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The Long Now Foundation @longnow.org · 19/11/2025

Times of fragmentation call for a legible sense of order. We’re pleased to introduce the 02025 issue of Pace Layers, Long Now’s annual print journal of long-term thinking. It explores the ancient past and distant future of the present moment. A preview of what's inside ->

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 06/09/2025

If anyone can teach us about the real-world consequences of cancel culture, it's @lydialaurenson.bsky.social For the season finale of The Ick, her essay brings down the house: www.emilybynight.com/p/how-i-got-...

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How I Got Canceled by the Left and Right

What cancel culture reveals and conceals about redemption

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 20/08/2025

what happens with the radical left kicks you out for being too radical? on The Ick: Kit reflects on fighting for sex worker rights in New Orleans, and the Marxists who turned their backs on her www.emilybynight.com/p/the-left-g...

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How the Left Gagged on Sex Work

And dismantled a revolution

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 06/08/2025

"hot girls have tummy issues" is a funny meme, sure...but when you learn that 90% of women with IBS also have an eating disorder the meme seems morbidly twisted

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You Don’t Have IBS, You Have An Eating Disorder

But why not both?

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 24/07/2025

what happens when a sidewalk fortune teller performs ego death on stage during an improv occult play? one of the greatest disaster stories of our time! New on The Ick: a story from @joetforhire.com that smashes the gas and doesn't let up www.emilybynight.com/p/the-idiots...

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The Idiot’s Guide to Mystical Interactive Theater

A fortune teller's attempt at dramaturgy

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 13/07/2025

Why do you hate the word "moist"? why do wet sounds like teeth-sucking, slurping, and swallowing evoke a sense of disgust and rage? @jakee.bsky.social explains in dazzling detail on The Ick... emilybynight.substack.com/p/the-moist-...

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The 'Moist' Mind Virus: Why We Hate Wet Sounds

On misophonia and socially transmitted disgust

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‏ deepfates @deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com · 02/07/2025

I lived at an anarchist commune for 3 years and learned a lot about “going viral”. Here's a story in three plagues. Read my new piece in The Ick: open.substack.com/pub/emilybyn...

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The Politics of Contagion

Dispatches from the immune system of a failed utopia

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 18/06/2025

Is "the ick" real? @etirabys.bsky.social investigated and found that women's icks fall into 3 main categories: 1. Raw fitness icks - manual dexterity, tool use (e.g. rolling dice off table, running into screen door) - cognitive inability (e.g. bad at spelling)

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 11/06/2025

Why do men's feelings about motherhood often feel so idealistic and rigid? Why do they thought police the image of motherhood? what's going on? are men ok? Season 4 of The Ick kicks off today with an absolute banger from @eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev -> www.emilybynight.com/p/men-want-t...

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Men Want to Be Sons, Not Parents

Your assumptions about motherhood give me the ick

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 06/06/2025

my non-gardener friends never ask about my bone meal or NKP ratio - like do you even care about me

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 21/05/2025

starting a burlesque career in my late 30s, you can just do things

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 11/12/2024

Compliments you should give to strangers: Specific ✅ “Your tie and vest are so well-coordinated.” Related to taste/style ✅ “That book is my favorite—great choice.” No strings attached ✅ "You have such a warm smile!" said as you pass walking the opposite direction

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 10/12/2024

We have tiny rocks (otoliths) in our inner ear canals that perceive acceleration and gravity They're literally rolling around in our heads helping us understand where the ground is!!

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 04/12/2024

Can you ghost someone while also respecting their dignity? Here's my take: emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-ghost

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How to Ghost

The modern break-up protocol

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 26/11/2024

I learned recently about the 5 dimensions of curiosity. It's a really interesting constellation of behaviors, not just the flat trait of "high openness" ->

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 25/11/2024

My current beat: the intersection of AI and taste. Really fascinating insights came out this past week, here's what I've been reading:

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 22/11/2024

Think you're "not good" at conversation? 4 findings from psychology studies you should know about: 1. "liking gap" illusion: most people are liked more than they know 2. we reliably *over* estimate the awkwardness & *under* estimate the happiness we'll feel after deep conversations w strangers

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joe ⧉ 🍷🌊 @joetforhire.com · 21/11/2024

silence, chudward

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 20/11/2024

me, an apex predator, wearing a little raincoat? so humiliating

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 17/11/2024

Conversation advice from Emily Post: "The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor" "but the man who has been led to believe that he is a brilliant and interesting talker has been led to make himself a rapacious pest"

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chiller @chiller.eurosky.social · 16/11/2024

This is very interesting, about the gaps we leave (or don't) when in conversation, and how that's a whole cultural thing, with big differences from one place to the next.

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 16/11/2024

tbh I would pay way more than a dollar and a half to go to the tree museum

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Emily @emilybynight.bsky.social · 14/11/2024

If you're talking to someone who is loud, interrupts you, and never asks you questions - are they the asshole? Not necessarily. They were likely raised in an "interrupt" and "declarative" linguistic culture. Had a lot of fun researching and mapping different conversation styles for this article->