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David J. Ley Ph.D.

@davidleyphd.bsky.social
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Shrink, author, sex and psychology expert witness. Black belt in BJJ, Burner, beer and bourbon enthusiast. Oh. And Dad jokes. Sorry.

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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 07/09/2026
Trump posts map that renames New Mexico 'New America'. Umm, Sooorro instead of Socorro? I think someone needs a geography class. nypost.com/2026/09/06/u...
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Trump posts map that renames New Mexico ‘New America’
President Trump posted a map showing New Mexico rebranded as “New America” during a rapid-fire Truth Social storm on Sunday.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 22/08/2026
It’s okay if you sleep through this. Just moan appreciatively. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
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Pincushion the Snipped @hypnodrone.bsky.social · 22/03/2026
Do whatever floats your boat and works for you and your family, but no, perpetuating pseudoscientific myths to your children about “sex addiction” isn’t healthy or ethical. Yeesh, @nytimes.com, do better. 😬 @davidleyphd.bsky.social www.nytimes.com/2026/03/14/m...
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My Sex Addiction Nearly Wrecked Our Marriage. Do We Have to Tell the Kids?
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The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast @cuckoldressv.bsky.social · 06/04/2026
Have you seen the new book by @1crystalwelch.bsky.social and @davidleyphd.bsky.social Check it out ➡️ a.co/d/0bf0GH8k ❤️A clear, practical, and ethically grounded guide to hotwifing for couples.🥂 #hotwife #hotwifing #cuckold #cuckolding
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The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast @cuckoldressv.bsky.social · 19/02/2026
NEW EPISODE with @davidleyphd.bsky.social and @1crystalwelch.bsky.social A Woman’s Guide to Hotwifing: From the Therapist's Office to Real Life Listen now ➡️ www.venuscuckoldress.com/the-podcast
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 10/01/2026
2026 has aged fast.
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Mistress Matisse @mistressmatisse.bsky.social · 03/01/2026
Elon Musk is a four star general in the war on women
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Justin Lehmiller @justinlehmiller.bsky.social · 04/11/2025
Online stings to catch sexual predators are on the rise. A growing number are targeting ageplay kink communities, in which adults engage in role play as children. David J. Ley Ph.D.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/202511/could-your-kink-be-misunderstood-by-law-enforcement
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Could Your Kink Be Misunderstood by Law Enforcement?
Online stings by law enforcement effectively detect potential sexual offenders. However, they may also pose a potential risk to people who engage in fantasy online roleplay.
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Katie Witkiewitz @katiew.bsky.social · 05/10/2025
Absolutely amazing balloon fiesta day!! Made the full NM experience complete with a close call with a western diamondback rattlesnake during balloon retrieval. 🐍😬 @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
Balloons lit up at nightLaura Ornelas and Katie Witkiewitz holding a balloon throat openBalloons in the blue skyRattlesnake in low ground cover
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Katie Witkiewitz @katiew.bsky.social · 04/07/2025
Fridays are also for balloons! Besos Amigos flight with @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social Missed you @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
In flight, pilot Eric Hodges with Laura Ornelas and Katie Witkiewitz in the balloon basketView of mountains and city from the balloonView of two balloons with city and mountain in background The balloon crew with Katie Witkiewitz, Eric Hodges, Laura Ornelas, David Ley, Morgan and Felix
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Walt Rizzney @cullobsidian.bsky.social · 23/06/2025
If you want a balanced and evidence-based perspective on sex and porn use, follow @silvaneves.bsky.social @nicolerprause.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 06/06/2025
Who had June 5 in the bet on what day Trump and Musk would turn on each other? I know I didn’t. I’d predicted March 3.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 04/06/2025
Hearing that Jobcorps is being defunded across the country, given a week to close?
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 22/05/2025
Super thrilled to help author this paper exploring the intersections between modern politics, sexual health, and ethics in psychology. Was honored to support a crew of extraordinary scholars and clinicians.
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Christine Call, PhD @christinecall.bsky.social · 21/05/2025
Shout out to coauthors: @tabachnickar.bsky.social @cassie-boness.bsky.social @stef-l-sequeira.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social Plus many who aren’t on Bluesky Let us know what you think and how you are grappling with this in your work!
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 16/05/2025
I randomly emailed an author of a paper on sexual regret, looking for a PDF. (Don’t know him, just found his email) No lie, he had just this morning been on my own website looking for info on me after reading one of my papers. He initially thought my email was some kind of auto spam. Small world.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 14/05/2025
Feeling this pretty hard. Like, rigid, granite, in your face level of over exaggerated expression.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 13/05/2025
folks who believe in sex addiction see it as external to the person, separate from who they are, acting "like a drug" on a person, and not entwined with or reflective of who the person is. they really do believe these people are victims and at the control of their sexuality.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 12/05/2025
Seems like accepting a plane from a foreign country with known Russian ties and using the plane to transport the President might have some security concerns. Surely the plane might not be wired for monitoring or have secret killswitch?
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 07/05/2025
Some rando sent me a ChatGPT “analysis” of one of my articles. Was rather reassuring how inaccurate it was. Apparently ChatGPT believes “porn hijack’s dopamine systems”?
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 07/05/2025
Traveling always inflames my sciatica. Yikes. Is there an airline where I could fly inverted? Or doing yoga?
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Usili (Talia) 🏳️‍⚧️ @usili.bsky.social · 06/05/2025
also you all need to see this, because this is something I don't think *anybody* could predict for where this ad goes
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 06/05/2025
Semen is not a magic fluid that gives you superpowers when retained. Can’t believe this still needs to be said. No, Abstinence Won't Increase Your Testosterone. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
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No, Abstinence Won't Increase Your Testosterone
Claims that testosterone is increased by abstinence are based on rather poor science, and seem unlikely to be accurate.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 26/04/2025
Utah psychologist, BYU grad, affiliated with LDS Church, author of a workbook on treating porn addiction gets caught with what? (Drumroll) yes. Child sex abuse material. And charged with exploitation of children he treated. (Not a drag queen, btw). floodlit.org/a/a837/
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Robert Virgil Dindinger Mormon sex abuse case
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 18/04/2025
Are AI generated romantic partners good or bad for us? I think it depends. But 1 in 4 young adults have used them. We have to start wrestling with this, like it or not! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
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AI Romantic and Sexual Partners — More Common Than You Think
Many young people are using AI for sex and romantic purposes, and some report they find it more appealing and comfortable than dealing with real people.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 18/04/2025
Every time someone says “COVID was a fake/fraud/panic,” I say “you took John Prine away motherfucker!” Then, well, I can’t say anything else according to my attorney. See. I can listen.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 16/04/2025
Years ago I explored writing a book with a woman who was a former Mormon polygamist sister wife. She’d entered polygamous marriage in order to be with another woman, whom she was in love with. As a lesbian, she embraced polygamy as a means to be with her female lover. Fascinating story…
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koenfucius @koenfucius.bsky.social · 13/04/2025
The idea of porn addiction should be abandoned, argues @davidleyphd.bsky.social—according to a meta-analysis, it is not the frequency of pornography use that predicts problems with porn, but religiosity and the associated moral incongruence leading to guilt and shame: buff.ly/DFbcjUH
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 13/04/2025
This is one of the most fun trainings I get to do. Why are group play, orgies, threesomes and cuckolding such popular fantasies? We explore every nook and cranny! ;-)
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Katie Witkiewitz @katiew.bsky.social · 13/04/2025
After one of the most stressful weeks of my career. Thankful to inflate with the Besos Amigos crew today. Saturdays are for balloons. @lcornelas.bsky.social @davidleyphd.bsky.social @joshuagrubbsphd.bsky.social
Truck with trailer and hot air balloon on empty road Balloons inflating on a dirt lot with sun rising in distance. Inflating a hot air balloon with fan. Hot air balloon rising with sun in distance.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 11/04/2025
Wonder why i despise the proliferation and blurring ofbthe concept of addiction? Heres a good example. I call this “Valley Girl Science.” Just because using bassl spray may be “like” substance use doesn’t mean it’s an addiction. pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC...
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Does nose spray addiction exist? A qualitative analysis of addiction components in rhinitis medicamentosa
Nasal congestion is a prevalent symptom often alleviated with over-the-counter nasal sprays containing decongestants. Rhinitis medicamentosa (RM), caused by the overuse of decongestants leading to rec...
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Maggie McNeill @maggiemcneill.bsky.social · 09/04/2025
I've been slamming "sex addiction" since early 2011; by November of that year @davidleyphd.bsky.social was calling it "hype" after Newsweek published a cover story on it. maggiemcneill.com/2011/12/04/n... Duggar's case didn't start blowing up until summer of '15. maggiemcneill.com/2015/09/02/i...
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Neither Addiction nor Epidemic
Thought is an infection. In the case of certain thoughts, it becomes an epidemic.  –  Wallace Stevens Back in February I published “Not an Addiction”, in which I criticized the popular confus…
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Godspeed You! Woke Moralists @dashwallkick.bsky.social · 05/04/2025
"porn addiction isn't real" finally has scientific proof in a meta study because it finds the root cause - religious upbringing. And this was conducted by people who *went in thinking the addiction was real*! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
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Science Stopped Believing in Porn Addiction. You Should, Too
Research finds that porn-related problems are predominantly caused by religious conflict. Clinically, this means people need help, but not necessarily with the porn.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 06/04/2025
This remains a fascinating tale and insight into the personality driven dynamics of mental health and moral panics. One of my alltime favorite back&forths - why did American psychiatrists buy into the claims of Satanic Ritual Abuse w/ so little skepticism? www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/speak-m...
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Speak, Memory
In the 1980s, thousands of patients insisted they were recovering childhood memories of physical and sexual abuse during Satanic cult rituals. Here: a look back at the moral panic.
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Cassie Boness, PhD @cassie-boness.bsky.social · 01/04/2025
We're looking for submissions that advance the research on a range of topics related to behavioral "addictions" including classification and diagnosis, etiology, and heterogeneity! Please share.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 28/03/2025
Just ran across this. (Disclosure, I’m the blogger he mentions. Though I’m definitely not the only blogger/writer who has commented on Sebdler’s fraud). Fake sex researcher loses zoophilia paper over ethical concerns – Retraction Watch retractionwatch.com/2022/03/23/f...
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Fake sex researcher loses zoophilia paper over ethical concerns
Damian Jacob Sendler An alleged sex researcher with a history of making things up has lost a 2019 paper on the habits of people who have sex with animals over concerns about the ethics approval for…
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 27/03/2025
And now SAMHSA seems to be next for destruction. (By absorbing it into a structure that will diminish any progress on behavioral health and substance use.)
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 26/03/2025
Now I’m nervous, every group chat invite I get. I’ve got enough problems people. I don’t need to be part of exposing failed government conspiracies.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 24/03/2025
Let’s find these (not at all rare) men who are brave enough to admit this.
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Mara no Delaunay @lypiphera.bsky.social · 18/03/2025
As a sex therapist in training, this is one of my pet peeves. Addiction in general is already a misunderstood topic; adding sex to that makes it more so. Our society is steeped in puritanical prudishness & this is why everyone, *including* adults, needs access to comprehensive inclusive sex ed.
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Dan Savage @dansavage.bsky.social · 19/03/2025
Define cheating as unforgivable, define absolutely everything as cheating, wonder why you can’t make anything last more than three months.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 19/03/2025
This brings an interesting new twist to telemedicine practice across state lines, as these laws protect doctors who practice remotely in states where they’re not licensed, and “move” the location of the service to where the doctor is practicing. www.npr.org/sections/sho...
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After historic indictment, doctors will keep mailing abortion pills over state lines
Doctors who mail abortion medication pills across state lines have been on alert ever since Louisiana, which bans abortion, indicted a New York doctor for mailing the pills to a woman there.
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Pixie in Jail 🔞 nsfw horrorporn @pixeljail.com · 16/03/2025
so they basically stigmatising sexuality and all mental health struggles in the one lazy sweep and just blanket blaming people for watching any amount of porn don't mind the fact that I'm a therapist, I'm just here to prescribe Catholic guilt, 4x daily (CSAT= certified sex addiction therapist)
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Shalini Andrews @drshaliniandrews.bsky.social · 14/03/2025
-Porn addiction is not a recognized disorder or scientifically supported treatment model. -Therapists with higher personal sexual shame are more likely to diagnose sex or porn addiction. -Non-heterosexual and nonmonogamous therapists are least likely to diagnose or treat porn addiction
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
Turns out that Certified Sex Addiction Therapists are more likely (compared to others) to be: hetero, married, monogamous, religious and wealthy w/ higher levels of moral disapproval of porn. UnSurprisingly, they also over diagnose porn & sex addiction. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wome...
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Is There Moral Incongruence Bias in Some Sex Therapists?
Therapists with higher personal moral incongruence about sexuality may be at risk for imposing their own sexual shame on their patients.
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Mike Stabile @mikestabile.bsky.social · 12/03/2025
An ICE contractor says it can scrape adult fan sites for identity data “to connect the dots” between various identities and profiles — OF, JFF, PayPal, CashApp, Fetlife, your mainstream social. Theoretically can only scrape “live” publicly available data, but terrifying regardless.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 11/03/2025
Omg I love this.
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 10/03/2025
Fun to run across this clever reference to @stephenking.bsky.social in a psych article about memory (Tramatic Memories are Not Necessarily Accurate Memories by Laney & Loftus, 2005).
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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 07/03/2025
Is “eat their own” the Democratic Party official motto? Just curious.
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