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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 2h

Four lines that sum up life pretty well, and a gentle defence of Norwegian heavy metal. Write both lists. You might be surprised.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 29/09/2026

So complain. Please do. If something isn't right, say so. But do it with purpose. And if it's the people around you doing the moaning, see if you can get them to dig a bit deeper and find an action, even if that action is realising they can let it go.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 28/09/2026

Three things each for work, rest and play, and why I genuinely love Mondays. Try it this weekend and see how next week feels.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 28/09/2026

Monday Motivation! Make a list of things you value. Make a list of things you do every day. Compare the lists. Adjust accordingly.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 27/09/2026

How do you want people to treat you? It's a simple question. Answer it, then see whether you'd pass your own test.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 26/09/2026

The people who wrote about their thoughts as well as their feelings didn't get ill. They got insight. And it made them feel stronger rather than weaker. There's a name for that. And the ones who just wrote the cold facts with no feeling? They got nothing.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 25/09/2026

If a relationship feels lopsided, it might be worth asking what you've been showing that person about how you expect to be treated.

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Ed Morrish @edmorrish.com · 24/09/2026

my kids are so much better than ai; they don’t even need to be told to “ignore all previous instructions”, they just do it

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 24/09/2026

Why looking after yourself isn't selfish, with help from the Sermon on the Mount and the UN. And a question about the one person you keep leaving off the list.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 23/09/2026

Over 120 people were asked to write about something negative twice a week for a month. The group who wrote only about how they felt reported more physical illness. Congestion, sore throats, fevers. I mean, what? Moaning can genuinely give you a blocked nose!

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 22/09/2026

Last one on this topic for now. A lazy day doesn't make you a lazy person, and a hundred failed attempts isn't the same thing as evidence. I'll leave you alone about it now. Until the next topic, obviously.

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horror Ewacui @ewacat.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

OH MY GOD HOLD ON IT'S A SNEAK PEAK

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Anti-Reform @antireform.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 21/09/2026

Rather than moaning that your shifts stop you meeting up as often as you'd like, celebrate the times you can. Talk about what you're looking forward to. It gives you a sense that there's something different coming, and that changes how the week feels.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 21/09/2026

Monday Motivation! Instead of looking at the hundred reasons to quit, look at the thousand reasons not to.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 20/09/2026

This one's about the little twinge you get when someone else is doing the thing you keep meaning to do. There's a word for the opposite and it's harder than it sounds. Nearly done with this topic. Hopefully you've found them interesting so far?

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 19/09/2026

If the first thing you do in a conversation is find something to moan about, it drags you down and everyone near you as well. And eventually they'll limit their exposure to you. Which then gives you something else to complain about, doesn't it?

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 19/09/2026

Damn. RIP Stephanie Cole. 😔 Can the wrong octogenarians stop dying please. Surely Trump is next!

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 18/09/2026

Number five, and this one might annoy a few people in my own profession. Picturing yourself having already done the thing probably isn't as inspiring as you might have been told it would be. Yes, I'm still talking about this topic. Nearly done though.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 17/09/2026

Some things really do need complaining about. If the working class hadn't complained about not being able to vote, we'd never have got there. But it wasn't the complaining that did it. It was the action. The focus was on the preferred outcome, not the problem.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 16/09/2026

Four of these now. This one's about how the feeling of being ready shows up AFTER you start rather than before, which is deeply inconvenient. I am aware I've been going on about this topic for a little while.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 15/09/2026

Creme Brulee will no longer be opening for Ed Sheeran.

5 members of Crème Brûlée, the fictitious band in The League Of Gentlemen. They attended the Eurovision Song Contest in 1981 you know.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 15/09/2026

Concentrating on the problem narrows your view of the world, and that's true whether it's your partner leaving the bathroom in a mess or spilt milk in the supermarket. Point your brain at what you do want to see happen and it gets a bit happier about it.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 14/09/2026

Number three in the series about taking action, and this is the one where I admit I could have started my podcast in 2005 and didn't.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 14/09/2026

Monday Motivation! People tend to be judgemental no matter what, so don’t live your life trying to impress others. Just impress yourself.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 13/09/2026

If you need to moan about a bad meal, don't just say it was bad. Say what you'd have preferred. I'd rather they'd cleaned the table before we sat down. I'd rather they'd given us more time to eat. Your brain does something very different with that.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 12/09/2026

Part two of the taking action lot. This one asks you to check what time it is, which sounds like a gimmick and kind of is.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 11/09/2026

So instead of training my brain to look for reasons to be annoyed, I look for what I'd have preferred instead. It might seem to be the same grumble, but it's pointed somewhere useful. It sounds like a tiny change but it really isn't. It all adds up.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 11/09/2026

Every Friday I put out a bonus 5 minute podcast episode for you all. This week it's about the phrase "you've changed." It's meant as a criticism even though it's usually evidence that something's gone RIGHT. youtu.be/izFT3NGsHnM

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 10/09/2026

New topic for a week or so, and it's about taking action today. Or more accurately, about the fact that your brain builds tomorrow out of yesterday's leftovers. There are probably seven of these coming. I am gonna try to keep each one short. Not sure I'll succeed but hey.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 09/09/2026

If nothing is ever good enough unless it's highbrow, you slowly train yourself into an expectation that you can't be entertained. That you can't be satisfied. All because an advert annoyed you. It might seem a small thing, but it can have bigger consequences.

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Brainmage.itch.io @brainmage.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

Aphantasia is wild. I can't begin to picture what it must be like

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Sarah Dempster @dempster2000.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

The first rule of Norman Collier club is ou alk ut orm er club.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 08/09/2026

Last one on gratitude. It's about swapping what you've got for what it lets you do, which sounds like nothing and isn't. I'll leave you alone about it now. Until the next topic, obviously.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 07/09/2026

I can be a grumpy old man too! I can find bad adverts as baffling as anyone else, but if it annoys me at least I'm a psychotherapist who notices himself doing it and stops. Usually!

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Humanists International @humanists.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 07/09/2026

Monday Motivation! 4 Steps To A Happier Day. Frown Less, smile more. Judge less, accept more. Moan less, enjoy more. Talk less, listen more.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 06/09/2026

Still here, still on about gratitude. Except this one's me arguing that you might be doing too much of it. I'm nothing if not consistent.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 05/09/2026

Complaining about something you can't solve isn't letting it out, it's just reliving it. Wallowing in what your parents did won't shift it. Talking it through with the purpose of teaching your brain that it's the past, now that's a different thing entirely.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 04/09/2026

More gratitude waffle. Just one question I ask clients who feel like a spare part, and why the first answer they give is usually the wrong one.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 03/09/2026

There's this myth that having a good moan with a mate gets it out of your system. Or that you should punch a pillow and imagine it's the person who hurt you. Research says otherwise though. Your brain doesn't separate fact from fiction, so you just relive it.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 02/09/2026

Here I am banging on about gratitude again. This time it's what happened when a boss said thank you properly and her staff made fifty per cent more phone calls. I did warn you there'd be a few of these.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 01/09/2026

I found a one star pub review last week that just said the place didn't serve lavender gin. Scandalous, apparently. I've been giggling about it all week. But there's something in it, because that sort of entitlement can actually spoil your life.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 31/08/2026

Still going on about gratitude. This one's got two lists, The Rolling Stones, and a small rant about correlation and causation.

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 31/08/2026

Monday Motivation! You'll never speak to anyone more often than you do to yourself. So be careful what you say. #MotivationMonday

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Richard Nicholls @richardnicholls.net · 29/08/2026

I had a motorbike lesson this morning, as I haven't ridden a bike for years and fancied a little ride out. You can tell how long it's been since I wore my leathers, cos look what I found in my inside pocket.

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