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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 25/06/2025

And he’s just asked me to change my mind and I bloody caved immediately! Work in progress ….

Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 25/06/2025

Secret opinion (Because fairly sure no one I know reads this stuff ….) I am trying to do more of what I want or don’t want and less of what other people want me to do. I’m trying to be polite and kind but so far this week I’ve had a dear friend be rude to me and now I’ve got a sulking husband.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

Good luck Erin! Thank you for standing I feel BACP needs fresh perspectives and I feel like that’s what you will bring (and more)

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 17/06/2025

11 more people and I reach 1,000 followers which to me is EPIC! Grateful for this growing community thank you

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 15/06/2025

How to greet your therapist 🤣https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdD2h6fF/

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 13/06/2025

Agree with Joy - look for examples of where you have thought about yourself as the therapeutic instrument and what you specifically are bringing. Is it helpful/unhelpful? Good luck!

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 06/06/2025

Gerald liked to think he was at the cutting edge of modern cuisine. Recently he had embraced the trend for vegetable jellies. So far he’d achieved carrotwobbles; radishwobbles and beetrootwobbles. Flushed with success (and beetroot) he was now ready for collywobbles #wackywordwed

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 06/06/2025

Mmm Although there can be much merit in extending congruence to allow for acknowledgement of who we are that might include levels of experience… yes?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 06/06/2025

Yes me too - also over the years my notes have got much briefer I used to write reams when I started because I was so scared of missing anything out

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 06/06/2025

Loved Department Q on Netflix - unusually I much preferred TV Carl to Book Carl who I thought was tiresomely sexist. But once again fictitious representations of a therapist are very odd. One minute she’s offering therapy, the next she pretending he’s her brother and then she’s round his house!

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 30/05/2025

That sounds lovely. I went to my weekly yoga class today and then an afternoon of house cleaning leaves me feeling cleared out and reset physically, emotionally and environmentally!

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 27/05/2025

I like the hat ! I think about parcels wrapped up in the same paper but containing very different things.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 22/05/2025

Posts that assertively demand we all stop doing this or calling something that when no-one I know, have read or worked with have ever used these terms 👀 What is that all about?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 21/05/2025

Enlist your supervisor’s support. Consistency is key - whatever your stated approach is needs to be demonstrated in your case study and throughout. Don’t deviate and don’t over complicate. Good luck !

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 21/05/2025

trompe l'oeil - to trick the eye Trumped up charges - to trick a legal process Trumpery - to endeavour to trick the world #wackywordwed

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 20/05/2025

I just don’t understand when narcissistic traits became like witch burning. Isn’t it our job to work with people to help them live better lives? I’m a CSA survivor and did my fair share of hurting myself and others when I was younger. Imagine if we were all demonised rather than supported.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 19/05/2025

I see things on social about how anxiety belongs to one generation or another and I think it’s nonsense. All of us throughout our lives may feel anxious, overwhelmed etc. I think it’s useful to understand how age and social context impact that but not in order to take sole ownership. Your view?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 15/05/2025

Nick I’m not being funny but I have never heard anyone ever talk about their ideal client. Am I living under a rock ?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 12/05/2025

I have a neuro divergent supervisor. She is fantastic! I learn so much from her in many different ways but specifically: I have learned how we build relationship together in ways that suit us both and how we can notice, discuss and learn from differences between us.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 12/05/2025

Love your congruent space this stuff matters !!

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 12/05/2025

Yes same it’s accessible and I have recommended it to clients as well as supervisees

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 03/05/2025

Getting sloppy with notes and all the hidden parts of our work. I always think of it as stuffing things behind cushions. They may be unseen but we know they are there generating shame….

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 03/05/2025

Really relate to this. I think congruence is perhaps the hardest thing to achieve as it is inextricably linked to self awareness and self acceptance of all that we are - or at least all that we can ever truly know of ourselves

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 02/05/2025

Yes - I’ve always thought it is the appropriate response to find what was done to me as a child to be cruel and outside of societal norms. It’s not my job to normalise it but to find ways to live with it.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 01/05/2025

When I first qualified I found it hard to admit to my supervisor that I didn’t know things ….poor woman had to put up with years of me saying “yes I know I know” when I very much did not know!!!

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 25/04/2025

I get that algorithm’s can be evil but BS is a very hard platform to feel much sense of belonging I find. Just me?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 24/04/2025

Fabulous woman speaking truth to power - thank you www.theguardian.com/law/2025/apr...

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 22/04/2025

Morning Blue Sky. Therapy practise re-opens today after by holiday. Going back to the work is always energising and daunting too. It matters #therapy

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 19/04/2025

Agree…also members are here and we are asking. Be nice to be heard I guess

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

I know …. Monitoring it for what I wonder ?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 11/04/2025

I can understand that… noticing the adaptive survival mechanisms feels like it might make them falter What a grim state of affairs

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 11/04/2025

In which case I’d like to offer another - courage to speak 🫂

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 11/04/2025

@charliepsych.bsky.social I saw this post in my feed directly after yours about the difficulty of creating thinking spaces within the NHS. Sadly appropriate

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 08/04/2025

Today is my 64th birthday! Busy day with client work but nice plans coming up. Therapeutically my 60’s have been the best years of my career. It’s a great decade for me. #Therapist

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 30/03/2025

The ultimate misogyny- it’s Mother’s Day in the UK and they only let us have 23 hours of it …. #clockschange

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 28/03/2025

Freud tho I used to think he was a monster now I’m a fanwoman Going to visit his house in N.London soon with my niece

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 28/03/2025

Self awareness is a mixed blessing …

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 27/03/2025

Training had been intense. Since Marjorie won both the Chockabox (small) and Chockabox (medium) competitions her coach felt she was ready for Chockablock and maybe one day even Chockabrick! #Wackywordwed

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