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And really, fuck you Universe, the number of shows I’ve watched recently which feature *surprise hanging!!* is just ridiculous.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 17h

Ash’s exit has been as unnecessarily complicated as his life. His remains were given to my cousin, whose father (Uncle Jack) died a few weeks later, but he very kindly returned them. His photo montage didn’t work at the funeral and neither did the longer one with playlist at his wake. I miss him.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 18h

Ash’s ashes are home. Aiden has big plans for them.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Ash was cursed with an introverted mother and brother, which infuriated and enraged him. But he loved us too, as we did him. So we all got along together just fine. He wanted a big life. He shoulda just tried for longer. I hate the finality of this.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

A decent safety net, my son not being gone, billionaire’s throttled, community groups being cool again, people saying what they actually think, but tactfully. These are few of my favourite things.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

I’ve been missing Ash a lot this week. Just like last week and the next week. His absence is so LOUD.

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Odd This Day @oddthisday.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

I don’t think I’m the only person who will appreciate this

Triangular diagram labelled The Introvert
Hierarchy of Needs.

Top: Self-actualisation - A completely empty house. An arrow pointing to the house says “Nobody needs anything. Nobody is coming home for hours. Phone on silent.”

The next level is Esteem - Plans getting cancelled. An arrow here says “‘Sorry, we're going to have to rearrange.’ Oh no. That's terrible. I'm devastated.”

Next level: Belonging - One person you actually like. No group chat. No networking. No "let's go round and introduce ourselves." Just one person you can talk absolute shit with.

Fourth level: Safety - An escape route. Own car. End seat. Knowing exactly when the event finishes. A believable reason to leave early.

Bottom of pyramid: Physiological needs - Being left the fuck alone for a bit. Food. Water. Sleep. 45 minutes where nobody speaks to you.

Created by Lee Harding, @theintrovertedrecruiter

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Just so I’ve written it somewhere, let me posit this thing: why would I refuse to give written notice if that’s the only thing that’s keeping you here? I don’t want you here. My theory is that you’re lazy fuckers who thought you could get away with shit. Written notice given. Fuck off.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

I have to be strict with the fuckwits who were/are my son’s friends, who have been living here at his invitation for months. He’s been gone for months.Wednesday is d day. They’ve had so much notice. I fucking hope they get shit organised before the family gets called in.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

I wonder if I will ever feel like myself again?

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

Ryan Murphy productions give me the shits in so many ways, and yet I still watch them. Monster: Lizzie Borden is particularly stupid but I’ll watch it until the end. And then berate myself.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I’m staring at this next drawing, the one I’m doing to avoid starting the big one, and I’m all reluctant to make a new mark even though I know what has to be done.

Swirls and ovals and lines in green and red with yellow and pink.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Just over two months. I miss him; I keep thinking of things I want to talk to him about. #ash

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jamelle @jamellebouie.net · 11/09/2026

you think that after meeting luke skywalker, jabba asked bib fortuna if he thought luke was kin to that famous pod racer?

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Spider. @vaspider.gay · 08/09/2026

RT if you've never had a tab of ChatGPT open, period.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

What a segue! Okay, back to rich people’s bullshit.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

And the reason I’m fixating on this at the moment is because I fucking bought a box of frozen cheeseburger bites This Morning, and they were gone when I got home in the arvo, and they didn’t.even.ask.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

The trouble with watching rich people shows is that I get carried away with the thought of suddenly discovering that I’m part of a family trust and having like six figures in the bank, and the practical applications of that.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

Watching ‘Succession’ again and it’s obvious that these people do nothing, they are not serious people but fuuuck, I’d like to be Tom’s kinda rich, the bit wot he’s trying to teach Greg in the first season; just doing nothing but talk on the phone and bullshitt people. And they pay you for it!

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

I forgot how cool and immersive a good set of earbuds is. Bye now.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

Can’t wait for the next and final episode of the 7 up series.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

Nearly two months. I’m just toodling along, doing random shit, and all of a sudden I’m stricken with the enormity of the loss of him. He was so funny. I miss the banter. I miss him. #ash

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 02/09/2026

I seriously can’t wait until every fuckwit is outta my house.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 02/09/2026

Although recently I’ve been very oblivious to what the date is. Fucking September, are you kidding me? (I know this is cliche aging bullshit but it gets really bad).

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 02/09/2026

I’ll never be able to stop counting.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 30/08/2026

Here is my big horrible thing for the day. I went into Ash’s room this arvo for the first time since he’s been gone. I’m just wracked with guilt. And I’m so sad that his friends have shown such blatant disrespect. Everything is just fucked.

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Oisín McGann @oisinmcgann.bsky.social · 28/08/2026

This is set up for laughs, but it’s actually one of the best demonstrations I’ve seen of how being capable of producing convincing sounding language and understanding meaning are two completely different things. A chatbot does not understand you, it just has automated responses based on your words.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

So apparently I’ve got 1000 followers yet I hardly get any responses on my increasingly whiny posts. So confusing. That’s cool, apparently I’m following 1000 people and yet nowhere near that many people show up on my following feed, which is pretty much the only one I look at so, there ya go.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 19/08/2026

Do you know what I hate most in the world at the moment? Following up with people about Ash’s funeral bill. Fuck my stupid life.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 19/08/2026

Expecting me to do the right thing at this in my life is probably not a good idea. I’ll always be sorry I made things worse.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 17/08/2026

I’m hoping I can do a portrait of of Ash from this. I’ll update on here. It will take a million years, just saying.

Ash, brown wavy shaggy haired chappette wearing a black shirt with like some marvel white skull motif on the front, and black and grey camo pants is standing in front of Wivenhoe Dan when the rains came down, leaning on a black fence throwing up the v’s.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

21 years, two months and 15 days of my beautiful surprise kid in my life. One month without him. It’s worse than I imagined in all of the awful scenarios I’ve ever conjured up. It’s just stopped. No more anticipating what he’d do, who Ash would be. Over. But he was here, and he was loved.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

I’ve been compulsively grief shopping on Temu because it’s just so. fucking. cheap. Time to stop, I’m all binged out and also surrounded by empty boxes and aggressively plastic shit.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

Grocery shopping, which was pretty much the only reason I left the house between 2020 and 2023, is now just a horrible and painful chore because my beautiful Ash is gone but his ghost is following me which gives me no comfort because I miss the actual Ash so fucking much. #ash

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Frog and Toad Bot @frogandtoadbot.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

“You have been asleep since November,” said Frog. “Well then,” said Toad, “a little more sleep will not hurt me.”

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

I’m washing the clothes at night and hanging them out on the line so that tomorrow greets me with hopefully not horrible stains but at the very least not a giant pile of regret and despair in the bathroom.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

I made this playlist a few days before the awful terrible fucked up devastatingly horrible thing happened, and yet every song seems apropos to how I feel now and it’s a fucking punch in the gut. Still listening though. And disassociating away, in every direction possible.

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Linda’s Mix 7

Playlist · Linda · 61 items

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

So now these are my topics of conversation: Ash ash all the time, why am I sweating, my disbelief that I could be aging so quickly and/or how quickly the year is going by, and too much tv and films.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

Three weeks since I last saw Ash :(

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

It’s not possible for me to express how difficult the last nearly three weeks have been, but I thank everyone who’s reached out to me, whether by text or having attended the funeral or even just thinking about Ash; just the acknowledgment that he existed and that his loss is so huge means a lot.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

It’s a week yesterday since the funeral. I can’t stop counting down (or up) days #ash

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

The temptation to give myself a really hard time in the form of post outlining all the ways I’ve fucked up is almost overwhelming. Thankfully, I have the lessons of regret from when I’ve previously gone blaaaah and had to read it back the next day, which I choose to learn from tonight.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

My issue tonight is that it’s creeping up on the longest time I haven’t seen him for 21 years #ash

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 27/07/2026

I will be glad when I have the house to myself and Aiden. But fuck anyone who tells me I can’t help a friend.

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 27/07/2026

It’s two weeks and a few hours since I learned that Ash was gone. I don’t think there’ll be day from now on when I’m not counting. #ash

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Linda @h00py.bsky.social · 27/07/2026

And now I’m inside, surrounded by his funeral flowers, watching them start to wilt and fall away. Thankfully, there’s a lot of native bouquets that will dry naturally and won’t be so fucking depressing. #ash

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