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We are a network of academics, mostly philosophers, exploring the social impact of dating apps. Find us at ethicaldatingonline.com and Instagram.

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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 15/08/2026
In the print edition of the Guardian today alongside @elsakugelberg.bsky.social and Adam Peacock. Also here: www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 14/08/2026
Three members of our network on changes at Bumble and what they tell us about online dating. www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
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As online dating goes into ‘salvage mode’, can AI solve all its problems?
Dating apps such as Bumble forced to adapt as ‘swipe fatigue’ grows
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 14/07/2026
This is your periodic reminder that if you’re interested in love, sex, or relationships in all their diversity then follow @clsrleeds.bsky.social - there is a great bunch of people doing good work on every aspect of these topics.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 13/05/2026
Network member @elsakugelberg.bsky.social is talking today at the University of Leeds 👇🏻
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 08/05/2026
Dating app researcher? Want to work at Leeds with us? Consider applying for a Marie Curie fellowship if you’re eligible 👇🏻
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 30/03/2026
Infidelity on dating apps? A new paper from @simoneschneider.bsky.social! journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/...
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 30/03/2026
Here are nine personal reflections from the discussion at @britishacademy.bsky.social’s Love in the Time of Tech public event.
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 26/03/2026
Some news: @nmckeever3.bsky.social and me, with the support of @alex-fisher.bsky.social will be reviewing the ethical standards of the Online Dating and Discovery Association: the organisation which represents dating apps theodda.org/whats-happen...
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The ODDA launches new standards review with the University of Leeds | Online Dating and Discovery Association
The ODDA is reviewing its member standards in partnership with the University of Leeds to ensure they remain relevant and up to date
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Alex Fisher @alex-fisher.bsky.social · 09/03/2026
As part of #BPF2026, I'll be speaking online at @triphilosophy.bsky.social - 1pm, Tuesday 17 March. Following #IWD, come and find out how we can fight back against misogyny's growing use of various digital representations against women! #philsky #philosophymatters All are welcome! Zoom link below
Representational Wrongs
AI-Generated Sexual Images & the Digital Evolution of Misogyny
Dr Alex Fisher

Outline:
1. Harms of AI images: deceptive vs representational
2. How AI-generated sexual images harm
3. Other cases of representational misogynyThe social media site X recently faced outcry when its AI tool Grok was used to generate “undressed” images of women without their consent.

I show how research in philosophy and psychology can illuminate why these images are so harmful. Even when we know images aren’t “real”, seeing digital representations of ourselves violated can have a deep emotional impact. 

I discuss how we can combat this developing misogynistic trend of representational wrongs, including undressed and “tribute” images, virtual assault, and custom sex dolls.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 20/01/2026
@lukebrunning.bsky.social was quoted in this article on modern dating in @theleaduk.bsky.social national.thelead.uk/p/how-to-mak...
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How to make modern dating work for you
The structural reasons for the current 'relationship recession' are plentiful, but addressing the toxic dating culture starts with us
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 28/11/2025
People are using Chat-GPT to flirt on dating apps and I was asked about it for @lemonde.fr www.lemonde.fr/pixels/artic...
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La drague assistée par ChatGPT, ou quand le flirt en ligne devient une charge, presque un travail
Des utilisateurs confient à ChatGPT la tâche de flirter à leur place, jouant l’efficacité plus que l’authenticité. Une pratique parfois encouragée par les applications de rencontre.
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Brian D. Earp, PhD @briandavidearp.bsky.social · 12/10/2025
‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
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‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder
Where once people were duped by soft-focus photos and borrowed chat-up lines, now they have to watch out for computer-generated charm. But it’s one thing to use a witty phrase – another thing…
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Alex Fisher @alex-fisher.bsky.social · 04/10/2025
This is becoming a worrying trend as relationship advice is now marketised and monetised by big tech. And difficult to foresee the longer term social impact of increased AI use in dating/relationships on how we trust, talk to, and relate to others. @clsrleeds.bsky.social @ethicaldating.bsky.social
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 18/09/2025
For Sexual Health Week I wrote a blog for Brook encouraging more people think about online dating www.brook.org.uk/blog/dating-...
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Dating in the Digital Sexual Sphere: How Apps Are Shaping Our Search for Intimacy  - Brook
For Sexual Health Week 2025, we’re exploring the rise of dating apps and the role they now play in our intimate lives. In this blog, Dr Luke Brunning,
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 15/08/2025
I shared some thoughts about a new academic study of dating apps in the @newscientist.com www.newscientist.com/article/2492...
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Couples who meet online may have lower relationship satisfaction
Meeting online may be the norm in today's dating scene, but connecting offline initially may lead to better relationship outcomes
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 12/08/2025
Do dating apps perpetuate sexual racism? @nmckeever3.bsky.social and @lukebrunning.bsky.social contribute to this Cosmopolitan article exploring the issue www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/...
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‘Are your dating apps encouraging sexual racism? I went up against the algorithm to find out’
When Serena Smith rejoined dating apps after a break-up, she got vanishingly few matches — that is, until she changed her race to ‘white’
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 11/08/2025
Contracts signed! @nmckeever3.bsky.social Ruby Hornsby and @lukebrunning.bsky.social will be editing The Ethics of Online Dating for @bloomsburybooksuk.bsky.social
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 05/08/2025
@cdietzel.bsky.social a new member of our network, recently published an article exploring the harms experienced by members of the LGBTQ+ community on dating apps. theconversation.com/more-than-ju...
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More than just a bad date: Navigating harms on LGBTQ+ dating apps
Queer and trans people can experience harm through dating apps. Here’s what they — and the apps themselves — can do to change that.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 24/07/2025
One of our network @eirinimar.bsky.social will be talking about AI in dating messaging at the International Ethics of Artificial Intelligence Conference 👇🏻
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 17/07/2025
Natasha and Luke have a new article out in @theconversation.com exploring use of AI on dating apps theconversation.com/ai-can-be-yo...
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AI can be your wingman when online dating – but should you let it?
Apps and users might be hopeful that Gen-AI can make dating apps fun again.
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Carrie Jenkins @carriejenkins.net · 16/07/2025
Featuring the letter from @ethicaldating.bsky.social www.ellecanada.com/life-and-lov...
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Will AI Save Singles From Dating-App Burnout? | ELLE Canada Magazine | Beauty, Fashion and Lifestyle Trends & Celebrity News
Will introducing AI to the daring app equation keep singles engaged or make them question who’s really behind their screen?
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Shannon Vallor @shannonvallor.bsky.social · 24/06/2025
Did an interview with the @wsj.com and two other experts on AI companionship. Not all of the conversation made it in of course, but overall it was a pretty good discussion! Betteridge’s Law applies.
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Can You Really Have a Romantic Relationship With AI?
Yes, you can. And it can be good for you. But the danger is seeing it as a substitute for a human connection. Three experts weigh in.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 15/06/2025
Listen to @lukebrunning.bsky.social discussing dating apps, in-person alternatives, and AI 👇🏻on Radio New Zealand.
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Kate Devlin @drkatedevlin.bsky.social · 11/06/2025
WOKE?! Come to our panel on Digital Futures of Diversity on 23 June at King's College London as part of @kings-dfi.bsky.social 'Living Well with Technology' series, with @birgitneunews.bsky.social , @lewisiwu.bsky.social, & @nessakeddo.bsky.social and Elisabeth Kelan. www.kcl.ac.uk/events/digit...
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Digital Futures of Diversity
How can we design and implement digital systems that genuinely enhance diversity rather than simply digitising existing inequalities?
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 05/06/2025
Check out this blog post on AI and dating apps by our nework member Elle Yang elleismatic.com/archive/do-w...
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Archive • Do we need AI in dating apps?
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Shannon Vallor @shannonvallor.bsky.social · 04/06/2025
“Innovators will no longer be limited by these standards [and regulations].” Predictable but still heartbreaking. Buckle up folks, you’re on a ride with no brakes and no one behind the wheel who cares about your safety.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 29/05/2025
A few new people have joined our network. You can find more about all members here: www.ethicaldatingonline.com/team
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Team — ETHICAL DATING ONLINE
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 25/04/2025
The talk on dating apps sounds great 👇🏻
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 26/03/2025
Several us shared our thoughts on the possibility of being friends with AI bots in this fantastic article for @vox.com by @chengela.bsky.social www.vox.com/future-perfe...
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The rise of chatbot “friends”
Wait, what is a friend anyway?
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 21/03/2025
Thank you to everyone who came to my #philfortnight2025 talk exploring some of the ethical dimensions of dating apps! The questions were interesting and challenging, and will help me develop my project further.
A picture of Luke Brunning giving a talk in front of a slide showing logos of many different dating apps.
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Aberdeen Philosophy @abdnphilosophy.bsky.social · 20/03/2025
🙎➡️ 🤖 "Personal avatars" are "digital duplicates" of real people. How might they be useful? What are their risks? Paula Sweeney explains how philosophy can help us approach these questions #PhilosophyMatters #PhiloFortnight2025
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 19/03/2025
As part of British Philosophy Fortnight I’ll be talking about my project exploring the ethics of dating apps. #philosophymatters #philfortnight2025
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
The Latvian media also covered some of our concerns about AI and online dating: www.lsm.lv/raksts/dzive...
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«TikTok» ieviesīs «komandantstundu» pusaudžiem, un mākslīgais intelekts palīdzēs flirtēt «Tinder». Tehnoloģiju ziņas
Digitālajiem gardēžiem Latvijas Radio raidījums "#DigitālāsBrokastis" piedāvā iknedēļas tehnoloģiju TOP. Iepazīsties ar aizvadītās nedēļas spilgtākajiem tehnoloģiju pasaules notikumiem un produktiem!
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Our concerns about dating apps and AI were covered in this Prensa Libre article www.prensalibre.com/vida/bbc-new...
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“Es más fácil enamorarse así”: cómo los jóvenes están cambiando el mundo de las citas online
Un año después de verse una vez e iniciar una relación online, Jess y Nate se comprometieron en una playa dorada, y deshabitada y asilada, dentro de un videojuego.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 15/03/2025
Our work on the ethics of AI and online dating features in this BBC news article. www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
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AI in dating apps 'a threat to authentic intimacy' - BBC News
Researchers into the ethics of online matchmaking urge caution over the use of AI on dating apps.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 15/03/2025
Our work on the ethics of AI and online dating features in this BBC news article. www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
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AI in dating apps 'a threat to authentic intimacy' - BBC News
Researchers into the ethics of online matchmaking urge caution over the use of AI on dating apps.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
This is one of the reasons why we wrote our open letter about AI in dating apps. www.globaldatinginsights.com/featured/mos...
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Most Adults Unable To Spot AI Dating Profiles In Study - Global Dating Insights
A recent study by fashion brand Pour Moi reveals that a significant number of adults struggle to distinguish between real and AI-generated dating profiles. The global survey, which involved 3,000 part...
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 12/03/2025
Our open letter about the risks of AI in online dating was covered in the Dutch media: newsmonkey.be/ai-coach-tin...
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Nieuwe AI-functie van Tinder maakt flirten makkelijker - Newsmonkey
Match Group, het bedrijf achter Tinder, lanceert een AI-functie om gebruikers te helpen bij het communiceren met matches.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 11/03/2025
Our open letter is discussed in Romanian here: alephnews.ro/media/aplica...
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Aplicațiile de dating vor avea chatboți pentru utilizatorii care au nevoie. „Oamenii nu vor mai știi ce este real și ce e generat de A.I.”
Viața ta amoroasă primește un boost virtual! Compania din spatele celor mai cunoscute aplicații de dating pariază pe A.I.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 11/03/2025
Help researchers better understand young people’s attitudes towards dating: www.surveymonkey.com/r/VFD7SQZ
A picture of red poster asking people to fill in an anonymous dating survey.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 10/03/2025
Our open letter was also covered by the @newyorkpost.bsky.social nypost.com/2025/03/08/l...
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Tinder is rolling out an AI ‘wingman’ to help ‘struggling users’: This is what the tech will do for you
With the help of AI, singles can find love that’s anything but artificial.
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 10/03/2025
Our letter was signed by: @shannonvallor.bsky.social, @carriejenkins.bsky.social, Jörg Löschke, @elvirapv.bsky.social, @paulasweeney.bsky.social, Elanor Drage, @nmckeever3.bsky.social, @lukebrunning.bsky.social, @lucyamcdonald.bsky.social, Gulzar Barn, @tomoshea.org, @lopezcantero.bsky.social,
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 10/03/2025
Our open letter about AI and dating apps discussed in newsprint in The Observer.
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Pilar Lopez-Cantero @lopezcantero.bsky.social · 09/03/2025
People often depend on dating apps to find intimacy, particularly in cities & remote areas. The demographics of academics (age & relationship status) often make us blind to the ethics of dating, but integrating AI in these services comes with serious health & social risks. Keep yourself informed ⬇️
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 09/03/2025
Our open letter about AI and dating apps is discussed in @theguardian.com today. www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
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AI ‘wingmen’ bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps
Users may have difficulty once they arrive on real-life dates, without their phone to help them, say academics
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 07/03/2025
Last night Natasha and Luke spoke at the Leeds Salon. They made the case for the ethical downsides of much online dating before exploring routes to positive change.
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Luke Brunning @lukebrunning.bsky.social · 06/03/2025
This is tonight! I’m excited to share my take on dating apps.
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Alex Fisher @alex-fisher.bsky.social · 28/02/2025
Utterly grim, but important reporting @ethicaldating.bsky.social
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Ethical dating online @ethicaldating.bsky.social · 27/02/2025
Come talk dating apps in person 👇🏻
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