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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

Virago are sharing these lovely things people have said about Being the Change, so I figure I can too. Eek! Yay! (Phew!)

Image shows positive quotes from authors Sharon Blackie, Christie Watson, Julia Bueno and Sophie Harman for Stella Duffy's book Being the Change which comes out in Feb 2027

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Rachel Coldicutt @rachelcoldicutt.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

Isn't it the case that the best local candidate won in Holborn and St Pancras, despite several high-profile men trying to make it All About Them, which is great for local residents? www.standard.co.uk/news/politic...

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Who is Sagal Abdi-Wali? New London MP who escaped civil war in Somalia as a child

Who is Sagal Abdi-Wali? Leader of Camden Council comfortably wins north London by-election

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

Ted Lasso, AI, the tedium of the hero's journey and why people pleasing isn't always what it seems. (contains spoilers) stellduffy.substack.com/p/ted-lasso-...

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Ted Lasso, Hero’s Journey and the AI Farmers

AI is stealing our stories, don’t let it tell them too

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Yes. Dire for me in 2000 and 2014. Def getting better but we’re not there yet. I hope you stay well.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

Went to the most beautiful wedding. Wrote about why it was beautiful - not the setting, food, music, speeches, drinks, clothes (all of which were glorious) … but the people. stellduffy.substack.com/p/the-kids-a...

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The kids are alright

The kids are grown up and they’re brilliant

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

I think there’s such an odd concept that we don’t keep changing after 40/50 ish. I think I’ve changed as much in these years as I did in my teens & 20s. And yes, we’re lucky to age.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Oh, we welcome a chocolate lesbian.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

63 and heartily agreeing with you.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

Also, not pretentious at all. I think writing IS an embodied (because we have to use the body to write or type) ENGAGEMENT with all of that shit to try to find … something ineffable & the words that hold it.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

It’s like not liking running, but liking having run. (Pretty sure the original - and best - about liking having written is Dorothy Parker, of course!) and yeah, whenever I hear ‘I love writing’ I find myself thinking ‘How??!!’

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

This evening, 8pm (UK), another brilliant conversation with the #NoMoCrones, held by Jody Day, hosted by #worldchildlessweek - ageing & worth in a pronatal, misogynist, ageist society. Come join us as we offer some hope. Yes being childless not by choice can be hard. AND there is life beyond loss.

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Jon Cooper @joncooper-us.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

Thinking how similar therapy (as a therapist) feels to co-creating any work - theatre, writing, performance, dance, music & how glad I am to have decades of co-creating behind me when therapisting. I wish more therapy trainings took the creative part more seriously. substack.com/home/post/p-...

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On making - books, theatre, therapy, connections

reminded of Chaosbaby today, I went back to the old files ...

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Pete Fraser @petefrasermusic.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

In the movie version of this, after Piddington runs out of food water and money as a result of leaving the UK, the residents apply for asylum and end up housed in a military base, with HILARIOUS consequences. www.bbc.com/news/article...

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Piddington in Oxfordshire votes to leave UK over asylum plans

Piddington residents voted over proposals to house up to 1,256 male asylum seekers nearby

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Jonn Elledge @jonnelledge.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

I have to tell you now that no such undertaking has been received - and that consequently, this country is at war with Piddington.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

Went to our lovely neighbour's funeral today. Big old church, standing room only, all the prayers and hymns and beautiful stories told. Maybe those folks worried about the lessening "Christian nature" of the UK just need to be better friends with their Jamaican neighbours?

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Oh Guy, thank you. That is lovely to read on a damp & muggy Sunday evening. love to you. xx

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

We are. Whatever this is for. We definitely are.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Writing about the super icky part of publishing that involves asking other authors we admire to say nice things about our books. substack.com/home/post/p-...

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On authors and other authors

Sending pre-publication copies out to authors whose work I respect is terrifying - and yet (because the market) we do it every time ...

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Delighted to be on this panel for the Existential Courage conference - partly because all life transitions (chosen & not) require existential courage, but also because the panel and whole day lineup is BRILLIANT. Online & in-person. Booking info: www.existentialacademy.com/whats-on/exi...

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

Oh, I think AI slop has got that covered.

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Bruce Little @brucedlittle.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

He's now resorting to trying to buy the election. Federal law makes it unlawful to knowingly and willfully pay, offer to pay, or accept payment for registering to vote or for voting. (52 U.S.C. §10307(c).) Any type of incentive is considered “payment.”

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Robert Shrimsley @robertshrimsley.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

It's hard to think of anything less British than the morons doing this to the heroic RNLI

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John Bull @garius.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

In my day, if you wanted to take notes on your criminal conspiracy then you had to put the effort in. Pervert Glasses? Snitch Watches? Kids today have it so easy.

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Count Binface @countbinface.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

You might have to turn up for the results of this one, Nige.

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Allison Gill @muellershewrote.com · 09/09/2026

We really did try to warn everyone

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

Yes, Gloria Steinem was complicated and not perfect. And maybe we'll never get the truly intersectional inclusive feminism so many of us struggle towards. And/but abortion mattered then and matters now. And for her advocacy on that alone, we can be grateful.

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Adam Rutherford @adamrutherford.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

Pahahahahah Cofnas

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

I always say that sales/marketing need the most input/final say though - they know way more than I do about what sells!

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

There was a lot of useful to & fro of this one.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

That glorious moment when it finally starts looking looking like a book! Pub date 4th Feb.

A book cover showing 3 mountain ranges and the title: Being the Change, Thriving in Postmenopause by Dr Stella Duffy.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

the narcissism of even IMAGINING it's about him.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 17/08/2026

Estimated 30.000 people at the vigil for Professor Jason Arday tonight. Couldn’t hear all of the speeches, but what I could hear was very moving and very powerful. Grateful I could be there. Infuriating and so awful that this anti-Black racism has been allowed to thrive in our media.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 15/08/2026

RIP Jason Arday. The unchecked racism of our media, our academic institutions, and yes, our (and my) whiteness, pushed and taunted and bullied. This is the result.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 14/08/2026

I wrote this story for BBC radio 8 years ago. It was a Christmas commission but it feels horrible relevant this summer. stellduffy.substack.com/p/the-christ...

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The Christmas the Geese Turned Back

I wrote this as a BBC radio short story, broadcast in 2018. Feels way too relevant now.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 10/08/2026

Virago list books 6 months out from publication, which means Being The Change is now 6 months out from pub date - woop!! Still loving the cover, but mostly wishing my Ma were not 20+ years dead for how happy the ‘Dr’ bit would make her! www.virago.co.uk/titles/stell...

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Being the Change

We live between a quarter or even a third of our lives in postmenopause. But although there's been a welcome focus on perimenopause and menopause recently, p...

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Peter Kravitz @peterkravitz.bsky.social · 08/08/2026

Lovely gusts of post-operative liberation in this…

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 08/08/2026

‘Post-operative liberation’ is a gorgeous phrase. Thank you!

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 06/08/2026

On #cancers, #swimming, scarring, being #postmenopausal and the fewer fucks that come from living long enough to be at the start of old. open.substack.com/pub/stellduf...

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Reasons to love postmenopause

Fewer fucks no. 568

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