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This grimace on Collins' face has been nonstop since Troy Jackson's been destroying her. It looks really good on her. Make her squirm!

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 12h

"There is another kind of hangover which we all experience whether drinking or not. That is the emotional hangover, the direct result of yesterday's & sometimes today's excesses of negative emotion...If we would live serenely today & tomorrow, we need to eliminate these hangovers"-12x12 p. 89 #Sober

"having the inner strength, balance and capability to live well irrespective of outside situations and conditions - that is freedom" -Sadhguru (Pictured are a group of zen rocks balanced on top of each other.)

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

"There is a certain universality to the truths taught in our 12 step programs. They are nothing new. These principles are derived from eons of experience and spirituality. What is new is our personal understanding that living these principles gives us a reprieve from our addiction." -H2H #Sober

The principles in the 12 steps:

1. Acceptance
2. Hope
3. Faith
4. Courage
5. Integrity
6. Willingness
7. Humility
8. Self-discipline
9. Love for others
10. Perseverance
11. Spiritual awareness
12. Service

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Sounds more like a sexual fantasy than a spiritual experience.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

"Recovery asks us to become willing to examine ourselves honestly, listen to others & make room for a wisdom greater than our own...Perhaps this is part of what spiritual growth looks like: not becoming certain that we know all the answers but becoming humble enough to keep listening." -TOTD #Sober

"If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn no one can stop you." -Spirit Science (Books are pictured on a desk, one of them is open. A coffee cup is beside the books.)

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

"And today, living on self-will can make our lives just as unmanageable as they were when we were using. When our ideas, our desires, our demands take first place in our lives, we find ourselves in constant conflict with everyone and everything around us." #NA JFT #SoberSky #Recovery

"Selfishness - self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly, without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self, which later placed us in a position to be hurt." sobertostay.com how it works

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

"Our liquor was but a symptom. So we had to get down to causes and conditions. Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. This was Step Four." #AA p. 64 #Sober

Stopping drinking isn't the hard part. It's what comes after that breaks most people. Anyone can put the bottle down for a while, but facing what made you pick it up in the first place is where the real work begins. Sobriety isn't about removing alcohol, it's about rebuilding the parts of you that learned to rely on it.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

"We have the disease of addiction. We are not responsible for having it, but we are responsible for our recovery. Having learned that we are sick people and that there is a way of recovery, we can move away from blaming circumstances - or ourselves - and into living the solution." #NA JFT #Sober

"It only works if you work it" so don't be upset by results you don't get from work you don't do.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

"Taking responsibility for improving one's own life is an important step toward emotional health. Blaming another for our circumstances keeps us stuck and offers no hope for improved conditions. Personal power is as available as our decision to use it." -Each Day a New Beginning #SoberSky #Recovery

The Blame Game
His fault
Her fault
Their fault
Not me

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

"We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others." #AA p. 84-84 #SoberSky #Recovery

"Instead of being ashamed of what you've been through, be proud of what you have overcome."

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🎃 ScaRy 👻🐝🐝 @rstevies.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Wouldn't be where I am without my sober fam. 🫶🤟

What I love about those of us who got clean? The support, the empathy, the love. We're like family. We grieve the losses and celebrate those still fighting.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

"Step 10 clearly tell us what to do when we are wrong: admit it. This keeps us honest. It keeps us from hiding secrets that could cause us to use alcohol or other drugs again...When we admit our wrongs, people start to trust us again. We feel good and people feel good being around us." -KIS #Sober

"The courage to admit when you're wrong doesn't show weakness. It shows your strength. Your integrity speas volumes about you as a person." -Blaque Diamond

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Hoffy @hoffy56.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Addiction is a progressive, chronic, relapsing disease. This doesn’t mean that everyone in recovery is destined to relapse, but it does mean that if you do relapse, you shouldn’t see it as a failure. #RecoveryPosse #Sobriety #SoberSky

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

"Ever deepening humility, accompanied by an ever greater willingness to accept and to act upon clear-cut obligations - these are truly our touchstones for all growth in the life of the spirit. They hold up to us the very essence of right being and right doing." -Grapevine, January 1966 #Sober

"True humility requires us to prioritize growth over being right, and to see correction, not as a setback or criticism, but as a path to wisdom and spiritual maturity."

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

"When we meet someone who seems to have a good attitude about everything, that really isn't the case. The person simply has made a lot of independent choices to have a good attitude about many individual things." -Shad Helmstetter #SoberSky #Recovery #9th Step Promises

If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

"Recovery means change in habits, change in behavior, change in attitudes. And change is seldom easy. But change we must, if we want to recover successfully...The going won't always be easy, but support and guidance are available and free if we but look for them." -EDANB #SoberSky #Recovery

"The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new." -Socrates sober-bliss.com

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

"The measure of my sobriety isn't the distance between now and the last drink -- the measure of my sobriety is the distance between now and the next drink." -White Rock, British Columbia, May 2005 #Sober #Recovery

"Recovery is the only high that keeps getting better as you do it!!" Grateful for another 24 hours

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

"An entire philosophy of life is condensed in the slogan...First we’re urged to live fully, richly and happily...Then comes a more difficult challenge: Let live. This means accepting the right of every other person to live as he or she wishes, without criticism or judgment from us." -ADAAT #Sober

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

"We are never going to face, alone, any difficult situation after discovering recovery. Never again need we make any decision in isolation. Help is constant...We discover that all things can be handled; no situation is too much for us." -EDANB #SoberSky #Recovery

Be around the light bringers, the magic makers, the world shifters. They challenge you, break you open, uplift and expand you. They don't let you play small with your life. These heartbeats are your people. These people are your tribe.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

"When I first heard recovering alcoholics laughing, I thought I was in the wrong place. I was angry that they treated the disease so lightly. Then slowly I began to see that laughter is part of joy - a deep joy that comes from personal healing. Laughter is spiritual..." -FLDM #SoberSky #Recovery

Sobriety is more than just putting down the drink - it's picking up life. It's waking up without regret, looking in the mirror with pride and learning to love the person staring back. It's the quiet strength of saying no, the raw beauty of feeling everything, and the courage to heal what was once numbed. It's laughter that isn't forced, sleep that isn't haunted, and peace that isn't borrowed. Sobriety isn't a punishment - it's a second chance, a love letter to yourself, and the greatest give to your future.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

"So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness." #AA p.62 #SoberSky #Recovery

"True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it's thinking of yourself less." -C.S. Lewis

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

"When we first walk into our recovery rooms, we are all afraid...Once we sit & listen, we realize we are not much different than the other people...Our darkness of the past is drawn out by our sharing...We realize our deep, dark secrets are not as bad as we thought...We are not alone." -ODAAT #Sober

"The opposite of addiction is connection." The quote is inside a heart. The background is made up of stripes of various colors.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

"Remember how we used to live? We were always trying to cover up some lie or mistake...Our energy was going into our illness, not into living. Gratitude is the key word in the program...Recovery has given us back our smiles. What a relief. We can relax and enjoy our new life." -KIS #SoberSky

"When it comes to life the critical thing is whether you take things for granted or take them with gratitude." -G.K. Chesterton

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

"Over & over, we have tried to live up to the expectations of those around us...In recovery, we are accepted as we are. Our real value to others is in being ourselves. As we work the steps, we learn to accept ourselves just as we are...We gain the freedom to become who we want to be." JFT #SoberSky

The benefits of sobriety:
Inspiring personal growth
Amplification of self-love
Stronger relationships
Creation of boundaries
Increased self awareness
Enhanced productivity
Power over your own story
Exploration of new hobbies
Heightened compassion
So much more free time

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

"No matter what other people do or don’t do, we have to remain sober and free from other addictions for ourselves. When our program of recovery becomes contingent on the actions or inaction of another person, the results are invariably disastrous." -ADAAT #Sober

No matter what you're going through, you can stay sober today. One day. One choice. One win.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

I'm a white person and holy smokes, that Converse ad was blatant. I know there could not have been a black person on their marketing team, but no white person saw what I saw immediately? That's insane. Or maybe there's a problem with the white people there. People need to lose their jobs over that.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

"Honesty is the backbone of our recovery program. Honesty opens us up. It breaks down the walls we had built around our secret world. Those walls made a prison for us. But all of that is now changed. We are free...People who didn’t trust us now depend on our honesty." -KIS #SoberSky #Recovery

"Honesty is very hard. The truth is often painful. But the freedom it can bring is worth the trying." -Fred Rogers

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Dastardly Sober @mikeygetssober.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Letting go of your old life can be difficult, especially for heavy drug users. They often find that ALL their friends were users, and they now feel utterly alone. This is the hardest part of recovery, and where a support group like NA or SMART can help. Find a meeting and go, you will feel better!

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

"The best reason for gratitude is the outlook it creates as we cultivate it within ourselves. We will actually feel mentally and physically uplifted if we know true gratitude. This is the true spiritual outlook alcoholics seek in the bottle but can find only in the new way of life." -WIDP #Sober

"When gratitude becomes an essential foundation in our lives, miracles start to appear everywhere."

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CaperByandMaBy @caperby.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

One of my favorite passages "AA Big Book, p. 48#AABigBook #Recovery. "Faced with alcoholic destruction, we soon became as open-minded on spiritual matters as we had tried to be on other questions. In this respect, alcohol was a great persuader. It finally beat us into a state of reasonableness."

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Dastardly Sober @mikeygetssober.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

Some days are downers. Nothing feels right; you're in a funk. Those days are a danger to your sobriety. This is the time to pull out all of the stops; use what you have learned, and stay sober today!

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

"I was different from everybody and needed to keep my life - my true life - a secret. I was living a life of quiet desperation. Then I went to a meeting for recovering alcoholics & heard somebody share my pain, my loneliness, my confusion, my addiction - my life...We need each other." -FLDM #Sober

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

"But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience, this business of resentment is infinitely grave." #AA p. 66 #SoberSky #Recovery

"Resentment is like a drug. Once you pick it up, it will only get worse and worse until you surrender and do the work to let it go."

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I can't wait to see how they're gonna try to screw us over on the Farm Bill. They wouldn't have brought in the corpse if it wasn't big.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

"We are gifted with the personal power to make thoughtful choices & thus decide whom we are. Our actions & choices combine to create our character & our character influences the circumstances of our lives...Our minds work powerfully for our good & just as powerfully to our detriment..."-EDANB #Sober

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

"AA's Twelve Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in their nature, which, if practiced as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink and enable the sufferer to become happily and usefully whole." -12x12 p. 15 #SoberSky #Recovery

Recovery isn't a 9 to 5 job. Recovery is not a 30 day rehab. Recovery is not an hour long meeting. Recovery is not a therapy session. Recovery is a lifestyle.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

"Stripped from the guilt and remorse that cloaked my drinking years, I am free to assume my proper role in the universe, but this condition requires maintenance." -Daily Reflections p. 31 #SoberSky #Recovery

"Recovery can be a bumpy road, but every step forward is a step away from a past that no longer serves you."

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

"“Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it. We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm, provided that we do not bring about still more harm in so doing.” #AA p. 69 #SoberSky #Recovery

I must make amends for the harm I have caused others without expecting them to forgive me. If they forgive me, wonderful, but I must "clean my side of the street" regardless.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

"Sobriety is only a bare beginning, it is only the 1st gift of the 1st awakening...[O]ur awakening has to go on & if it does go on, we find that bit by bit we can discard the old life, the one that did not work, for a new life that can & does work under any conditions whatever." -LOTH p. 234 #Sober

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

"Nothing is more precious than being present in the current moment, fully alive, fully aware." -Thich Nyat Hanh #SoberSky #Recovery #ODAAT

I vow to live happily one day at a time.
When I devote my attention to the present moment, expectations and judgments soften. Every time I release a "should" I allow life to more fully and authentically express itself through me. As I see things with more clarity, stillness, and acceptance, I become free to appreciate the journey even while I don't understand it; I get to enjoy the miracle of just being alive, while I'm living."

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

Man, I'm glad I'm not a gambling person. I would have lost my house on this one.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

"One thing at a time. That's all we have to do. Not two things at once, but one thing done in peace. One task at a time. One feeling at a time. One day at a time. One problem at a time. One step at a time. One pleasure at a time. Relax. Let go of urgency..." -LOLG #SoberSky #Recovery

"Just do the next right thing, one thing at a time."

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

"Meetings can point me toward the solution. A sponsor can guide me through the solution. Service gives me opportunities to live the solution. The Fellowship surrounds me while I practice the solution." -takethe12.org #AA #SoberSky #Recovery

Meeting makers make it...to meetings.
Step workers make it in life.

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

"Each of us lost touch with our real self because of our addiction. We lost our goals, our feelings, our values. We chased the high...We lost our spirit. With sobriety, we find ourselves again and it feels great...We follow our dreams & beliefs not some addictive wild goose chase."-KIS #Sober

"Addiction and recovery and sobriety are nothing more than your call to adventure, your ticket to everything you've ever told yourself you can't be, and every dream you've ever had. This is your great adventure."

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Tori @toribillsfriend.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Tomorrow, my top priority is filling out my absentee ballot request. It has to be signed by hand, not online, because Georgia wants to make everything just a bit harder for us.

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