, Discoveries, and Sexiness of Celibacy
Toni Morrison’s famous comment on writing, one I sometimes put at the top of my syllabi, is this: “If there’s a book that you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then y…
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Kristin J. Boldon @kjboldon.bsky.social · 04/06/2025
"My life had always more or less functioned as a treat-based economy." (49) Reading The Dry Season by @melissafebos.bsky.social Feeling seen 😳
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 04/06/2025
Loved talking to you, @estelletang.bsky.social
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Seattle Chef 🍁 🇨🇦 @seattlechef.bsky.social · 04/06/2025
Take a peek at this compelling interview with Professor @melissafebos.bsky.social in @theguardian.com about her new book "The Dry Season" which explores themes of love, sex, dependency and celibacy. www.theguardian.com/wellness/ng-...
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‘Our fantasy of love has to do with need and dependency’: Melissa Febos on her year of celibacy
Febos’s life flourished while taking a year off sex and dating. In a new memoir, The Dry Season, she explores the allure of romance
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Vauhini Vara @vauhinivara.bsky.social · 03/06/2025
Hey, @vanityfair.com (specifically @keziahweir.bsky.social) thinks you should read SEARCHES this summer: one of "the best books to kick off your summer reading," along with books by @melissafebos.bsky.social, @stephenking.bsky.social, and others! www.vanityfair.com/style/story/...
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A Newspaper Published an AI-Generated List Full of Fake Novels. Here, 12 Real Books to Read Instead
Forget AI oopsies; here are some of the best books to kick off your summer reading, from the steamy to the spine-chilling—and each hand-selected by the staff of VF.
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 03/06/2025
This book is out TODAY! I put my whole heart into it. You can buy it wherever you buy books. www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/725681...
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 03/06/2025
I rounded up my favorite books for your Hot Nun Summer over at @marieclairemag.bsky.social www.marieclaire.com/culture/book...
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Melissa Febos Wants You to Have the Hottest No-Sex Summer
Choosing celibacy? No problem. Read these eight divinely erotic books curated by the author who is making "hot nun summer" a thing.
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Sam Baker @theothersambaker.bsky.social · 03/06/2025
I think this is one of my most favourite episodes of The Shift podcast ever. podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/t... @canongate.co.uk @melissafebos.bsky.social
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Kimberly Burns @kimberlyburns.bsky.social · 02/06/2025
Brilliant! 🔥🔥🔥 Emrata talks with @melissafebos.bsky.social about THE DRY SEASON for Interview Mag! 🔥🔥🔥
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Melissa Febos Tells Emily Ratajkowski What She Learned From Her Year Without Sex
After reading "The Dry Season," the bracing new memoir by Melissa Febos, Emily Ratajkowski called the author to talk about sex, seduction, and Sally Rooney.
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 01/06/2025
Happy first day of Pride, friends! ✂️✂️✂️✂️✂️✂️
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Melissa Febos @melissafebos.bsky.social · 31/05/2025
My event on June 10 at The Strand is sold out but there are a few tickets left for the Brooklyn launch with Leslie Jamison at Public Records via Books Are Magic: www.eventbrite.com/e/offsite-me...
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Offsite: Melissa Febos: The Dry Season w/ Leslie Jamison
“Only Melissa Febos could convince us of the ecstasy of abstinence. She never fails in her candor and precision.” —Katherine May
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Kimberly Burns @kimberlyburns.bsky.social · 30/05/2025
🎉 In THE DRY SEASON, @melissafebos.bsky.social “connects her own romantic life to that of women throughout history — including 11th-century mystic Hildegard von Bingen, Virginia Woolf and Octavia Butler —
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PEOPLE Picks the Best Nonfiction Books of Summer 2025
If you like your beach reads with a dose of truth, pack these PEOPLE-approved nonfiction summer books for your next vacation.
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Kimberly Burns @kimberlyburns.bsky.social · 30/05/2025
🎉🎉🎉 👋 @melissafebos.bsky.social THE DRY SEASON & Peter Orner THE GOSSIP COLUMNIST’S DAUGHTER! Thank you @katekilla.bsky.social & @bostonglobe.com 📚 www.bostonglobe.com/2025/05/30/a...
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75 new books to add to your summer reading list - The Boston Globe
Whether you’re looking for a romance novel to toss into your beach bag or something more mysterious to read on the lake house dock, this list of 75 books has something for every kind of reader.
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Off Assignment @offassignment.bsky.social · 30/05/2025
Congrats @melissafebos.bsky.social on her new memoir! Melissa's one of our earliest Letter to a Stranger contributors and has been a beloved guest author at our courses. For a full OA lovefest, catch her book tour w fellow OA contributors @lucaswmann.bsky.social in Providence & Leslie Jamison in BK.
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Daniel Paisner @danielpaisner.bsky.social · 28/05/2025
“I think I’d like to be a kestrel. I think that’s what people imagine I’m like after they read me. But I’m more like a raccoon. You know, just digging through your trash. When you turn on the lights, they put up their little paws." - @melissafebos.bsky.social #memoir www.nytimes.com/2025/05/27/s...
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She Was Addicted to Romance. So She Gave Up Sex.
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