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3 Wishes Program

@3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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End-of-life program in which HCWs elicit and implement small final wishes for dying patients and their families. Originated in Canada, now at UCLA, Beth Israel, Niagara Health, UW, University of Utah, and many others. #Humanism #Compassion #Kindness

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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 25/09/2026
The matriarch of the family was a well loved grandmother who died in the hospital. The family requested their 3 generations to be featured walking into the ocean for their @3wishesprogram.bsky.social fingerprint painting. Beautiful.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 22/09/2026
Looking back at some of our @3wishesprogram.bsky.social fingerprint paintings and admiring this one--it was created for an elderly husband who lost his wife of 50 years. It cannot be more perfect.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 20/09/2026
Just got home from putting together another beautiful & sad @3wishesprogram.bsky.social wedding. I told my friend, “I’m so tired”. Her reply, “It probably meant the world to them”. Perspective is everything
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 19/09/2026
The couple had been dating forever. The boyfriend knew his girlfriend's dad wanted to see them get married and didn't have much time left. He proposed while the dad was in the ICU. And just like that, we have a @3wishesprogram.bsky.social wedding to plan.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
Just met a new attending colleague this week, who told me she experienced @3wishesprogram.bsky.social first hand for her family during her 1st year working for UCLA. She was so touched and told me she thinks it should be standard of care in every hospital. ❤️❤️❤️
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
A direct quote from one of the nurses regarding @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
A direct quote from one of the nurses regarding @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 07/09/2026
A painting for a #PedsICU @3wishesprogram.bsky.social. Yes, whole hand and footprints were used because the child was so small. May the parents enjoy the safari depiction that used to entertain their child....
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 07/09/2026
A painting for a #PedsICU @3wishesprogram.bsky.social. Yes, whole hand and footprints were used because the child was so small. May the parents enjoy the safari depiction that used to entertain their child....
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 01/09/2026
Got back the professional photographs (donated service) from the @3wishesprogram.bsky.social wedding a couple of weeks ago, and they are beautiful. I have to say--I'm a pretty good wedding planner for being doctor 😅. So happy to have been able to give the family beautiful forever memories. ❤️
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 24/08/2026
Coordinating a wedding so that a critically ill patient can see their kid get married is no easy task. I am so grateful for the nurses, RT's, & resident volunteers who came to help with the event. And thank goodness bedsheets look like linen. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 22/08/2026
On my 1st Saturday off in a while, I went to pick up donated flowers for tomorrow's @3wishesprogram.bsky.social wedding (florist not open sunday). It took me > an hour in stop & go traffic, but the beauty of these flowers and human kindness they represent...priceless. Thank you anthonysflowers.com
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 21/08/2026
I told a friend that for a @3wishesprogram.bsky.social wedding this weekend, I've managed to secure a volunteer photographer, free floral arrangments, & a donated two-tiered wedding cake. She tells me these @3wishesprogram.bsky.social stories gives her renewed faith in humanity. I cannot agree more.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 19/08/2026
Planning a small wedding in the ICU this weekend so a dying patient can see her son get married. Just emailed a local bakery who graciously agreed to donate a wedding cake! People are amazing! Next up...flowers.... @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 08/08/2026
A heartwarming message from a family who received a plush with their loved one’s heartbeat…
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 07/08/2026
A butterfly all alone But can you fly on your own? Take your place in the world today A butterfly flying home The little girl used to say she was a butterfly. After her death, our music therapist incorporated her heartbeat in the background of this song for her parents. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 03/08/2026
Omgoodness one of the family members of a @3wishesprogram.bsky.social patient wanted their loved one’s heartbeat in a farm animal and this cow is the cutest.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 30/07/2026
The fingerprint paintings done by our volunteers for families of our #PedsICU patients are always so heartbreakingly cute. I cannot imagine being a parent and losing a child. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 15/07/2026
I love our latest fingerprint painting for a @3wishesprogram.bsky.social patient so much! Our volunteer did such a fantastic job incorporating the family's words that describe him: Mexico, soccer, Spanish music, farmer, white truck, watermelon
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 08/07/2026
It's always so hard to watch parents lose their child. It's not natural and the heartbreak is palpable. These parents wanted an image of angel for their daughter's word cloud, and it can not be more perfect for who she was. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 07/07/2026
A father really wanted to see his daughter get married. But the wedding wasn't for a couple of months, and he was dying and running out of time. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social made it possible to do a small, early, and intimate ceremony in his hospital room so he can see her say "I do".
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 06/07/2026
This holiday weekend, as we celebrate our country and embrace our friends and families, there are others who are losing theirs. I am so proud of our @3wishesprogram.bsky.social healthcare workers who strive to make the worst moments a little bit better.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 15/06/2026
His wife told me she has been holding his hand for over 30yrs, so we created this hand mold of them holding hands for one final time before he died. I might have teared up a little seeing how beautiful it turned out. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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CK DexterHaven 🍂🍁🍂 @ckshowalter.bsky.social · 15/06/2026
Not only do immigrants get the job done- they make magic for their fellow Americans. Follow Dr Neville and read about the amazing @3wishesprogram.bsky.social This is how we need to navigate end of life in hospitals.
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Ally Lester @cogenthippo.bsky.social · 01/06/2026
"Keepsakes" are on here. One of my most precious possessions is the canvas of all our handprints the children's hospice facilitated us to make with Littlest in the weeks before she died. So meaningless to anyone else. So low cost. So wonderful to have.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 21/05/2026
I'm still on vacation, but just got an email that the @3wishesprogram.bsky.social team at LA General Medical Center just did a heartbreaking wedding for one of their dying patients. Can't help but value every minute with the hubs more. Hold the ones you love tight.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 12/05/2026
A nurse at Harbor-UCLA told me how the team bought a dying patient a plush guitar so he can "play" and hum along. He was guitarist, but dying and too weak to hold & play a real guitar--his wife was so glad that the @3wishesprogram.bsky.social gave him this one in his final days, said he was so happy
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 11/05/2026
Got a note from a prior @3wishesprogram.bsky.social research assistant: "Both you & 3WP have been deeply formative, shaping the kind of physician I hope to become. As a 1st yr medstudent, I keep returning to the lessons I learned through 3WP: the importance of presence, humanity, & gratitude." 🥰🥰💕💕
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 07/05/2026
One of our volunteer artists who created numerous fingerprint paintings for our @3wishesprogram.bsky.social left for medschool last year. She has now started a similar initiative at the Carle Illinois College of Medicine & sent me one of their 1st paintings. How cool is that?! #kindness is spreading
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 05/05/2026
My breath always catches a bit when I hear that we did @3wishesprogram.bsky.social for a child. This was no exception. Our volunteer artist did a lovely job incorporating the child's footprint and favorite song "The wheels on the bus go round and round"
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 16/11/2024
Our mission is to foster compassion, dignity, kindness, and human connection, among patients, families, and HCW's during a patient's end-of-life period in the hospital. It seems appropriate that we move to where the skies are blue.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 30/04/2026
One of our volunteer-donors is extraordinarily crafty and has volunteered to create and donate these engraved and personalized keychains for our @3wishesprogram.bsky.social families. So beautiful. And kind.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 30/04/2026
The patient spent her life working with orangutans, so of course, her family wanted her heartbeat recording to be in them. We could not find any with premade pouches & much to my dismay, our amazing music therapist volunteered to hand sew them! @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 27/04/2026
The nurse asked the family to write words that described their dying loved one. For a moment, the family focused on who the patient was as a person, instead of the immense impending loss. The words were used to create this stunning image that was framed for the family. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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alohamax.bsky.social @alohamax.bsky.social · 24/04/2026
Please give if you can - the amount does not matter. This is a program that is so helpful and may also sometimes provide people with moments of joy, gratitude, reconnection with other family members during end of life stage.
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April Sharp, MD @ansharp.bsky.social · 24/04/2026
Come for the wishes, stay for the dishes! @3wishesprogram.bsky.social @thanh-neville.bsky.social
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Lana Lawrence @msfocused.bsky.social · 24/04/2026
I gave to 3 Wishes because it is such an essential hospital program. Please consider donating too!! The doc who runs it is pretty amazing! Pro tip: Give her a follow and you’ll also be treated to pics of her extraordinary culinary creations!
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 24/04/2026
I need a favor. A donor has agreed to give the @3wishesprogram.bsky.social $10,000 if we are able to show that >100 people believe in this program & willing to make a donation by 4/29/26. $5, $10, amount does not matter. Please help, I would be so grateful. bruingivingday.ucla.edu/campaigns/3-...
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The 3 Wishes Program at UCLA grants end-of-life wishes for patients at no cost to them or their families. 3 Wishes is a palliative care initiative in which clinicians elicit and fulfill final wishes f...
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 23/04/2026
As part of the @3wishesprogram.bsky.social, sometimes our team create these beautiful hand-molds, typically of a husband & wife holding hands the last time. I learned that this one was for a mother who was sadly losing a young son. The though of parents losing their kids is just so heartbreaking.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 14/04/2026
We are starting the @3wishesprogram.bsky.social at UCLA West Valley Hospital today! #KindnessIsSpreading
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 16/03/2026
It's about @3wishesprogram.bsky.social!
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American College of Chest Physicians @accpchest.bsky.social · 07/04/2026
The 3 Wishes Program helps meet emotional, spiritual, and relational needs of dying patients and their families. In the Richard Irwin Honor Lecture at CHEST 2025, @thanhneville.medsky.social, MD, shared some of the ways that the program has honored patients’ wishes. www.chestnet.org/newsroom/blo...
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 06/04/2026
A lovely fingerprint painting for man who loved his dog and camping. @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 02/04/2026
Even though our @3wishesprogram.bsky.social has expanded to pediatrics for a couple of years now, seeing these tiny hands and feet (taken for a painting) still makes me so sad.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 26/03/2026
Fingerprint keychains (on left) are definitely the most commonly requested items that we gift to families as part of our @3wishesprogram.bsky.social. I can hardly believe it, but a generous donor/volunteer has now offered to create & donate engraved, personalized ones (on right). My heart is full.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 25/03/2026
Did a webinar on @3wishesprogram.bsky.social for a group in Germany today! #Kindness is spreading.
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 21/03/2026
I'll be giving this talk to a group in Germany. How cool is that? @3wishesprogram.bsky.social
Image of the first slide of a presentation titled: The Power of Small Acts of Kindness: Stories from the UCLA 3 Wishes Program
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3 Wishes Program @3wishesprogram.bsky.social · 16/03/2026
It's about @3wishesprogram.bsky.social!
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Thanh Neville, MD, MSHS @thanh-neville.bsky.social · 10/03/2026
Bc this was a baby who died, it was a hand & footprint painting instead of a fingerprint painting. It's hard to think about kids dying, but our @3wishesprogram.bsky.social volunteer artist did such a wonderful job with the parent's request--depicting the 3 little animals that were on her mobile.
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