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Jack Daddy Paul (@jackdaddypaul@mastobate.social)

We need better shorthand. "Horny but not slutty?" "Relational?" "Sociosexually restricted?" "Good Catholic?" IDK but "demisexual" ain't it if you're posting a dick pic a day. (5 of 5) OP: mastobate.social/@jackdaddypa...

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Attached: 1 image # Warning: pedantic sex nerdery ahead. Occasionally I see profiles on spicy accounts that describe themselves as "demisexual." As this word is being employed on profiles that post ...

It essentially says you don't get horny at all until you fall in love with a person. It's saying you're a type of asexual, which indicates a lack of sexual attraction. Asexuality isn't about behavior or even preference. It's about innate desire. (4 of 5)

"Demisexual" doesn’t mean, “I don’t HOOK UP without emotional connection.” It means, "I don’t FEEL ANY ATTRACTION without that connection." (3 of 5)

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As this word is being employed on profiles that post and repost erotic content… I strongly suspect that most people identifying as “demisexual” don’t realize its actual meaning, or that it’s on the asexuality spectrum. (2 of 5)

🧵 Warning: pedantic sex nerdery ahead. Occasionally I see profiles on spicy accounts that describe themselves as "demisexual." (1 of 5)

A still from the movie, "The Princess Bride" with the text, "YOU KEEP USING THAT WORD. I DO NOT THINK IT MEANS WHAT YOU THINK IT MEANS."

Jack Daddy Paul @jackdaddypaul.me · 26/04/2026

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SOI-R is a psychometric for understanding sociosexual orientation, which changes through life It’s basically a measure of sexual comfort and engagement with or without emotional commitment My rating is “moderately unrestricted” Ask in comments if you want to know more

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 20/01/2026

The erotic/explicit photos and videos men share of themselves often crop out faces. There’s more than one reason for this ubiquitous presentation of our sexuality. It’s not just fear of disclosure. I have some ideas. Who would be a good person to interview about this common social behavior?

Omg. WTF is Happening? @lalahaenzy.bsky.social · 28/12/2025

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Same shit Different decade Real consequences Keeper of the Flame 1947 😕😭 #Pinks #ProudBlue

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 27/12/2025

In 2023, I interviewed Robert for a conversation largely about self porn. As filmmaker and documentarian, his ability to see our now ubiquitous homemade erotic content as more than “just porn” is powerful and insightful, seeing no less than taking command of who we *are.* Watch Grey Narcissus now.

The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 14/12/2025

This interview is fascinating but reveals a LOT of blind spots about sexual behavior, and even the subject of its main thesis: gooning. The content addiction angle is valid. The outsider view of gooning? Packed with ignorance and bias. Disappointing but not without value. youtu.be/vqPWSsynDlA?...

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The pornification of everything | The Gray Area

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 03/11/2025

It appears that Harper’s Magazine has resorted to stoking moral panic in a last ditch attempt to salvage their steady decline. I sincerely hope that fails hard but modern readers do love the discovery of new sources of outrage so maybe they’ll get some traction with this “gooning” demonization.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 20/10/2025

The Heart of Jacks Podcast has removed its account from Spotify. I urge my followers to follow my lead and cancel your paid Spotify account. Overcast.fm is an excellent podcast listening app and bonus points for not helping fascists recruit thug armies.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 13/07/2025

@joe1920.bsky.social - Are you familiar with Mel Robbins already? This brought up a lot for me around sides, the acceptance we naturally want and also the issue of viewing the Top/Bottom folks as “other.” “Let Them” goes both ways.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 01/07/2025

It's been coming for a while. I'm making it official. www.patreon.com/posts/steppi...

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Stepping Away | Paul Rosenberg

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 13/05/2025

OMG… a new research article on masturbation! I’m always surprised and delighted when these get funded. Thank you for sharing the full thing. 🤟🏼

Pander Underwear 🇵🇸 @pandershirts.com · 06/04/2025

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This is the least shocking result to me

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 15/02/2025

Dr. Marty Klein is an international treasure. I recommend reading his books and following his YouTube channel. He’s too pricey to do my humble podcast (don’t get me started) but he’s a favorite and one of my heroes. youtu.be/jRw5dWXl9wU?...

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5 Sexual Products & Services That Many People Don't Use

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 18/01/2025

In three weeks, HOJ creator, Paul Rosenberg, will be bringing the real story of JO clubs to his home town in a live, sold-out show at Seattle’s historic Neptune Theater. Subscribe to Flightless Bird on iHeart or YouTube. Follow David Farrier on Bluesky!

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 14/01/2025

Not sure if you mean “valley girl” or “Valkyrie girl.” 😁

The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 14/01/2025

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David J. Ley Ph.D. @davidleyphd.bsky.social · 02/01/2025

Still Fascinated by this paper arguing that orgasm actually uses the pain (not pleasure) neurological systems of the brain. Kinda throws a monkey wrench in the claims that sex/porn are addictive because of pleasure…https://academic.oup.com/smr/article-abstract/11/4/291/7252285

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 28/12/2024

The sight of this one makes me so happy. It’s remarkable how few creatives—even professional copywriters—understand the value of having a style to anchor communication. I generally don’t even care which style is chosen as long as one is. ❤️

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 28/12/2024

Oh Texas Texas Texas… What would they be without their moral panics?

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Tris @trisresists.bsky.social · 22/12/2024

Ringing in the New Year hits differently this year.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 21/12/2024

Prepping a bunch of multi-episode shows for 2025, I'm wrapping up a series on sex-positivity and would love more listener feedback. Here's the pitch and details on how to weigh in with your take. the-heart-of-jacks-podcast.simplecast.com/episodes/im-...

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Call for Feedback: Sex-Positivity | The Heart of Jacks Podcast

It’s a teaser! It's a cry for help! It's a floor wax!

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 21/12/2024

The Heart of Jacks Podcast started in 2020, during the pandemic. From the start, I wanted episodes to be “evergreen,” not stuck in time, so they’d stay relevant. If you haven’t yet, I invite you to explore Season One while I prep the next chapter of HOJ. the-heart-of-jacks-podcast.simplecast.com

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The Heart of Jacks Podcast

Conversations about sex—mostly between men—that might surprise you. Host Paul Rosenberg, author of the forthcoming, The Heart of Jacks: The History and Culture of Jack-Off Clubs, talks with bloggers, ...

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 14/12/2024

Okay… making an attempt to connect my Patreon supporters to my Bluesky account. Still early days but since this is my only social media channel, I have to start somewhere! www.patreon.com/posts/hoj-on...

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 14/12/2024

I set the afternoon aside for recording voice overs so of course Seattle is experiencing a windstorm and my neighbors left their windchimes up.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 09/12/2024

… and, as always, thinking about who would be good to interview about it.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 09/12/2024

Interested in your take, if you're game, @sexualheroes.bsky.social (+anyone else who wants to chime in) Personally, I'm pro-porn and pro-sexwork. I'm also pro-fitness and pro-sexiness. I like seeing "hot" people. Given all that bias, I'm interested in how monetization may impact viewer self-image.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 08/12/2024

Discussion for a possible future episode: Does the commercial DIY porn phenomenon of fan sites—where content creators monetize, promote, and sell access to self-porn—repeat and amplify unrealistic and harmful beauty standards for men and women alike?

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 01/12/2024

Excited to revisit this interview with Robert Black @sexualheroes.bsky.social, which also happens to be the genesis of our friendship.

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 29/11/2024

We'll have to take your word on that. 😁

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The HOJ Project @theheartofjacks.com · 29/11/2024

Sex at Dawn was transformative for how I think about sexuality, both my species’ and my own. It’s one of the most influential books of my life. Almost 15 years after its publication, I still think everyone should read and study it. It’s an antidote to the poison of moral disinformation.