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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 17/07/2025

The feeling is mutual, @thesusanito.bsky.social! Thank you for the repost. 💙🥚

Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 03/05/2025

Wonderful conversation with Stephen Robinson, aka @playtyperguy.com, about cross-cultural adoption, identity, and the memoir that I am querying. Thanks again for having me on, Stephen.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 16/03/2025

I caught a few minutes. It was quite lovely!

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 16/03/2025

I think there’s good wisdom to be found in letting yourself do what feels good.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 16/03/2025

Dream big and while it shouldn’t have had to be your responsibility, find a way in adulthood to give yourself what the child you needed.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 16/03/2025

It depends on what your definition of healing is. As a therapist myself, I consider healing a lifelong journey. So, coming out of the fog, you will heal, yes. Many times. Over and over again.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

A clean kind of pain. I hope that in the end that has only mitigated any additional harm and allowed for more healing for you. ❤️‍🩹

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

Mine is definitely too loud to ignore. 😂

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

Edit: In the end, this only hurts me.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

That doesn't mean I'm not angry. This doesn't mean I'm not sad. It just means that I am trying to focus on what I can control, and that I don't want to give them more power than they've taken over how I move forward.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

in the same way I choose to forgive to minimize the power others' actions have over how I move forward, I choose to love. On a very practical level, I do this so I don't spend my life wishing my family to be different than they are (because in the end, this only me).

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

@glenncurry.bsky.social and @guswatanabe.bsky.social, a big part of my abuse occurred through denial of my identity, including my ethnic and cultural identity. Healing involved reclaiming myself. It's not an uncomplicated love, but...

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 22/02/2025

To which I say (to all colorblind adoptive parents), if you don't see color, how can you truly see me?

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 22/02/2025

I’ve been asking my family to pronounce my name correctly for 18 years, which is over half of my life. They still can’t do it. This essay is about how we honor who we are and where we come from when the people who we love can’t (or won’t). www.businessinsider.com/my-family-ca...

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I was adopted as a child by an American family. They still can't pronounce my name correctly.

I was adopted when I was 5, and my parents Americanized my name. I've been trying to correct my family for 18 years.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 20/01/2025

I have to believe something good can come of this. I have to believe, because the minute I stop believing is the minute I lose my ability to do anything about it. #inauguration

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 15/01/2025

This. All of this. But make it memoir. It’s in your inbox.

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Susan Kiyo Ito @thesusanito.bsky.social · 12/01/2025

Loved having two adoptee meetups this week! 🥚@saraeasterlyauthor.bsky.social @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social

Two smiling women in glasses overlooking the water and an island in the distance

Two smiling women one in graying chin length hair and glasses and the other with long curly dark hair, standing next to a white curtain

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 06/01/2025

One week later and it still hasn't set in. After 3+ years, my manuscript of my debut memoir is finally query ready. #writingcommunity #amwriting #amquerying

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 06/12/2024

It’s all fun and games until suddenly you’re drafting a book proposal. 😂😅

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 25/11/2024

This past Tuesday, a record-breaking storm knocked out the two tallest trees on our property and I was reminded not to wait to express my gratitude, not even for a national holiday. #thankful

Poem: “Don’t Hesitate” by Mary Oliver

If you suddenly and unexpectedly feel joy, don’t hesitate. Give into it. There are plenty of lives and whole towns destroyed or about to be. We are not wise, and not very often kind. And much can never be redeemed. Still, life has some possibility left. Perhaps this is its way of fighting back, that sometimes something happens better than all the riches or power in the world. It could be anything, but very likely you notice it in the instant when love begins. Anyway, that’s often the case. Anyway, whatever it is, don’t be afraid of its plenty. Joy is not made to be a crumb.

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Susan Kiyo Ito @thesusanito.bsky.social · 25/11/2024

If anyone would like a personally inscribed book for a gift, I’d be happy to do that. 🥚

Book cover of "I Would Meet You Anywhere: a memoir" by Susan KIYO Ito, showcasing a tranquil indigo scene with embroidery of origami cranes that evokes a sense of connection. Silver sticker that says National Book Critics Circle Award Finalist.

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Amy ☀️ @amygrier.bsky.social · 22/11/2024

Up to 75 resilient survivors writing about trauma and family estrangement! Still room for more if you'd like to be included in the pack. #memoir #memoirists #writingcommunity #amwriting #CPTSD #trauma #resilience #writingsupport #estrangement go.bsky.app/MG3fqTH

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Kayleigh @kayleighj.bsky.social · 17/11/2024

“We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.” - Robert Jones, Jr.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 17/11/2024

👋 Is there room for one more? I am a Seattle-based writer and therapist who works in this area.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 16/11/2024

I suppose "helps" is the more accurate tense.

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Lina Lau @linalau.bsky.social · 13/11/2024

It's like a breath of fresh air over here.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 15/11/2024

Although I am mainly preoccupied with completing my memoir (while parenting a toddler), I am proud of this piece I published @huffpost.bsky.social in September, and look forward to writing more short-form pieces in the future. #amwriting #writingcommunity #writing www.huffpost.com/entry/son-ne...

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I Spent Years Fighting For Control. Then My Son Nearly Died In Childbirth — And I Was Forced To Face A Painful Truth.

"While trauma may have altered my upbringing, I am proud that it doesn’t have to alter his."

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 14/11/2024

I am both a trauma-informed therapist and a writer whose subject matter falls in this area. I would love to be included.

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Mirella Stoyanova @mirellastoyanova.bsky.social · 14/11/2024

Migrating a few of my favorite picture-posts from the old country. This one feels especially relevant these days. #writingcommunity #art #illustration

A list of ways to build community, surrounded by colorful illustrations of a city community. List is as follows: Turn off your tv, leave your house, know your neighbors, greet people, look up when you're walking, sit on your stoop, plant flours, use your library, play together, buy from local merchants, share what you have, help a lost dog, take children to the park, honor elders, support neighborhood schools, fix it even if you didn't break it, have pot lucks, garden together, pick up litter, read stories aloud, dance in the street, talk to the mail carrier, listen to the birds, put up a swing, help carry something heavy, barter for your goods, start a tradition, ask a question, hire young people for odd jobs, organize a block party, bake extra and share, ask for help when you need it, open your shades, sing together, share your skills, take back the night, turn up the music, turn down the music, listen before you react to anger, mediate a conflict, seek to understand, learn from new and uncomfortable angles, know that no one is silent though many are not heard, work to change this.

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