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Nicole Caroli

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Victim of child sexual abuse raising awareness of the often accompanying emotional abuse

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David Challen @davidchallen.bsky.social · 27/04/2025
My mother killed my father. The justice system saw a murder. I saw years of abuse and stood by her to lead a campaign that freed her from prison. Now I’ve written the book about what that took. And what it cost. 🧍🏼👩🏼‍🤝‍👨🏻🧍🏼‍♂️🏠 Out 5 June Pre-order here ➡️ www.hachette.co.uk/titles/david...
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Michael Salter @mike-salter.bsky.social · 05/05/2025
Facebook’s implemention of E2E encryption is indisputably providing cover for child sex offenders and putting children’s lives at risk - the data is clear www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/05...
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Facebook ‘putting children’s lives in danger’ amid fall in its child abuse reports
National Crime Agency chiefs blame Mark Zuckerberg’s introduction of end-to-end encryption
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 06/05/2025
Today was a recording day for The Flying Child audiobook. It’s an important process, but far from easy. (Today I was reading in a recording studio about CSA that took place in a recording studio - that was most likely part of a far wider distribution of CSAM (#TACSA) I am reflecting on:
Sophie with blurred face, in recording studio Toni and Will in studio
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 07/05/2025
The Flying Child: Latest Blog www.theflyingchild.com/post/theflyi... #TheFlyingChildStory #CSA
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The Flying Child: The Little Princess Meets NSPCC & The Voice Story
In this continuation of Sophie Olson's fairy tale from The Flying Child - A Cautionary Fairy Tale For Adults, The Little Princess meets the NSPCC and is suprised by her reaction. A blog about empowerm...
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Harriet Wistrich @h-cwj.bsky.social · 23/03/2025
I am delighted to be speaking about my book, Sister in Law at the Oxford Literary Festival on 2 April - tickets still available from here www.ticketsource.co.uk/oxford-liter...
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 19/03/2025
We have 🌸✨FOUR 🌸✨spaces left in our next online writing group! It is a well-established group and a gently faciliated space, with no pressure to share work unless you want. Whilst not a therapy group, wellbeing support is available. Open to all adult survivors of #CSA groups@theflyingchild.com
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manwhohasitall @manwhohasitall.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
🎉🎈It's publication day for Flipping Patriarchy! 🎈🎉 If you like my posts, you'll love the book. It’s like the memes but deeper, darker and fiercer, and a little more radical than you might think... uk.bookshop.org/a/15275/97818001836…
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David Challen @davidchallen.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
Spotify has removed an Andrew Tate podcast “degree course” titled “pimping hoes” that was deemed to be in breach of the company’s rules and removed. It had been on the platform since Oct 2023... what other podcasts are warping young men and boys minds on Spotify?
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Spotify takes down Andrew Tate ‘pimping’ podcast after complaints
Misogynist influencer’s content reportedly sparked objections from staff as well as a petition signed by 92,000
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Nicole Caroli @nicolecaroli.bsky.social · 12/03/2025
9/5/1984 'I bought Dad a bucket for his birthday. It is black and has got a wire handle on. It cost me £1.25' Gosh how embarrassing. #timemachinediary
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Nicole Caroli @nicolecaroli.bsky.social · 12/03/2025
I'm off on a rollercoaster journey to read 40 years of my diary entries from the age of 12. Amongst other things, my aim is to highlight the prevalence of sexual violence and harassment #timemachinediary
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Laura Richards @crimeanalyst.bsky.social · 05/03/2025
Every woman & girl needs to know this information. It’s life saving & changing & im sharing it for FREE. Register for FREE 30 minutes: bit.ly/LRNEWSJAN CrimeAnalyst #CoerciveControl #Stalking #DomesticAbuse
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Dr Emma Katz @dremmakatz.bsky.social · 23/02/2025
Family courts may expect victims-survivors of #domesticviolence and abuse to engage in family therapy with their abuser with the aim of creating friendlier relationships with them Find out why and the harms this can cause in my new free article #coercivecontrol open.substack.com/pub/dremmaka...
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Coercive Control, Family Court and Systemic and Family Therapy: A Match Made in Hell
Why some therapies cause harm in contexts of domestic violence and abuse
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 25/02/2025
Age 9 months - 10 yrs - chronic nosebleeds requiring urgent and frequent cauterisation: “No known cause.” Age 11: onset of severe scoliosis. Within one year the cause of chronic and near-constant pain: “No known cause.” 1/
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 22/02/2025
If you’re a survivor of CSA, what do you know now that you wish you’d known as a child or young person? #CSA
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Dr Emma Katz @dremmakatz.bsky.social · 20/01/2025
Opportunity to contribute to domestic abuse research
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David Challen @davidchallen.bsky.social · 23/01/2025
Reminder: Last year, headlines called Clifford 'pretty normal' and a 'nice guy', placing images of one of the victims sat next to the perpetrator, as they’ve done again today… Help us create change and support our continued campaign to help deliver training for every newsroom in the UK! ⬇️
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Donate to Change how the media reports domestic abuse murders, organized by David Challen
Donate to change the way the media reports domestic abuse murders … David Challen needs your support for Change how the media reports domestic abuse murders
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Harriet Wistrich @h-cwj.bsky.social · 12/01/2025
An honour, an opportunity - but slightly scary www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m...
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BBC Radio 4 - Desert Island Discs, Harriet Wistrich, lawyer
Harriet Wistrich, lawyer, shares the soundtrack of her life with Lauren Laverne.
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 20/01/2025
Just as we never forget those who turned away, failed to listen, disbelieved, or changed the way they treated us, we never forget those who listened, gave us enough time, and made us feel it was safe, in every sense of the word, to disclose child sexual abuse. #CSA
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David Challen @davidchallen.bsky.social · 19/01/2025
Agree? Sign this petition ⬇️
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Traffickinghub Petition - Shut Down Pornhub #Traffickinghub
Shut Down Pornhub and Hold Its Executives Accountable for Aiding Trafficking - Sign the Petition! https://www.traffickinghubpetition.com/ via @lailamickelwait
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David Challen @davidchallen.bsky.social · 14/01/2025
Thanks to Jeremy Vine for having me on BBC Radio 2 with Harriet Wistrich to discuss the Kiena Dawes case. Yesterday’s verdict shows how often mental health is weaponised to excuse abuse. I stand with families seeking justice. Abuse is the root cause. Listen back from 12:14:45 ⬇️
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Radio 2 - Listen Live - BBC Sounds
Listen live to BBC Radio 2 on BBC Sounds
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SurvivingScouting.org @survivingscouting.org · 11/01/2025
“In this episode of Cut to the Chase: Podcast, we are joined by @curtisgarrison.com and @jasonjoylaw.bsky.social to update us on where the Boy Scouts’ settlement stands.”
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Examining Legal Hurdles in Boy Scouts Abuse Settlements w/ Curtis Garrison & Jason Joy
YouTube video by Cut to the Chase: Podcast
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Michael Salter @mike-salter.bsky.social · 11/01/2025
I wrote a paper in 2015 on the UK "grooming gang" scandal with a focus on the 2012 Rochdale case. In the 1990s, Rochdale was the site of another organised abuse investigation, except that social workers were excoriated for believing and intervening.
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David Challen @davidchallen.bsky.social · 13/01/2025
Ryan Wellings, who abused and coercively controlled Kiena Dawes for two years, threatening her with acid and to use a drill to take out her teeth, was today CLEARED of manslaughter after her suicide. Today’s result is an abhorrent injustice. This is murder in slow motion ⬇️
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How Ryan Wellings made Kiena Dawes’ life a nightmare
Horrific violence, bullying and belittling ended with suicide of previously ‘happy-go-lucky’ young woman
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 12/01/2025
“How we live our lives following child sexual abuse is not a competition of strength or a perceived battle of wills between me and the man who abused me. I am not victorious, I was a victim of a crime.“ #CSA theflyingchild.com/2022/01/28/w...
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What doesn’t kill you…
By Sophie Olson As a survivor of child sexual abuse I sometimes hear myself being described as resilient, or strong. On the surface it seems an innocuous comment doesn’t it? Some survivors might ta…
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Patricia Debney @patriciadebney.com · 09/01/2025
What’s going on in the UK around Child Sexual Abuse and ‘oh dear what do we do? We demand ANOTHER inquiry’ - is playing politics at the expense of past and present victim survivors. We want CHANGE. Musk has NO idea what CSA looks like or come from. Sensationalising rather than solving. Disgusting.
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Patricia Debney @patriciadebney.com · 09/01/2025
“The hard right has seized upon high-profile cases involving men of mainly Pakistani heritage, although a Home Office report found most child sex abuse gangs were made up of white men under 30.” And most abusers are family members. THIS is the heart of it. www.theguardian.com/commentisfre...
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The Guardian view on child sexual exploitation: concrete action must be the priority | Editorial
Editorial: The response to the independent inquiry has been too slow. New policies to tackle all forms of abuse are needed urgently
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Nicole Caroli @nicolecaroli.bsky.social · 09/01/2025
www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home...
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Religion, police, education leaders demand grooming action now
Exclusive: A coalition made up of 65 charities is pushing Yvette Cooper to act on key recommendations from child sexual abuse inquiry
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 08/01/2025
Our human needs are quite basic really. To be heard, seen, for someone to give us their full attention for a while. To care enough to act. To protect. I’m a lover of words, but not when they’re used to deflect, which is what we’re seeing. Too much talk. Too little action. And #CSA continues.
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Patricia Debney @patriciadebney.com · 06/01/2025
Very much this.
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 08/01/2025
I'll be posting a bit more in the next few days, but in the meantime, strength and solidarity to victims and survivors who might be feeling rather lost in the noise of it all. You are not alone. As a survivor of CSA, I'm sick and tired of empty words, and of feeling drawn into this toxicity. #CSA
[Video ID: two sad looking stick figure survivors sit between angry looking people. Words in individual shapes read: "Damage limitation, faux concern, meaningless statements, lies, political gain, division, empty promises, insults, cover up and hypocrisy." The words: "What about us?" are written in the cloud that rains over the heads of the two survivors. Text at the bottom reads: The Flying Child - leading conversations about child sexual abuse - 'Society's Shame Not Mine'. The Flying Child logo is to the bottom right]
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 03/01/2025
A long 🧵 . Please read to end 🙏🏼 Today was the annual New Year gathering, in my childhood home - a place where I was sexually abused. I lived there until I was 18. The perpetrator is no longer there but the memories of abuse are - in my old bedroom where he would come to ‘kiss me goodnight’. 1/
Lights behind cracked glass
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Patricia Debney @patriciadebney.com · 21/11/2024
We are outraged over the machinations from the president-elect (himself a convicted sex offender, hiring other sex offenders) -- but we must remember that #sexualabuse almost always takes place right under our noses. It is not only 'over there', in places of power; it is also always right HERE. #CSA
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G. Donald Cribbs @gdcribbs.bsky.social · 19/11/2024
Survivors need attunement first. It includes 5 things: I hear you. I see you. I believe you. I affirm you. I support you. Start here when a survivor discloses with you. #CSA #CSAsurvivorSky
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 19/11/2024
When someone discloses child sexual abuse please don’t say: “What exactly did he do?” Or: “Are you sure?” Or: “It was such a long time ago” Or: “You’re wrong” Or: “I would have known if that was happening.” Or: “It could have been worse” Or: “Time to move on” (Feel free to add…) #CSA
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 16/11/2024
Following our book event, I’m getting messages asking where to buy. #TheFlyingChildStory is available from most major bookshops in the UK UK Amazon: amzn.eu/d/14ttkUd US Amazon: a.co/d/3PL5nSL Australia Amazon: amzn.asia/d/eSK4uRX Also on kindle 🌸 @zuntold.bsky.social #CSAsurvivorSky #BookSky
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SHERA Research Group International Collective researchers MVAWC @sheraresearch.bsky.social · 16/11/2024
Job of a lifetime opportunity with @kareningalasmith.bsky.social and team
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Withywindle @withywindle.bsky.social · 17/11/2024
All of this. And an insult added to injury is when we're told not to be ashamed of what was done to us - often unsolicitedly, having given no indication that we are - when all this pressure is piled onto us to *act* as if we're ashamed.
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Denise @bekindandbrave.bsky.social · 17/11/2024
There are so many of us. It is time to stand up, be blunt, and make people uncomfortable.
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The Boxing Yogi @oneofthe99.bsky.social · 17/11/2024
Love this 🫶
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Nicole Caroli @nicolecaroli.bsky.social · 17/11/2024
How society silences adult victims of child sexual abuse sweptunderthecarpet.com/2022/12/15/h...
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How Society Silences Adult Victims of Child Sexual Abuse
‘Where are you going?’ my neighbour asked whilst entering her house as I was leaving mine. I was going to meet fellow survivors of child sexual abuse at an event. They, like me, had shoved aside th…
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 15/11/2024
I am one of #11Million #CSA survivors in the UK. Only when I heard someone else say ‘I’m a survivor’ could I consider doing the same. Please share #CSAsurvivorSky tag and survivor accounts, as this will help CSA survivors connect. Connection can save lives. 🙏🏼🌸 #CSA #Survivor #TheFlyingChildStory
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 11/11/2024
Join us for The Celebration of The Publication of The Flying Child: THIS THURSDAY EVENING, in collaboration with #AD4E and @zuntold.bsky.social www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/celebratin... #CSASurvivorSky #CSA
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 11/11/2024
Any CSA survivor writers, researchers, social workers, therapists, teachers, GP’s, teachers, activists, or other professionals out there? Seeking people fed up with feeling the need to hide their lived experience, for fear of being judged or discriminated against. Come and join us #CSAsurvivorSky
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Patricia Debney @patriciadebney.com · 12/11/2024
At last a stated aim of blaming perpetrators, not victims, for rape and sexual assault. Glimmers of hope. Notice that 88% said that their top reason for prosecuting was to prevent another assault. This is not about retribution; it’s about #ShameMustChangeSides www.theguardian.com/society/2024...
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Only one in 10 sexual assault survivors in England and Wales would report crime again, survey shows
Exclusive: Three-quarters of respondents say mental health was damaged as a direct result of treatment by police
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JoMo @jomo14729.bsky.social · 12/11/2024
It’s a space I am looking forward to. Since stumbling across the survivor community, my life has made more sense than ever and reading this book, opened me up. #CSAsurvivorsky
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The Flying Child @theflyingchild.bsky.social · 11/11/2024
My agent said “no publisher will touch this book with a 10-foot pool” & then backed out. She was wrong. The Flying Child - A Cautionary Fairy Tale for Adults is doing rather well, considering. ‘The World’ needs to read #CSA survivor stories. #CSASurvivorSky @zuntold.bsky.social #TheFlyingChildStory
Number one bestseller tag The Flying Child kindle cover The Flying Child on a bookshelf in a shopThe Flying Child A Cautionary Fairy Tale for Adults cover. A child flies in the sky with the birds, above a house.
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