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Emi Nietfeld

@eminietfeld.bsky.social
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Journalist / author of "Acceptance" / Speaker / ex-Google engineer / Words @nytopinion @theatlantic @teenvogue @thenation @theinformation | emi@eminietfeld.com

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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 12/08/2026
Thanks so much!! I hope you enjoy it!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 11/08/2026
A man in China hired a surrogate in Florida to carry his triplets, then he didn’t come to pick them up. Now, in a legal battle that could upend the international surrogacy industry, they’re fighting over who will raise them. My latest story, 13 months in the making. www.thecut.com/article/surr...
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Whose Babies Are These?
A Chinese man hired a Florida surrogate, then didn’t pick up his kids, sparking a custody battle that could upend the industry.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 23/07/2026
Ambition requires a belief that you have meaningful control over your future. With so much uncertainty today, it can feel pointless to prepare for tomorrow. My latest @nytopinion.nytimes.com ! www.nytimes.com/2026/07/23/o...
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Opinion | Gen Z Fell Out of Love With Work. I Don’t Blame Them.
For Gen Z college graduates, the way millennials lived out their ambitions no longer makes sense.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 08/06/2026
Check out @darbysaxbe.bsky.social's new book, Dad Brain, and some other parenting writers I love: @corinnelow.com @lydiakiesling.bsky.social
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 08/06/2026
I was SO petrified of experiencing PPD. I never thought my husband could be the one to struggle. thecut.com/article/fathers-paternal-postpartum-depression.html
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Postpartum Depression is Coming for Fathers
Men are more involved parents than ever, and it’s leading to a crisis no one warned them about.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 10/12/2025
My no-gifts story got its first clap back. Thanks @rebeccaonion.bsky.social! slate.com/life/2025/12...
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Experts Say It’s the Key to a Well-Adjusted Child. I Tried for Years. This Holiday Season, I Encourage You to Give Up.
The injustice of it all will begin to hit.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 05/12/2025
This year, the most luxurious kid's gift is... no gift at all! My latest for @thecut.com about the rich parents eschewing presents got surprisingly political. Join me on a journey into brownstone Brooklyn, homesteading Instagram, and "feminine energy." www.thecut.com/article/kid-...
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The Parents Who Don’t Give Their Kids Gifts
While most parents struggle to stuff stockings, some well-off ones bask in the blank space under the Christmas tree.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 17/11/2025
Know any parents who DON’T give their kids gifts? Or who only do secondhand/handmade/empty amazon box gifts? Is this you? I want to talk for a story ASAP! emi@eminietfeld.com
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 17/11/2025
thank you!! You can take it down
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Annie Hickox @dranniehickox.bsky.social · 07/11/2025
“She understands that people don’t just get “stuck.” They fight to stay afloat while the world tries to push them under.” Beautiful photo essay of a family growing up in Appalachia. Words by @eminietfeld.bsky.social Photos by Maddie McGarvey. www.nytimes.com/2025/11/06/o...
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Opinion | I Photographed an Appalachian Family for 15 Years
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 13/11/2025
Yes, please do! Thank you!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 06/11/2025
Maddie McGarvey spent 15 years photographing a young girl growing up in the natural splendor and deep poverty of Appalachia. McGarvey's act of witness is breathtaking and heartbreaking and life-changing. I'm honored to write about it for the New York Times. www.nytimes.com/2025/11/06/o...
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Opinion | Seeing Those Who Are Forgotten: An Act of Witness in Appalachia
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 26/09/2025
Excited for Class Not Dismissed this Monday about reporting on class - with the Economic Hardship Reporting Project! Speaking w/ @jiatolentino.bsky.social @alissaquart.bsky.social and more!! It's free! RSVP here: pp.events/bgAA6xxa
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The Economic Hardship Reporting Project (EHRP) is building a media that spotlights the stories - and the storytellers - often left in the shadows: the working-…
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 08/09/2025
Would die for @karaswisher.bsky.social's take on this one...
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 08/09/2025
thank you!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 08/09/2025
Thank you so much for reading and sharing, Dana!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 08/09/2025
thanks so much! So, in Texas?
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 05/09/2025
Bi sees a model for surrogacy in the antiabortion laws that 'recognize and protect the right of a fetal life.' She thinks that when doctors see surrogates go against medical advice, they should report it to the police. Thanks so much to my expert @michelebgoodwin.bsky.social!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 05/09/2025
Where are those ads located? Do you remember the agency? I am super curious...
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 03/09/2025
you're welcome!
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Scott McGrath @smcgrath.phd · 03/09/2025
A stillbirth transforms a surrogacy arrangement into an absolute nightmare. The intended parent, a venture capitalist, wages a ruthless campaign against the surrogate, exposing the perilous landscape of America's unregulated surrogacy industry. Excellent job by @eminietfeld.bsky.social
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The Baby Died. Whose Fault Is It?
When her son died in utero, a venture capitalist went to extremes to punish her surrogate.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 03/09/2025
Thank you so much for reading!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 03/09/2025
Huge thank you to my editor, fact checker, sources, and experts!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 03/09/2025
A private investigator. Psychics. Calls to the FBI. Dozens of reports to regulators. A million dollar legal battle. A restraining order. An arrest warrant. American surrogacy raked in approximately $5 billion in 2024. What can go wrong?
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 27/05/2025
I'm looking for men who got depressed after having a baby to talk about their experience. Please DM me if this is you or someone you know! Looking to talk by Thursday! #journorequest
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 20/05/2025
I can't wait for this event tomorrow. all my Brooklyn folks, I hope I see you there!! partiful.com/e/HLgL5MLN3P...
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 21/02/2025
I started going to church after Trump was elected for his second term. Looking for other folks who are looking for faith (any faith tradition!) post-election for a story. TIA!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 16/01/2025
I'm SOLD! Wish I were in Atlanta
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 16/01/2025
"I’d explained Russell’s fury not as abuse but as symptomatic of #PTSD — from childhood trauma and wartime deployment, from losing his best friends in combat and his mother too young." highlights the danger of thinking about #trauma as an excuse for bad behavior, getting more and more common
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To Care for My Family, I Thought I Had to Hide My Abuse
I wanted to believe my children’s father wouldn’t hurt us. I wanted to prove I’d care for him no matter what.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 16/01/2025
You must read this absolutely gutting essay about DV and the fear of CPS removals that keeps moms trapped in abuse. About PTSD, veteran mental health, how racism hurts everyone. About trying to be a good human and not knowing how @moashort.bsky.social @thecut.com www.thecut.com/article/repo...
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To Care for My Family, I Thought I Had to Hide My Abuse
I wanted to believe my children’s father wouldn’t hurt us. I wanted to prove I’d care for him no matter what.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 16/01/2025
bin it or burn it
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Shannon Palus @shanpalus.bsky.social · 24/12/2024
thanks for the holiday break reading, @eminietfeld.bsky.social !!
A book titled “acceptance”. It has a picture of a young woman sitting with her legs crossed on the cover.
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Tris 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈♿💜 @starlighttherapy.co.uk · 24/12/2024
Dr Inna has some great resources on What's problematic about Van de Kolk. tr.ee/BfxplAJD6C
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@dr_inna | Linktree
Dr. Inna Kanevsky: psychology professor, educatior and mythbuster of fake psychology on TikTok Instagram Twitter
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 31/12/2024
Aww thank you Jillian! I appreciate you! I would love to know what you think if and when you read it.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 31/12/2024
thank you for reading!!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 26/12/2024
The idea that indulging my 6 month old daughter’s selfishness now will inspire her future charity sounded as preposterous as putting Mountain Dew into her bottles in hopes she’ll love water later. thecut.com/article/teaching-kids-to-share-gentle-parenting-experts-sharing-children.html
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The Parents Who ‘Don’t Teach Sharing’
Is this gentle-parenting trend accommodating kids’ developmental stages, or catering to their worst impulses?
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 26/12/2024
In the age of gentle parenting, sharing itself, once the most basic playground skill, is now being called into question.... My latest, for @thecut.com www.thecut.com/article/teac...
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The Parents Who ‘Don’t Teach Sharing’
Is this gentle-parenting trend accommodating kids’ developmental stages, or catering to their worst impulses?
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 24/12/2024
Thrilled I got to dig into my @motherjones.com story about #thebodykeepsthescore with a survivor advocate. #therapistsky open.spotify.com/episode/3AOb...
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Guest Host: Alisa Zipursky interviews Emi Nietfeld. What The Most Famous Book About Trauma Gets Wrong.
The Trauma Therapist · Episode
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 24/12/2024
Ahhh! I'm so glad you got it in time! Yay!!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 23/12/2024
Every Xmas, my mom made peanut butter/chow mein noodle mangers with red M&Ms in the center. She declared “That’s the baby Jesus!!” The older (and richer) I get, the more grateful I am for my mom’s lessons in giving. Grateful to @washingtonpost.com www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/20...
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Perspective | As a poor kid I was ashamed of my mom’s shabby gifts. Now I get it.
Charity alone would never solve the problems that plagued my youth, but giving to others reminded me that I could help keep people from falling through the cracks.
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 23/12/2024
I love it!! you can always start on a bed wearing sweaters. maybe you can borrow someones?
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 23/12/2024
Wow this story is like every workplace harassment nightmare come true. I thought I had a bad time going to HR at Google but jeez... www.nytimes.com/2024/12/21/b...
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Blake Lively, Justin Baldoni and a Smear Campaign After ‘It Ends With Us’
Private messages detail an alleged campaign to tarnish Blake Lively after she accused Justin Baldoni of misconduct on the set of “It Ends With Us.”
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
YES! wild huh?
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
Thanks!! I love this cover. Tell me how the translation and censorship went! I honestly loved the edits the translater made and wanted to pull them into the US paperback...
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
Trauma "is psychology’s response to what in theology is called ‘The Problem of Evil’... Like an evangelical healer, a therapists's job is to face evil head on to open the door to redemption, not from sin, but from trauma." Thought about this a lot beiner.substack.com/p/the-truth-...
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The Truth About Trauma: Bessel van der Kolk, Rachel Yehuda and George Bonanno
How the mainstreaming of trauma is changing culture
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
Thanks, Greg!! The crossover from religion to psych in this book is real. There's a great story about how trauma is our new religion: beiner.substack.com/p/the-truth-...
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The Truth About Trauma: Bessel van der Kolk, Rachel Yehuda and George Bonanno
How the mainstreaming of trauma is changing culture
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
thanks so much for sharing, Prof Peters!
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
ngl I love my $20 accupressure mat
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
thanks for sharing! It's telling how so many people overlook this or don't find it strange
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Emi Nietfeld @eminietfeld.bsky.social · 22/12/2024
Would love to know your thoughts if you read it!
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