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Task 1: Accept the reality of the loss
The first task is to face the reality that the person is gone. Even if the death is expected, there's a sense that it didn't happen. We must accept intellectually and emotionally that the loss is irreversible. Rituals, such as funerals, help us accept that death is real.](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:ipgl7qiy2nedzcdgcq64e2yg/bafkreiaq7rlq3kx4m57sgu4i66rsjuhl2wzzn6dmc53pjwdyza5urh4kty)
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Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Not everyone experiences the pain of loss the same. It is important to work through the pain, or it will make itself known through physical problems. Family and friends may be uncomfortable and try to rush this task or deny it. Mourners may use drugs or alcohol, idealize the deceased, move away, or jump into a new relationship in an effort to skip this task. No matter what we do to avoid the pain, it will return if not worked through.](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:ipgl7qiy2nedzcdgcq64e2yg/bafkreidyswvazh2ajegqj3kbt7vqktedosq5pner4e6jrkecii2e7tgjb4)
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Task 3: Adjust to an environment in which the deceased is missing
It takes time to get used to living without a spouse or loved one. It is common to resent having to take on new roles or perform new tasks that a partner did. Trying to take on the deceased's role may fail and lower self-esteem. We search for meaning in the loss. It is during this task that we try to regain some sense of control over life.](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:ipgl7qiy2nedzcdgcq64e2yg/bafkreiddivmff333r76i7x5xw3yhnesplw6kwx5symhzsaesygaqvdpkau)
