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Sure. But that’s not even what I’m talking about. I’m talking about things similar to what happened with the Cornell prosecutor, where the victim is failed every step of the way and the prosecutor doesn’t bother

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Literally no one has said that. Least of all me. Stop trying to put words into my mouth. It’s not making you look like less of an ass.

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But mansplaining how rape cases work to a victim of rape is truly a new level of male hubris. Congrats.

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No I did not. Your need to make my argument about what you want to talk about does not mean you are more of an authority on what I meant or said.

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Maia Szalavitz @maiasz.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

And that’s not what we’re talking about here, is it?

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brilliant, enraging piece by @espiers.bsky.social

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Literally no one is saying that and you keep putting up straw men in your weird attempt to insinuate that rapes are over rather than under prosecuted

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That does not contradict anything I said. Jeffrey Dahmer had a presumption of innocence. That doesn’t mean he wasn’t guilty and did not mean that a prosecutor would decline to prosecute

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We are not talking about innocent people here. We’re talking about rapists who get off because police and prosecutors don’t believe women

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This is just not true. I have worked with two different D.A. candidates and this is a known and common problem. I’m not suggesting that D.A. go after obvious losing cases, but that they go after cases they can win even if they’re not slam dunks—which they don’t do

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Also now I have to check to make sure I spelled “receive” correctly so none of it stuck lol

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No one is more delusional than a man who thinks his thwarted professional ball dreams might be achieved by his son

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But the funniest assertion Wayne makes is that parents only take kids sports seriously if the kids have real talent. I had two brothers who played high school and little league baseball and the number of times insane parents had to be escorted off the field …

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All this tells me is that Wayne has never participated in a spelling bee because they give you a literal book of 20 letter words you will never use in life and you are expected to study them. And as a lower class hick alumna / 3rd place state spelling bee champion, in my opinion, Wayne is a dumbass

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Some Random Susan @anysusan.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

We’re not talking about pep talks

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@espiers.bsky.social really nailed it in her @thenation.com piece about rape and her rape in general. She describes the protective response victims develop, feeling and thinking of oneself as a “brain in a vat” This was my view of myself by puberty & it made me more vulnerable to more SA later on.

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I can tell you didn’t make it all the way through the column so I’m going to give you the level of respect you’re showing me and mute you.

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And getting rid of frats and consent training are not mutually exclusive

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Most kids are not getting *any* consent training at all. Not in middle and high schools anyway. We live in a country where the GOP is trying to ban sex ed altogether and in conservative states sex ed is still abstinence only.

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Also, the kind of consent Ed I’m talking about centers consequences. Almost no one is going that

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And the lede is reflective of the way I experienced it. Not everyone has the same reaction to being raped.

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Amanda Katz @katzish.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

If you think most people are getting consent education, that is a wild misconception by itself. But they especially aren’t getting it when it starts being a problem - around 5th grade.

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A tough piece, specifically a piece about women being extremely tough under serious threat. Big respect to @espiers.bsky.social to writing about this in such an unsparing, constructive way. Teaching kids young about consent—and *enthusiastic* consent—is, unfortunately, necessary

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I also asked her what misconceptions the kids she talked to had. She said she talked to a 9th grade class recently and asked them what percentage of sexual assault allegations were false. They put it at 80%

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I met the founder of the Schools Consent Project a couple of months ago and they do important work in this area. They’re lawyers who go into middle schools and high schools and have frank conversations with student about ethics and legality

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jamelle @jamellebouie.net · 05/10/2026

I was raped at a frat party. It’s a shockingly common experience and preventative interventions in college are way too late.

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what an asshole

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Rebecca Solnit @rebeccasolnit.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

It's shocking this is not shocking: "The UK’s largest private-sector employer is offering up to three days of paid leave which can be taken flexibly for activities such as attending court hearings, arranging emergency accommodation, changing locks, securing childcare or separating finances."

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Tesco is first supermarket to offer paid ‘safe leave’ for victims of domestic abuse

Exclusive: Britain’s largest private-sector employer has also trained managers to spot signs of domestic abuse

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Hard to say because mine loved backrooms but if he hasn’t watched a lot of horror, but thinks he wants to see some Beetlejuice is a good halfway in between comedy and horror entry point

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How we ended up letting him watch this stuff is a whole other story

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He likes brainy horror lol. Next choice: Us. Loves Jordan Peele.

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