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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 19h

Katie Koestner was on the cover of TIME Magazine at just 18 as one of the first voices on the issue of "date rape." She is now runs the Take Back The Night Foundation & hosts the "Dear Katie" podcast. Was honoured to be on the podcast recently. Episode drops today wherever you get your pods!

Image of Julie Lalonde on the cover of a podcast promotion with the caption "Dear Katie: Julie S. Lalonde

Multi award-winning women's rights advocate, public educator, writer, and survivor of intimate partner and stalking.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

My Roman Empire is thinking Jonathan and whether he kept up with the times or has the most racist thoughts you've ever imagined.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Between this news and the news out of Cornell, it's a big week for coverage of the complicity of bystanders and the dangers of a "Don't snitch" culture.

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U.S. resident charged with offering advice, money to Tumbler Ridge killer in months before mass shooting | CBC

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

I've never been so sad about my dairy allergy

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rax ‘levon honkers’ king @raxkingisdead.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

a little louder for the cheap seats in the back

One of the biggest myths is that men rape by mistake. Like, "Oh, they need consent training." But research is very clear: Sexual violence is not a mistake. It is an intentionally made decision by people who know they don't have consent. They just don't prioritize consent over things like status, power, domination, and sexual gratification.
For my research, I got a certificate of confidentiality from the National Institutes of Health, so my notes couldn't be subpoenaed. One of the reasons I call them perpetrators in my work is because every single person I interviewed confessed in that context. The first question I would ask them was, "When you received that email from Title IX that you were under investigation, did you know what it was about?" Every perpetrator I interviewed said "yes." If sexual assault were a miscommunication, you would be wondering, What have I possibly done wrong? That is not the way that any of them reacted because they knew.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Media consistently failing the "Stop treating tech and police press releases as objective truth" challenge.

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Matt Binder @mattbinder.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

the tech industry is about to invent books

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

On the topic of living in a hellscape, a trial started this week here in Canada related to the ability to call out rape culture. The legal fees are enormous and any help would be super appreciated.

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Donate to Mandi Gray Legal Defense Fund, organized by Mandi Gray

Who Your Donation Will Help A.B. made a report of sexual harassment and sexual assault to… Mandi Gray needs your support for Mandi Gray Legal Defense Fund

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

Every fall, year after year, my colleagues & I give the same interviews on the reality of sexual violence on campuses. In *2007*, I co-founded a group at Carleton that spent 7 years (!!) fighting to get a sexual assault centre on campus. (We won) Time is a flat circle under rape culture.

cbc.ca

St. FX banner shows more work needed on sexual violence prevention, advocate says | CBC News

A researcher on sexual violence says it's good that people are talking about the inappropriate banner displayed on an off-campus house during St. Francis Xavier University's homecoming, but the conver...

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

Whenever a woman complains online, inevitably two things will happen: A man will comment something supportive, followed by another man responding "Give it up, bro. She's not gonna fuck you!" Proving in the clearest possible terms how men are socialized to only be nice to women in exchange for sex.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

Can confirm. I spoke at a conference recently, where the person before me talked about AI. I started my keynote by saying that AI is incompatible with feminism because AI is built on theft and therefore a consent violation. "Gen-AI stole my book. AI is harmful to real people like me." It hit hard.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Do men realize that since the Cornell story dropped, I have gotten countless messages from women telling me that if rape culture ended tomorrow, they would finally be free to be the freaky sluts they've always wanted to be? Men live in a prison and yet are the only ones that hold the key.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I've been working to end sexual violence for 20+ years and I have never, ever, not once, had a male survivor tell me they were offended by my work or felt excluded by my work. The "What about men?!" crowd does not actually care about boys and men who've been sexually assaulted.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

In '09, Carleton's then president (who was both our first ever woman president and a professor in women's studies) threatened to sue me for the activism I was doing on campus re: sexual assault. She also rearranged the entire convocation ceremony so she wouldn't have to acknowledge an award I'd won

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Ricochet Media @ricochetmedia.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

The National Post recently crossed a dangerous line by publishing call for violence against Canada's federal NDP leader. "Avi Lewis is not the threat that needs to be dealt with, Postmedia is." NEW from @smohyeddin.bsky.social who breaks it all down: ricochet.media/media/nation...

ricochet.media

National Post crosses dangerous line by publishing call for violence against NDP leader

Avi Lewis is not the threat that needs to be ‘dealt with’ — Postmedia is

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

It seems it wasn't enough to have a literal drone show to advertise how you were privatizing healthcare, now it seems you also need to sully our sidewalks with your nonsense. Ontario is run by oligarchs and it makes me rage with the heat of 1000 suns.

A photo of a sidewalk in Ottawa with a stencilled chalk message that says "do I really need 10,000 steps a day? Ask PC Health"

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PacoOnPause @pacoonpause.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

I think it's weird how fixated a lot of you are on people who are covid conscious..

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rax ‘levon honkers’ king @raxkingisdead.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

with all respect: i'm losing touch with what AI does because i have no interest in it and it's not my business. nobody worries about me losing touch with developments in particle physics or artificial bull insemination. it's not my fault the richest guys on earth want me to make their toy my life

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

I know the bar is so low it's in hell but these are the moments of healthy masculinity that warm my heart. It's okay to be afraid of needles! It's okay to need some comfort! It's okay to get that comfort from another straight dude! At a time when empathy is seen as a weakness, this is really nice

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

Oxfam Canada is hiring a Chief of Staff at their Ottawa office (hybrid) It's a full time, executive position with a salary range of $110,000 - $130,000

oxfamcanada.bamboohr.com

Chief of Staff

Internal/External Posting Notice Title: Chief of Staff Department: Executive Director's Office Status: ...

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

All of this. I also want to add that, in my research, I found that a lot of “inconsistencies” in a victim’s story actually came from gender bias affecting investigators’ record keeping and interview methods.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

I was born into a family of jocks and spent most of my life in the world of sport. It's why it pains me so, so much that those spaces are so often poisoned by toxic masculinity. Initiatives like this give me hope, though! CU Athletes wrote short stories for boys on healthy masculinities. Go Ravens!

ctvnews.ca

Carleton University athletes write book to help boys build emotional intelligence, combat toxic masculinity

Eight Carleton University varsity athletes have recently become published authors and have written a book to help younger boys build emotional intelligence and connectedness.

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Cynthia Miller-Idriss @milleridriss.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

I have reviewed thousands of grad school applications over my career & always advocated against looking at overall undergrad GPA & instead at the trajectory in the last two years. That’s because I saw a pattern on so many women’s transcripts as they experienced something in their first year 1/

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Fuck Mike Smith. The man has been accused multiple times of sexual assault. This is not the first time he's been brought up on charges. Dropped charges or even acquittals do not mean innocence. Society wants us to believe that women are born liars, but I refuse to swallow that propaganda.

ctvnews.ca

Sexual assault charge against ‘Trailer Park Boys’ actor Mike Smith dismissed

A sexual assault charge against actor Mike Smith was dismissed on Thursday as his trial was set to begin in Dartmouth provincial court.

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maura quint @mauraquint.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Yes every woman has been harassed, many assaulted. But every woman has also experienced invisible loss from moments she avoided harassment. She felt a space becoming unsafe, so she left, while men stayed on. And in leaving, she lost: opportunities, experiences, learning, promotions, even simply fun.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Thissss is what folks keep missing. RJ literally does not work if the person who committed harm won't earnestly cop to it. Hell, in my own memoir, I include a copy of an email of my boyfriend sent me after he raped me and it was not the first time he raped me nor was it the last.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

As you should! I was once on the cover of an Ottawa newspaper for speaking at SlutWalk and the paper blurred the button I was wearing that said "Kill your rapist." Proving yet again that we're not even allowed to "perform" violence against men and men get away with literal violence against us.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Men log on every day and threaten rape, torture, murder, etc. on women like myself but heaven forbid one of us says a rapist should get their ass beat. Mon Dieu.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

I see all the progressives calling for restorative justice and "People shouldn't call for those Cornell men to be harmed" and look, I get it. I do. But do you not see how women are always expected to ooze empathy for men when those men literally do not even see us as human?

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

I've been self-employed since '11 & the worst part of it is not the constant hustling or the complicated taxes. It's that every client has their own policies & bureaucracies & they never tell you what they are, but expect you to know them. It's all made up, guys! You gotta inform outsiders!

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Lot of conversations about Good Men™️and to this day, I don't think there's a better takedown of them than this speech Hannah Gadsby gave back in '18 at the height of #MeToo (Starts in earnest about 1 minute into the video)

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Hannah Gadsby Full Speech: "The Good Men" & Misogyny | Women in Entertainment

YouTube video by The Hollywood Reporter

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

We absolutely have the ability to do both and we must! There is no silver bullet to addressing rape culture. We need early interventions with boys, bystander education, *and* effective self-defense. I literally teach all three so I am totally on team "Attack rape culture from every angle"

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

I see your 'Don't teach women to stay safe. Teach men not to rape' and my heart is with you but I'm gonna have to be the buzzkill that tells you that we have no evidence of any large scale programming, education, initiatives, etc. that actually deter *men* from committing sexual assault.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

The two places where adult men experience the highest rates of sexual assault are in the military and while incarcerated. That fact alone proves that sexual assault is about power, domination and humiliation. It's about making someone "your bitch" - proving the inherent misogyny involved.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

100% endorse this thread. I teach consent, violence prevention & bystander intervention for a living - It is my area of expertise. There is *no* evidence of the existence of an "Oops, my bad!" rapist. "Sexual assault is a miscommunication" is a myth without any evidence. It is an intentional act.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

"Promising Young Woman" was much maligned when it came out but judging by how many people are shocked by the Cornell 7 story, I think some of y'all should settle in and watch it.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I teach bystander intervention for a living which means every day, I listen to people tell me they don't need to learn those skills because they would obviously do the right thing in the moment. ... and then I read about the frat at Cornell and the shitshow at GuelphU and I bang my head on the wall

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Rebecca Solnit @rebeccasolnit.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

@jkbjournalist.bsky.social reopened the Epstein case; Heidi Blake seems to have restarted the UK prosecuting Andrew Tate; Ronan Farrow, Megan Twohey and Jodi Kantor made the system finally go after Weinstein for real. Journalism has again and again made the justice system do its job.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Periodic reminder that "Ugh, having to speak more than 1 language is hard/annoying/woke/etc." is the dumbest North American white people shit. Speaking multiple languages is standard practice in the vast majority of the world.

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Robert Reich @rbreich.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

DoorDash spent $1.4M trying to stop Zohran Mamdani from becoming mayor. This week's historic $131.5M enforcement action against DoorDash for underpaying NYC delivery workers shows why. Yet another reminder that the only thing that can beat organized money is organized people.

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DoorDash Spent $1.4 Million Trying to Stop Mamdani From Becoming Mayor. Now We Know Why.

In a wage-theft settlement, DoorDash now has to pay its workers around 100 times what it spent trying to beat Zohran Mam

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Luke LeBrun @lukelebrun.ca · 25/09/2026

Although Policy Options published an article from an author with an apparently AI-generated headshot and whose articles sound like they were also generated by AI, I appreciate their transparency here and also sharing additional details about the deceptive behaviour of this "Daniel Robson" character

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

En tout cas, joyeuse Journée franco-ontarienne à tout mon monde! On existe, on a notre propre langue et culture. J'nous adore!

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

The literacy crisis is not just referring to people's ability to literally read and write. It's also people's inability to read for context. I've been a public educator for over 20 years and I have never, ever seen it this bad.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

There currently exists no way to ban youth from smart phones and social media without forcing *everyone* to engage in the surveillance state of providing ID, etc. But every day, I am more and more convinced that smart phones and social media are incongruent with a healthy childhood.

ctvnews.ca

12-year-olds with smartphones are more likely to develop eating disorders by 14

Kids who have their own smartphones at age 12 are more likely to develop eating disorder symptoms than their peers without the devices, according to a new study.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Normalizing threats against politicians is bad for democracy. *However* every time a story like this comes up, it seems like a good time to remind people that there are many of us who receive messages like this *by the hour* & those same police forces tell us they're powerless to do anything.

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Pookleblinky @pookleblinky.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Reminder that in Canada upon becoming an engineer you get an iron ring made of a collapsed bridge, purposely designed to be uncomfortable, to remind you that your ethics demand you give a fuck even about the boring grudgework of such as double-checking your math. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iron_Ring

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Iron Ring - Wikipedia

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Innsmouth Looksmaxxing @gonebabygone.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

This is all right-wing politics is now, a guy who's killed tens of thousands of children complaining about podcasters

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