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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

Fun fact! “Vampire bats establish friendships by sharing regurgitated blood with their neighbours in a "kind of horrifying French kiss", a new study says.”

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Vampire bats 'French kiss with blood' to form lasting bonds

Researchers observing the mammals saw them sharing regurgitated blood with their neighbours.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

I’m a few hours into the audiobook of @tkingfisher.com’s Astarion. Delighted that even this topic allowed for some gross science. Grinning from ear to ear at the description of saponification.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Coming up this Thursday!!! Learn to bring your fantasies to life. www.sheboptheshop.com/booktok-to-b...

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

The Kink Bundle is back for 2026!!! The only bundle I’ve participated in, because it’s such a great group of educators and content. Get ready for Kinktober with education on every kink topic you’re curious about - plus Kink 101 from yours truly! stellaharris--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/

An image promoting the kink bundle. Black and white photo of a couple close together, no detail. Text reads: Full Courses, Detailed Workshops, Personalized Training, Tools and Resources

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 02/09/2026

Saw Camp Miasma last night. Absolutely loved it. And although I already have several kaftans in my wardrobe, it made me want to further lean into the unhinged cougar/recluse starlet vibe. What’s some good inspo?

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 14/08/2026

“If ever there was a woman you’d want to join your book group or spend an evening chatting with at a wine bar, Stella Harris is that person. With shoulder-length gray hair and fashionable glasses, she exudes a sophisticated professorial air that’s backed up by credentials...”

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At 62, I Signed Up For A Class On ‘How to Give Mind-Blowing Blow Jobs.’ I Never Expected What Happened Next.

"My husband complained that I never initiated sex — that I never seemed to want it. He was right."

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

I’m working on a new class (or, heavily updating an old class) and trying to come up with a new title. Do you think the general public would understand a reference to “BookTok”? Well, ‘general public’ meaning people who’d see marketing for a fantasy exploration/sex ed class.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 10/08/2026

I had an absolute blast chatting with @hitherecatsuit.bsky.social for the @authenticallykinky.bsky.social podcast!! Be sure to listen when it goes live in October!

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 04/08/2026

I’ve been playing Balder’s Gate 3 for a couple of weeks now. Getting used to a gaming console again has been awkward. Learning DnD mechanics has been tricky. But the hardest part of the game? Monogamy. I am not built for this.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 14/07/2026

Unfortunately, it’s time to retire my trusty Fleshlight that I’ve used as a teaching model for at least a decade. I can’t decide if I want to go with something else realistic, like a medical model, or go the cute route, with something like a vulva puppet. Thoughts?

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 10/07/2026

I got a call during this time frame. They were looking for someone else, but were happy to talk to me. (I’m such a nerd for these calls.) The questions were phrased very strangely, with no adequate responses for my opinions. When asked, the caller said he didn’t know who they were working for.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 07/07/2026

Went to a munch for the first time in ages last night. The fear of being forgotten is only matched by the fear of what completely wild, unhinged thing people will loudly exclaim they remember me from.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 24/06/2026

Join me online, July 9th, to learn all about squirting! www.sheboptheshop.com/wet-wild-g-s...

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 19/06/2026

I’ve decided the ghost in my house must be a cat. Because their main activity is knocking things over in the middle of the night, scaring me awake. Are cat ghosts a thing?

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

Apparently the internet is once again debating who is a “real reader.” Have you sat down to read a book in the middle of a sex club? Have you read a book during a threesome you were meant to participate in? I’d like to see the smut & audiobook haters show this level of commitment to reading.

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JK @miniver.bsky.social · 11/06/2026

I am grateful to have had @stellaharris.bsky.social as my companion on this journey. At several junctures she exclaimed, “They keep saying words!” The words were incomprehensible, spoken with immense conviction.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 03/06/2026

Is anybody else still using Pandora? I’ve given Spotify and Apple Music a chance, but they just don’t *get* me like Pandora does.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 01/06/2026

Happy Pride from an elder queer bracing for this year’s exhausting bisexual discourse. #yesbisexualsbelongatpride #yesevenwithstraightpartners #yesyouarequeerenough

Stella wearing a shirt that reads: “bisexual: not a fucking phase” in the style of a dictionary definition.

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Topher Florence @topherflorence.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

living in a 24/7 d/s (damsel/snidely) relationship with a girl who keeps a pair of airpods in so she can listen to oncoming train asmr to stay in "trackspace"

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

“You’re throwing a party in poop’s house.” Always love Luna’s classes! A quotable gem every minute. @lunamatatas.bsky.social

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JK @miniver.bsky.social · 10/05/2026

The skill which is powerful in almost every domain

The Prophet Chuck from the TV series ‘Supernatural’ with the caption “writing is HARD”

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 24/04/2026

Was reminiscing with a friend about record stores. I guess kids these days don’t know the anxiety of bringing their album choices up to the impossibly cool clerk for judgment at checkout.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 21/04/2026

“Fandom by nature is histrionic; the intensity of a fan’s love is directed both inwards and outwards. Moreover… the quilt of community is knitted with emotional outbursts, where hierarchies are assembled based on who demonstrably cares the most.” open.substack.com/pub/capybaro...

open.substack.com

We Actually Do Have To Talk About The Pitt Fandom

Every fandom is The Pitt fandom

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 03/04/2026

“Where the traditional Gothic is dark and looming… Institutional Gothic occurs in winding or otherwise empty office spaces, consumed by machine-made mundanity & the unforgiving gaze of noisy overhead fluorescent lighting. The antagonists, once bloodthirsty lords, are instead soulless corporations.”

thereader.mitpress.mit.edu

‘Backrooms’ and the Rise of the Institutional Gothic

A new spin on an old genre replaces flesh-and-blood monsters with the mundanity of modern bureaucracy.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 02/04/2026

It’s movie night with my favorite scaredy cat! Looking for inspo on Letterboxed and multiple lists of “beginner” horror suggest The Shining. A reminder that horror weirdos (like me) have no understanding of what scares normal people.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 13/03/2026

It’s weird watching people talk about the 6th anniversary of the pandemic like it’s over.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 10/02/2026

Had a hysterectomy in December. Just texted a friend, outraged, upon discovering I can still have cramps and PMS without a uterus. Followed by this lovely exchange:

Her: “Where do the eggs go??”
Me: “They just fly off willy nilly into the abdomen!!! Eventually they get reabsorbed. Serious body horror.”
Her: “Cronenberg could never”

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 02/02/2026

Apparently, having had a hysterectomy is not a good enough reason for Walgreens to stop calling me every month to ask if I’m pregnant before filling my prescriptions.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 15/12/2025

I was supposed to give a talk later this week, but the person hiring me just backed out. They said that upon further reflection, they can't afford me - it's just not in the budget for their event. The conversation could (should) have ended there.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 06/10/2025

As a sex & kink educator, I don't always feel I have the expertise to meet the current moment. But apparently the safety risks of hog tying people have become relevant outside the dungeon/bedroom, so here we go: Bondage comes with hidden risks, including nerve damage and positional asphyxiation.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 06/10/2025

Hey Portland, want to learn rope bondage? I’m doing a three week series this month: Rope 101, Rope 201, and a Rope Lab for practice. Starting next week, masks required!! forbiddentickets.com/events/stell...

An image to promote the rope bondage class.

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JK @miniver.bsky.social · 01/10/2025

For Spooktober I’m going to try to recommend a sleeper horror movie each day. Today’s is ‘Cam’, which is not just a terrific horror movie — not just smart about what it explains and what it doesn’t — but also has quietly smart cultural politics about sex work. Learn nothing, just jump in.

netflix.com

Watch Cam | Netflix Official Site

After a look-alike takes over her account, a cam girl with a growing fan base sets out to identify the mysterious culprit and reclaim her own identity.

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Kelly @broadwaybabyto.bsky.social · 21/09/2025

Covid is a social justice issue, especially now that governments have abandoned us in favour of “you do you” policies that leave the vulnerable by the wayside Wearing a mask is a form of resistance It protects your health & the health of your community It says you don’t view others as expendable

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 19/09/2025

It’s that time of year again! Just in time for Kinktober, you can get a ton of kink and BDSM classes for one low price. One of my classes is included, along with lots of other amazing educators. Check it out: stellaharris--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/

The Kink Bundle - 30 experts in one bundle, background of toys.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 05/09/2025

I’m teaching a free online class on Tuesday, September 9th. (RSVP Required) Come learn all about kink communication! forbiddentickets.com/events/portl...

From the dungeon to the bedroom, asking for what you want. With Stella Harris.

Image of Stella with a gloved hand in the foreground. Background image of a couple in bed.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

Advice needed! I’m working with someone on a research, writing, and performance project. They just dropped our notes into ChatGPT and produced a script. I’m completely horrified and it has sucked the joy out of something I was looking forward to. I’m also conflict avoidant. What do I do?

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 25/07/2025

I’m reading a rental contract for an upcoming class. Included on the list of “prohibited items & activities” is “summoning of spirits.” SUMMONING OF SPIRITS Just snuck into the list alongside things like smoking and glitter. I need to know what happened to prompt this inclusion.

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 09/06/2025

Just intentionally bumped into a man at the grocery store because he was blocking the whole aisle and didn’t move when he saw me coming. (Thanks to the only benefit of peri-menopause: giving absolutely zero fucks.*)

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 03/06/2025

I’ve been invited to a sexy PowerPoint play party. Yes, that’s exactly what it sounds like. PowerPoint presentations followed by sex. I feel like my entire life has been leading to this moment. (Super extra bonus, it’s a Covid cautious party with everyone doing plus life testing before unmasking!)

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 30/05/2025

I’m not sure that tattoos are actually cheaper than therapy, but they are better for instant gratification! (Made by Stacy Fevinger.)

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 27/05/2025

I worked in animal welfare for a decade and the only animal that left me with a permanent scar is a hamster.

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Twisted Monk @twistedmonk.bsky.social · 27/05/2025

The “damsel in distress” has captured imaginations all the way back to early myths and legends. If you're curious about "damsel in distress" style bondage, head over to the Twisted Monk blog where @stellaharris.bsky.social‬ talks about the how and why in THE DAMSEL IN DISTRESS.

twistedmonk.com

The Damsel in Distress - Stella Harris

When I teach a beginner’s rope bondage class, people always want to know what they can do with what they’ve learned. What kind of scene can they put together with just a few basic ties? And that’s…

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Stella Harris @stellaharris.bsky.social · 20/05/2025

Excited to being back my bisexuality class this year, along with the fab @millennialsexpert.bsky.social as a co-presenter! Grab your tickets for this online class: www.sheboptheshop.com/its-not-a-ph...

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JK @miniver.bsky.social · 23/04/2025

I have a deep aversion to local TV news, but now I am ON it because last year, the power company Arizona Public Service cut off electricity to my mother’s house outside of Phoenix, killing her.

12news.com

82-year-old APS customer died after power was shut off in May 2024

An 82-year-old woman died in May 2024 after her power was cut off on a very hot day. Her son and an advocate say this shows an issue with state policies.

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Dr. Lucky Tran @luckytran.com · 04/04/2025

Please ignore tired pieces in publications like the Atlantic that are still trying to stigmatize mask wearing. Wearing a mask to prevent sickness from airborne viruses is a science-informed position, and it has been that way for over 100 years.

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