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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 25/06/2025

Secret opinion (Because fairly sure no one I know reads this stuff ….) I am trying to do more of what I want or don’t want and less of what other people want me to do. I’m trying to be polite and kind but so far this week I’ve had a dear friend be rude to me and now I’ve got a sulking husband.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 17/06/2025

11 more people and I reach 1,000 followers which to me is EPIC! Grateful for this growing community thank you

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 15/06/2025

How to greet your therapist 🤣https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdD2h6fF/

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TikTok - Make Your Day

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 06/06/2025

Loved Department Q on Netflix - unusually I much preferred TV Carl to Book Carl who I thought was tiresomely sexist. But once again fictitious representations of a therapist are very odd. One minute she’s offering therapy, the next she pretending he’s her brother and then she’s round his house!

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 22/05/2025

Posts that assertively demand we all stop doing this or calling something that when no-one I know, have read or worked with have ever used these terms 👀 What is that all about?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 20/05/2025

I just don’t understand when narcissistic traits became like witch burning. Isn’t it our job to work with people to help them live better lives? I’m a CSA survivor and did my fair share of hurting myself and others when I was younger. Imagine if we were all demonised rather than supported.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 19/05/2025

I see things on social about how anxiety belongs to one generation or another and I think it’s nonsense. All of us throughout our lives may feel anxious, overwhelmed etc. I think it’s useful to understand how age and social context impact that but not in order to take sole ownership. Your view?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 12/05/2025

I have a neuro divergent supervisor. She is fantastic! I learn so much from her in many different ways but specifically: I have learned how we build relationship together in ways that suit us both and how we can notice, discuss and learn from differences between us.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 25/04/2025

I get that algorithm’s can be evil but BS is a very hard platform to feel much sense of belonging I find. Just me?

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 24/04/2025

Fabulous woman speaking truth to power - thank you www.theguardian.com/law/2025/apr...

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 22/04/2025

Morning Blue Sky. Therapy practise re-opens today after by holiday. Going back to the work is always energising and daunting too. It matters #therapy

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 08/04/2025

Today is my 64th birthday! Busy day with client work but nice plans coming up. Therapeutically my 60’s have been the best years of my career. It’s a great decade for me. #Therapist

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 30/03/2025

The ultimate misogyny- it’s Mother’s Day in the UK and they only let us have 23 hours of it …. #clockschange

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 27/03/2025

Training had been intense. Since Marjorie won both the Chockabox (small) and Chockabox (medium) competitions her coach felt she was ready for Chockablock and maybe one day even Chockabrick! #Wackywordwed

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 26/03/2025

Morning BlueSky just a straightforward forward greeting that doesn’t mention any kind of politician whatsoever! Have as good a day as you can everyone

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 23/03/2025

This is so important and one of the many reasons to look beyond labels

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 23/03/2025

All my life I’ve been someone who sometimes wants to stir the pot…by this I mean say things that are hard to say. Having controversial views is nothing new so it’s not just me. I think it comes from the repression I experienced as an abused child when I couldn’t speak

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 17/03/2025

@janecasey.bsky.social I am on Book 6 and absolutely love Maeve….thank you for creating her and thank you to @mariankeyes.bsky.social for the recommendation

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Aaron Balick 🍉 @aaronbalick.com · 16/03/2025

Are you aware of this starter pack for the psychodynamically curious? Do follow and feel free to ask to join if you post regularly on this topic: go.bsky.app/D8D9ARz

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 16/03/2025

Episode 3 of the Netflix drama Adolescence is an amazingly powerful representation of a therapist that I actually recognise as truthful. Usually in dramas we are busy having affairs with clients or generally behaving like morons but this was incredible. #therapists

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

Uk therapists I have one space for monthly supervision available. I work online and if you would like to contact me for a free exploratory conversation please do so either through my profile or my website. It’s £90 for 90 minutes www.counselling-directory.org.uk/supervisor_8...

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Looking for an experienced counsellor who will talk to you in a friendly, accessible way? I might be the right person for you. Anxiety, depression, abuse, bereavement are all terrible things to have t...

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 11/03/2025

Unpredictable colleagues …. Have a good day everyone #therapists

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 10/03/2025

God! Writing is really hard isn’t it. I’m so tired. Still I’m half way through the penultimate chapter of a book I’m writing and still can’t believe this is real. I’ve been dreaming of this since I was a teenager - I’m nearly 64 now!

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 05/03/2025

Morning everyone. I have nothing particularly profound to say but right now a simple greeting to one’s fellow human beings and a wish for a kind, productive day (whatever that means to you) feels important.

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 03/03/2025

I had lunch out with my oldest friend today and it was delightful. It made me realise how important doing things like this are. This might sound obvious but my default is to work and I am re-evaluating that…it’s harder than it might seem

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 03/03/2025

Last night I dreamt of a friend I had a difficult time with 50 years ago …she called me dog poo in the dream and I’m noticing how much that still hurts. Strange creatures we are ….

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 27/02/2025

Only people who care about such things will know what I mean but….seasonal change means I suddenly have no idea what to wear 👙👖🧣👗🧦🧢👚

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a little girl is standing in a living room and saying `` i don 't know . ''

ALT: a little girl is standing in a living room and saying `` i don 't know . ''

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 26/02/2025

Zoe loved her job at the museum. Friday was her favourite day. That was the day the school trips came to see the animatronics show of underwater life. Friday’s were undoubtedly Flippercanorious for all concerned! #wackywordwed

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

Never tire of recommending Deb Dana’s book the exercises are so powerful and unpretentious Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) amzn.eu/d/0LcQloA

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Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)

Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) eBook : Dana, Deb: Amazon.co.uk: Books

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 21/02/2025

It’s incredible and patently manipulative how little the British press chooses to cover what our Labour Government is busy with on our behalf. @teamlabouruk.bsky.social

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 20/02/2025

“As is the cobblers of being interested in “wellness”, because nobody is interested in “illness”…and stop it with the whole “clean eating “ thing. It’s annoying and vacuous.” Jay Rayner in @theguardian.com I love you !

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 20/02/2025

Great starter pack to get involved with !

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 18/02/2025

What online notes packages do people recommend - thinking (finally) of ditching the paper. Be grateful for recommendations - thanks all! #therapistsconnect #blueskytherapists #therapists

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 15/02/2025

Chewing gum training - this is my term for training that monetises one or two ideas and streeeeeetches it out into expensive CPD Needs calling out and I’m sorry to say some of the worst examples I’ve been on have been via the NHS

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 15/02/2025

Off to see the new Bridget Jones’s today. If you fancy it read mine and others thoughts on finding love after a bereavement www.hellomagazine.com/brides/81379...

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Love after loss: 9 therapist-approved tips for finding love again

If you've lost your partner, dating again can feel difficult

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 13/02/2025

My CPD so far this year is all about revisiting the classics. Currently Freud’s psychosexual stages of development. They are extraordinary #therapists

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 10/02/2025

Grim work going through all my profiles and losing “Senior” from my Accreditation status with BACP (who are still not here as far as I’m aware) I haven’t been demoted BACP have merged we seniors with other accredited therapists. I used to feel very proud of all the work I put in ..now not so much

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 07/02/2025

UKCP members please read below this is urgent and important

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 06/02/2025

There are many things about we Brits that make us different most notably our love of queueing we are a concatenation #wackywordwed

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 05/02/2025

Post 60 life: More confident More relaxed Self aware (as far as anyone can be) Kinder to self and others Realise world does not revolve around self Many more wees Takes bloody ages to get going in the morning

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 04/02/2025

I listened to a podcast yesterday aimed at therapists in private practise. To gain access to it you had to sign up to all sorts of things and then when I listened it was 25 minutes on one very simple idea whose purpose was to provide a gateway to further products. Utter nonsense #therapists

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 03/02/2025

Dora finds the therapeutic space reassuringly relaxing ….#cats#therapy

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Sara Mathews (PlumJam) @plumjam61.bsky.social · 03/02/2025

Supervision! How do people function without it? I’ve just had my 90 minutes. I feel affirmed, challenged, energised, safe and motivated. #therapy

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