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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

Went to the most beautiful wedding. Wrote about why it was beautiful - not the setting, food, music, speeches, drinks, clothes (all of which were glorious) … but the people. stellduffy.substack.com/p/the-kids-a...

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The kids are alright

The kids are grown up and they’re brilliant

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

This evening, 8pm (UK), another brilliant conversation with the #NoMoCrones, held by Jody Day, hosted by #worldchildlessweek - ageing & worth in a pronatal, misogynist, ageist society. Come join us as we offer some hope. Yes being childless not by choice can be hard. AND there is life beyond loss.

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Jon Cooper @joncooper-us.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

Thinking how similar therapy (as a therapist) feels to co-creating any work - theatre, writing, performance, dance, music & how glad I am to have decades of co-creating behind me when therapisting. I wish more therapy trainings took the creative part more seriously. substack.com/home/post/p-...

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On making - books, theatre, therapy, connections

reminded of Chaosbaby today, I went back to the old files ...

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Pete Fraser @petefrasermusic.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

In the movie version of this, after Piddington runs out of food water and money as a result of leaving the UK, the residents apply for asylum and end up housed in a military base, with HILARIOUS consequences. www.bbc.com/news/article...

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Piddington in Oxfordshire votes to leave UK over asylum plans

Piddington residents voted over proposals to house up to 1,256 male asylum seekers nearby

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Jonn Elledge @jonnelledge.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

I have to tell you now that no such undertaking has been received - and that consequently, this country is at war with Piddington.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

Went to our lovely neighbour's funeral today. Big old church, standing room only, all the prayers and hymns and beautiful stories told. Maybe those folks worried about the lessening "Christian nature" of the UK just need to be better friends with their Jamaican neighbours?

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Writing about the super icky part of publishing that involves asking other authors we admire to say nice things about our books. substack.com/home/post/p-...

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On authors and other authors

Sending pre-publication copies out to authors whose work I respect is terrifying - and yet (because the market) we do it every time ...

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Delighted to be on this panel for the Existential Courage conference - partly because all life transitions (chosen & not) require existential courage, but also because the panel and whole day lineup is BRILLIANT. Online & in-person. Booking info: www.existentialacademy.com/whats-on/exi...

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Bruce Little @brucedlittle.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

He's now resorting to trying to buy the election. Federal law makes it unlawful to knowingly and willfully pay, offer to pay, or accept payment for registering to vote or for voting. (52 U.S.C. §10307(c).) Any type of incentive is considered “payment.”

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Robert Shrimsley @robertshrimsley.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

It's hard to think of anything less British than the morons doing this to the heroic RNLI

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John Bull @garius.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

In my day, if you wanted to take notes on your criminal conspiracy then you had to put the effort in. Pervert Glasses? Snitch Watches? Kids today have it so easy.

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Count Binface @countbinface.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

You might have to turn up for the results of this one, Nige.

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Allison Gill @muellershewrote.com · 09/09/2026

We really did try to warn everyone

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

Yes, Gloria Steinem was complicated and not perfect. And maybe we'll never get the truly intersectional inclusive feminism so many of us struggle towards. And/but abortion mattered then and matters now. And for her advocacy on that alone, we can be grateful.

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Adam Rutherford @adamrutherford.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

Pahahahahah Cofnas

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

That glorious moment when it finally starts looking looking like a book! Pub date 4th Feb.

A book cover showing 3 mountain ranges and the title: Being the Change, Thriving in Postmenopause by Dr Stella Duffy.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 17/08/2026

Estimated 30.000 people at the vigil for Professor Jason Arday tonight. Couldn’t hear all of the speeches, but what I could hear was very moving and very powerful. Grateful I could be there. Infuriating and so awful that this anti-Black racism has been allowed to thrive in our media.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 15/08/2026

RIP Jason Arday. The unchecked racism of our media, our academic institutions, and yes, our (and my) whiteness, pushed and taunted and bullied. This is the result.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 14/08/2026

I wrote this story for BBC radio 8 years ago. It was a Christmas commission but it feels horrible relevant this summer. stellduffy.substack.com/p/the-christ...

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The Christmas the Geese Turned Back

I wrote this as a BBC radio short story, broadcast in 2018. Feels way too relevant now.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 10/08/2026

Virago list books 6 months out from publication, which means Being The Change is now 6 months out from pub date - woop!! Still loving the cover, but mostly wishing my Ma were not 20+ years dead for how happy the ‘Dr’ bit would make her! www.virago.co.uk/titles/stell...

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Being the Change

We live between a quarter or even a third of our lives in postmenopause. But although there's been a welcome focus on perimenopause and menopause recently, p...

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Peter Kravitz @peterkravitz.bsky.social · 08/08/2026

Lovely gusts of post-operative liberation in this…

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 06/08/2026

On #cancers, #swimming, scarring, being #postmenopausal and the fewer fucks that come from living long enough to be at the start of old. open.substack.com/pub/stellduf...

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Reasons to love postmenopause

Fewer fucks no. 568

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Chris Lintott @chrislintott.bsky.social · 27/07/2026

Short-sighted, stupid cuts to the UKRI budget include shutting down Jodrell Bank, the icon of British astronomy. (Many other cuts too, including 20% to our brand new @vrubinobs.bsky.social). Interesting politically to shut down a major facility in...um..Manchester 🔭 www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...

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Jodrell Bank's Lovell telescope faces axe in science cuts, BBC understands

Astronomers warn it would tear the heart out of UK science, and leave a generation untrained.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 26/07/2026

On not dying three years ago today. And existential psychotherapy & philosophy, choosing what we do have rather than what we don't, being honest about how hard it is AND keeping going anyway. stellduffy.substack.com/p/on-a-nearl...

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On a (nearly) death-iversary

or 3 years today since my brain exploded ...

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 26/07/2026

Berlin Pride. THAT’s why Pride matters. That’s why we ‘go on about being gay’ all the time. That’s why we’ll keep talking about it. It’s not fixed yet.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 23/07/2026

Wrote a piece on the latest round of meno-infighting. Redux: patriarchy is scared of women, terrified of old women, and believes we can control ageing and death. We can't. substack.com/home/post/p-...

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Meno-infighting detracts from the real problem ...

Patriarchy is scared of change, scared of the uncontrollable, scared of women's ageing.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 15/07/2026

Fucking bollocks to it, what a shag wanking disaster. (Also, Argentina are very pushy, aren’t they?)

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 08/07/2026

COVER!!! 8 years in the making - 5 of the doctorate & thesis in the embodied experience of #postmenopause and another 2 years rewriting to make it accessible, non-academic, developing the writing & creative exercises in the book, and LOTS of editing. Out with @viragopress 4 Feb 2027.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 08/07/2026

Great conversation with @LucyCavendish about all the things - writing, cultural democracy & the myth of creative 'genius', life, death, existential therapy, infertility, cancer, internalised misogyny & pronatalism & ageism, AND thriving in #postmenopause! open.spotify.com/episode/2zaE...

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Being The Change; making meaningful choices about how we live with existential therapist Dr Stella Duffy | S6 E2

How to have Extraordinary Relationships · Episode

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 02/07/2026

A little post on my coming book on postmenopause & sharing Kathleen Riach's great (short!) paper on menopause as a socioeconomic experience, affected by gendered ageism, caring responsibilities, the gender pay gap ETC open.substack.com/pub/stellduf...

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Being the Change (coming soon)

sharing juicy research around post/menopause

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 01/07/2026

Bloody hell. That was excruciating.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 30/06/2026

30 days of #Pride. Day 30. My wife and I rarely kiss in public. After 36 years together, our early unsafety remains AND those before us made change that helped us anyway. I am excited for the hope the new lot of LGBTQIA+ folk will create. And I remember our forebears. Without them, we are not.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 29/06/2026

30 things about #Pride. Day 29 As we approach the end of June, grab an atlas & a search engine. Check where: * it’s illegal to be gay & trans. * our lives are getting harder. * conversion ‘therapy’ is allowed * the impact of colonialism/‘missionaries’ on these places. That’s why we need #Pride.

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Luca Migo @victinibcn.bsky.social · 28/06/2026

Jared Kushner wants Albania's protected wetlands. The government obliged. Protesters said no. 29 days later, they're still saying no — with flamingo cutouts and flags, in the streets, every single night. Europe is watching. Is anyone else?

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 28/06/2026

30 days of #Pride. Day 28. Gym, swim, gardening, freelancing admin & attempting marmalade with the tiny bitter oranges from our little back garden. Days off count too.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 27/06/2026

30 days of #Pride. Day 27 Being in any or every way gay or queer or gender-expansive is not a choice. It’s embodied, emplaced and temporal. It’s an honesty to life. For some of us it’s everything, for others of us it’s some of everything. All good. The rainbow has many more colours than 7.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 26/06/2026

30 days of #Pride. Day 26 Pride started with a riot. It did not start with acquiescence. It did not start with hiding. It did not start with complacency. Pride was - and is - the fight back. And it was always #LGBwiththeT

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 25/06/2026

30 days of #Pride. Day 25 “When will we get straight pride month?” When straight people need to check state/national laws to be sure they’re safe to visit somewhere.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 24/06/2026

30 days of #Pride. Day 23 23 years today without this one. What she said when I came out in my late teens: “I saw a lot of it in the army” & “You’ll get a lot more companionship from a woman than from a man.” Supportive of and for me in every facet of my life. Be more Peg.

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Stella Duffy @stellduffy.bsky.social · 23/06/2026

30 days of #Pride. Day 23. Same/different: we are and we’re not “just like anyone else”. No one who has to worry about the reaction to them holding their lover’s hand in public is just like anyone else. Some of us have thinner skin through hard-won experience. Go gently.

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