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seeing friends need support and going "oh I could help out"
then realising last month I needed help towards the end of the pay period.
I'm glad I'm getting better at this but I miss being able to be carelessly selfless when I had a well paying job
![Tumblr post by user kalira , dated Oct 20, 2024:
I say this very gently and with much love, and I say it not only as a writer myself but as someone who has been privy to many 'but how can they not know that work is amazing! 1 love it! I gushed about it to every friend I have and recced in x, y, z servers and [...]'
The writer or artist doesn't know this.
They have no way of knowing that you found their work beautiful and lifechanging or even just a bright spot on a bad day or that you think about it every day or that you told all your friends about it, and those things are great but we have no way of knowing them! You may not be doing it intentionally, but you're excluding the writer or artist from the community feeling of fandom that you are carrying on (that is so great! fandom is a community! continue to talk and play!) even with their work.
Please, please just drop a line even that is "oh gosh I absolutely love this work, I screamed to every one of my
friends about it when I first read/saw it!" even if you don't
have the spoons to share more of the specifics that made you flail at your friends or what you said in private. (Though if you do, we will love you forever for it.)](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:avvpb4ypfttlslmobsjqt7qq/bafkreibc6zd4nfz77j3teab5leeumgh3dttk5j7vv33e3agrspts7n23pe)
![Comic. [Huge pool, with two people walking on the edge together, one jumping off a diving board, and others playing with a beach ball inside the pool as two people in the center of the pool talk.] PERSON 1 with ponytail: How much trouble do you think we’ll be in when they find out we used the Neutrino Project grant money to throw a huge pool party instead? PERSON 2: We could argue that we *did* build a neutrino detector. There’s a lot of water here. A solar neutrino will probably interact with it at *some* point. Person 1: ...Wait. Actually, if we got some photomultiplier tubes... [caption] How The Neutrino Detector Was Invented](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:cz73r7iyiqn26upot4jtjdhk/bafkreiaxwgdtpreg6ozv6f44onc2fb6hjkncro2ybga7jcilvuts262oey)
