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Graham Johnston

@gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social
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Therapist & Relationship Expert grahamjohnston.uk 🎙️ Crazy in Love — Relationship Podcast ✍️ Get Some Help! — Psychology Today 📖 A Straight Talking Introduction to Therapy 📺 Relationship Expert — ITV's My Mum, Your Dad

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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
What does a good relationship actually look like? In the latest Crazy in Love, Matt and I explore 12 principles of a psychologically healthy relationship — including why you need to ask for what you want, accept differences, and keep some independence. api.courseiq.app/sp/8aa1d6bd59d
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 22/09/2026
Fascinating and useful analysis of the ongoing improvement in England’s schools.
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Sam Freedman @samfr.bsky.social · 13/09/2026
New post: Young people are increasingly unhappy. It's a real phenomenon + nothing to do with "snowflakes". There are lots of standard culprits - social media, school, economy - but none can explain the long-term trend. So what is going on? (£/free trial) samf.substack.com/p/the-agency...
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The Agency Gap
Why are young people increasingly unhappy?
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 04/09/2026
Listen to When to speak up, and when to pipe down on @rss.com rss.com/podcasts/cra...
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When to speak up, and when to pipe down | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
We worry we sometimes confuse our listeners with mixed messages.We say: don't be a jerk. Don't sweat the small stuff. Bite you tongue unless something really matters. Be careful not to endlessly whine...
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Gillian Brockell @gillianbrockell.com · 25/08/2026
This girl I used to waitress with in Austin, we moved to New York together in 2003 on a literal Greyhound bus. Shared a fifth floor walk-up studio that, when it rained, had more leaks in the ceiling than we had pots and pans. We used to get drunk and smoke off the fire escape and do “sad-offs.”
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Joel @itsjoels.bsky.social · 25/08/2026
This is the letter kids got at the end of Dolly’s Imagination Library. I defy you to read this and not cry.
Sorry, I can’t type that.
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Tyron @tyron.bsky.social · 25/08/2026
The @stephenkb.bsky.social column this week is a deeply necessary, clear counter to most of the discourse on the future for tax and spend for the British state. There are three options - there's no point in pussyfooting around with myths and not opting for one of them. www.ft.com/content/9102...
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 10/08/2026
My latest, for @psychologytoday.com: Don’t Talk About Your Feelings, at Least Not All the Time | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-...
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Don’t Talk About Your Feelings, at Least Not All the Time
Modern relationship advice tells us to express all our feelings together. It's wrong. Self-regulation is crucial, and is not the same as emotional avoidance.
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timoconnorbl.bsky.social @timoconnorbl.bsky.social · 19/07/2026
Oh, Enzo Fernandez of the racist chants sent off? In the World Cup final, the sort of thing that brings ignominy on you forever in the record? Tsk. How sad.
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Harry De Cosemo @harrydecosemo.bsky.social · 15/07/2026
Croatia 2018 🤝 Argentina 2026. Tuchel was brought in to make the difference in this exact moment and he didn’t. England retreated, encouraged by his substitutions and the inevitable happened. Messi didn’t even need to have a big night, but still absolutely crucial.
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Miguel Delaney @migueldelaney.bsky.social · 14/07/2026
It isn't that France haven't turned up. It's that Spain basically rendered them irrelevant. Best performance of the tournament so far, by a distance. Just imposed their game on them. Deschamps also got it wrong, too. They knew two on three in midfield was a risk.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 12/07/2026
Elliott Anderson was simply superb in that game.
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Jonathan Liew @jonathanliew.bsky.social · 06/07/2026
and now for the hard graft of changing my WhatsApp username to “Mexico 2-3 England” and messaging everyone I know who went to bed
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Count Binface @countbinface.bsky.social · 06/07/2026
People who opted to watch the replay at 7am should have to sit through an hour’s rain delay because they couldn’t be arsed to stay up. #VoteBinface #MEXENG
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Psychology Today @psychologytoday.com · 03/07/2026
Falling in love is intoxicating and joyful, but when that spark of fun and giddiness starts to fade, too many partners worry that their relationship is broken. Here's why they're wrong. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/get-...
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Long-Term Relationships Are No Fun
They aren't dopamine-drenched like early love, but they give you more in return.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 23/06/2026
Again, the other team does have a plan and decent players. Their out of possession shape was superb. We’ll be fine.
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OCD.xyz @ocd.xyz · 18/06/2026
Only 2% of people with OCD have documented evidence of receiving ERP. Most are in therapy right now with a well-meaning clinician who isn't trained to treat what they actually have. New post on why insight isn't enough — and what actually works.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 17/06/2026
The other team do want to win, you know. And they’re good. They’ve scored two terrific goals. Chill. We’re good, too.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 20/05/2026
Emi Buendia got me through Covid lockdown. What a player.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 14/05/2026
New podcast episode up - Compatibility Is Over-Rated: rss.com/podcasts/cra...
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Compatibility Is Over-Rated | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
You’re told to find the right person and everything else falls into place. Popular culture sells the same script: meet “the one”, and the hard part is done.Anyone who has stayed in a long-term relatio...
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 13/05/2026
www.theguardian.com/football/202... And banana bread, eh, @liberopodcast.com?
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Personalised chopsticks and underwater treadmills: Manchester City Women find new ways to win
Captain Alex Greenwood said ‘nothing comes close’ to club’s £10m state-of-the-art facility built specifically for women’s team
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 30/04/2026
One of the days I like most in the whole year is the day all the videos come out of the calls to NFL players about to get drafted. Young men who’ve worked their asses off for years - often from extremely tough backgrounds - having their families’ lives transformed. Amazing.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 28/04/2026
Could say this about the second 45, too.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 28/04/2026
Best 45 minutes of football I’ve seen for a number of years. If I was a supporter of either, I’d quite like a CDM to come in and make a few tackles, mind…
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 28/04/2026
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What Works In Therapy - And What Doesn't | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Answering a question with a question. Seeking to discover what's beneath the anger. And underneath the sadness underneath the anger? And underneath that?It's easy to disparage and mock, but the cliché...
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 25/04/2026
Good God, don’t give me hope. #ncfc
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 15/04/2026
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Elon Musk Thinks Introspection Does More Harm Than Good: Is He Right? | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
"People who dwell in the past get stuck in the past." - Marc Andreessen. (https://www.youtube.com/shorts/b6Zw50f5jJk)"Introspection causes emotional disorders." - Andreessen again."Reinforcing negativ...
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 15/04/2026
Feels increasingly like there is political pressure for this study to find a certain set of results which adds to the snowballing demand for us to *do something* even if that doing something (i.e. banning social media for under 16s) reduces liberty and connection. Great blogpost ⬇️⬇️⬇️
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 07/04/2026
Given Kanye is in the news again, I’m reposting the terrific Freddie de Boer on the subject: open.substack.com/pub/freddied...
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It's "Mental Illness Doesn't Do That" Season Once Again
wovon man nicht sprechen kann, darüber muss man schweigen
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WeRateDogs @weratedogs.com · 25/03/2026
A viral dog rescue from 2016 is now immortalized with a statue in Kazakhstan. When a dog fell into the Sayran reservoir, bystanders formed a human chain to pull him to safety. The statue is a reminder of the value of unity, solidarity and collective action. 14/10 for all
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 18/03/2026
Check our new podcast: rss.com/podcasts/cra...
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Seven Surprising Signs You Might Be Headed For Divorce | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Matt and Graham get their teeth into some advice from couples therapists about seven signs you might be heading for divorce, ranging from "you stop arguing" to "you take up ultramarathons" (yes, reall...
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 14/03/2026
Yes. Of course, yes. There are limits. But the idea we need to be “compatible” on things like this are creating ludicrous expectations for our relationships.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 27/01/2026
I don't agree with every single word, but this, by Freddie deBoer, on Kanye West, his apology, and mental illness, is a great read. Challenge your assumptions and give it a read. freddiedeboer.substack.com/p/its-mental...
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It's "Mental Illness Doesn't Do That" Season Once Again
wovon man nicht sprechen kann, darüber muss man schweigen
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 27/01/2026
Latest for @psychologytoday.com. TLDR version: January sees a spike in divorce petitions. Divorce plans aren't always dramatic; often it’s more of a nagging question: Is it still worth the effort? Instead, it’s worth asking another question: Are you a pleasure to live with? tinyurl.com/3x829kys
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Forget Divorce Day, and Love the One You’re With
January often sees a spike in consultations with divorce lawyers. But don't just swap one set of problems for another before asking yourself these questions.
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James O'Malley @jamesomalley.co.uk · 19/01/2026
“the third Monday in January is notoriously the gloomiest day of the year”, the BBC News website informs us, without revealing the source of this claim is a notorious nonsense PR survey from probably 20 years ago at this point.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 14/01/2026
A hill I will die on: adults who advocate for a ban on teenagers using social media should face a ban themselves. I’m only half joking.
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Pim Cuijpers @pimcuijpers.bsky.social · 09/01/2026
People with more severe depression probably benefit more from psychotherapy than those with mild depression. Read our new meta-analysis of almost 400 randomized trials of therapies for depression. With Mathias Harrer, Clara Miguel, Eirini Karyotaki, Davide Papola doi.org/10.1016/j.ja...
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Redirecting
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 22/12/2025
New pod episode of @crazyinlovepodcast.bsky.social is up - and we're giving you an early Xmas present: permission to stop being so damn NICE in your relationship! As always, if you like what we do, subscribe and leave us a nice review. Photo by Henri Mathieu on Pexels. rss.com/podcasts/cra...
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Julia M. Rohrer @dingdingpeng.the100.ci · 15/12/2025
The "smartphones/social media" discourse suffers from some amazing historical amnesia. There was no 2008 financial crisis and no global pandemic starting in 2020, it's all SCREENS SCREENS SCREENS. Major world events? Just the backdrop against which SCREENS happened.
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Naomi Waltham-Smith @auralflaneur.bsky.social · 13/12/2025
“Parental resources seem to play an outsize role in who gets help.”
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 12/12/2025
About the time of year to repost one of my all-times faves.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 12/12/2025
Yes! Great article. I wrote about something similar for @psychologytoday.com a while back: www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-...
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How Therapy-Speak Can Ruin a Relationship
In plain language, if you want compassion, be compassionate.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 05/12/2025
A useful and sensible summary of the current position.
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Rob Chapman @scribblerrob.bsky.social · 09/11/2025
My local town football team. It was mostly away games the following season. "some corner of a foreign field"
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 01/11/2025
The three hour night. One hour for chores. One hour with your partner. One hour of "self-care" (whatever that means; I'm not a fan of the term). Could it save your struggling relationship? Find out in the latest episode of Crazy In Love! Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko on Pexels.
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 30/10/2025
I spoke with BACP for this piece on sleep anxiety and the clocks changing. As a light sleeper myself, let’s just say I have a personal interest in the subject! www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
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Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
News from BACP | Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 30/10/2025
I spoke with BACP for this piece on sleep anxiety and the clocks changing. As a light sleeper myself, let’s just say I have a personal interest in the subject! www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-fr...
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Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
News from BACP | Why the clock change affects your sleep and how to fix it
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 29/10/2025
Main take aways from the Attanasio Q&A. He should be taking advice from those outside the club given his lack of football knowledge. But his ability to acknowledge mistakes (a number of them), to see that chopping and changing is not the answer, makes me confident in the long term picture. #ncfc
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Graham Johnston @gjohnstontherapy.bsky.social · 15/10/2025
The Importance of Managing Romantic Expectations | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-...
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The Importance of Managing Romantic Expectations
The switch from love and companionship to mutual growth has raised the bar to unrealistically high levels. Here's how to re-evaluate your expectations.
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